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Thank u al for your candid advise. Yes at this ppint m not interested in makin d marriage work. My mind is pretty much made up I just need very practical advise on how to jugggle work and childcare and all.
There have bn sevEral issues brewing for a while on both sides however yesterday's issue was that a guy who wanted 2 date me b4 I met my hubby (whom I'd told my hubby abt) send me a FB msg checkin up on me and in it he started by sayin 'hey love' how r u, ur hubby, son etc and my hubby flipped out sayin I was cheating online, Y is sum1 callin me 'love'. This is a guy last saw 8yrs ago. We don't even live In d same country. D issues of infidelity has always bn thrown back @ me despite me tryin my best 2 satisfy my hubby. I got married wen I was 18. I'd b 26yrs in a few wks time and I feel like ve slaved all of my youth 4 a very frustrated angry unappreciative man. I worked 2 pay my fees thru uni in d UK whilst studyin 4 my undergraduate degree. D only time my hubby'll make an effort 2 look 4 money 2 contribute is wen his family demands 4, which he'll borrow 4m frnds and then wen I gEt paid I transfer d money 2 his acc so dt he cld pay back d debt. M just tired

Pls i need matured advise on this issue. it is a personal issue as its concerning me.
Today I've decided to get divorced from my husband of 7yrs. We've had series of heated arguements that ended with that resolve. we live in the UK. I am the primary breadwinner as i've worked hard 2 keep the family (myself, hubby n child) together. I'd love to have more kids but my salary is barely enough to sustain us so no space for a 2nd child.
My concerns are how my child will fare when he's with his dad as his dad hasnt worked in the past 3 years and collectively hasnt held a job for upto 8month during the period of our marriage. I dont want my child to suffer whilst he's with his dad as we've discussed shared custody. However i do not want to carry on funding an "expected acceptable" lifestyle.
My hubby is very good with out child. very doting and loving father (physically) but not practically.
I'm willing to try it out as a single working mother in the UK and if that doesnt work out, i'll return to Nigeria.
How easy is it to cope as a single working mother in the UK or in Nigeria? Has any of you experienced it? know someone going through something similar? Are you okay in sharing experiences or advise to me on what to do, what to expect et al.