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well just as Justwise as said earlier, get ur cousin to write clearly she ll be taking care of your feeding and accommodation and other expenses u may incure while there. reduce d cost of ur trip to slitly above cost of ticket. And do not include any income or document that the source can't b easily understood or verifiable.


Warning. Just hope for the best. Those people could be funny at times.

blackme:






Thanks a bunch. I'll work on that. When can I reapply? And how about the ECO's statement that he isn't satisfied with my family ties. What do I do about that

If u are married with children. u already have family ties. but to stress that to them, in addition to wedding cert & pix, children birth cert, have your husband make copy of his id card & sign on it and also write a letter of consent that u ll b visiting ur cousin in UK, and that while u b away he ll b on leave to take care of the children.

note. this was d only major document a woman I guided used in getting granted to visit her brother who is not even yet a citizens.

blackme:
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Thanks a lot for your prompt response it's highly appreciated. My sponsor has being in the UK for 16yrs and the only person she ever invited to the UK is her husband who is also now a british citizen and that was 13yrs ago. Since then she hasn't invited anyone. I just feel my ECO had too much Burukutu and palm wine before attending to my application, it's just unfortunate there's no administrative review. All the same thanks a lot I cherish the advice. If there's any other infor you'd like to share pls feel free. I just don't know what to do next. That's d only problem I have.

Another thing u should look into if u were not careful about it earlier. Let the person inviting you state it clear that she ll b responsible for your feeding and accommodation ( if her house has extra space for you) and other normal expenses you may incure while you are there. so when filling money budgeted for the trip, you ll just put money that can take of the flight ticket, and little shopping. say like 180k . The ll tactically show that u can conveniently afford the trip , than putting a high budget that ll show big strain on your income/ account.

blackme:




Thanks for your response @kennycanny. What then do I need to do? How do I proceed in rectifying this problem? Do I need additional documentation? If yes what? Do I reapply? Or what exactly must be done?

I sincerely don't know. because with what you wrote earlier I don't see y u should not be given. when I applied and got granted, I was single , with a relatively low salary. what I guess was a factor that helped me was it was my sibling that invited me.

on some occasions, the person that invited you records matters. has the people she invited in the past abide by d rule.

You can give it a trial again after some time.

blackme:
@justwise i'm new to comment here but i've closely followed the instructions, suggestions and submissions. Thus while applying for my UK visit visa I carefully studied the provisions and advice you and so many others highlighted and worked accordingly. I'm thus miffed by the decisions of the UK ECO. On the issue of visiting my friend: It is clearly stated on my form and in my invitation letter that my host is my cousin. On the issue of ties to Nigeria I submitted my marriage certificate,birth certificates of my kids. Etc . I also submitted my bank statements with a covering letter to explain the monies deposited and land purchase duplicate receipts to show proof of authenticity. The skye bank account is also my salary account reflecting more than the money required for my trip over a period of 6months. There was no lumping as the funds available and remitted were from land sales. There was also no reference to my sponsor in anyway despite the fact that I submitted original documents of her job appointment, statements of account, payslips, letter of invitation passport page(british citizen) earning of over £90k as a medical doctor etc. I am confused I need your advice. I still don't understand why my sponsor documents were not mentioned at all and d grounds for refusal are totally incomprehensible. That's why I need your help to help me understand.

what I can just say is that those people are funny at times. Some people with less ties or documents are granted.

Dear VO,
pls advice on how best to handle this matter.

An American citizen will like to adopt a child(13 yrs) whose mother died shortly after childbirth , and since has been leaving with her grandmother and unfortunately the grandmother ( blood sister) to the American citizen passed on late last year. And since the child as nott be enjoying best of care.

Note. The dad never married the child's mother because they were both in the secondary school when the pregnancy occur.

The dad just finish university and yet to secure a job or be able to take care of his own child and willing to release the child to his aunt ( us citizen ) for custody or adoption.

How can they handle it without breaking any law.

A detail response will be highly appreciated.

IjogzK:
S1lly bloggers... A pastor describing how the devil and his right hand demon steps on your destiny if you don't pray. But bloggers will convert the storyline.

The same way some silly peeps used myself and my wife wedding pix and conjured a story under. They are lucky that it wasn't a negative story I for get to the root of the matter

Funny that you think that the pastor and his assistant needed to step on a church member in other to describe how d devil steps on destiny.

I ll like to slap you in other to demonstrate to you how a Bishop slapped his church member.

Manueleee:
Why will you know? Is bw me and my God. And for d mata of fact, i collect more dan 15k evry month.

I like you to share it to encourage others.
After all , you told us when you were receiving 12k u used faith to pay 1500 tithe and your salary was increase to 15k.

Manueleee:
Tithe is something many dont understand. Sumtimes i laf d way sum young guys give dia tithe. Sum will b gving 500 evry sunday. For me, i prefair to give it onec a month base on my salary.
Mal 3:10 is always effective to any christain dat pays his tithe. I rember wen my salary was 12k evry month my tithe should b 1200. So i d next month i made a prayer holdin my tithe. Askin God for increase of salary, so i gave 1500 as tithe. After dat tithe dat sunday, not upto 3days my salary was increased to 15k. Since dat day, i stop joking wit my tithe.

Try pay 15k in faith this month . And let us know when you salary increase to 150k

Dear VO,
thanks for the good work you are doing here.
Pls kindly clarify this situation. My mum in her late 60s & has visited my sister(US Citizen) 3 times
in the past.
During her last interview at the embassy, she said the VO mentioned to her that she ll
likely be refused next time she applies for visa, that she should tell her daughter to petition for her
to get immigrant visa. but the issue is that she doesn't desire to live in the US , or can afford not to
be outside the US for more than 365 days as required to maintain permanent stay status.

The issue is that she needed to attend a function in the US soon. Will they refuse her visa cos her daughter didn't
petition for her? and why are you interested in pushing people not interested to immigrate to us to do.

Thanks!

can someone pls explain this. if Jesus was God, when they ask him when the world is going to come to an end, he said he doesn't no , that its only his father in heaven that knows the hour and time the world ll end.
Jesus could not be lying then.

Vikky014:
so it is now a bad thing to agree wt an opposite sex on a topic so bc we agreed on sme valid points we shld now bcome husband and wifei tire for u oooo.

I am almost sure that you were brought well as a good girl. I have not seen u used any abusive words since. unusual of babes these days!

blublahd:

I get you. my own take about sex is that I can't just shake the feeling of having sex with the wrong person, personality-wise. And by so doing I become active and then may just become fucck that one, Bleep this one, fucck those ones.
Am more of, if you are sure it's the right person and more importantly at a time you should at least have someone you are courting, that ain't a bad idea.
casual sex, just because she got a nice asss and, nice shape or cute face seems rather senseless to me.
I hope I don't sound feminine

You sounded feminine a little bit sha. But I ll sincerely like to be more like you.

Toks2008:


LOL! Nice one..i always get curious to see any lady who claims to be a virgin or sexually chaste and if she is the hot type then i will give her a medal but if she is not the attractive type, i will just tell her she tried because apparently,guys don't really disturb her.

But from the way the present world is,any lady no matter how unattractive she is who stil remains a virgin till 25 shoudl be given a medal of honour.

Funny You. Na ur type they fall mugu pass

Toks2008 & vikks014. I will suggest you marry each other. You both will definitely live happy & blissful married life.

Toks2008:


Ok picture this...Must you make love outside marriage?

Ok lets assume konji is really holding both you and both can't hold it,is it impossible to marry? at least registry and introduction?

If the answer to the above is NO and the lady still opens her legs wide for that man to have sex with her with or without a condom then the lady is a slut even when she does not see it that way,the guy is only having a casual sex with her with means at that point,she is a casual.

Oga just say premarital sex is not too good, all ll agree with you.
Not everyone comes from a background that ll make them be financially ready to start raising children at 25.

Vikky014:
exactly wht i was saying in my previous post
shaa thank God i hv a lovely mum dt taught me wht sex is all about. i would hv been a lost sheep tho. sex education is very important at an early age i guess

You are missing my point. I am not praising you that you didnt open your legs for many men, what I am saying is that you must be pretty young not to know much about this life.

Virginity to me is not an added advantage. Some ladies are still virgin because guys cant find them good enough to be close enough to have relationship that ll might lead to sex with them because they are either dirty, ugly, rude, cursed , boring , childish , arrogant , spoilt brat , etc.

A lot of single mothers still find husbands while Virgins they go from one mountain to the other praying for husband.

Estharfabian:
Toks2008, As Much as I'd like to believe I saw an atom Of Sense in Your thread.. I'm obviously lying!

Firstly, You're promoting Sex without condom instead of Abstinence.... Like are You even listening To Yourself??
Look ehn...I think I get Your Lamentations...Buh Seriously, The thought is Irrational..

Someone here Made a statement saying "If the FG banned condoms, they'd be a decrease in the Level of sexual discipline.." ..that's total hogwash, I tell You!! Some guys Don't even Like the idea Of "condoms''....Like they say....in quote "Nothing beats raw Sex"


Condoms Aren't just made for just STD prevention...Mostly for Unwanted pregnancies...No one wants to bring A child Into the world Without proper planning...I know of a married couple that still use "Condoms"...Does that mean the man sees the Lady as a slut or a potential STD carrier!?? Your points are just Ridiculous!

Rather than saying this Rubbish! You should Advice girls to learn to close their legs!! To learn to Abstain from pre-marital sex....instead you're here spewing trash!!

Yeye dey smell bad! misspicy...Let's gerrout of this thread jaweh!

And some ladies also accept that its only sluts that allows condoms to used for . Nawa o, all kind of peeps Na in u go meet for chatting room.

Vikky014:
lols. serious boyfriend u said see if u r nt ready to marry a girl yet and u hv her as a sex partner she will dump u anytime she sees anoda person with a bigger pocket.. two of my senior colleagues dt hv serious boyfriends as u said while in sch will soon get married to their obodo oyibo hubbys nxt yr. u dnt hv any business being in a sexual rlationship wt a non virgin if u r nt ready for marriage. dis is a hard truth tho

If you are truly a graduate I guess your education is very fast. Because you have not seen much in this life!

misspicy:

No o....she lived with NYPHOMANIAC and didn't turn out a Nypho herself because na she HOLY pass

Everyone in her school were sleeping around. Only she closed her legs throughout.

Guess Na second virgin she be, old things have passed away, behold all things have become new.

Vikky014:
which reality? reality of having up to 7 sexual partners as a girl bfore getting married i dnt like such realities
i believe u went to uni. most girls did campus couple in their uni days. hv plenty of dem in my former lodge. dose girls claim to be single at home
i hate such realities SIR


NO B SMALL UNWANTED PREGNANCY.

Are there no girls with just one serious boyfriend? or a guy with just one serious babe throughout ur university days?

queenfav:
Leave the guy na..If he knew the price of cerelac and other baby items,he won't open his mouth to spew this trash.the worst thing that can happen to anyone is to have a baby when you are not ready for it,esp financially.My best friend while we were growing up in 2006,got pregnant after we wrote waec.Now she has 2 kids out of wedlock for a guy who can't even care for her.Her family disowned her so she doesn't even have anyone to turn to.Last year she called me to send her 5k,that her last child is sick,and there's no money for hospital bills.School she no go again o,she can't even boast of SSce with 5 credits.Today she always makes statements to work me into a guilt trip for not being close friends with her.What are we going to discuss?I don't have kids neither am I still trying to write GCE ,so what are we going to talk about?She always has the impression that I am acting superior to her because of my academic qualifications.But the fact is,we can't be very close since we live different lives now.All that she could have averted if she was smart enough to make good decisions.She opened up to me that if she could do it all over again,she would not have allowed herself to be so careless as to get pregnant,when she could have been pursuing her education.Make babes wise up o.If you see a guy who has 3 kids,you won't be able to tell.Its the girl who looks worn out and stressed.Let's do things at the right time.If you can't abstain,use a condom so you don't bring poor kids into this world and introduce them to untold hardship just to prove a useless point.

I understand that you can't be very close again becos you really don't have much in common again.

But please as much as possible be close to her to support her grow out of it. The real friends and good friends not only be there when we are doing great , but those that ll b with us when d going becomes rough.

Vikky014:
mydear i perfectly understand you. most of my female frnds thinks am an old woman d way i reason whn it cmes to premarital sex. i do tell dem dt i cant jst b sharing my nude wt a guy dt is nt my hubby except if am married to him. i prefer being an ashewo than to b fooling around in d name of boyfriend . i hv male friends not boyfriends and yes whn d time for marriage cmes one of my male friends might b my husband. shaa am neither religious dts jst me. two of my male friends went their way bc i refuse to go sexual wt dem.
anoda thing my fellow girls fails to understand is dt males hv nothing to loose no matter hw hard dey try to deceive demslfs

a friend of mine couldnt believe dt am her senior wt 2 yrs gap..she ws 21 den. i hv to show her my birth cert as an evidence evrybody tot i was an 18yrs old girl dt reason like a 45 yrs old lady dt dnt know wht life is all about. i told her dt sme lifestyles makes one to look way much older than her age

It would have been better or wiser if the OP just warned against premarital sex. But saying using condoms denotes that the man sees a lady as a slut is ridiculous. Lovers use condoms at times solely as preventions for unwanted pregnancy.

And if you are a virgin and still will be a virgin till you marry good for you. But you will agree that most people dating will sleep with each other before they finally marry. so when writing stuffs , face the real reality.

misspicy:


kikikiki @ bolded i am sorry abeg

my dear i am weak i swear.....to think that I thought i have seen and heard it all from trolls, eediots,confused males,chauvinistic fools etc on nairaland and the Toks2008 had to come up with this and funny thing is the old fool tagging anybody against his useless idea Lovepeddler and slut

who dates an hegoat like that

OP reasoning is so funny. so once you see a lady that you truly trust and love enough to marry, You can just be having unprotected sex because you don't see her as a slot . Even when the two of you are not ready to start raising children.

Condoms are not only meant for preventing STDs , but also to prevent impregnating your wife, girlfriend, aristo , runs girls , in fact anyone since you do not want a baby that time.

ednut1:
In the same dept some pple wud finish with first class, make una go read una book abeg. He will mark you down if u dont write your name well- see ya life. Dem dey write name for uni exam ni or matric number

When about 70% of a class fails and about about 90% of those that passed had E.
such a lecturer is definitely not doing a good job.

drwebs:


How dare you call My Man of God a fraud?
Don't involve in cheap disussions. Somethings are too high for you to talk about because you lack the knowledge or understanding of them, especially of spiritual things.

I'll continue by asking questions
1. Who do you give your tithes, offerings and first fruits to?
If your a christian and you understand the truth, your answer will be God almighty.
so why go disturb the man of God and not God? or is it because he's representing God here?
Don't let God fight you for touching His anointed.

2. Are the monies given to pastor Chris?
I bet you will say yes. But just to let you know, he doesn't even receive it, there are people who handles various departments where the monies are directed to. such monies meant for projects like taking care of the indigent hidden are dire ted there.
Those for sponsorship of Rhapsody Of Realities is dire ted there, etc.

3. Are the monies these people give already taxed?
Why would you ask for a tax from money's you've taxed before?

4. Are the money's used to build houses for Pastor Chris? How many personal jets does pastor Chris have? How many personal houses does he have?
Is the money helping and changing the lives of those that are less privileged? Sick? Lost? Broken hearted? Confused?

These guys are just threatened by the prosperity of the saints in Christ.
They haven't seen anything yet. We will continue to reign and dominate this earth till the return of Christ.
Gone re the days they use to refer to us (christians) as poor church rats.

We've come to know who we are.

They shouldn't think they can make money from the church by bringing up such threats.

Funny defence. The money is giving to God and not man. Then let the man that receives the money on behalf of God render account of the money on behalf of God too.

See if these monies are used appropriately, there ll not be any issue in showing the entire public how God's money is been spent.

I really enjoy this story so much. You are a good creative story teller.

fexyrich:
Well you have a point from the context your coming from..But not during working hours tho!! Whe they are both supposed to be on duty..

What time is the working hours of a live-in house help and a gateman that stays in a detached house in his boss compound?

Would d master see it differently if the gateman brought in another lady entirely.