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@OP, its obvious this is fiction; u would've gotten more reasonable reactions if you'd posted in the Literature section (then perhaps create a mirror thread here with just a link to the Lit. section post attached). The responses may be less over there, but at least u wont get anyone complaining about how long it is.

^^ PAUSE!!

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If u try am eh! If u try am...!!!

U know i have papatani number bah, lol..

^^^
Hmmm... Does anyone else smell it? Nobody?

Thats odd, i thought i caught a whiff of polyandry just now...

Tgirl4real: You should have typed this before making that comment.



I was angry.

Okaaay o...
Lets both pretend that we dont notice u still havent clarified what ''finally'' meant.
Sisi, shey i'm a good guy now, bah? Smiling and making-up even though the frog's still uneaten on the table... Here, see my smiling face:

Okaaay o.

[quote author=Sisi_Kill]Oh by the way, I think this topic totally answers a question that has bothered me for a while now - Why was Adultery Non-Existent in our grandparents and parents time? Now I know, twas because there was no facebook!!!!!

I know you are mentally going. . .'Duh! Sisi, it took you this long to figure that out?"

I know, I know. . .What can I say, sometimes I can be a little slow on the uptake.

Anyway, please don't forget to photocopy the Mai Kule Section for us.[/quote] Hey Sisi, u know that sense of humor i misplaced? I think i just found it!



@mac, dude just shut up. U've spewed enough bullcrap here to last u a lifetime.

Sagamite: If you knew me in real life, you will be a follower.

You will worship me every sunday or friday instead of facing any other religion.

Lol...

U know, i actually thought - as in, really really thought that u'd say something sensible. Aaahh, a prankster....

BoboYekini: lol, there've been times i wanted to diss the mighty saga but thankfully i thought better of it, na dramaqueen

Drama no be small o.
*smh...*

[quote author=Sisi_Kill]I think she meant finally a guy acknowledged a woman made a good point. Y'all usually stick to your guns even when they don't make sense. [/quote]Really? Mmm, care to confirm thats what u meant Tg?
As for not making sense, lemme assume u were kidding... I recently misplaced my sense of humor.

Shinatu: @Kay9

Thank you so much for aknowledging my point, please let us continue on this line of a'reasonable' discussion.
What would be a good 50/50 contribution scenario in a situation where the woman is not a housewife i.e she is equally working?

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Put simply: both parties compliment each other. In paying the bills, in the kitchen and laundry, in the nursery, in the bedroom.

By compliment, i mean each party knows their traditional roles, but dont flinch from helping the other out/going the extra mile for the other when they need it. ''Happy married life'' to me means not waiting for your spouse to verbally ask for something before u do it. But i'm still single, so its just a darn hypothesis.

The only thing that cant be shared is childbirth, so during that extended period, the man should handle just about EVERYTHING else - cos obviously, the woman cant be working during that time. Thats the way my dad did it - he cooked, washed, went to the market, paid for every goddam thing, and then came home again and spent the night awake with my mum. But i digress...

As for the surname thing u mentioned, do u know that some women actually WANT to change to the man's name? If the woman doesnt want to and its so important to the man, then they can both forget about the marriage since its so important to them.

So there, thats 50/50.

Tg, before i reply to the above, kindly explain to me what you meant when u said ''finally!''

Sagamite: Shut up! In this life and never tell leaders what to do. You are a follower, just follow.

You are too far down the intellectual totem pole.

Hey peacock, how exactly are u a leader sef? And who and who are u leading? Where's this your ''leader-dom''? Inside Seun's sand-box? Mtscheww.

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Finally? Finally what??

I always concede a good point when i see one. Her's is the only argument against 50/50 financial responsibility that has the reasonable condition that the woman is a HOUSEWIFE. Yours (and almost all the rest, along with your very first topic post) simply glosses this over - woman's money is her's; man's money is ours - and then y'all go ahead to insist the fella also treat u like the freaking queen of sheba. Sorry but thats just for suckers.

*smh*

Sagamite, u're not a leader. What i think u are is a peacock. Smart, yeah... Intelligent, yeah... Logical, bloody hell yeah..
But a peacock all the same. Figuratively anyway.

As for the ''cretins'' u kick around, a necessary evil i guess.

Shinatu: Please if we want to dicuss 50/50, let's start from the begining, the children will have both of our names, I will be allowed to keep my father's name as part of my name ( at least na him invest in my life send me go the school wey dey make me contribute money for your house) and since you cannot biologically carry the pregnancies, and nurse the children you have to look for where to make it up, remember 50/50!

If you do not agree to this, you had better get off and go look for money!

Gotta admit, u have a point.

Sagamite: Off course she does. She is human afterall. She has no choice in such matter, nature decides.

Young man, if i was u i'd turn my pheromones in some other direction.

Tg, dont mind him, just say after me: This too shall pass away. Keep saying it till the pheromones disperse..

[quote author=Efemena_xy]Sorry to be a "kill-joy" here, but isn't it against one of nland's golden rules to create a thread using a member's name as the topic?? [/quote]^^I wondered too.

I'm just amused that Seun's taking it personal; been a loooooonng while since i saw him comment more than once on a thread. Tg, whats ur secret?

As for the topic, i think Tg just likes Sagamite and is wondering if any other [female] likes him too. Y'all might notice that the thread TOPIC and the CONTENT of the first post arent exactly towing the same line...

^^ So u're the eediot that wipes his behind with torn-out newspapers and drinks expired juice? I'm suprised u're still alive. Obviously u've never travelled out of that your backwater village that just had its first internet connection yesterday; thats why u're here wasting precious bandwidth, thinking all igbo people live like u.

Oh and dont take it personal; we're all joking right?

CHIMSKY: I dont understand all this talk about shared responsibility.Marriage has opened my eyes.I and my wife work but I pay the bills.All the bills.I am not happy with this arrangement but I realized very early that she is very touchy about money.I once asked her what she does with her salary and she wouldnt tell me.My money is our money.Evrrybody's bills are my responsibility but her money is her money.When I lost my job a while back I saw hell at her hands and my mother in law told me off completely.Now that things look better she nd MIL are all cosying up to me.
About dropping money,I drop of course.I even buy all sorts of foodstuff in bulk and give Madam money.Not really because I am happy doing it,but because of the kids.

So sad for u, man.

pendusky: Apology overule,

Op, dont mind him. Oya go and sin no more.

engrtee: Even if i am given a milion dollar, i wunt b an indigen of bornostate

^^I like this dude. Bros is your name 'Frank'?

^^ Weere!

[quote author=Efemena_xy]Must be the handwork of a Nigerian woman, no other. Who else would take such undivided, devoted love as foolishness, to be trampled upon so?? ....
Treat them mean to keep them keen kind of philosophy here [/quote]My my, cant believe she said that. Christmas must be coming early this year.
Ok o, i'm quoting it for posterity.

armyofone: it is true mana, those sleepless night when he was making the dough, wifey was home taking care of the homefront, leading behind the scene...

Leading what exactly, abeg?

^^ He prolly wasnt thinking straight when he said ''...just cos there aint any great player out there'', why else wouldnt he understand my reference to Nadal - who by his own definition is great o?

MRbrownJAY: ok if you want to talk about tennis then lets go there indeed: anyone without a grand slam title can NEVER be considered great (or even a succesful) tennis player......just because there aint no great players out there at the moment, doesnt make this mediocre player "great"...

MBJ, i dunno knw if anyone is paying u for these arguments but u really should stop talking out of your depth. No offense man but u're REALLY beginning to sound stewpid; Murray is mediocre?? No great player out there..have u ever heard of Nadal?? Federer? Djokovic?? Jeez, do u even have a t.v??

Seriously dude, your ignorance stinks. Just shut up, ok? Or better still, leave sports out of your arguments.

davidylan: moral of the story - marry a woman who is on the same level financially as you. That is why i have a problem with men who see themselves as their woman's super hero. She brings 50% you bring your own 50% and make sure everything is in both your names.

dayokanu: Shikena.

marry a woman who also brings something substantial financially into the relationship and everything are done equally

So if she decides to take half, i know she deserved it

^^ Simple as that. Any !d!ot who marries a housewife at this time and age has only his stewpid a$$ to blame; prenups are useless to foolish a$$es men.

dlex21: on point bro
ow is TDKR

TDKR - The Dark Knight Rises

Finally saw it yesterday; u were right bro, it definitely was on point! See that scene they were chanting for him to rise, rise!

However, me thinks The Avengers beat it by just a margin.

Whenever i see topics like this and the replies that follow them, i pinch myself and say aloud ''Its just a forum; its just a discussion''. Serve him an empty plate? And u say u wana build a loving home? Mmm.

Man brings all the money, throws weight around, treats wife unfairly. WRONG.

Man gets on hard times, cant bring money and throw weight around, AND still expects wife's loyal service and delicious meals. WRONG.

Wife decides man should get just dessert, serves him empty plate (or its various variations). WRONG.

Wrong, wrong, WRONG!!

Tgirl, u mean to tell me that even you dont realise the FUNDAMENTAL thing here? That both parties are wrong??

Please where is Chaircover?

Seems 190's been sniffing laffing gas...

As per topic, well... Honestly i dunno.

Ujujoan: @ Poster
If he refuses to give you a pillow, snatch it from him and hit his head with it.

If he refuses to put off the ac, switch it off yourself and break the controls to pieces.

Yes you are tempramental, it's your right as a 9-month old pregnant wife!

Stubborn men only respect you when you show them your own strenght. Trust me, I'm talking from experience.
Just my 2 cents!

This might just work. I know it'll work with me. The pillow part got me laffing though.

I'm a lil stiff-headed myself; i'd want my wife bold enough to show me that i've offended her.
But make she no try am if i didnt do nothing o!!