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kentycom:
I’ve read through all the comments, and honestly, no one is wrong here. Everyone is just speaking from their own perspective, and that’s completely fair. For me, I see marriage as a social setup that brings fulfillment by basically taming the "alpha" man making him more modest, honest, and respectful in how he treats others, especially women. It’s more about fitting into societal standards than following raw human nature. That’s probably why some top-tier companies actually reserve certain leadership positions for married people; it’s seen as proof that you're well-behaved and responsible. Like it or not, marriage forces you to grow up and face real responsibility. And honestly? Whether a home stays together or breaks ultimately depends on the man, not the woman. But like I said, everyone’s take here is totally valid

To answer the question what do men enjoy in marriage. They enjoy to be tamed to be more modest, honest and responsible chikena. That is why some men, cannot totally be tamed, some are still cheating, some are not honest enough and it is affecting the children, while some are not responsible leading to broken homes. If you know that you dont want to be tamed, remain single and enjoy your untamed nature and nothing spoil.

I’ve read through all the comments, and honestly, no one is wrong here. Everyone is just speaking from their own perspective, and that’s completely fair. For me, I see marriage as a social setup that brings fulfillment by basically taming the "alpha" man making him more modest, honest, and respectful in how he treats others, especially women. It’s more about fitting into societal standards than following raw human nature. That’s probably why some top-tier companies actually reserve certain leadership positions for married people; it’s seen as proof that you're well-behaved and responsible. Like it or not, marriage forces you to grow up and face real responsibility. And honestly? Whether a home stays together or breaks ultimately depends on the man, not the woman. But like I said, everyone’s take here is totally valid

Image123:
Are you ever reasonable or logical? You know more than Elon Musk i guess.

Elon Musk: “As a technologist who likes technology, we should not have computers do voting tabulation, It’s far too easy to hack a computer.” pic.twitter.com/QyEwa9eVX8

— Mars University (@MarsUniversityX) February 4, 2026

https://x.com/i/status/1810581873703194727

Lies..

Why don't you hack Bank of America Software? See with Cryptograph, blockchain and Web 3 who is that person that can hack it, why is that people can't hack crypto currencies, please you guys should go and sit down.

If it was that easy everyone will be hacking banks, hacking telecommunication companies, hack Google, hack Facebook, hack everyone. But is that even possible, if at all this is not AI, but Elon Musk listen to me, I can develop a software with blockchain and crytopgraph, no matter how good you are, you can't hack it.

What you should be telling me is that voting is not meant for tech savvy people only, the rural areas must be considered. The question should be what can we do to ensure that these people are not left behind that is what we should be talking about, not this bullshit of paper. Haba.

Some people asked if internet is required during exams it’s not. Exams run fully offline; internet is only needed later for syncing results.

Good day everyone,

I decided to share this here because I know how stressful CBT exams can be for schools — especially when internet, power, or server issues start affecting exams.

We recently came across a desktop-based offline CBT system called TMOM Desktop (Tutelage Manager Offline Mode), and it genuinely solved problems we had been managing for years.

Common CBT Problems in Schools
Internet going off during exams
Exam pages failing to load
Answers not submitting
Server overload when many students log in
Panic during exams 😅
Most schools rely fully on online CBT, which can be very risky.

What TMOM Desktop Does Differently
TMOM Desktop is a Windows desktop application installed on one system (usually the admin computer).
Exams run completely offline (LAN-based)
Students connect through the school network (no internet needed)
No browser tab switching or online cheating
Exams don’t crash because of internet issues
Student answers are saved locally and securely
After exams, results can then be synced online later when internet is available.

Key Features
✔ Offline-first CBT exams
✔ Secure local server inside the desktop app
✔ PIN-protected access
✔ Handles many students at once
✔ Syncs back to Tutelage Manager cloud
✔ Suitable for WAEC/NECO-style environments

This isn’t theory: it’s already being used in real exam situations.

Who This Is For
Secondary schools
CBT centres
School owners tired of exam interruptions
ICT admins who want stability and control
If your school has ever postponed an exam because of internet issues, you’ll understand the value immediately.

Where to Learn More
You can read more about it here:
👉 https://tutelagemanager.com/pages/tmom

(Access is mainly for school administrators.)
I’m not posting this as an advert, just sharing something that actually worked and can save schools a lot of stress.
If you’re a school owner, ICT admin, or CBT coordinator, feel free to ask questions. I’ll reply based on what I’ve seen so far.

Thanks.

SmartPolician:
This is good news for Nigeria and UNILAG in particular. Congratulations to UNILAG!

I was shocked to find out that OpenAI that was founded in 2015 (just 10 years ago), launched ChatGPT in 2022 and became a company worth $500 billion. The entire GDP of Nigeria is less than $200 billion.

Until we learn to start investing in research and building homegrown solutions, this country will continuously remain poor even if we have all the oil and gas money because our population is increasing at an alarming rate! Nigeria needs creative leaders; and there are too many dumb people in this country!

To be honest with you, the kind of investment they did, is not moi moi, billion of dollars was sunk into this, they didn't even know it will yield this profit. The difference between Americans and Africans is the willingness to take risk. Nigerians in particular those with money don't even want to take the risk to invest in those that have visions in Nigeria. My case is this. I did a business proposal of 5 million and presented to someone that I know, that 5 million is nothing to them. But they wife stop him from investing the money in the business I proposed. Imagine that money was invested. It could have been profound. Africans are not willing to invest in startups, that is why startups are struggling here. How can we grow? . The most painful part is when the business struggle to become successful, everyone now want to identify with you including those that rejected you. This is the main reason why Americans will continue to lead. Unless we change the narratives.

Jennyclay:
I have never for one day had such an ill mindset.

Me, suffer with a man? God forbid .

If you don’t have money to take care of me don’t even dare come close to me.

It is your opinion, but love, honesty, happiness does not really tie to money. Money is good, but have seen those that started with nothing, today they are super rich and happy.

Pray to meet the right person, that you will start life together, because that is the only person that will respect you. You see that man you want to meet because of his money, he knows why you stayed is because of his money, you might rarely find happiness in such relationship. You only be leaving a fake happy life by posting pictures of hubby on social media in various places, but in the real world, you are dying inside, and no one can help you. The choice is yours.

Nwaikpe:
Ajibola - Scammer
Okechukwu - Drugo pusher
Abdullahi - Terrifyer

What a complete country this is.

Is it not better we change the narrative, let's try another three regions in Nigeria to represent us, Yoruba, Igbo, Hausa/Fulani has failed us.

[quote author=Bobodee09 post=135225478][/quote]No matter how you choose to frame it, I must say that, by all indications, you are wrong. The government has not done enough to eliminate this kind of behavior among its citizens.

Salaries are meager, and many people are forced to find other means just to settle their debts. School fees keep increasing, yet these schools lack basic facilities and cannot provide quality education. Most families live in deep poverty, except for politicians who continue to exploit the nation’s resources.

Nigeria has enough money to install surveillance cameras on every street and in every office, but they refuse to do it. And even if they attempt it, some corrupt official will embezzle the funds.

Graduates are leaving school every day, yet there are no jobs.

From all indications, sir, the government is responsible for the state of the nation. If the government provided an enabling environment, no one would resort to scamming others. If salaries were fair and sufficient, there would be less motivation to steal. If corrupt officials were immediately punished for embezzling public funds, others would be deterred. And if our leaders weren’t colluding with foreign powers for their own gain, public funds could be used to improve the country’s welfare instead.

In a country where the government provides a fair and functional system, only then can we truly hold individuals fully accountable for misconduct. Until then, we must recognize that the root of these issues lies with the government.

That said, I do not condone any form of wrongdoing by individuals. However, the larger problem is clearly a result of government failure.

Thank you.

TheWebbers:
Paystack, Flutterwave, Kuda and plenty other Fintech and plenty other tech companies like Nairaland etc are owned by Yorubas. You can google it, I'm not capping. Please Google it.

When it comes to Tech and Entertainment, including film, music etc, Yorubas are leading with wide margins. And these industries are the real goldmine of the 21st century. This is the industry where most western billionaires make their money. And this industry belongs to the very smart and high IQ in the society.

Most Web technicians, software developers, film editors, directors, producers, song writers are Yorubas.

You see all the tech guys in CBN and Most Banks are Yorubas. The guys that developed the NIN portals, Jamb and WAEC portals, BVN etc are Yorubas. 98% of Nigerians working in Google, Facebook, Yahoo etc are Yorubas. I know because I'm one of them and this is my occupation.

Yorubas just dont make noise ni.

You are right. Yorubas are doing well, they should show us the way...o..o

The government should be focusing on creating an environment that ensures students can repay their loans after completing their studies. Without such measures, those funds may never be recovered. Currently, many students are benefiting from these loans, but after they complete their studies and NYSC, they'll join the rest of us in Nigeria's labour market. We'll welcome them as new labour force wanderers in the Nigerian labour system.

Tradepunter2:
Arrest the bastard..... All these fkers raising Russian flag should be shot..... NONSENSE

Wait a minute, is that not the same flag close to where Tinubu gave his speech, look closely, you will see Nigerian Flag by the left and that flag by the right. I am getting confused right here.

Do what your mind is telling you, and what your spirit is instructing, anything against that you are on your own.

Am even surprise equally

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soutechventures:
Let me enlighten you about Ajax.
It is an acronym for Asynchronous JavaScript & XML. It is an amalgamation of several languages and technologies. The unique language combination of Ajax technology is capable of creating user-friendly and interactive web applications. Ajax can be leveraged to create web 2.0 solutions as it is quick and simple to utilize as well as reduces the page load time. No website in the world is unaffected by the emergence of social media. Websites need quick web 2.0 solutions to be embedded with. Ajax is the perfect answer to that, for it is quick to implement and deploy.

there are only a few Ajax developers and programmers who are well qualified in the development domain and Ajax technologies. Many who can today develop an Ajax-based solution that gives a facelift to an existing website application where once likely the ones who were scared to try...

Beautiful

ihatebuhari:
Useless country.

Thank you so much my Edo mom for taking me and my siblings out of that hell called Nigeria

What is useless about the country..

Or are you referring to the people living in the country? Or are you referring to the government in the country.
Country refers to the people living in a particular place. If you say everyone is useless, you are also included. My dear it is the government..o not the people....

Dalby:
For me l think you should first do a paternity test for the child. The results will indicate the decisions to take next.

You already suspect your wife on many fronts, that needs to be confirmed. There is no smoke without fire.

The advise above by the psychologist, l do not agree it is the way to go. In a marriage a man deserves as much love that the woman wants showered on her. All this talk of women are moved more by words than what you do, l do not agree. Frankly if she is seeing someone else and then you go on your knees, you would have shot yourself in the foot, as it will be counter productive. That would show incapacity and weakness in comparison to your competition.

From your narrative you are a struggling young man, and l do not know how you compare with her ex on the financial scale that could also be a determinant in this equation...you mentioned burning of food which you did not pay for, that goes further to support my assertion...

It would have been nice to have more in-depth to be able to properly advise...

If he really suspect his wife, let him go ahead to do the paternity. But two things are involved here.

If the wife is aware of this, and at the end, it turn out that the child was actually his, the wife may no longer love him again, no matter how hard he tries.

I think the first step is to lure the woman to himself, and rekindled his bonds with her, before planning to do DNA test or whatsoever, but wait, doing this might make her to lose her trust for him, they might be no trust in the marriage again.

Listen, women are meant to submit not to love, but men are meant to love, if you expect a woman to exhibit love that way, you are waisting your time.

Think about this, and thread on it carefully, but if you still love her, do what I told you, but if you think you can't continue with her, don't make her feel miserable, let her go and move on with your life. The choice is yours to make.

Am a psychologist, I took time to read your post concerning your wife and all the activities involved before the wedding and after the wedding.

My brother your wife loves you, but at some points you are not doing the right thing by frowning or getting annoyed at some of her wrong actions.

Getting annoyed or frowning at a particular situation is good, but please during this, you don't beat her, or say some things that will cause havoc in your marriage, you are only reminding her that you are the head of the family. Please note, you only do this when you are sure she is wrong, please if you are not sure, don't try it all.

If you recalled, before now she was still communicating with her ex, whether you believe it or not, the flames of that love is still with her. Not wishing her a happy birthday on the dot 12 was to prove a point to her that, you no longer care for her. You never can tell what the ex discussing with her. But mind you, she is your wife. Women tends to respond to words more than what the see.

What am about to tell you, if you can't do it, you wouldn't be able to save your marriage.
On a cool evening, take note that she free and alone, kneel down and hold her hand, begin to tell her that, she is always in your mind, my brother you know the sweet words to say. Note this: if she tells you to stand and she hugs you, brother your workings will not be tedious, else my brother you have a big work to do.

But if there is green light, you just don't stop there, begin to give her more attention, even if you are in office call her like two times before you come back home. When you come whether she cook or not, ignore it, find your food and go play with her, don't give her space at all. My brother she will start thinking about you by force.

Talk to her still she forget about that her ex, my brother you don't talk to her about her ex, this is very important!! she will be the one to remind her ex that she is married.

At the end you are the winner.. Try this and thank me later..

I want to come from Igbo.

OlajumokeBread:

Who paid for the wedding ??

Who will feed and provide the need of the woman after the wedding ??

Who will impregnate the woman ??

Who will raise the kids ??

Women are somehow useless except for giving birth

Women are not somehow useless, am not woman, so correct yourself young man.

Indomixx:
Hmmmm. Well i have known this girl liked me all along sha but i just decided not to say anything because i don't like her,not that she is not cute oo but i don't just feel for her. So just recently she has been saying stuffs about wanting to be my g.f.

I don't just understand her that even in my obvious show of lack of interest she still disturbs me. I don't want to enter out of pity and start hurting her feelings,because i really don't care for her.

Also,I don't want to reject her and also hurt her feelings. She is really a nice girl. It's funny a world that those who you like don't like you and the ones that you don't even care about are the ones who like you. Guys what do you think i should do,ladies pls have u been in such a situation before?

How did u cope. Thanks...


PS- Shoutout to those ladies who can let a guy know how they feel

U must be a handsome/beautiful dude, well take her out on a very good day, and tell her that u sincerely love her the same way , but she should give u time to rearrange ur life, that u dont want anything that will make you lose the internal chemical bonding between u. Hope it will help a little bit.

Sometimes, u allow nature to take over, do not risk your money for anything, unless u just want to give to be bless by God later. The said amount depends on your financial situation, my brother, if she is yours, you dont fight for her to be, things happen naturally, u dont force things to happen. There maybe a concrete reason, why she dont want to see u, but try to find the reason.

Be yourself, because God forbid, something bad happen to u, she can definitely move on without u. Be wise my brother, and dont allow anyone to control u...

FreshShavedBalls:
I went round today to find out how things are going before i officially start registration. What i found out is that
1. You have to go to a CBT centre to create Jamb profile, even if you used the Jamb registration app as was advertised to create your profile, the banks will not collect it.
2. You then go to the bank and enter another line to pay for your pin. In the whole of this state only Union bank and Jaiz bank are selling it. You can just imagine the line there. You have to stay under the sun even as they complain that they have network problem or the pin vending process is faulty.
3. You then go back to the CBT centre where you will enter a third line to do the registration proper.

Kudos to the Jamb registrar and his advisers who have succeded in making a strenous process even more strenous. I hope your children are registering along with us.

They will send their children to study in abroad, we the nigerian, they keep on punishing us, as if they are not from nigeria. This thing just they vex me, i feel like slapping someone to receive sense, so that we will not suffer like this, we havent enter hell na, haba...

Sandydayziz:
Buh wah if she was telling d truth?

That kind truth.. they are fond of doing this nonsense.

Besides, my bros ken... forget these girls, make money, build a solid foundation for urself, they will be running after u.
dat time treat them they way they are..

but still try to identify the good one.

My brother, u can stop it, if you want to stop

First of all, see this cigarette as something that will kill you instantly.
Ask yourself, why am i smoking this nonsense??

Tell yourself, i love myself
Disassociatiate yourself with those friends of yours that smoke this nonsense.
MIND U: SEE THEM AS YOUR GREATEST ENEMIES.
If they are talking to u, pretend as if you are hearing them, meanwhile you are not listening.

If you dont have anything you engage yourself with,
Find any living church and attend their weekly activities.
If you are less busy, charge your phone, chat with friends on facebook, twitter, instagram, nairaland etc.
If you dont have mb, play games until you are tired. Find a place and sleep.

Go to the market, buy some good inspirational books and read, mind u, this is a good medicine to make you sleep. watch tv, do alot of activities that will distract your mind.

Determine in such a way that you put a curse on yourself, if i take this cigarette again, walahi. It shall never be well with me.

Congratulations. Smoking becomes an history in your life. Cheers.

holysainbj:
So who's his Pastor ??
A former addict??
Like the Pastor has the answer to why he smokes....

he needs a counsellor mbok....

I dont know as if pastor no be human being. Pastor na God!!! Abeg

STFUareyouGod:
So people still carry woman matter for head inside this recession? I'm impressed

Who woman issue help sef.. Instead of him thinking on how to improvise and get out from this country, and make cool money.

He was very busy with woman wahala. Hmmm nawao..

Helo Mr guy with no real name,

I greet u, honestly speaking i took my time to read ur writings about the experienced u had before changing to atheist. Frankly, I respect ur decision, i have seen how u pray fervently, with the fasting and all of that.. Very nice.
But let me tell u something, you said there is no witchcraft, no powers here on earth, hmmm, this is a very pronounce lies. Seriously i am not arguing with you, but how do you think this ritualist make their money. How do you think this boys that stood face to face with police to exchange bullet didnt die, but where forming odeshy. How do you think this fake pastors will tell u the exact problem u had, but no solution.

My brother, from ur experiences, u were almost there. But anxiety and and your curiosity made u to conclude that God does not exist. Hmmm very interesting..

My brother, God the father dispensations has passed, God the Son dispensation has passed, we are still operating the dispensation of the Holy Spirit. So everything we do now is by faith. Listen am not quoting any scripture for you. Also i know you know this.

Now listen attentively, I dont practice religion, i dont believe in what pastors says until i confirm them myself. See i dont fast, i dont even have that time, fast for what. See i help myself, i pay my tithe the way i feel like paying. See no body force me to do anything outside my my own will.

Listen about miracles, let me tell you that you wanted to operate outside your gift. Ur gift was specify, Word of knowledge specifically, i bet u, u have seen how God used you, concerning your gift.

Listen, the gift of working miracles and healing is very rare now, because of the pride and self exaltation involved, and how the person will feel, let me tell you, no matter how spirited you are, if you are not humble to the extent of seeing yourself as nothing, God can not give you the gift.

Now take note, there is man that personally took it upon himself to make findings about this so called God, Jesus to proved, if it was true, and he discovered that it is a valid fact. make your findings, am not here to mention names.

My brother, am not here to convince.you that there is God, but i want you to know that, change only occur, if something has to cause a change. Ha.. You may not understand what i meant. Dont worry, do your own findings.

Listen, I am not using scriptures in this context. But i want you to understand something, miracles is the main reason why you left the chistian fold, good for you. But to me, that is not a reason, to me the reason is that you wanted God to use you to perform miracles when this was not your gift. How logical.

My oga, u dont have the gift simple. Look for people that have this gift, and the two of you work together, well it not even easy to find such people, because some people have this gift, but they dont know, and those that dont have, claims to have. Hmmm very interesting.

My brother, i respect your decision as an atheist, but from the look of things you were desperate. God dont work like that. Look at the story of Abraham, u will understand what i mean.

Alright, i will only advise u here, if u want to be an atheist, fine and good, but that does not give you room to say Bleep God. Blah blah blah, if truly as you said He does not exist, why saying the Bleep to something that does not exist. Good

Another, correction, why are u hiding your identity as an atheist, mehn. You should be proud of yourself.. If you r hiding, that means hypocrisy. Come out and be proud of it. Haba

My brother, am not a pastor, am nothing at all, but i understand there is a supreme being there, i always tell people, that man is not interested in this world anymore, see people keep on punishing themselves all in the name of Christianity to enrich the Pastor. I pity their conditions.

Why people behave the way the behave is because of ignorant.
Salvation is personal.

Like i said, THERE IS GOD, whether you believe or you dont believe, whether you cannot heal or you can heal, whether you are an atheist or pagan, whether you are a muslim or Hindu.
Whether you a poor man or a rich man, whether you are a mad man or a sane man, whether you a man with a womb or man without womb, whether your sister died while you were praying, whether there is medicine for the disease or not, whether in the next few years robot will take over humans, guy. Whether our forefathers did not receive the gospel or not. I SAY IT AGAIN. THERE IS GOD.

Note. I didnt use any bible quotations with you, but i believe you should be able to understand some certain fact. In this life, whatever you believes works for you.

Have a wonder day.

ademega:
its oky.
made in Nigeria products hmmmm.
we still get a long way to go
we need people to produce
Condom
I believe, we shall get their.

Of all things na condom