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A dime should not be paid in the name of brideprice
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Neymessi:
no peace for a husband snatcher

Hmm...so husbands are now objects that can be snatched..

TheKingIsHere:
He didn't love her yet he pleaded with her not to file for divorce? He never loved her yet he didnt cheat on her after marriage even when he had the opportunity to do so? he even met her after the divorce and explained to her that he never cheated on her after they were married.... After the divorce, out of love he gave her beyond what he normally should have done...remember the judge stated that he wasn't even obliged to do so.
So what else do you want him to do?

He did all that out of obligation not love.

He begged her not to divorce him. Before nkor?
Free food and shelter remember. Oh and good sex I forgot. Why not?

geezyk:
Robert was a man with a dream, even before he met her, he told her of his plans from the get go, and she stayed with him all through it, the only blame I'll accord to Robert was that he refused to support his wife with menial jobs to help maintain the house.

He never cheated on her again after what she did the first time he was caught while nearly killing herself in the act, Robert truly loved her till the end and still never stopped loving her, even when he was about to sign the divorce papers, he still begged her for him not to sign it, She was led astray by her sisters whom she knew their husbands were flawed too.

Sometimes, some people need to leave your life for you to truly actualize your dreams, when Robert met Diana, he never had the intention of sleeping with her, all he wanted was for her to help him actualize his dreams, and moreso Diana was an helping hand while he was homeless and also helped him bringing his dreams to fruition.

Each has their own blames.

That doesn't change the fact that he used her. Did you see the look on his face when she signed the papers to mortgage her mum's house? How selfish. He could have worked to assist her y'know(He did when she kicked his lazy ass out) but he didn't. If that's not using someone,tell me what it is.
I still maintain that if he loved her,he wouldn't have gotten married to Diana.
I blame her though. She should have listened to her sisters from the beginning. The things love makes one do.
I do not agree with you but then it's just a movie with some really unrealistic parts. Like someone enduring all that BS for 18 years.
Lol ...I don't want to think of the possibility of anyone being so stupid for so long in real life.


And no one should give me that crap about the compensation. That was an insult.

luminouz:
Lmaooooo
N this is why men will keep dumping ur asses...u don't understand us at all!!!!
So what did u call the 10M n house he got her after the divorce she INITIATED, a divorce not cuz he was broke but cus he supposedly cheated? N even after everything he still told her he loved her (the boat fight scene) ...
Robert was lazy but I never doubted his love for Me....what he gave Diana was nothing..... nothing but love would have made me go back to give an ex who divorced me(based on her own tantrums) my 10M n her lost house!!!

U don't understand a man..most women on that thread were too emotional!!! Be logical biko!!!

Ok.

Based on the movie, I have come to the conclusion that Robert did not love her. He was fond of her. He loved what she offered but he did not love her.He clearly loved Diana and not her.
How do I know this?
For eighteen years you watched this woman toil to take care of you. Ignored her sister's warnings to take care of you.
Even when he got that call and he felt like he wasted his time and scattered his work place, she was still there. She didn't rave or rant. She was there to keep him sane. Do you now see that the money he gave her later was crap because for her, it was not about the money?She had his back all through.
In the beginning he cheated on her. He would have gone ahead to cheat on her again if he wasn't so broke.
He didn't have to worry about what to eat or where to lay his head while he was working on his dream. She worried about everything. And no, she didn't give up on him. She left him because she felt betrayed and used.
If he truly loved her,he would have taken her back. Obviously he got what he wanted. Then he went ahead to get married to that same Diana..Chai. Shows that all the while he loved Diana but was with the girl because of the support she offered. The fact that he later offered her 10 million dollars proves that it was all about what she offered to him and not her.
If he truly loved her, he would have remarried her and given the monetary compensation to Diana(she helped a little).
Summary, She loved him.
He did not love her. He only needed her.
She was played big time. I blame her for being to selfless. I blame her for not leaving when he first cheated on her. She was deeply in love and he took advantage of her.
He meant everything to her.
She was only a means to an end for him.
Did you notice how quickly he moved on to Diana?
More like a "Thank God she divorced me so i can live my dream with the woman of my dreams(Diana)" attitude. Forgetting who helped him build that dream.
So sad.
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TheKingIsHere:
I disagree. The guy was greedy at first but learnt his lesson and kept on with his dream. He was faithful to her since after he cheated during his teenage period. He also promised to repay the lady once he gets the deal and he did even more than expected, so he wasn't greedy.

The lady waited but was already feeling hopeless as the guys dream took several years .

If anyone is to be blamed, I will blame her.

Why? She waited for over a decade with her husband and endured it all, there was no reason to leave again after that heavy investment of time and money.

Why is everyone looking at this from the money aspect? If it were only about the money she wouldn't have stayed that long. She also wouldn't have left when she did.

TheKingIsHere:
Exactly.

The reason why she didn't want to let go even when the guy gave her so much money was because she knew she was at fault.

She knew she threw everything away over a silly assumption that he cheated.

There was nothing when she left. Nothing at all.
Robert didn't love her. He only needed her.

Based on the movie, I have come to the conclusion that Robert did not love her. He was fond of her. He loved what she offered but he did not love her.He clearly loved Diana and not her.
How do I know this?
For eighteen years you watched this woman toil to take care of you. Ignored her sister's warnings to take care of you.
Even when he got that call and he felt like he wasted his time and scattered his work place, she was still there. She didn't rave or rant. She was there to keep him sane. Do you now see that the money he gave her later was crap because for her, it was not about the money?She had his back all through.

In the beginning he cheated on her. He would have gone ahead to cheat on her again if he wasn't so broke.
He didn't have to worry about what to eat or where to lay his head while he was working on his dream. She worried about everything. And no, she didn't give up on him. She left him because she felt betrayed and used.

If he truly loved her,he would have taken her back. Obviously he got what he wanted. Then he went ahead to get married to that same Diana..Chai. Shows that all the while he loved Diana but was with the girl because of the support she offered. The fact that he later offered her 10 million dollars proves that it was all about what she offered to him and not her.

If he truly loved her, he would have remarried her and given the monetary compensation to Diana(she helped a little).

Summary, She loved him.
He did not love her. He only needed her.

She was played big time. I blame her for being to selfless. I blame her for not leaving when he first cheated on her. She was deeply in love and he took advantage of her.
He meant everything to her.
She was only a means to an end for him.

Did you notice how quickly he moved on to Diana?
More like a "Thank God she divorced me so i can live my dream with the woman of my dreams(Diana)" attitude. Forgetting who helped him build that dream.

So sad.

It's just an excuse to make it look like It's your fault he's no longer interested.
Notice that the problem started right after u met his family and vice versa.
It often happens in match making cases. They finally meet the person they've been told so much about, and the reports just don't seem to match with the individual.

Seconded

cococandy:
How come the bro code promotes bad stuff?

Immaturity code.

. Nland guys no go kee person.

The fact that you asked this question shows the kind of person you are. You have no idea how much I respect you right now.

If your girl is cool with it,please go ahead.

Ultimus:
If you ask her, all she has to exchange for all these qualities is a puss.y some other guys have used before.

Wow! Aren't you a special kind of dumb?

vizkiz:
Most women in the US only do this to get money from men.

They get benefits from the government for having kids as a single parent.

Since you are bent on slut-shaming, I'll leave you to wallow in your ignorance. It's obvious you have no idea the part she played in wizkid's career(internationally).

vizkiz:
She gets paid monthly for child support.

Why not?Both parents are responsible for their child's upkeep.

BluntBoy:
How do I comfortably say something like what? It is human nature and no matter how you try, men will always hold the real power.

You used your example rather sparingly. The issue is not about "greatness" but "equality". Anyone can achieve greatness by dints of hardwork but achieving equality is not as straightforward. Greatness can be achieved irrespective of gender. Women such as Amina of Zauzza achieved greatness but it didn't change the patriarchal order in their respective empires.

Cleopatra VII Philopator achieved greatness but the world she lived in was highly patriarchal. Her army generals and those in whom the power to expand rested were men.

Things have happened a lot. Women can now vote and hold office. But how come you people are still clamoring for equality. You already have equal rights enshrined in the constitutions of many countries but still why are you still clamoring? In Croatia, the president is a woman and yet only last year, feminists still clamored there.

Gender equality will only happen if you wipe men out of the surface of the earth or you all become like Amina of Zauzza.

Lol...ok.sir. No be fight.

BluntBoy:
There will always be inequality whether you like it or not.

Equality is a mirage. Equality is a fallacy. Men will always hold the real power. You can't change it.

But this is not to say women don't deserve equal rights with men. But even with equal rights, there will still not be equality. It is like in Ancient Cartage, where it appeared like they had a republic when in fact it was a plutocracy.

Lol...Dont be so sure. A lot has changed. How do you comfortably say things like this? Does this honestly make any logical sense to you? I cringe at the possibility.

I know all human beings are not equal. But this has nothing to do with gender or race. ACTION. That's the word. Your actions and inactions. Why are the whites light years ahead of the black,is it because of their skin colour? No,right? They put in work to make life easier for themselves and have consciously put in effort to progress. Are they the leading world powers because of their skin colour?,no! They put in the necessary action .

In relation to the topic,Ada is a lady who has put in the necessary work to get to the position of power she is in now. Obi is a man who instead of working wasted his time drinking and doing nothing meaningful with his time. Who is the greater human being here? Ada or Obi (or Adaobi,lol). Seriously who?
Ada right? Is it because of her gender? No. She put in the necessary work. Action!

You can't tell me a woman is your subordinate simply because youre a man. That's a joke.

All humans are not equal but it has nothing to do with gender or race.
Survival of the fittest right? In this case,the fittest is the person who puts in the work necessary to get ahead of the pack and stay ahead. Anyone can do this irrespective of their gender.

Do you believe every human being has a right to live? Do you believe every human being should be able to access basic amenities? Do you believe every human being has a right to vote? Do you think it's fair for anyone to follow their dreams irrespective of their social class, race or gender?

If your answer is yes, you are a feminist.
If your answer is no, you are a douchebag.

While I don't give a f*ck about women who are or are not feminist, I am disgusted when I see people give feminism a wrong definition.
How can I with my senses intact believe that another human being is greater than me,; that another human being has power over me? That I am subordinate to another human being simply because of gender?

Okay,okay I hope we all get this and move forward(who's still threatened by feminism anyway?).

If you are against gender equality,then you should also be against race equality. You should support racism and I don't want to hear you chant"black lives matter!"
You should also agree that the white peeps are more important human beings than black peeps simply because of their skin colour and hair.

If you are all for race equality but against gender equality then it's either you're a dummy(you don't understand something as simple as this) or you are still living in denial.

LuciferChristi:
Too late for that one. Medicine after death.

I have the tool I need against her. Once she starts raving on any thread, I'll be on her ass in a heartbeat.

Onku I'm a feminist but not a feminist-activist.

This means I don't go about preaching to other women telling them to be feminists because I don't care.. idgaf.

It's like English language is your problem.

Naija guys be hating on successful girls and calling them olosho. Ehen so (not saying they are but so)
They're low-key pained that no one pays for their dicks...
eeyaa una sorry ooh
*runs outta thread*

Azmodan:
If you talk like a lady you will be treated like one

Also if you talk like a wh0re raised in the dirty gutter imaginable, deviod of any dignity or self respect associated with decency then you will also be treated like a dirty piece of garbage

You need to sit and think how your life became so messed up

A quick browse of your profile shows you have very little to offer besides your body

I am very sure you hustle in one of the cheap motel for sustenance

You are very likely cheap too

But it's never too late you can still salvage whateevr little is left of your already battered existence by working on your shattered self esteem

Will you shut up?!

LuciferChristi:
Kinggnicole




This one is still in denial.

I'm a feminist and that's the way I live. I don't go about like I'm the Savior of the women -folk because I know that not every woman is interested in being a feminist and that's fine.

It's just like someone saying I'm a Christian but not a Pastor. It's obvious you didn't read the entire post.

Try get small sense...

LuciferChristi:
Kinggnicole



This one is still in denial.

WTF are you saying?

No. You will return to Daura.

Nigerians read before you comment ooo

swiz123:
She is a prostitute by profession; she isn't denying it cos it's her job.
Blame the overgrown bastard for his childish antics.

The guy is an idiot. Childish mofo