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coogar: so if your spouse travels for a year or incapacitated to have sëx due to illness, you would commit suicide? better learn some sort of self control going to marriage otherwise you would be dicking your housemaid or that teenage orange seller called comfort

[color=soyouquotedme]So you didn't d*ick any girl for a year.
Sincere answer please?.

I have to wait till then though to know what I'll do in that situation. [/color]

[color=soyouquotedme]Truly True [/color]

[color=soyouquotedme]Just stupidity, they are all being plain stupi.d [/color]

coogar: a full year!

[color=soyouquotedme]If I have to wait a full year to get se.x, I'll rather not give birth. [/color]

[color=soyouquotedme]12 kids, male and female. The ratio of male to female doesn't matter. [/color]

binger: I guess his grievance is borne out of fear of his sister getting hurt emotionally...he knows the fact-Most footballers are 'players'

It's even more serious if he is one, so generalising won't be a problem for him..

[color=soyouquotedme]She is probably suffering from low self esteem, work on helping her build her esteem, she should be under watch everytime.

You need to have a heart to heart talk though, I think she has done some bad stuff making her feel unwothy.

Until you find out her reason though, and help her build her confidence back, I'm afraid she may commit the suicide. [/color]

[color=soyouquotedme]Her choice but I will be dissapointed. [/color]

[color=soyouquotedme]There is little you can do now that you are married.

Trust is earned, with that she lost some trust points. Ask her why she lied?, ofcourse whatever she tells you is not enough excuse to lie though. [/color]

xynerise: The father of the girl is a lazy man.

[color=soyouquotedme]Absolutely correct.

@Op, the guy did the right thing. He tried insuring his interest but it's obvious the famiily want to play a smart one on him. [/color]

[color=soyouquotedme]This is pathetic.
He already ruined the life of that girl.

I doubt if any right thinking man in his right senses will do that, I suggest they conduct a mental test on him.

If he's found to be mentally stable, then he should be jailed in fact he deserves to be tied to a stake. [/color]

[color=soyouquotedme][b]Going by Steph7's post, it's even more dangerous if that's the case.

There are just two things that will happen.

1)The child may be over pampered.

2) The child may be mal treated.

As a parent it's easier to draw the line between both since you are the one in charge, but for an outsider, drawing that line may not be a easy task.

In the end, whatever that child becomes isn't too much of the aunt's problem but the mother.

In fact stuffs like this destroys family, if something bad happend to that kid or should her aunt fail in raising her up the right way, the relationship between the two sisters will be strained.

It would have made more sense if she decided to let her kid stay with her aunt, not the aunt asking, that way she will know she was responsible for whatever outcome that happens.

@GreatGod2012, there is just little you can do, you can only advise her, ultimately the decision lies in her hand.
You can't force a carmel to take water, but you can help it to the brook.
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[color=soyouquotedme]I have lived with people all my life, I wasn't just raised by my mum alone but I have a lot of mums.

I was never maltreated by any of them though(My aunts), but the issue is just that I'm never free with them the way their children are. That demarcation is always there, there are limits to what I can say before it's termed being rude, there are limits to what I can talk to them about e.t.c.

No matter how much love you get from an outsider, the demarcation will always be there that you are not a direct blood.

So I already vowed, whatever it takes I will raise my kids under my roof.

Besides if she is married, I doubt if her husband will allow her take that kind of action. [/color]

nuclearboy: Why do you feel there's nothing "wrong" about this? The dude promised, didn't he, that he would run only one term!

I see this as another indicator, in a long list of such, that worse days are ahead - the core insane north, will only get angrier and Nigeria will boil further! At the same time, the man himself loses more credibility and respect from all and sundry!

If he was performing well, the common man would support him but that's not the case - so his ambition will cause more trouble, worsening the insecurity in the land, further entrenching tribalism and division yet adding zero value to Nigeria! Its just the less than 1% who are (in)direct beneficiaries and the ethnic warriors who wish disintegration (since they never saw war) that will be pleased! Yet when the common man curses or rejoices at evil befalling them, people will come out and scream! You are dehumanising your own people for personal selfishness yet believe they ought continue to love you - na wa O!

2013 - I fear!

[color=soyouquotedme]Trust me, I want GEJ out, just like most Nigerians.

About GEJ's promise to run for a term in office, just a typical politician, BRF also said something like that indirectly. I'm not making an excuse for him, but it just shows that he can't be trusted to deliver on his word.

The big question, has GEJ violated the constitution with this campaign?(I doubt if he did).

So it all boils down to the masses in 2015.
My former signature on nairaland was this. [/color]
[color=#4B0082]Politics is only as good as the people who make it their calling and those who put them into office either by voting or refusing to vote.The maintenance of good government is dependent on good people
GOD BLESS NIGERIA[/color]

[color=soyouquotedme]So irrespective of whether he campaigns now or not, the ultimate decision lies in our hand either to re-elect him or force him out. [/color]

BukkyDan: i'm doing a four yrs course,just two mre yrs

[color=soyouquotedme]Don't worry, she will definitely give you more space in your third year(second semester when you go for your industrial training), just focus on your education and grade point.

I guess you are all she got, just like I'm all my mom got, so I understand her point perfectly, I can identify with you. [/color]

BukkyDan: Her background doesn't matter,what matters is her character.since u score her to be 100 percent,present her to ur family,and marry her,maybe her dad is truly dead,Goodluck

[color=soyouquotedme]intelligent response.

@Op, you aren't getting married to her background, focus on what really matters, don't base your decision on superficial things.

There is wisdom in BukkyDan's post. [/color]

[color=soyouquotedme]How did you arrive at your assertion?. [/color]

Tobbylobar: Nice 1 bro....keep it up...dat no 6 got me thinking...

[color=soyouquotedme]Thanks.
The way relationship works, she also has to be attracted, you can't keep chasing, she also has to chase, attraction is like a magnet with opposite poles. The more you chase, the more she repels if she is'nt attracted. If she is not attracted, there is little you can do, it doesn't mean she is bad, it just means she doesn't feel the attraction for you just as you also are not attracted to every single girl on earth.

@Wizee, new year is ok and I'm fine.
@Greatgod2012, e se pupo ma.
@SniperInADiaper, thank you dear.
@Mynd_44, they are actualy stuffs you know anyway. [/color]

BukkyDan: @baba alabi,i'm in my 2nd year in d uni..

[color=soyouquotedme]How many years are you spending in the university. [/color]

[color=soyouquotedme]Congratulation to GEJ.

Nothing wrong, even without the campaign it's obvious he has second term ambitions.

The beauty of democracy is just that campaign is not sufficient to win elections, it boils down to the masses.

For Okupe, I have absolutely nothing to disagree with him about, he is just doing his own work. He can hype or over rate the president for all I care, it still doesn't change the reality of GEJ's presidency to any sane mind. [/color]

[color=soyouquotedme]Sex lowers spirituality when it's not legal.

If marital sex will lower a couple's spirituality, I'm afraid God wouldn't have instituted marriage. [/color]

oladcity: oladcity: 1st of January is not more important than the other days of the year, however, it is special. It is special because it has been generally accepted as a reference point in yearly cycle.
Now you may want to ask, what's the big deal about being a reference? Just imagine yourself without a home or a journey without a place of departure or a destination. I hope you catch my drift.
1st of January is worth being really excited and great full to God about

K2039: The real reference is our birthday, because the day we die, our accomplishments will be rated relative to the number of years we spend.

Prof Bleep March 30,1940 to June 27, 2012.

Except the person is born on the first of january, it just doesn't count on the long run.

I hope you get my drift too[/b]

If you actually catch my drift, you will understand that 1st of January is a common reference to the world and not just an individual. When you are celebrating your birthday no one in the world cares except those who know you and God Who created you, but on the 1st of January, everyone is affected and aware whether they like it or not.

[color=soyouquotedme]It isn't generaly accepted has reference point, the muslims, jews and other religions have their own calendar, so saying it's generaly accepted is a fallacious statement.

A year in itself is a state function, so any reference used isn't better than another reference, in the end it will give you thesame results. [/color]

Koolking: Thank you. We share the same view. I have been doing just that since I gained independence from my parents. 31Dec and 1Jan are grossly overrated. They are just ordinary calendar days to me.

[color=soyouquotedme]The bolded got me laughing, right word though. [/color]

dguruja: It is special because it's a pause to glimse back and correct some mistakes and re- engineer yourself for the continue journey.

[color=soyouquotedme]Does it make maximim sense towait till the end of the year before you glimse back, so if anything goes wrong in June, you will wait till Jan. before you re engineer yourself.
If you have to wait till Jan. to correct mistakes and re engineer yourself, I'm afraid a lot of things will go bad and out of hand.

@Greatgod2012, I agree with your post on this thread, it's so over rated and thanks for your words of encouragement on the 22 lessons. [/color]

[color=soyouquotedme]I'm not to sure about what you meant by body chemistry

Infatuation has more to do with obsession, it's shallow and not objective.

Love is more like a choice, it has to do with oyu seeing the other person and accepting her for who she is, you are objective to see her for who she is, you have your self respect in the relationship etc.

Body chemistry is realy something I'm not sure about, but I think it has more to do with the madness associated with emotions in infatuation. Body neutrons producing intoxicating feelings. [/color]

Boa4u: Fashola on top of more revenue..........,
abeg declare unilag free for all lagosians both for non indegens too...

[color=soyouquotedme]When did UNILAG become Fasola's property, I think you meant LASU. [/color]

naptu2: These are off-shore fields. I also heard that there are oil fields (on-shore) in the Badagry area.

[color=soyouquotedme]I'm surprised, I never knew there was any oil feld in lagos.

About time new refineries are built, this will create more jobs.

I just hope goverent put environmental precautions in place and ensure all this all companies adhere to it, last thing lagos needs is additional pollution. [/color]

[color=soyouquotedme]If you have truly grown up, you won't be under her roof.

By the way your mother loves you, some people don't even have parents to advise, talk or preach to them.

You are a lady, if anything goes wrong she will be the one to take all the blame.

Focus on your education, stop thinking about guys, I'm sure when you get to your finals in the university she will give you small liberty to do as you please.

For now you are eating her food, sleeping in her house, so abide by her terms and conditions. [/color]

[color=soyouquotedme]As much as I want you to move fast, I also want you to do the right things.

No matter how fast you move, if your prioritites are wrong you will only get to the wrong destination on time.

So all Nigerians want from you is EFFECTIVENESS, we want result.

So your focus as president is not to prove to us that you are not slow or a retardeen.
Your real focus is to get your prirorities right, less talk, more action. [/color]

[color=soyouquotedme]Tell your friend to set her up.

Warning: Be willing to let go, if you don't have the courage to let her go, don't bother finding out if she is cheating or not. [/color]

[color=soyouquotedme]Watch a movie at Ozone Cinemas [/color]

[color=soyouquotedme]Wrong section, romance section [/color]