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you both suit each other......both liars, pretenders and deceitful individuals. If you are not willing to share your health challenges but rather fraudulently decieve someone into marriage with you, you deserve EVERY kind of deceit /fraud perpetrated by any partner of yours

Rafaelbeulah:
Hello everyone..... I have some items for sale.Some are new. All are in very good condition. Please call or watsapp. 07084472282

Haier T fridge...... 45000
16' vitafoam........ 47000
Water dispenser+bottle....... 20000
Maxi Deep fryer....., 25000
Blender/juicer......,,, 10000
8cup coffee maker........ 10000
Microwave........ 18000
Samsung window ac 1.5........ 18000
Mirror....... 18000
Washing machine....... 42000
Hyundai itel 2011....... 1.2m

Thanks
Lugbe/Gwarimpa

Can i see the pics of the Blender (also post how long you have had it for ) the fridge (how long you have had it for ) and the Microwave (how long you have had it for ) as well

this is chickenpox, it will subside after 10 days

so you married someones daughter in a very dishonourable way and you are bragging about it? Is it not to prostrate? Isnt that part of the yoruba culture? Why are you resisting respect?

If your wife is to disobey your mother i hope you wont also come and open a thread on the issue -----finally, if this lady didnt have papers, would you have persevered or bounced?

You are a clear user and i hope this lady's eyes are opened to whom you are sooner

Ur brothers if you have any can collect ur brideprice

The famous proverb " if you see a snake and an mbaise person, kill the mbaise person first as they are more dangerous ".

The mbaise tribe is like what the ijebus are to yorubas or the igbirra's to Kogi.

Very wicked, deceptive, desperately love money, do not treat other tribes well, manipulative and evil.

Tehila07:
Lol
I'm a pastor in one of the biggest churches in Nigeria. She started a school. Profit can't be in school business at the beginning. So I'm helping with teachers salary at times. But in ministry, if I'm transfered, she must follow me. Now the school is growing fast and she said she won't follow me if I'm transfered.

I've been a school teacher for years and I'm the academic backbone of the school.

I take it you are in the church i think you are in? Look at the lives of the other pastors that towed your path and ask your self if you will be fulfilled in 20 years? You will constantly be moved every 3 years and yet you are encouraged to up and move with your family - meaning your family can really only survive on your income.

You are an EMPLOYEE as long as you remain a pastor in that ministry.....your wife is a Business owner!! She has a job for life, together, you both have a job for life with her business, collectively, your children have a business they can inherit, should both of you stay and nuture that biz together.

Being a pastor in that ministry where you are poorly paid and your wife is only given a stipend "monthly sal/allowance" will never cut it for the lifestyle you are expected to "potray" to the public......you will forever live on the goodwill of church members, thats even if you are fortunate to rise to Senior pastor level.

My brother, speak with other pastors who got sacked or left the ministry and ask yourself if that path you are towing is the right one? If you must continue in ministry, please prep and start your own...

without re- igniting tensions - i just want to say this thread has been extremely helpful to a novice like myself. a 3bed house in Abj is almost complete and my family (whom i am building it for ) would be moving in, in a few weeks

So far, i have spent just under 7million naira ---- around 6.8million to make it "habitable".

whats been completed so far includes 3bed (all ensuite) - toilets/showers, french windows, Turkish security doors etc

Floor tiling everywhere (inside and outside - used nigerian ceramic tiles)

POP everywhere - the living room actually has those POP designs with "hidden lights", all doors fitted,

Electrical/Plumbing done but waiting for NEPA to come do their bits, Fence has been erected but not plastered

Whats outstanding

Nepa - connection

Carpenter ish - builds of the Kitchen cabinet/bedroom wardrobes

Borehole (i was given a very high bill, 1 millionaire for borehole at the inception of the work and i just decided to channel the monies to other aspects and perhaps deal with the borehole last

Exterior flooring (interlocking)

Gate/plaster fencing

Painting.


I embarked on this project January of this year because i was tired of paying abuja rent for my mum and didnt want to renew her tenancy when it expires towards the later part of this year. I got someone a QS to supervise the project for me as i am somewhere in afghanistan + being a novice. We have had our ups and downs throughout the project but so far, we have carried on and i can vouch for the work he has done.

I tried to use some services from some of the "tradesmen" on this thread and was unfortunately disappointed - I however found the numerous advises from some others here very valuable - especially as it was like a 2nd and sometimes 3rd opinion which equally helped me save costs: but more importantly, helped me know that the advise i was given by my QS was a good advice.

I will post pics just before they move in but just want to encourage anyone whom like myself, would want to commence on a project and isnt sure they will be able to nor is discouraged, start with what you have and set your self a realistic timeline based on your personal circumstances, get a good QS and see what God can do......i ensured my family visited the site every 3 - 4wks and made video calls whilst there to assess the progress of the work as well.

Finally, do not bow to family pressure to hand your project to a family member especially, if like me you are building by proxy because sorry be your name...... notorise your work with your Site supervisor or QS - i always ensured all my communications regarding instructions and monies were typed via emails/chats and kept phone calls to the QS to a minimum because- NEVER say NEVER

Also, dont cut corners - i remember when i tried cutting corners for the plaster work because i was told here that i could get my plastering done for cheap, yeah that cost me as i had to pay to have the work done again

Anyhoo, thats me for now, GOD bless us all

Sirmuel1:
Choco milo bawo

Cc
keepingmum

I can send some cartons to you from Nigeria, if you're ready

are you serious abi you are pulling my longer throat?

so last weekend i was in London and walked the length of Peckham Rye searching for CHoco milo but there wasnt any available for sale

Is there any kind soul visiting the UK soon that wont mind buying about 10 - 20 packets for me from 9ja please? I will pay for it please.

musabayokanu:
Seven (7) years ago, you brought this issue to the table of Nairaland for discuss nd ideas.

1. Your son was 7years now he should be 14years?

2. Your son is so attached to us father that you wonder what the effect of the divorce will do to your son.

3. Hubby refused to get a job.

4. Hubby was advised to return to Nigeria by his father to avoid being controlled by his wife.

5. You have lived as a single mum for 7years now.

Please can you share some experience about this journey. The ups ns down and the challenges, regrets and interesting part.
You Ex husband status now (married, working, or junkie)
This will also help some people (man and women) who wishes to tread the same part.

Thank you

Perhaps its time to give closure to this topic.

Yes we separated and remained so for some time. Hubby did keep regular contact with our child.

I had the full support of my family ( he was disappointed my family supported my decision) he went for counselling after he realised i was serious on moving ahead with a divorce.

I attended the counselling session twice and stopped however he continued to....he wanted reconciliation and i was adamant until the issues i raised were resolved i wouldn't return. He got a job but i still stayed away. He got an even better job than mine and i returned as i made it clear i would only support the home and no longer do more than i should which was perhaps part of what led him to be laid back.

Neithet of us returned to 9ja although we have visited.

We have more children today. My inlaws respect me because they know with or without their son, i can stand on my 2 feet and give my kids and i a very good quality of life. Hubby also respects the kids and i and has continued to demonstrate that in his actions.

Perhaps if i had just remained without taking the step i took, things may have remained as they are.

I hope this puts an end to your trolling my comments on people's post and also gives an insight to whomever may be experiencing something similar.

The only regret i have is that i should havr made the move to separate earlier than i did, rather than "enduring and praying" because that absolutely did not work.

I am also pleased i did not return at thr first request for reconciliation or when he got the 1st low paid job : i know him, his qualifications and skills and know he is capable of getting and doing better and it paid off..

I am pleased you posted this because lots of african women have been brainwashed to believe "all men are the same"....especially when they are in toxic relationships/marriage.

This is an example of there is light ahead of the tunnel. You CAN walk away and start a new and healthy relationship where you treated with love and respect.

Dont stay because you have children: dont stay because you ttc and you dont want to leave because you have "nothing" to show for it, dont stay because of what "people would say", dont stay because you have dated each other fot 10 years", dont stay because you want him to see how much you have endured from him and hope that that would make him change, dont stay because uour inlaws/pastors said they would speak to him.

You should love yourself sooooooooo much that anyone , man/woman who comes into your life knows what you can and cannot accept.

Thank God she walked away and found her happy place. There is no timeline for when one moves on from a bad situation. As long as you are mentally strong to handle a new relationship and have healed then move on but choose your next partner wisely.

If shes from such a "bad and fetish" home as her ex spouse said, shouldnt he be glad that she is out of his life and now someone else's "problem"?? Hes bitter because he never thought she would move on, he never thought any onr would desire her and now he can't let go off his bitterness and jealousy.....let the lady's new family warn the ex from visiting their premises.

Can someone give me an estimate for tiling a 140sqm house please.

Its been suggested that i would need 40 bags of cement for the job? I feel thats excessive but i want some input please

Are there still italian tiles or its now "scarce"

ayukdaboss:
Still need this?

yes i do

oga pls stop this blatant copyright - post the link where you copied this story before i report your ID to the MODS

i asked a question earlier but it appears it was misunderstood

Can i know the different quality Tiles in order of durability AND the price per sq meter please

Please respond to the question if you can without asking me to message or whatsapp you.

Your son sounds like my teenage son. He's fine in every aspect just very disorganised, lazy and forgetful. And like you, we live in the abroad so have to be mindful of been stereotyped........ i find that in terms of "responsibility and behaviour" he is/acts like 3- 4yrs younger than he should for his age.

He is been assessed for a spectrum disorder and i would suggest you get a second opinion on his diagnosis as spectrum disorders are easier and better managed when diagnosed in childhood

Finally, i would never advise you send your child to 9ja. Its the wrong place to do so in this era.....in today's world, people have physical and virtual assitants that help organise their workloads and meetings: a lot of my colleagies have cleaners that come and tidy and do their laundry 2 or 3 times a week so as far as his academics isnt lagging, i will say let him be. When hes grown he can always delegate those "tasks" ................as for personal hygiene alot of the guys in 9ja and abroad have poor hygiene but with gradual encouragement, he may improve

Can i please have a vague cost price p sq m of floor tiles

Whats the general going rate for polished and unpolished

GreatDad19:
My wife has put me through hell in just such a short time. I understand what this man is going through, it takes the grace of God to leave these olosho women we call wives. My wife will get the shock of her life in December, I’ve already furnished my new apartment and I will be moving there leaving my wife to suffer on her own. I will sell that house that she’s living in, let her go and collect money from her customers to take care of her. Bros I will advise you to get your finances up and leave her ASAP. Got no time for these useless parasites that will come and ruin your life.

This is what happens when a man has a small blokos and rather than the women in his life tell him the truth about the size of his blokos, they boost his ego by "praising his mandingo" and then men dem now start feeling like king kong and wants to demand a "farrgin" sized ponyor even after child birth

Oga if you like sell your house and pack to a new continent, the next lady would still tell you of your dinky winky because thats the truth about your anatomy

Idoma la dam!!

Lordbucci2:
use foil paper in wrapping it..

Does this actually work pls? I will use tell them to do this though

sisisioge:
Simple.

Get the food items tied in nylon bags , then seal the tied bags in ziplock bags, seal the new zip lock with a cellotape, then seal the newest bag in another ziplock. Issue resolved .

I hope the food items are dry.

Na that kain sealing de attract those ukba and food agency people. I hv however dont this before- sealed x3 yet it stunk as hell

I have ordered the above food stuffs alongside some 9ja wears to be brought to me over here Nd i want to know what tips to give the "carrier/bringer" so dt ny clothes dont stink of ogbono in particular.

Like how do they pack it? Everytime i travel back to my base from 9ja my clothes will reek of ogbono even when grinded with crayfish

Mbok, my fellow nigerians, help me with suggestions

See question? Who has the responsibility of been ontop when shaggging??

Do what works for you pls. In my home, we both cook. Whoever gets home from work cooks. Sometimes oga will even text me if hes home to ask what i ll like to eat and then cook it before i arr. Some days, i cant be bothered to cook and we will eat cereals all day anf drink tea at night.

My cousin hubby doesnt enter kitchen. He ll rather order in for the whole family the day she says shes too tired to cook.

Another cousin is married to a man from the 10th century. The man wont even pour himself a glass of water because according to him, once a man has a "woman" in his house, he is abdicated off all "domestic chores".

Another cousin is living the baby girl life wt her hubby. Oga has told her that her role in his life is to bare his kids and look peng all day. She doesn't cook, work nor drive. She has a cook, a maid, a driver and a lesson teacher- all employed by oga so she isnt stressed for her "night duty" shift in za other room.

I hv bn married for 15yrs plus whilst my various cousins whom i have shared theit stories above hv also been married btw 7yr - 18yrs. Those standards works for them in their home.
The men arent complaining, their blokos hasnt shrinked or disappeared as a result of how they run their homes.
Your friends or inlaws may talk but remember when you give into side "advice - as they like to call it", you are essentially allowing another man to "control you, your wife and your home"!!! And THAT is what makes you less of a man: not what you do for your wife.

You are only able to save 400k because you live with your parents
Do not move out till you have saved 1Millionaire that is kept aside for investment purposes such as buying a land, buying a car/bus/keke for side biz

Moving from a rent free place to your own self rented place is NOT an investment - dont allow anyone decieve you..... Like you have stated, your job is not secured, if you move out now and loose your job months down with nothing to rely on, you will use those same hands and pack your load back to your parent's

You dont have to be biz inclined to have side hustles - those are hustles not meant to be your main income, but profitable enough to cover bills like monthly mobile/data top ups, electricity bills, tp to work, dstv etc cos those bills add up

Another advantage of staying with your parents which you may perhaps agree with (i am sure this helped towards your savings as well) is that you are restricted on your "tgif" behaviour, splurging on drinks et al, mama put etc and all that would be a weekly occurence once you start living independently.

chukwuka12:
Pls in which order will you do the following...
Pop, doors and tiling.... Which should cone first which should come last....

I am currently at that phase with my project and my site supervisor has suggested

Doors & windows, POP then tilling and he said its because thieves can come and do away with some of your POP so its best to secure the premises then POP then tiles

Op review your priorities and expenses

You and ur hubby are currently jobless - according to you; so you dont really need to live in Lagos at the moment. Pls relocate to your home states.
I appreciate its third term and ur kids may probably be writing or moving class.....immediately after this term, movr out to a state where you have a strong support system

Your clothing biz can be done online as well as in other states

Your hubby would have recuperated by now cos his surgery was one year ago - he needs to get back to hustling for his family.

You have to face the reality that you both may need to squat with relatives till ur finances are in order.....harsh but its reality

Register your kids in a govt sch till the tide changes positively - continue ur clothes biz and if luck shines on u, find a place to rent but spend no more than 30% of ur household income on rent

sonmasuccess:
Good morning Good people of Nairaland.

We are at the verge of loosing our home, my heart is failing please help me.

Our rent expired over 8 Months ago and in a few days we may become homeless.

My husband has been out of job for over a year, after surviving a surgery. As if that's not enough, I was sacked at work due to economic reasons.
God knows I'm not a lazy woman. The last salary I got from work, I used it to buy some wrappers from Togo to start an online clothing store on Jumia. Sonma Clothing.The business is still incubating and have not recouped up to 10% capital.

The court issued a summon and subsequently vacation notice to us and our deadline is this week.

We are down to nothing, have exhausted all options hence I decided run to you people for help. I have always been a guest reader here.
Please help me.

We have two kids, the apartment is a 3 bedroom costing 400,000, as it is, we don't mind a 1 bedroom.
I have attached proofs of the court summon and I'm open to further verification. Location is satellite town.

08143748918

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Success Ojini Nkemdilichi
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May God bless all of you as you turn up for me.
May God wipe tears from your homes as you wipe mine. For those seeking children, may God open ur wombs as you save my children the trauma of becoming homeless.

Thank you.

Mods please help me move to front page.
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I empathise with you and your challenges but in clear terms, what exactly do you need? 400k to pay rent? a job for yourself and your hubby? a job just for you or your hubby? Which is it?

You mentioned 1 bedroom - there is 1bed for 30k a year and 1 bed for 1.5million a year - so which of the 1 bed's are you referring to??

Have you looked at flats and decided on the one that suits you best? What type of surgery did your hubby have thats kept him out of a job for over a year?

Redrosely:
Tnx everyone who took out time to drop a comment or two. I'm considering every available options. Today was a long wait,yet didn't hear from the school management. As a matter of fact, when I was summoned, I quickly used my baby in the schools creche to lie, claiming he was sick n had to go buy drugs 4him at the pharmacy. How then will I change my story to the real thing.

Thinking and praying for you. Listen to your family you will need all the emotional support they offer.

Your hubby doesn't love you and he is selfish and its its not because you erred or did something wrong; you are not at fault here so don't blame yourself at all

Tales by moonlight. It was delayed for 10m by the dullard of daura during his 1st tenure.

The malus and vows that voted him in for a second tenure should calm down and expect a similar timeline this 2nd term, in the very least