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It is obvious that neither THE WIFE OR HER MOTHER has an ounce of respect for the man or MARRIAGE.

This is a test of manhood!
The wife and her mother are up to no good. . . time to relax and have some fun their expenses without raising a decibel in that house.
When you ignore such fools, they come to their senses faster. . .unless you want the marriage to go 'belly-up'!
I would IGNORE THE FOOLS. . .at least there is a nanny in the house. . . Time to get 2 nannies!


A child is involved here. . .THAT SHOULD BE THE FOCUS!

Like I stated earlier. . .THEY GET TO MAKE THEIR OWN CHOICES.

ASUU lecturer or ECOMOG RAP-IST!
I made mine and I am neither!
Life is full of choices!
As long as you are fulfilled in whatever you do in life or death!

I AM LIVING MY DREAM. . . .LET THEM GO AND LIVE THEIRS!
My father and mother had THEIR DREAMS FOR ME. . . I SAID NO!
I chose MY OWN WAY!
I will always live and die a happiEST woman!!!!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2D6zNX987wg

I doubt I would have been a better adult.
NIGERIANS MAKE LOUSY PARENTS! Poverty robs them of the opportunity to 'nurture' and 'foster' healthy relationships consistently and purposefully. EVERYTHING HAS TO BE A BARGAINING CHIP!
It was a personal choice FOR US ALL. . .THE CHILDREN!

We ALL got lucky. . .By the time we left home. . .it was too late to pick up bad habits!
We had found a SOLID foundation within ourselves. . . because there was no room for NEGATIVE INFLUENCES!
THANK YOU DARLING DADDY! FOR KEEPING US LOCKED UP!!!!

Being left with my mom would have been a different story entirely. . . FRANKLY PUT? VERY UNFIT. . . TOOOOOOOOOOOOOO INDULGENT!
We for just rotten finish ke!

I have to thank AMERICA. . . MY DARLING AMERICA for a productive adult life. . . .I learned how to be a beautiful BLACK. . .INDEPENDENT WOMAN who learned HOW NOT TO TAKE BULLSHYTE FROM GOD, SPIRIT, MAN, WOMAN, CHILD, PLANT OR ANIMAL!

That is if the CHILD'S brain can handle book work abi?
If the pickin na 'ODE' nko?

Like MANY on NL that can't even string 2 words together, not to mention 2 sentences?
You can even tell their accents from what they write on NL. . . like awon DEFI-NAT-LY group on NL!

Direct killer vs indirect killer. . . all na the same!

If your child does not have a UNIVERSITY EDUCATION. . .joining the military only means one thing.
YOU ARE GOING TO BE A KILLING MACHINE!

Stay in school, then the military will not be an option!

How many military personnel acquire formal UNIVERSITY education?

ONLY 'OLODOS' opt for such line of work!

I pray none of my kids decides to become such! AMEN!!!

TUFIAAAAAAAAAAAAKWA again!!!

Then that is the CHILD'S choice!
The parents should accept their FATE and move on!

Simple!

CUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUTEEEEE!!!

I love to seeeeeeeeeee CLEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAN babies!!!!

The rotten apple does not fall too far from the rotten tree ke!
Disgusting!!!!

Yes!
One of them loved to steal remote controls from hotel rooms!
We'd do a 'strip/body cavity' search after all trips!

She don grow now. . . THANK MY H-AGNOSTIC GAWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWD!!!!

I can't encourage my children to be TRAINED KILLERS!
If they decide that as ADULTS, fine. . . .BUT NOT BY MY VOLITION!
Tufiaaaaaaaaaaaaaakwa!!!!

I love people who use their brains . . . .not their mights!
I would prefer them all to be ACADEMICIANS!

Their choices of course. . . .

Find out the NAMES OF ALL the bullies and have a TALK with their parents!
File a complaint with the COPS(IF YOU LIVE IN A CIVILIZED COUNTRY LIKE MINE THE USA). . . .If you are in NIGERIA. . . go straight to the parents of ALL THE BULLIES and let them know THEIR KIDS LIVES ARE IN DANGER!!!! Just a warning.

Simple!

After all, the rotten apple does not fall too far from the rotten tree abi?

My only job is to protect the wellbeing of my kids. . . I WILL START WITH THEIR PARENTS FIRST!

I can protect myself. . . THEY HAVE TRIED AND CAN'T DO SHYTE! We deeeeeeey kampkpeeeeeee. . . dem dey quench on NL 'obituary' sections one by one!!! MU CHE CHE CHE CHE CHE CHE!!!!

May more continue to perish for their mischief making. . .so they may die before their parents. . . Iseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!

Absolutely!
Just make sure you continue after THE MARRIAGE!

Be consistent. . . it shows you are genuine!

From the beginning!
If there are different sexes.
That way they never miss what they never had!

The best things in life are not planned.
If you call yourself a 'Christian'. . . where is your faith?
Please, by LOVING YOURSELF FIRST. . . The real love will find you.
It is watching. . . but YOUR DESPERATION keeps scaring it away!

Goodluck!

Another wan don come!
Suffering and smiling womens' club!

I don't have any advice for you o.
You will learn to LET MEN BE MEN. . . while you learn to be a woman.

In any marriage, there is no 'US' or 'WE' only YOU AND I!!!


Happy holidays darling. . . ENJOY THIS SONG!!!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2zKKKpP_wSE

Jealousy, the evil-eyed monster, can NEVER be controlled!

It is a CHARACTER FLAW!
You can't change that!

Your feelings do not matter!
Geddjjjjjit?

GOOOOOOOOOO TIKKKKKKUUUUU!!!!
What did they offer you darling?

All the KING-MAKERS have deserted GEJ!

O di kwa WHISKY!

Hmmmm!

Love is an emotion that changes CONSTANTLY!!!

Your love for other women will change too!
You are married, please allow the other lady to have the same chance!

Separate houses please!
Sharing the damned BLOKOS is humiliating enough!

Shiooooooor!

You say so, then why the 'hangover'?
You are still holding on to something or you would not be on NL!

You need to stop thinking about yourself and think of your baby. The fact that parents choose to blow up chances of happiness should not be transferred to children.

As soon as you chose to have that child, your happiness became secondary!

The baby's father has come to his senses. For he may not love you EITHER, but for the sake of HIS SON!

You come to your senses before this situation gets far worse than this with the introduction of STEP FATHERS, MOTHERS, SIBLINGS AND ALL WHAT NOT!!!

Have ALL your children IN ONE PLACE!!!!

Love, peace and happiness is what you can make out of your present situation!

Your child deserves to be happy and SAFE!!!!

I just said goodbye to an old friend a few days ago because of this kind of emotional disconnection.
I have known him for over 20 years. He has a hard time committing to women and he can't keep FRIENDS!!!. Despite all kinds of therapies and FAKING it, he is still alone. His out-of-wedlock children are grown and out of the house.

Come to find out he was ABANDONED by his father and 6 of his siblings.

He was left to raise himself practically. He has never been able to 'love and trust' again.
Psychologically, the residual hurt and paranoia cannot allow him to open his heart to any woman.
He is almost sixty and lives alone.

It is a way of life for many raised without an emotional bearing. Out of the 7, only the last of them still remains MARRIED.

You need to examine your circumstances and accept the realities of what lies beneath your inner psyche.

All the best!

weazley: Are yu daft?
Thats his daughter for God's sake.
Niggers b using words they dont understand, mtchew

So because I expressed my views, I am 'daft'?

Maybe. But I could never be as DUMB as YOUR MOTHER. . . DEAD OR ALIVE!

ECSpee: I don't think u got my question right,Kanwulia.the question was thrown out to single ladies out there if they were in my shoes, and to married ladies if they had that kinda situation or probably knw somebody that has had that situation in choosing who to marry..and mind you, the guys in question are SINGLE! Don't do MARRIED.


Thanks.

Unfortunately, the title of your thread is easier to understand than your first post!
I think only MARRIED ladies can really answer your question having experienced such a dilemma.
SINGLE ladies would only remain as confused.
You ALWAYS go with what ever option gives you the MOST SUPPORT AND PEACE OF MIND!!!!

You can't have EVERYTHING in one person.
I will have to choose #2

You are in a TOUGH situation.
Either way, you can NEVER have a happy home.
Unless you let go of your hurt!
You can't marry ANYONE until you are HEALED from your pain.
No, you have not forgiven him,
You are still hurting BIG TIME.

YOU NEED TO LEARN TO LET GO! Life is too short.

Forgive him, MARRY him and give your son a chance to ENJOY BOTH PARENTS.

SINGLE men should go with SINGLE women only!!!!
MARRIED men should go with MARRIED women only!!!!!

Stick to your CLASS or RANK!

Simple!!! *

He can't avoid it!
He is a GONER!
Just waiting to see who the APC presidential candidates will be!!!!

GOOOOOOOOOO TIKKKKKKKKUUUUU!!!!

According to his son, YES!!!
The reason they have avoided the DNA tests and THE WIFE/DAUGHTER-IN-LAW has kept MMMMMMMMMM!!!!!

She needs to liberate herself!

bluuu: ^^ i usually dont read kanwulia's posts till i saw this thread.is she married cos the way she writes is soo cr..asy

Very HAPPILY MARRIED WITH KIDS darling!
Some of us are super-blessed with OUR OWN HEALTHY, LIVING SPOUSES!

My husband is still very much ALIVE AND WELL. My crassssiness and crazzzzzines have not killed him yet. He does not use VIAGRA either!

Amen!

I don't follow anyone's posts on of off NL. I ONLY CARE ABOUT MY OPINIONS!!!

I wish y'awl would do the same! I don't 'online gangs or fan clubs'!

Thanks in advance and HAPPY HOLIDAYS TO YOU AND YOURS!