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What happened to blogging, web developer, Make up Artist, Photography, Plumbing, Carpentry, Tailoring? This are careers you can start on your own with little capital needed, less overhead costs as you dont necessarily need to have an office.

Lets all move from the "conventional" employee mindset to the entrepreneurial mindset.....even if you wont do it for the government, do it for yourself and your family.

and mr Saviour, the leader of change is busy dancing to bruce lee and jackie chan in China over $2B......whatever happened to the $500B that UAE were going to repatriate to Naija as well as the over $8B that madam diezani returned to the coffers before leaving power
... ahh, we have to fuel and service baba's 9 private jets for his endless travels and world exploration domination

very rude and disrespectful girl. You are posting her to expect what in return? You want nairaland to rent an apartment and furnish it for you and your brother abi?
Then what next, pay your gas/electricity and monthly tp to school for you and your brother? School fees and all?

You are outrightly rude!! how dare you insult your brother and even when his wife intervenes you retort rudely. A meek person when asked to leave a home would go on her knees begging instead you walked out of the house and ran online.

You think say you be olajumoke? Mtsheeewww
Go and learn humility or learn how to be a runs girl

You are not homeless; your uncle's house is there like you said so go there and stay!!! if you like, dont be humble there, his wife and kids will not hesitate to chuck you out. Your mates braid hair and sell clothes and recharge cards in school to fend for themselves and train themselves. You have a brother who is looking after you yet you choose to be unappreciative.
Even some parents do not give handout money to their kids, they only pay their tuition how much more your brother. Your previous thread showed how much disdain you had for your brother's wife and the fact that your brother decided to marry; rather than put his life on hold.
You come across as a very selfish and self centered and entitled girl.

May i suggest to the house that the help she needs is counselling and perhaps pleading on her behalf to her brother directly not any bank account transfer.

Sorry but can you please explain what your issues with your parents are? Specifically your mother and siblings?

You say you dont know who advised your mum to seek divorce; excuse me but in your own words, you acknowledge that
a) the beating was too much
b) your Father threw her OUT of the house
c) he accused her of outshining him?
d) your father still lives in his uncle's one room apartment 35 years after
e) your father couldnt keep 2 wives as both wives divorced him
f) your father kept bringing different women to the house, non of these women felt he was a husband material

What i have above there is a lazy man who could not provide for his home, love his wives nor even support his children; instead took out his frustrations on his wife.

Would you have preferred your mum remained till she was beaten to death? or remain celibate for the rest of her life? Is that how little you think of your mum? Do you not think that your mum deserves some respite, someone to love her, someone to look after the scars caused by your dad?

Now unto your sisters, your sisters are NOT babymama's because of a brokenhome. They are BM's because they CHOOSE that life. There are several BM's who came from loving homes so thats no excuse.

Finally, you say your parents didnt support you yet in the same sentence you say they supported you whilst in school. Its clear your parents arent rich/comfortable but they were able to support you from the little they had.

So please tell me, mr 30 something year old man, what do you want from your parents that you havent being given? Is it money, love?

May i suggest you go for therapy to re-orientate your mindset before you end up being a nightmare to the woman you marry. You are displaying the classic mindset of a potential abuser and i pray you seek the help you need

pregnant!!!

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Awwwhhh e hugs to you babe. Sadly you can't. I was in ur shoes....exactly the same issue. My story and yours is quite similar except that when I decided I wanted out of the marriage, after all the noise from both sides.

We started talking again and I really opened up on how his siblings actions/pretence affected me. How taking sides with them affected me much more. He felt really bad and has been making every effort 2 change.

He even told his family that if I change my mind and choose to remain in the marriage, they won't be allowed to visit unless I approve. They will no longer be allowed 2 be abusive or make snipy comments about me.

But all these happened because He CHOOSE to change.....prayers didn't make him because trust me, I prayed, fought, ignored him and even his family.....till I decided I was done and wanted out of the marriage......so babe I wish u all the best in whatever you decide

Troll with major trust issues. ...before you advise this poster PLEASE READ HIS PREVIOUS THREADS....

My sympathies to your unfortunate wife and her family who will sadly , be associated with you as an inlaw

let the blame game kontinue..............meanwhile baba is preparing to splurge more of our dwindling forex reserves as he goes for his trip to China on Sunday

Toni Payne shouldnt be talking. She that was vilified based on lies spread by her ex hubby and frankly has never really gotten over it is siding with some little boychild who has probably lied about a grown a$$ woman's lady bit and love life??

And this lady has a son? Condoning this wizkid/boychild's attitude shows what type of upbringing her son would have.

Indeed, women are their worse enemy

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and the Zombies and Wailers in my beloved banana republic zoo are fighting over these? Who are the winners? i dont know, but i know the loosers in these pawn are the masses.

I think the most important criteria should be that you MUST be mentally stable AND willing to SUBMIT to frequent Psychiatric test....please dont ask me why

Your parents advised you and you stubbornly refuaed to listen? Is it strangers you want to advise you?.

Do sttangers know you and ur husband better than yiur parents?

IF YOU LOVE YOUR LIFE....Listen to your dad...

Should it matter? They are divorced and she's allowed to date whomever she pleases.

A divorce isn't an overnight thingy so obviously by the time the case was brought to court, this man and his ex wife were no longer together.

He can't lay claim to the wife's business either as any maintainance and assets sharing would have been discussed and divided during the divorce process.

He is only upset cos his ex wife has moved on and upgraded.

Which of you will encourage their daughter or sister to remain in an abusive marriage? This is a man that beat up a heavily pregnant woman at her place of work? He deserves to be jailed for attempted murder of an infant and adult!!!

Nigerian men should realise that gone are the days u treat women like trash and expect them to retreat to some prayer house....hoping and wailing the man comes back to them.....the ex has moved on and this man should

gbese people....Una money don enter voicemail o everybody don enter one chance with APC

All i know is, today its the turn of PDP to cough out all the monies stolen from the state coffers: monies that could have been used to

1: Improve healthcare facilities for you and I. so that we could comfortable seek emergency care for our pregnant wives, ailing parents, sons that have been shot by armed robbers, daughters that have been involved in accidents without any bloody doctor/nurse telling us to go and bring #120,000 at 2 am in this cashless society of ours.
Furthermore, Physiotherapists, counsellors etc will be employed as they will be needed to provide physio services for trauma patients, counsellors can offer counselling services for the bereaved etc

2: Improve our educational structure to reduce incessant strikes, to reduce been made laughing stocks by our ghanian and south african brothers when we have to resort to using their schools because ours are lacking.

3: To create job opportunites by building and/or maintaining infrastructure ie this creates employment for labourers/engineers/architects/ mama put on site etc

I could go on and on but for now, reflect on these my nairalanders ...............Tomorrow will come, and it will be the turn of APC cohorts to answer to the nigerian youths because they are just as guilty as their PDP friends..... Mallam Atiku, Political Prophet Tinubu, Saint Amaechi, Father Rochas Okorocha et al, your turn will soon come.

Have a lovely Easter everyone and to the non christians, have a lovely bank holiday weekend

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QCUOvTfb7QE


Above is the proof of an APC Candidate in the just concluded elections publicly demanding a refund of bribe to an INEC staff following the loss of his seat.

Nigeria na wa

lalastilala

lalasticlala
Seun

Many days for a thief , one day for the owner....today it's Tompolo's turn and might I add very well deserved.....


Next regime, it shall be saint Amaechi, prophet Atiku and political Messiah Tinubu..

Until then I will keep sipping kunu whilst waiting for Buhari to arrive with my choco milo from his multiple journeys

All I know is

Yes u r been insensitive. Cancer and it's treatments are emotionally draining.
If she is the bread winner of her home with an unsurportive husband, having just been through an almost death situation? She needs all the love n support she can get from all.
You are also moving 2 her brothers house. You and ur hubby cannot force her 2 move from your house. If anything, she has more rights 2 the new house u intend 2 move into than your hubby.
I will advise u pick your battles wisely.

When you are that age with an unsupportive n caring husband, pray you are not at the mercy of your daughter in laws who find your presence irritating.

those hausas are going to come for the blood of whomever caused them to loose their cows...they value their cows more than human beings

KissCODE:
it is funny how you think. The OP didnt specify the method of the cloth washing.
Having said that: if you have ever used washing machine you will know that washing machine does not work without the help of a human being. It cant take cloths in to itself neither can it bring them out after washing. So maybe the OP mother just wanted the lady to assist the washing machine.

You talked about a maid... Probably the OP‘s mother has a maid who was sick and had to go on a sick leave and she just needed to find out how loyal her would be sister inlaw will be.

Bros make we forget all these oyibo life style. We are Africans and i am proud to be one.
Go to America look at all the influential men in government, their wives are home makers thats why you dont hear them talk ofdivorce or cheating. Look at the Bush or Gate or even Trump.
Bill gate cheated because he has a wife who loves her carreer more than he marriage & she didnt make noise about it because she knows it is partly her fault.
Tell me what is the work of Otedola‘s wife apart from home making.
Tell me what is the work of Dangote‘s wife apart from home making.
Mention great men with stablehome and you will see that their wives are organizers of their home.
Bros when you a peaceful home front you will have a peaceful business front or office front.
I am married to a beautiful home maker (not a house wife). She knows what it means to give a man peace & love at home. Which motivates me the man to go extra mile in making she and my lovely children happy.

My role models in life are not film makers, musicians or entertainers. My role models in life are men with skills for making money and making home.
Thanks...

My friend comot for road. I am also married for over 11 years. I do NOT sweep in my inlaws house nor wash my inlaws clothing. I have never done that and NEVER will. That is the responsibility of my hubby's younger sisters not mine. Do i cook? absolutely.
Its men like you that make rich men insist their daughters marry within their class .....with your poor man mentality before they will turn someone's daughter to community slave ontop say she wan marry.

Go to Otedola/Gates/Mittal et al;s houses and you will find they have helps and caretakers across all homes..,their wives arent maids in their own homes /... again, loyality is NOT measured by the type of chores you do....if thats the case, househelps and gatemen and drivers will not connive to murder Oga and his family., I just pity your wife

KissCODE:
If you are yet single; i pray you get married before Dec 31st 2016... Amen.
But washing someone‘s clothe does not make one a maid. Remember that in Africa & Nigeria, marriage is not between a man & a woman but between two families.

OP, if your reason for bringing the girl to my mom is for her aproval then i will encourage her to wash the clothes with smile & happiness. After all as a would be mother-inlaw, she could have ordinarily asked to help her wash clothes, do the dishes and other house work.

So for me i will encourage my woman to wash the clothes and even do more.
I see nothing wrong in it.

Your mates have bought washing machines and even employed maids for their mother yet, your yardstick measurement for "good wife" criteria is that she is a slave to your mum.
That is how tomorrow you will come and complain that your wife who is 9 months pregnant or who just had CS 2 days ago refused to pound yam for your visiting mother + she also refused to wash your younger brother's nephew's boxers....rubbish

This guy is a troll. please save your time/MB in advising. He posted a topic only this month that his wife has refused sleeping with him because he cheated.....today its my girlfriend left me for a tailor

https://www.nairaland.com/2964679/wife-misbehaves-because-cheated

Nigeria may God help us...people keep your daughters away from these people...please and please

sorry to say but you have a mental illness and you need to seek medical attention for it. You are suspicious to the point of making public accusations without evidence.
If your neighbors look at you strangely and assume you injested foreign body liquids its because, according to you, you challenged your step mum publicly.

From your history i deduce you are at least 30yrs, i would assume your step mum is probably in her 50's or worst case scenario, buhari style, late 40's, is there anything stopping you from dishing your own food if you have little faith in her?

If she has looked after you over 14 years as a helpless child, is it now that you are a 30 year old grown up, with no business or career or assets to your name that she will consider you a threat?

Do you expect her to stand and exchange words with you when you start your paranoia state of mind questions? of course she ll smile and walk away to avoid disrespect to herself.

please, there are lots of issues affecting nigerians but i dont think this should be one. You should focus on putting yourself out there seeking gainful employment or creating one for yourself.

If you are female, please enrol in beadmaking, MUA, tailoring or even hair dressing and if you are male, please try hair barbing, taxing etc to keep yourself occupied and useful to you

You are more concerned on been attracted to babes with empty pockets, no prospects. even if no one is injecting foreign bodies to you NO Babe will be attracted to you, you will probably only be fit to be friendzoned.

Go and work and babes will even come looking for you

Its very simple.. All she needs to is take her husband's death certificate to the Police Headquarters. They will process his gratuity payment. Any outstanding loans owed will be deducted and the final payment will be made to her directly.
No need for long grammer.

ronald4lif:
Hi Keepingmum, saw your mention earlier on the other thread you created for this same purpose but couldn't reply for some reasons.

As advised by others see if you can get it at Peckham, Brixton and Lewisham area of London. But if you can't and still in need of it I'd be in Nigeria during the Easter hols and could get some for you on my return to Britain. Don't know if that's too far a time for you as we're looking at April to be definite.

And I would really have to try out this choco milo that makes you like it this much. It must a be kinda special candy lol. Cheers.

Hi Ronald4lif, Easter break is almost here. Are you still going to 9ja? because dealing with withdrawal symptoms from Choco milo is hard Please let me know so i can contact you on your earlier offer. Many thanks

Mayflowa:
Oh. You spoke to him. That is a good way to start. You are now left with the option of watching your girlfriend keenly. You need to be sure this is one off case rather than a regular cheat with anyone on pair of shorts.

Sex could be a funny thing when you keep yourself in emotional position with anyone like sleeping on same bed or been alone in the house with someone. If you weren't raised together as siblings, you could mess up big time. Once started, you are hooked. That is why there exist so much inbreeding. Many don't just speak out. Cousins and Uncle-niece intimacy are the commonest.

[b]In Uk, once you are 5 yrs, siblings are not allowed to sleep in same room even with same gender [/b]to dissuade this kind of abuse. A lot of nairalanders have probably had carnal knowledge with a distance family members at early age!

So create hugeeee distance between them. She has lost her freedom for this singular act. Never should you allow her go to the sex venue again with the said cousin still lurking around. That is a point of no deal if she flaunt the rule.

I wish you best of luck.

Oga before i tell you to "kontinue in PEJ's voice, or say sofri sofri or shout FEAR GOD " please can you tell me which UK Laws says that?
Because even councils. NSPCC do not have those laws in the place at all at all.... or maybe i will learn something new today by you helpfully directing me to a section in a .gov.uk site that stipulates the bolded as statute

your focus should be on your girl NOT her cousin. Take her for counselling so that she will learn the ability to say NO to things that are wrong.

If he says he wont sleep with her again, how about your girl? If its something shes become used to and addicted to then counselling will help her understand why mating with her cousin is wrong.

Take her to the suggested counselling places please
God bless you

Is it not the same woman, you impregnated and ran away from? Then later returned after childbirth? putting her through so much turmoil and shame?
Yet you have the temerity to cheat... please mtssssheeewww!!!