^Ehn, and what's wrong with a husband going to look for the wedding dress his bride would wear?

Ehn, and what's wrong with husbands who can tidy?

Ehn, and what's wrong with maids that cook, does the husband not branch off before going home to go eat suya and drink stout at mama nkechi's with the boys?

Yawn! Go find wife, if you have one already, leave her and marry your maid.

pickabeau1:


Lol

Why must a woman be queen

She can be king Na...

A queen is still by a king...



Or get preggers...

Pardon me but very ediotic reasoning. In language, there has to be words that distinguish the two genders, just because one wants equal rights does not mean she wants to have words used to describe another gender. With your reasoning why shouldn't fathers be mothers after all they are trying to get longer leave to be with their babies. Infact, why differentiate at all, why not cats and dogs, why not call them all dogs? Why not just call everything "beings" no need for differentiating between genders and species.. A woman wanting to be called king defies the whole concept of equal rights, the words used to described her should be able to equally stand against the word used to describe him.

Use your brain joor, why isn't prince phillip called king if a queen is still by a king?

Trolls!

Lol, a wife lacking moral justification to raise dust, for where na? Even if she came from her boy boy when she caught you cheating she will still react. If she has not said anything, believe me, she dey plan your demise.

BigBashiru:


The 26 year old has been around guys and the guy is probably 35 and has also been aruond; both are polluted with the spirit of polygamy and harlotry - how do you think such a marriage will end up?

What I am advocating is girls waiting till they are 26 isnt sound advice and that mentality of being "successful" wont do them any good in he long run. Aside from the spiritual fact I have mentioned above, they also face stiffer competition from younger girls.

I am young at heart.

Oh please! Come back when you are 35.

Vivalavida99:
The dog must have been a pittbull, Rottweiler or a Doberman.

What a pity!

May God bring comfort to the family.

It could have been a pomeranian

Drabeey:
NONSENSE. THAT IS WHY WE KEEP SHOUTING AND PREACHING NEED TO EMBRACE OUR CULTURE. IMAGINE, A DOG ATE A CHILD. WESTERNIZATION SHOULD NOT BE TOTAL. WE CANT BECAUSE WE LOVE THE WHITE PEOPLE CULTURE AND NEGLECT OUR OWN. I HAVE NEVER SEEN A CULTURE IN NIGERIA THAT GIVES CHANCE TO ALLOWING A DOG TO STAY IN YOUR CAR, LET ALONE SLEEP ON YOUR BED. IM VERY DISAPPOINTED THE DAY I SAW ONE WOMAN KISSING HER DOG IN LONDON. I WAS LIKE LEMME SLAP HER,BUT U KNOW I CANT DO THAT. ITS THEIR OWN CULTURE, BUT NOT OURS...
WHY DO U HAVE TEDDY BEARS ? PLAY WITH THOSE. OR BUY A DOG AND KEEP IT FOR SECURITY REASONS. NOT IN YOUR CAR.

Nonsense!
A dog's behaviour is a reflection of its owner. If you are aggressive towards your dog, it will be aggressive.

harristo:


Read my post well, a girl becomes capable at the age of 14. And in the olden day's, that's the age from which a girl is allowed to get married all over the world.

Civilization has made us realize that from 18 years is the proper age for a girl to get married. And as far as getting married is concerned, no man is too old for a girl who has reached the proper age of marriage, as long as the girl consents to it.

Omotola got married at age 18 to a man aged 28. Their relationship started two years prior. the man was smart enough to marry her as soon as he could / she was ready to. If he had waited for her to graduate from university (even if it isn't bad to do so), who knows what would have happened. Well knowing how pretty omotola is, definitely some guys would have done anything to be the one she marries.

Today apart from omotola being a celebrity, the husband is celebrated as a bold African man.
Read their story...http://www.osundefender.org/?p=118658

So Op you need not fear criticisms, go ahead with your relationship.

If you are educated, you would know the complications that comes with teen marriage and pregnancies, Kids who get married are more likely to die early. If it was so beneficial or if it did not have any adverse effects, it would not have been illegal in most countries to marry a child. I don't care about Omotola's story, I only care about biological facts. A 14 year old is not ready for marriage and all that comes with it. If you want to marry an 18 year old that's up to you but don't come here promoting paedophilia and child marriages. If I am not mistaken your country's law states that you should not be with anyone below the age of 18 but I know many of you are perverted anyway and the only way you will find sexual pleasure is from a small child who is yet to have breast that are fully formed. The laws are there to restrict you from your paedophilic tendencies because atleast by 18 the pelvis and birth canal are more matured than when they are 14. I mean if a 14 year old is capable to you, why not an 11 year old or even a 9 year old who started early puberty. Please read actual scientific facts on child marriages and stop promoting your perversion. Who would want to have a 45 year old man on top of their 11 or 14 year old daughter? This is what the majority of child marriages consist of.

sonofananimal:
THE OP BY!

NOT ME

I thought you were the op

harristo:


My thoughts exactly, this is one of the greatest drawback to courting a girl in her early 20's or below. Those kind of girls can change their mind about things as they experience more in life.

But if you're completely sure you can keep her interested in you then it's fine. She isn't too young for you, she isn't too young to get married either. The age of 14 is the age a girl becomes physically ready to get married, as for emotionally ready I'd say 18 years - Omotola for example.

So don't let anyone intimidate you. Anyone, the father, mother, brother, sister etc trying to tell you off is being emotional not logical. Manage them and others around you confidently. There's nothing wrong with your relationship.

Just because a girl starts menstruating at 14 does not mean she is ready to be married or even carry a child. Her body is still growing, this is how small children die at childbirth, please stop spreading falsehood.

Gurgle:


Ok. I mean a large age-gap compared to a smaller one. Besides, all men will be old men eventually

Exactly but at that age they are either married or with mistresses possibly younger than the wife who is his age mate or closer. I could say the same for older women too who have affairs with younger men. When there is money in old age, anything is possible.

Gurgle:


Ok. So what do you think

Do guys actually prefer that 15 year age gap? I feel like they lust after it sometimes but they value the companionship of someone closer to them in age more. That's the feeling I get

15 years is very specific. The only men that would prefer 15 year old age gap are old men.

sonofananimal:
MAYBE THE WORD "TRAIN" I USE A SOUND A LITTLE BIT WEIRD.

WHAT IF I USE "GUARD"?

I honestly think you should leave the girl and get someone closer to your age, makes life much easier for you.

Gurgle:


Would you say your opinion is common across Nig?

Guys in their 30s often say they prefer women in their early 30s, because women in their 20s are annoying and underdeveloped. So what do you and our friends normally say

when you say youd prefer a 21 year old, do you really mean that? I mean can you keep up with a 21 year old girl

Don't mind him, he's very young, he doesn't know what's going on around him.

BigBashiru:


There is more supply and demand of young women than older women. Many girls are falling into the same fatal flaw - some say they want to have fun, experience life, build career but its the same flaw and error; they get past 22, past 24 and hit 26 and now want marriage at 26 but now, new gilrs are born everyday so a guy that really wants a 19 old will surely get its just a matter of trusting God and diligently searching. Guys will continue to seek out younger glrls - its biological. If I were 35, I will be looking for a 21 year old and I will surely get because there are many girls to pick up; God honors my intent because I seek out marriage.

Another area is that of marriage. Marriage is defined as an approved union in the eyes of your deity between you and your spouse, nothing more nothing less.

It is not a ceremony.

Successful 26 year olds are getting married all the time all over the world so I do not get your point. When a man reaches a certain age for marriage, he should be looking for some one of his own status or even higher. No offence but you sound quite young so i can slightly understand your reasoning. A young man who has worked his way up won't want to be with someone who is even yet to decide what they want in life. The men who you admire with beautiful younger wives are a very small minority and most of the men are rich divorced older men. By the time you are 35, you will most likely be married to someone closer to your age unless of course, you are divorced and rich or unmarried and rich. Unless you go find one girl for village like that because I know an average young naija girl won't be doing sufferhead with no old guy.

sonofananimal:
REMEMBER, PARENT TO TRAIN THERE FEMALE CHILD TO BECOME MEANINGFUL.

TRAINING DON'T NECESSARY MEAN TO BE POSSESSIVE OR HAVE TOTAL CONTROL OF HER LIFE.

You should adhere to your own saying. You are not her parent, you are looking to have a romantic bond with her not a father , daughter bond. That is not your role and the fact that you are looking to train her should even be an indication that maybe you should not be dating her. As implied earlier, with your age, what you will end up doing is to try and take control of her life and have it exactly how you want it. It will blow up in your face and she will end up resenting you for it.

sonofananimal:
WELL! WE FIND LOVE IN A STRANGE WAY.

AT 17YRS, SHE IS A BIG GIRL, AND SHE MOST HAVE ALREADY DEVELOPED THE BREA$T AND THE YANSH TOGETHER WITH THE SMELL THAT EVERY WOMAN HAVE IN THEIR PRIVATE COMPANY LOCATED AT THE ROAD IN BETWEEN THEIR LEGS.

SINCE OUR NAIJA OLDER WOMEN HAVE ALREADY CORRUPT!!

TRAIN HER TO BECOME THE WOMAN YOU WILL WANT TO STAY WITH.


AFTER ALL, IT IS NOT A CRIMINAL OFFENCE TO DATE A GIRL OF 17YRS OF AGE.

This, I won't recommend. Refer to my earlier post as it's something I knew you will try to do. Do not try to mold her to what you want.

Trust me, it takes a lot more to sustain such relationships, in the next 2 to 7years, that girl will be battling with a lot of demons in her in regards to the relationship. If una want continue, go on but do not try to be possessive and controlling, I know why I am saying this, with your age, you think you know more and better so you will try to impose your views on her which she will end up finding difficult within the next 2 to 7 years as she builds up on hers.

Aristotle96:
Abi she dy wear make up sleep? Way d guy no go know for two years? Some people sev I no know if dia brain cells all done die

You'd be surprised at how many women will wake up early to go fix makeup before the guy wakes up especially if na new relationship. But the topic is bull, the guy is obviously taking the piss.





*goes off to look for foundation before hubby gets homes*

As a hypocrite who has been dating a guy since I was 16 who is 7 years my senior, I would not want my child to be dating someone with that age gap at 16 or 17. As a 27 year old, you have probably experienced life as much as you could in your late teens and early 20s, probably still experiencing. That girl should have a chance to experience her own. Trust me, it takes a lot more to sustain such relationships, in the next 2 to 7years, that girl will be battling with a lot of demons in her in regards to the relationship. If una want continue, go on but do not try to be possessive and controlling, I know why I am saying this, with your age, you think you know more and better so you will try to impose your views on her which she will end up finding difficult within the next 2 to 7 years as she builds up on hers. Right now, she is most likely feeling all the flutters of wings in her stomach and going about without a care in the world. Reality will soon set so be ready. Oga op, I strongly recommend you to leave that girl to experience life without any strings dragging her back but it is up to you. There is a higher chance of her cheating on you(not everyone can have self control at that age) than someone closer to your age, she most likely won't be ready for marriage(if you dont marry her by 18/19) so be ready. Seriously, leave the girl be, a guy your age will be a distraction for her when it comes to her studies.

esere826:


In Nigeria, when you see the cops, you lock your door
that's the way its done here

As a newbie there, I won't have known that.

czarr:
Ghana movies are not high quality joor
They are so low quality,what is this ignoramus saying

As a subscriber to ibaka, iroko, nollywood youtube etc, if i was to compare all the nigerian movies I have seen being churned out daily, on average, Ghanaians have better quality movies.

Erm, not the same but....

It was my last couple of days in naija and I had to visit a family member on my own, so wrote all the info on paper and I got a taxi to the place, I think it was a 45 mins drive from where I was. The ride there was smooth apart from when the driver got lost and I had to call for direction. P.s. I had dropped my phone before I travelled so had to use a really old bb which dies really quickly after a full charge. Anyway, when it was time to go home, my family member told me to wait whilst she goes to hail a cab, she negotiated a price to take me back for 600 naira. Got in and after a couple of minutes I started feeling unsettled as i did not recognised the roads from earlier. We started approaching a bridge where there were police men, that's when I heard the car lock sound, my heart almost jumped out of my mouth. I was not sure why he locked his car right after seeing the police men, that scared me. After we passed them, I pretended that I was on the phone(mind you, it was dead). I started talking about how I will be there soon and also asking the driver where we were. From then on, I just started a conversation with the driver, atleast to be nice just incase. My mind later settled when I recognised the area we were, knowing that I was closer to home. As we were turning into my estate, he said out of the blue, I should not be travelling alone especially at night as I could get into taxis with drivers who would "rubbish" me and steal my things. I thanked him when I got out and i gave him 1000naira for not being one of those drivers or for not going ahead with his plans if he was one of those drivers. Lol, honestly, the way I felt throughout that journey ehn, was horrible. I was told I was just being paranoid but still mehn, who knows. It's good to be nice and friendly oo, it is most likely to soften the hardest hearts because I know when some women enter taxi na so dem go don twist face finish. Anyway, I don't think I will be taking taxi again in naija on my own with all these stories I keep hearing.

Looks like cynthia morgan

firstEVA:
Dermalotogists can help her.

It's too large.

eagleeye2:

Am seriously laughing at this quote. Chai.
So, a man came to you and sweet talked you and you fell for his charms. But in all that 'I love you, pass my mama' he didn't deem it fit to use your picture as his DP. Not even once for two whole years. 24 Months.
His sister got married, and this same man couldn't ask you to come and chop rice, at least. Hmmmmmm.
I truely believe women should stick together, because men are doing the cheating with fellow men.

For the op to not adhere to the clues is not the issue here. The issue is for her to tell the fiancee.

For two years? I am sure before that two years he was cheating on the fiancee with someone else. I think you should tell the girl. I mean put yourself in her shoe, won't you like to know or you rather wait until your man gets another girl pregnant or brings home a disease before you really know the kind person he is? It doesn't matter whether she goes ahead with the marriage or not, he added you to the equation so the woman has the right to know the kind of man she is planning on spending her life with. Atleast, if she throws caution to the wind, one day, one day, she would not say, "how could you" to the man. She knew. As women we should stick together even if we do not know each other.

Remove yourself oo, don't let him convince you and you dey there dey deceive yourself that he will be yours.

P.s, forget what most of these men are saying, they are just putting themselves in the guy's shoes. They won't want to be exposed either.

Question 1- Does he stay home to look after the kids and home?

If they were not struggling, I would not have seen anything wrong as long as he is holding the fort down but since they are, they both should be working.


Question 2- are you the wife? If not, what exactly are you looking for us to do with a couple's personal business? How exactly will our response impact them? In short, Wetin consign you?

cramjones:
Seems the girls are the one that "have" the money to buy a Range Rover. Oh I forgot they pay them 10x more than the pay the men? Or could their be a stint of prostitution tied to these cars? Could FFK have bought one of these for the likes of Precious?

-CramJones

I was waiting for a useless comment like this.

Cutehector:
Good advice.... I see you all ladies here as my sisters and I wish u could grasp smth out of this post...

In as much as some ppo will tag me hypocrite buh hey, let's be true to ourselves for once... Sex should be smth both parties gv dr consent to... If a man loves u so much, he won't ask u for sex befor u two are married... Yes, he won't! He respects u well enough to wait for u to decide to give urself to him, dats if u wish to before marriage

Nonsense, stop feeding this rubbish to all these small kids. Many of you who talk this nonsense are yet to experience the reality of dating and sex. When there is attraction or love, there is sexual chemistry, that's just how it is. Each individual has their own principles, If he chooses not to wait, it does not mean he does not love you. Respecting your decision to wait (for how long, i do not know) does not mean he loves and respects you. He could still be getting it elsewhere. Someone with determination will wait it out until they get what they want.

When a man is attracted to you or loves you, he WILL want to have sex with you vice versa. Stop selling these false expectations and then be the same one complaining when you get turned down because of these expectations. When you come online, all you hear is how men just want to have sex and walk away, I call bullshyt. If you allow yourself to be used, you will be used and dumped whether you wait or not. Waiting has nothing to do with how men treat you. If a man claims to love you and he does not show any sexual attention towards you, be worried.

kilokeys:
Not funny..

What they could possibly afford

While you many miserable jesters sit and wait for a castle-like cake.. These folks would be busy making babies.

When u get ur choice cake and man.. Menopause has already set in.

Keep laffing and waiting

Idi ti?

I think when people do good they should not do it for what they may gain from it but do it because their heart genuinely wants to. All this "after all I have done for you" nonsense is bullshyt. Your heart will be broken into pieces if that's your mentality. Even if you give a kidney, there is no obligation, na gift. If you nor gree, sign contract.

AgapeCharis:
Both of course.

K.

AgapeCharis:
Imagine such a beautiful girl already perverted at such a tender age.
I watched the video. That girl shouldn't be up to 10.

I wonder what the little boy will be nursing in his mind after having that experience.


Train up a child in the way he should go.

Are you condemning the girl's actions or both of them?