But she accepted the thing isn't it and said yes so i don't get what the guy's problem is, if it is not about the ring itself, why does it then matter whether she wears it or not, if she says yes to marrying you. Plan your wedding and move on.

Lynxx is too fine mehn

freecocoa:
Here's the thing, an ex called me last week(my first boyfriend) to invite me to his wedding, the issue now is that I don't know if I should honour the invite, he said his wife insist he invites me(he didn't want to )I know he did love me and he was quite the model boyfriend then(he could pass for the types in mills$boons )and we have talked since the break up but I never thought he wouldn't invite me to his wedding, and now to call me to say his wife insists he invites me is kinda shocking/confusing, I always knew I would honour the invites I have the time to attend to,still I'm wondering if I should sit this one out, I partly want to go because it will be like a kind of reunion with old friends(even some who have to travel from very far for this) yet somehow, I feel like not going, he didn't sound happy to invite me, he was cold.

Would you go if you were the one?

Trust me, it is likely the wife wants you to go to show off that she finally got him. Maybe throughout their relationship, the guy has been mentioning you in passing by saying good things about you and using you as an example. It is not the wife you dated, so if your ex does not seem like he wants you there, do not go. If you want to go to reunite with people, go with your own boyfriend or hire someone to pretend. It is up to you sha.

HungerBAD:
A mothers love for her child.

Even with her condition, the child was securely fastened on her back. It might have been a mental condition, it might have been frustrations with what is happening in her life, it might have just being hunger, it might have been a lack of job, it might have been her being homeless, it might have been anything.

B[s]ut, one thing a mother should never have to go through, is to completely be treated harshly by life and be neglected by the society she finds herself in. Women by nature are vulnerable, and mothers with nursing kid(s) are even more vulnerable. Women in developed world, are treated with so much care and respect, and that is why you can never see a scenario like this play out there.

Our Government should as a matter of urgency, set up agencies that should be able to cater to vulnerable women like the one in this picture, it is not just a matter of the Governmental obligation to her Citizenry, but it is also the right thing to do.
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Nobody in life deserves to get to this level.

Mtcheeeeeeeeeew! When women are there with babies on their backs hustling on the streets, markets or farms just to provide for their families, you are here trying to insult them by calling them vulnerable. What exactly is vulnerable about them? Is it because they are poor? How rude! You need to hold women to a higher standard than you do now.

Who doesn't like money but personally I will chose someone I am attracted to. Op, don't settle for less, if that's what you want, in your case it's money.

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Big "NO"!... and l never said that!
Where did you get that idea from .... or are you "manufacturing things" in your head?

Take your Meds please or book an appointment to see your Shrink..... I cant be responsible for how you're feeling today! :-



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BTW: Some of you really need to understand the meaning of polygamy, whether "serial polygamy" or "conjugate Polygamy"... it is still polygamy.
That "some" will want more than one woman is not new or strange. Ditto some women who cannot stay with one man.
That some people will cheat in a marriage is not new, even the King of England did it, if you know your history!
That it is acceptable to some while not acceptable to others is not saying anything new or ground-breaking!

getting worked-up over it is simply stewpid because that has never changed the behaviour, even from biblical times!
Each person to their own choice/luck in life

Utter rubbish! Don't know why you even quoted me because all you did here is talk shyt without really expatiating on your reasons for quoting me.

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And you, have a very "twisted and misinformed idea" of self worth!

Get Real.



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You are the one who needs to get real, so a woman should just accept that men cheat and just go along with it or turn a blind eye to it? What a messed up mentality! Men are not polygamous in nature and not all men cheat anyone who thinks contrary to this, believing it is ok to be with a cheat needs serious help.

Blizzyblinkzy:
Men are polygamous in nature.

Talk to him again. Ask hw will he feel if he was in ur shoe?

If he doesn't change just let him be. Stop going through his phone so u won't die of hypertension. I don't like going through a guy's phone bt if ieventually do so and saw what annoys me i just pretend like i didn't see anything. I hate talking 2 them abt cheating on their partner cos 96% of our men cheat.
Just be careful. When he asks u of sex tell him 2 use condom and i think he will feel bad about it

You have no self worth, love!

angelchinny:

I would hv left him a long time ago but I jst think twice cos of two reasons
1) Cos of my children, hw I will take them along wit me
2)Cos am not working yet, I can't provide 4 myself n my children

Excuses! The question is are you willing to leave? If you are, I am sure you are always welcome at your parents house and I am sure with their help with your kids you can go job hunting until you find something to take care of yourself and kids. If you decide to stay with him, either start job hunting now with plans to get your own place with the kids without his knowledge for now or leave him to do his business and look after your kids since that's the reason why you are there. All these women that aspire to be housewives una see una life? With all una education, una nor dey think of the what ifs as to prepare for your future incase anything goes wrong.

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You never heard of women marrying two men? Read a book or two?

I have been going bald since 08 and only started growing my hair over 2years ago natural but I think you guys should please just lay off this bullshyt already. Just because you suddenly found out that your hair can actually grow and look good does not mean you should try and force it down people's throats and try to make them feel bad for wearing their hair straight or with weave. People should be allowed to do whatever the hell they want, it's their lives and their choices. Manage your own hair and leave others to do whatever the hell they want with theirs. Bloody hair nazis!

UnknownT:
If she wan piss nko?

Roll up one leg, push aside underwear and rolled Pant aside and hover over toilet. There is always a way.

Unless, the lady is someone who is not bothered about marriage, but if she is, she should really consider her relationship with the guy because he doesn't seem to know what he wants. There is a difference between, don't know when I will get married and don't know whether I will marry you.

thelish:
Go n read n comprehend. Don't just jump into conclusion. Why I dey even answer u sef? What do u know about us? Take care

Ok

thelish:
Have u ever told ur wife she is worthless? Do u know d meaning of worthless? Abeg nor put evil words for my mouth. I beg u. U talk as if am superhuman, so I don't get depressed abi? who caused my own depression Na? Abeg nor come spoil my mood ooo.

You wanted to leave your husband because he was jobless, I mean, there is no reason for me not to think you did not rub his joblessness his face. Abeg, go celebrate his job offer and stop talking nonsense.

The writer of that article seems quite insecure as a woman. One person told you such a comment and you dey lament as if dem wan kill you. If truly she, in particular did not need a man, she won't have been lamenting like this. I guess, the shoe fits in her case.

Who needs A man when you can have more than one. Abeggi

Acidosis:


my kandii kandii You're right

Anyman who is truly depressed would not REJOICE upon receiving an appointment letter (like OP's hubby)

I know what depression is. I have been around it and I have studied it extensively and I know how it affects the human body and mind. You are right, there doesn't necessarily have to be a source but not being able to work can be a trigger, loss of a loved one can be a trigger, there are many triggers, especially if a person is prone to it. Even the op could have contributed to his depression by telling him how worthless he is because of his joblessness and how she can't take the marriage anymore. One doesn't have to be clinically depressed for you to call what someone is feeling depression.

I am not saying the op's husband is depressed, he may not be, the op, may have used the wrong word in describing her husband but hypothetically speaking, lets say he was, if he got a job now and he is rejoicing, still doesn't mean he is not suffering from it. He could probably go back to it in the next couple of weeks who know. His could be mild but it is good that you posted some info on it.

Acidosis

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Omotayor123:
Money is Good... Lucky him. But why not spend it in a Resourceful manner. There are millions out there who would appreciate just #1,000.

The rich are getting richer while the poor are getting poorer And no one seems to care.... God knows!

Resourceful manner? To invest In something that will make him more money to spend within 24hrs or invest it by giving 1000 naira to millions who would appreciate it?

If it's the latter, it is his decision whether he should give to the poor or not. If you do not help someone in earning their money I do not think you have a right to tell them what to do with it. I am all up for charity so You continue giving your money to those who need it and God will bless you but don't dictate to someone what they should do with theirs.

raumdeuter:


The bolded are a lesson for men who are blinded by love and give selflessly in a relationship

Once you are broke, most women would forget those act and leave you. When you were down he stood by you, when he is down you feel like divorcing him

You are not at fault he is the one to blame

+100000


Many*

thelish:
please I need advice on my marriage. my husband is lazy and always dependents on people for survival. Am tired of supporting a man who is not ready to stand. At a time, I had to start selling food for us to cope n pay our son's school fees. we are both graduates. He got depressed and discouraged after applying for several jobs. he graduated since 2008, and still jobless till now. I don't know how I can cope any longer. please matured people of nairaland should advice me. chair cover, efemenaxy, greatgod2012, its a pity osisi is not around anymore, cococandy, tallesty n many more I can't mention. thank u all.

I think you should read more about depression so you can help him the best way you can. Someone who is depressed won't be able to do what you seek. He is most likely feeling hopeless and it's not like he's lazy, it's the depression. Like I said, read more on depression, don't do anything you will regret. If he kills himself now when you leave, na yourself you go blame, unless of course it's not that serious, you meant to use a different word.

emusmith:
Hmm...

I suppose it's a Male condom.
So, will she now distribute CD to her bfs? Shouldn't they come with theirs?
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Women hardly cheat joor! I'll [/b]give a smile and say, OK.

She did that out of her "confused" state of mind ATM. She is suspecting him, scared of telling him not to cheat and also wishing he wouldn't.

Awh, how cute! That's exactly what they want you to think.

raayah:
6 places where women can find good husband material:

1) At the club: You know its mostly single men that are partying at night. Its a good place to catch single men. If you are into rich guys, look at the drinks the guys are buying.

2) At birthday/wedding/burial party: Go to any party you can find. A lot of men come there and you can catch a single man.

3) At the mechanic: This is the best time to buy a car ladies. If you are running low on supplies, you can also just pretend your car is spoilt on the road and watch the men flow.

4) At the market: Married men are not going to be shopping. So any man at the market is up for grabs.

5) online: My personal favorite. You can get to pick and select them, the way you want. Chose by height, weight and race etc..

6) Ex-boyfriends : Feel free to date your exes or your friends ex. As long as they are single

Lol...

eherbal:
another one gets it wrong. Polygamy in Marriage is what we're talking about not prostitution

Stop talking shyt!

And again, men finding ways to blame women for their shortcomings and the mumu girls dey here dey nod their heads like agama lizards. Naive Fools, submission go mek your husband nor treat you like shyt? Mumus

kobonaire:
wow that is NOT true and an over generalization

Maybe i exaggerated abit about most of them beating you with a plank in the streets but most of them in India are racist. Even amongst themselves within the caste system, how much more Africans?

Who gives a shyt! Most of them will drag you out in the streets of India to beat you to a pulp with planks. ..

Randyhot:
Can't help but agree with u..but that sex thing ehh..if u dont rush to bang..most girls will think u dumb..i have countless experiences on that..

This is the mentality many rapists have.

What rubbish.


At this day and age, women can freeze their eggs in their prime and either carry it or get a surrogate. Are you a learner? If you did not know, male fertility also declines with age.

A 60 year old woman with money can still date a younger man. You be learner? I don't understand why men like to believe in falsehood. The same reason a young woman will be with an 80 year old man, is the same reason a young man will be with a 60 year old woman.

I am up for who ever wants to be with more than one partner as long as women aren't judged for wanting the same too. It is not only men that do not enjoy monogamy. Just remember that whilst you are there enjoying yourself between the thighs of a young woman, your wife is on top of one virile young man like that(and as luck would have it, no babies to worry about). Is it not on this same forum recently that we saw pictures of two young men marrying women probably old enough to be their grandmother? The writer should just shut up and continuing fucking his mistresses. Your marriage has been like "heaven" for 45 years yet you are preaching about the hypocrisy of monogamous marriage. The only link with hypocrisy and pretentious with regards to this whole writeup is the the writer himself. Why not write about how you and your wife managed to make heaven out of your marriage for 45 years for others to emulate. For una mind now, na only woman fit manage one preek for life. Mtchew!

Adufetohposh:
thats a red flag to show that the lady is gonna be a slacker in all ways...... It's a different thing to go with ur woman to check out her wedding dress if u av d time, it's another thing that u re the one looking for her wedding dress when she's not bedridden.

Women are to take care of their husbands personally!!!!!!!!! The maid can do other things, but d woman should cater for her bobo by herself.

Oh please, with all this your bush mentality. Na today? If he buys you a ring without you knowing about it, what exactly is wrong with him buying the dress you are going to wear? I mean, I don't know any woman that would want anyone else buying wedding dress for them unless they don't mind, if that's the case, what difference is it whether it's the mother, fiance, sister, friend or aunty?

See you, when you or your sisters or even the kids your mother probably was looking after shared the daily cooking chores, you were not talking about how she should be the one catering to papa's food, na now you wan open mouth anyhow. Noone is denying the fact that you have to cater to your husband but if you can afford maid to cook the meals, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Abi, you wan be housewife? A man won't leave you because you have a maid cooking his meals, don't let anyone deceive you.

pickabeau1:
Cats and dogs now equal to gender differences

I wonder who's the idïot

Smh...leaping into something beyond your comprehension

See, I did not call you an ediot but your reasoning.
With your reasoning, nothing stops you from going further to say exactly what you said but with other species instead.

There is nothing comprehensible about your statement, it is just foolish to say something as silly as that. Why queen why not king, following your level of reasoning, I say, why cat, why not dog. No need to distinguish in pickabeau's mind.