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baba, you cant claim to be a christian yet hit your wife. We dont know how many times you have hit her but we know you acknowledged you have.

there are other factors that would have caused your wifey to consider her parents before you. For eg, how you treat wifey, her family, do you allow her support her family financially? Are there instances where she has had to run to her family for support when you were unable to meet your obligations?

Lastly, never underestimate the power of emotional support. A woman automatically feels allegiance and connection to people she finds solace in;- a man will mostly find solace in his wife, however most men fail their wives emotionally...ie wifey might feel tired but hubby would start sulking because she said no action tonight.
wifey might feel down but hubby would expect she gets up, gets the kids ready and cooks for him and his friends.
wifey might feel down but hubby would expect she goes to visit his extended family etc
wifey might see a pair of shoes she wants but hubby would say wait till next month and then 2 days after, would send money to his younger brother in school or borrow his colleague/neighbour money till month end. ---- now there is nothing wrong with this, however, sometimes as a woman, we feel, those other people can wait till the end of the month and wife's desires should come first....just saying

Baba, dont force things with your wife, dont be controlling or authoritative, kill her with kindness and she will naturally want to please you as a result. God bless your home

My 2 cents....you know those jobs you see with huge pay/prospects but requires the applicant to have 3 years work experience? Volunteer experience et Al? And you all will come on nairaland ranting about where you are supposed to get the work experience when there are no jobs?
Well this is your time to volunteer even if it's x3 days a week for 5 hours each day to gamer work experience so that when a vacancy props up 2mao, u r equipped to qualify.

Furthermore, internal vacancies are constantly advertised and remaining in that post enables you the opportunity to be privy to those ads.

Finally, as you work diligently in ur post, u can always meet someone who will be amazed dt a young 9ja graduate is selfless to the point of volunteering rather than staying put at home and perhaps offer you a good job elsewhere.

Take what you can from these words

If you argue with a madman, it is extremely probable that you will get the worst of it; for in many ways his mind moves all the quicker for not being delayed by the things that go with good judgment.

G.K. Chesterton..........wordsonamarble

Yaba left escapee

lala see food o....original dollars don land

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Godzchild:
Thanks but I have answered the questions already.(quote author=Gboliwe post=45360286]Dear All,

She sent me a picture with her face and the face is actually the one I saw in the facebook accounts I mentioned before. She is pregnant for real.

Godzchild, help your case and answer the questions thrown at you. The moment you came online to ask for help, you should be ready to answer basic questions.

I wish you the best.

You have rather evaded the questions and repeatedly lied

Question 1 - Why did you choose to use a separate user id rather than your known ID?
2 - You denied ever having a facebook account yet Gboliwe says the pictures you sent him/her matches the pictures in one of the facebook accounts BUT you repeatedly deny this - LIE

You really need to either answer the above questions or close this account and go to your inlaws house. AFterall, if indeed traditional rites has been done, then your inlaws would not reject their grandchild especially as you have no biological parents. Failing that, i am sure your mother has relatives you can go to for help through your delivery period
you also have the option of contacting your relatives who stood as your parents when the marital rites were being carried out by your inlaws.

your dad died without a will. All 3 kids are of age (above 18). Your dad was separated with your mother at the time of his death therefore she isnt entitled to anything

Your aunt is also not considered a suitable trustee in the sight of the law as there are 3 adult children surviving the deceased. therefore,

the company and/or any subsequent tenants in your fathers property will be mandated to pay the fees to a designated account. accessible by all 3 children.

All 3 are entitled to equal shares/profits from your dad's estate irrespective of whether there are male/female children.

So your brother isnt entitled to a lion share. Finally, i will suggest all 3 of you open a joint account with 3 signatories (x1 for each child), where monies can be paid to from your dad's estate. When the rent is paid, the legal fees will have to be paid from that account and whatever is left will be shared in 3 parts to all 3 children

whilst in power, if he had put clear structures in place to ensure all staff were paid salaries on time, pensions and entitlements monthly. He will not suffer the same fate today.

Our leaders act like there is no tomorrow and think that they will forever live in glass houses surrounded by unicorns hence they fail to put down long lasting infrastructures in place, checks and balances as well as maintainance cultures.

Thats why, they end up dying in foreign hospitals surrounded by strange hospital staff, rather than dying in Nigerian hospitals, surrounded by family and loved ones.

Mr Man, MIND YOUR BUSINESS. Learn to MIND YOUR BUSINESS. Learn NOT to pokenose in other people's marital affairs.

If her hubby is okay with it, how is that your problem? The lady might have family members (inlaws, relatives, siblings, parents) who live in a different continent/state with a different timezone to hers hence the late chats


MIND YOUR BUSINESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

Ok, i will give you the benefit of doubt. Take a picture with today's newspaper (the date should be shown clearly) against your bump. It shouldnt be a bump covered with clothing. just your visible pregnant stomach.
You can cover your face however......its just a suggestion oooh

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Well, a basic google search of your email address took me to a facebook account of a corper that is busy denge posing with a selfie stick. Posting pictures as recent as 29 April in shorts and Teeshirts, looking very Sesky and NOT pregnant...........but what do i know.

I go siddon de look till you are verified. BTW, why did you open a new account?

cionon:
I want to deactivate my account. I can't see the deactivation button. Pls someone give me a guide. Tnx

CLick on your profile - then - edit profile - scroll down, you 'll see deactivate account

Well at least you accept and love your in laws like your hubby....so go a step further and gbensh him.
Better yet, do a 3some wt hubby involved. There's love in sharing

How long does your cousin intend to stay in the US for?

Is he looking to squat temporarily?

How us he going to fend for himself and contribute to the monthly bills?

What are his skills set and qualifications

Well according to Tbillz, he is not to blame for anything in his life...his actions/discretions/misbehaviours, violation of the FRN drug laws, Marital laws and any religious laws.......therefore I blame edible catering...Yes it is edible caterings fault

She bi tbillz get family? He should call them naa...and crash at theirs

Or call any of his other 2 baby mamas

Or his drug dealer

Or the person he gv 45million to keep

Or the people that used to cook food and give him the past three yrs

Or call ever reliable edible catering

People I beg u with anything you fear and respect. Avoid all these dodgy stories of 'drinking zobo/kunu/alomo cures cancer'

There are over 100 types of cancer...some certain foods and lifestyle increase ur risk of cancer and some others don't. ....some other types of food/activities aids treatment ALONGSIDE medical treatment.

Next time someone sends you a post/email wt "if u fly u ll get cancer' pls ask them 2 specify which type because for example, women will never have prostate cancer just like men will never have ovarian/cervical cancer

The man. A Vasectomy is less invasive than a fill hysterectomy. Mores, the recovery period is significantly less around 3wks than a hysterectomy (3 months).
It's also has less risks of complications in comparison to a full hysterectomy. ......so Mr Op, pls check ur facts next time

The edible catering husbands

Thank God I am not married to this very insecure paranoid op of a man. I can only imagine how unhappily married ur wife is.

I won't waste my time advising op cause he seems to attack everyone who tried to advise him about having an open mind/seeing things from the other person's view and an overview perspective.

If you want to know more read his previous topic and I think his wife also commented on that topic

This is the same man that refused sleeping with his wife because he says her veejayjay is wide after birthing his OWN kids....

Nairalanders pls search #treese for his wife's username and see the type of psychopathic beast this "prince charming" is to his wife

First he blames Tiwa for his misfortune
Then he blames Tiwa's mum for his misfortune
Then he blames his own father for his misfortune

Mr Teebilz? Where is your sense of responsibility in any of these? I know for a fact this isnt a publicity stunt as they have both been silent on each others grams for a couple weeks. I also know they have been separated for a while.

What we have here is a classic case of a boy child who has refused to grow into a man. He will rather blame everyone for his problems than accept responsibility

This is a guy with 2 kids prior to his marriage with Tiwa. Why couldnt those relationships work? He blames his father
Why couldnt his relationship with Tiwa work? He blames his mother in law

Even to the point of saying she hasnt asked him what he will eat in 3 years? Seriously Yet in the same sentence says she has been the breadwinner. Please the food you eat who provides it? The money you spend to eat out who provides it? What have you done, Mr "I am the husband and Lord of the House" to remedy the situation? They have been married for 2years and if she didnt cook for you in 3 yrs then clearly you have nothing to complain about cos she had been doing that pre marriage so wetin con be the problem?

This is what Linda Ikeji said when she wrote that often times, ,when men have nothing to say they body shame a woman by saying she is sleeping around. Maybe she did sleep with these men but is it also possible all these happened whilst she was dating these single men?

Is Teebilz going to say he didnt sleep with any lady before marrying Tiwa.

Boy you need to growwwwww the efff up and face up to your responsibilities. You are crying online because your wife no give you food chop. This guy married Tiwa cause she was an upgrade from his babymamas!!! Classic gold digger who is now crying fowl because sugarmama stopped his monthly stipends.

Take alook at the "romance" section of nairaland and you ll see a whole generation of self entitled boy childs "reporting" their other halves for not doing whatever.

May GOD help these generation of men that think its okay for a woman to be the breadwinner

The church didnt force or insist you marry in their auditorium. If you want to wed in Winners then play by the rules. If you want to have a traditional marriage, you play by the rules of your prospective inlaws tradition otherwise no wedding. So whats the big deal?

You dont like, go elsewhere...winners isnt going to be upset for upholding their rules.

thank God for her, i tap into my own blessings

azeezlateefah:
She has always been like that even before we'd anything. She could suddenly get horrny

Oga so you are not man enough to handle your bae? How will you feel if she constantly denies you of shaggs?

Anyhoo, on a serious note, marry her and you will see - women's libido drastically reduces after childbirth....most women o

Op, i read your story and i might be wrong but i think i have heard the other side of your story which you have refused to share on NL for a balanced view.

You met your now wife, you got her knocked up (forget the whole churchy thingy cos you were both gbenshing steady) so nobody can claim holy pass.

You stuck with her cos she had red kpali, and THATS the same reason you are still there.

She is far from perfect but neither are You. You almost always bailed on her with your constant disappearing acts.....even after she had a baby, you disappeared, didnt break up, no contact till years after. You only married her when your visa was repeatedly bounced and then you remembered babymama got red papers.

She on the other hand, is just as street smart as you are. Whether she had genuine feelings for you initially i do not know, however with your constant disappearing acts, its difficult for someone to consider you a serious life partner.

You both used each other for gains....she needed a child as she was getting older, you wanted a way to regularise your stay.

I am sorry to read about your emotional tumoil, but it appears your wifey already went through this phase, albeit silently when you abandoned her for years with no contact, support etc despite evidence of your steady cheating........the only person suffering in all these is your daughter and thats whom my heart goes out to

Hi, i dont know if this is too late and what your circumstances or carriage is/are; however there are lots of labourer jobs that pay daily you can approach due to the daily constructions ongoing in Abj.

You can go to any of the churches is Dunamis (permanent site) et al and i am sure you may be able to secure a daily paying job there

I will like to update everyone who helped console me over my desire for chocolate milo cubes.
Ronald4lif bought 3 whole packs of choco milo for me and even posted them to my address, recorded delivery
I received them this weekend.
And he/she did this for freeeeeee. .. what can I say? Thank you so much for quenching my withdrawal symptoms with 300 cubes of choco milo.
May the Lord continually bless you and provide ur every want and needs

Funny thing is they aren't legally or traditionally married oh. Common law marriage name em dem do.

Women should learn not to co-habit and then turn baby mamas with a guy no matter how rosy things seems because the tide can change at any time.

However, I feel sad for mide cos she's an orphan who loved and stuck with this dude through it all. If you see the guy ehhnn, his English is worse than that Toyin Aimakhu's agbero boyfriend....fine, e no fine....and he has those ferocious traditional type of marks on his face
.....pray God heals them both and gives them peace