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This will never make FP! the terrorist on NL will not let people be informed!

The Chinese are coming!

Good job!

Useless mod wey ban me!!!

Interesting development.... any updates.. I saw on CNN that they have made demands..

iseleiyanu:
I need your advice, I have been going out with a girl for over 3yrs, d 2families knew each other well. my Mom do visit a parents. But she is pregnant now bt obviously not for me because she have been seeing her ex boyfriend regular because they stay in d same town.
within me I'm no more interested and I don't know how to tell her mom because she had been so nice to me both in kind and generosity. Right now I'm so confused, she has always be cheating on me, in which she will confess . But now I'm so fed up.
pls I need ur advice how do I take d mater up

My friend I was in similar case as yours!
only, I did not know she was cheating, until she was pregnant. I mostly did not have unprotected sex with her but sometime I partially did!
I really liked the girl and we were both avoiding being pregnant (atleast I thought). One day she called me and said she was pregnant and started crying, i was like why are you crying (I was pissed, but could not stand hear her cry), trying to comfort her. She said there was "another guy" and she does not know which of us was responsible. I dropped the call in anger and did not call for two days, meanwhile, I was having sleepless nights. Since we stay in different cities we hardly but calls were regular, I called her over to discuss her plan. I asked how she was doing and who she thinks is responsible, she said me. I asked if she's informed her new guy about the situation, she said yes. That the guy is confused and angry too.

Then I asked what she felt about us, does she want to be with me or the other guy. She said she liked me and did not know why she was with the other guy, I said OK. Then I told her that we can no longer plan a future together not because I can't forgive but because I can't be trying to stop you from cheating. I can not be worrying over where you are or who you are with or what's happening, life too good than for me to be worrying over such stuff. Things will be easier if there is trust. I convinced her to agree on that but we could be friends for the sake of the pregnancy and that she remains my girl friend till the pregnancy is due (To protect the little interest I may have). Then I went to do STD tests.. and I encourage her to do as well.

Well, this post is prejudiced.

There are many reasons one will decide to return to his people to pick a partner.
First, i think most of these guys want a long term relationship (as pointed earlier) the rate of divorce is minimal among fellow Nigerian couples because we believe in family. Of course, you do not have to return to Nigeria to get a Nigerian partner, but that depends on where (what country/ area) you are based. For me, I would have preferred marrying 'oyinbo' and damn the consequences but then I think that will be selfish especially to the children when the issues of marriage arises. Not as if there are no good ones to marry oh, but issue of cultural differences, on issues such as how to raise the kids, vacation in Nigeria (considering the security issues that the country is facing), religion; as most western world are secular, and lots of other issues that will make one want to return home and save some future headaches.

Secondly, you want someone who shares your values and concerns. Someone to share your victories with without fear (atleast you no suppose fear Naija peeps ).

Thirdly, I think going to Nigeria to marry is away of enlightening and creating opportunity for fellow Nigerian (trust me, every family is on their own in Naija). There are certain things people who live in Nigeria cannot imagine, like good roads that is free of accidents, constant power supply, good healthcare systems, better governance; where people can hold their government to account and have them take responsibility. Because people do not know what government is, is why one will say a grossly incompetent government is the best because the government of the day is from your tribe, share the same religion as you. You see a govt official resigning, even getting jailed because of unaccounted $100, then you wonder what happen to all the billions missing in naija.

You see, at that age I was not thinking of marriage and I was a virgin past that age till I got married in my early 30s.

No 11 is one reason I'm still single... the idea of everybody gathering around me.

Na lie jor!

I need to increase my saving

I pay myself 60% of my income while I try saving/ine

I Classify my expenses thus:


Fixed Expenses:------------------Living expenses--------Car Expenses-------Other Expenses
Rent-----------------------------Feeding----------------Fuelling-----------Gift to families
Phone/Internet-------------------Clothing---------------Insurance----------younger bro (Edu)
Utility (quarterly)--------------Check up(occatnally)---Repairs------------yearly bills
Insurance------------------------xxxxxxxx---------------xxxxxxxx-----------Contingencies (repairs, unplanned expences)
Church/benevolence---------------xxxxxxxx---------------xxxxxxxx-----------xxxxxxxxx

So I pay all the monthly expenses out of the 60% and try to save from it too.
I dont save on feeding but I don't buy clothes every time. My car expenses are quite moderate except when I have to repair something. the only recurrent part of the other expenses is younger brother monthly and parent get quarterly of course they also have contingencies but I delay them till it is convenient. If at anytime these expenses are more than the 60% I push some of it to Credit account since I have a 3 month interest free period, i can pay at convenience.

DeCleff: U said it all.

Op
pls reject that money and wish them well.

Someday u will realize u did well 4 rejecting d money.

You are not sure of that. This is nollywood mentality.

They initiated the compensation scheme not the poster. the poster is already contemplating on cashing in; so why back out now in the name of karma. Karma already hit the poster by his poster dumping him.

Guy, you've lost the girl anyway.

Since they offered you the money, take it if you need/want it. All this nollywood mentality of karma should be thrown out, was it karma that made her dump the poster? she could have dumped you with no choice and you will still survive it. Love is a two-way road, surely yours is on a single lane. she doesn't love you anymore. So MOVE ON!

Since you have meddled with the money option, kindly pursue till the end. Ask the new mugu to deposit the money into my "charity organisation" and I will cash it out for you, no commission required. That way you might walk out with some dignity.

The man used his money to pay for the house both of you will live in and you came out here to expose his yansh because he asked you contribute to YOUR wedding. What kind of marafakas parade themselves as wives this days!! I am sure the lady still wants a society wedding oh, instead of reducing the expenses..

I wonder what your plans are as helpmeet to the man when he successfully marry you. shior

FYI: if don't like his attitude you should call off the wedding and save the dude impending catastrophe.

did you say she sells AKARA or ANKARA?

if its the former I recommend she just moves in with the guy and move on with life (key holder will do as ring) if she sells the later She should still move in and move ON (buy ring from the next shop)!

Who will grant their combo loan?

Beaf, were u self-servicing yourself!

how about cutting the frills on gov't expenditures!

I can fill your (Ladies only) tank if you want! approach the nuzzle with your rear and you shall be filled!

Nna Mehn,
9ice building though!

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Hi Am alone, you've done a good job. congrats.

I just have a few questions, I just like to know the plot size, procedures (survey, plan, foundation, building etc) and cost estimate, if you dont mind. my addy is adigunbabatunde@yahoo.com. any helpful info will do. I intend to embark on similar project in about 3 months.

B!*tch!

Funny, Good luck to goodluck!

why is he threatening, he should have gone ahead to arrest him. but Buahari has to speak to his supporters.

"never" is the best time!!!

so what we do in oyo ooh. this is too much.

the truth is when good people keep quiet evil will reign. thats whats happeninng in oyo

is this suppose to be a medical version of the Unilorin rule?

I could bet,if Obj was in Abdulsalami's shoes we would not be talking of democracy today. we would probabaly be fight war or something close,

Is it proper for a lady in a serious relationship go clubbing wtout the Guy?

i have a friend (lady) who claims to be in a serious relationship but goes clubbing (just to relax) because I am not there. One my side I dont club irrespective of any boredom or stress. I have problem wt this.

I know it cpolud be to relax but u know, there's no way some wont ask her for a dance or the likes. or am I being ,

It possible, this insanity (Neglect of moral santity) has not reached everyone. I am a VIRGIN guy.its not lack of opportunity or slackness, its just something I cant afford to throw away.I schooled in europe and now in Canada (in thses places sex is easy to get) d ladies are not demanding, I mean on campus, infact while in bremen white chick fall 4 black anyhow.so its a choice and I dont expect anything less from any lady I'll marry.PERIOD.