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ikeno:
Try and reconcile with him because relationship no be moimoi talk more of marriage. You need to be patient, there are things you need to endure and overlook, communication is key in resolving issues and stop taking drastic decisions without thinking it through.

Person wey never enter marriage make she dey patient so when he enter marriage she can be lonely and get married to herself Abi 🤔

It's alright

Greatmind653:
How do you handle loneliness in marriage?
There's no intention of cheating, but lonely.
Like a very deep space between you and your partner, due to the fact that he has a particular lifestyle (addiction) inflicting stress on everyone in the family that you don't like, but he has refused to change.
This has removed love, intim.acy and affection in the marriage, thereby making it look so empty. Like you both can stay months without touching each other.
How do you manage such home/relationship?

I can see u still have much more to say but u are just trying to put it in a simple manner or way please can u elucidate the addiction he is finding it difficult to stop?

There are 1000 reasons to sell d land and start afresh a new one of his own privately because if he eventually kicks d bucket even if u guys tried to inherit the apartment don't forget village people might go fetish and allow u guys to step on stone 🪨 and may gov u guys challenge of ur life that won't stop 😢😭😭😢
.hence u won't be free to go home 🏠

So the best option is to sell and start a new life but how much will d property cost is the problem 🤔

Scholace:
Good day all

My dad is from a nuclear family of eight. Seven boys and a girl. Their parents are late. My dad owned 8 rooms apartment in his village. He singlehandedly bought the land and raised the building. We reside in Lagos in a rented apartment. Obviously that was the only building owned by my dad. We hardly visit the village, but I've been there twice, likewise my other siblings. My mum and dad are the only ones that frequent there back then, and they're well known. My dad and the sixth child of their parents are the only ones that owned a house. The rest of them live in a rented apartment and had no house to their namew.

The house at the village wasn't occupied by anyone nor let out. Recently, one of the family members from their mother side at the village suggested to allow someone occupied the house. He brought in some people who i learnt were church people. Someone gave my dad info that they want to sell the house. My dad was surprised. We later got info that my dad elder brother claimed he owned the house.

My dad called his elder brother immediately he got the info to confirm what he heard. The so called brother asserted, and he was ruthlessly lashed by my dad. He was surprised by my dad's reaction. Two of my dad other siblings came around to apologise on behalf of their eldest brother outburst. I was around then, i overheard one of them saying it's a family's house. I was like, why are they fighting their eldest brother then?He claimed he owned the house while some claimed it's a family's house.

Apparently, my dad discussed this with two of his friends and they both advised he sell off the house and get a piece of land in Lagos or Ogun State and put up a small building on it. They told him if he didn't sell it, the family will take over the house when he kick the bucket, and his children and wife will be thoroughly dealt with if they attempt to be in loggerhead with them. He called one of his friend that reside at Ibadan, he said the same thing as suggested by his two other friends. He also added, if he can get a developer to take over the building because only 4 rooms had been roofed. By doing that, the developer will complete the building and write a will when to recoup their resources and the building taken back from them by we the children.

My mum suggested he sell it and start up a business, considering the fact that things aren't going well financially with him. My immediate younger brother may likely drop out of school due to finances. According to my dad he has really helped his siblings when things were going well for him. He financed his elder brother's wedding, sent his two siblings to school, put some in trade as mechanic and electrician. Sponsored two of his younger siblings wedding ceremony. He linked one of his younger brother's to my mum's brother who happened to be a staff at Mobil. By the grace of God, he got a job at Mobil. That my mum brother is late, he died 2016. After all the favour my dad has rendered to his siblings, the best way they could say thank you was to inherit his only house. None of them has ever given even our last born #100. I graduated from school and still in search of job, none of them had shown interest. Glory be to God, we've never had the course to call them that we're hungry. I wasn't surprised regarding the recent development from my dad's siblings. I was envisaging taking it to a radio station, but i got to realised I'd have to spend some money towards that. I was discussing with my brother and he suggested i put it up for wider view

Please what steps would you suggest my dad take inorder not to lose his property to his siblings.

Thank you.

ednut1:
How much is a property in the village worth This is a lesson for us o, givers don dey lack. People will suck you till you become broke like them.

This statement ain't new to me I have an elderly brother here in Lagos he said ...

Givers never lack is an understatement because if u give all u have then u became broke like them. And they will look elsewhere for help and abandon you 🤔

So he said as u are giving make sure u invest in ur future too because none will come to rescue u from ur own poverty 😢

PUSSYHOE:
Well religion helps make it so by selling false hope.


Nigerians keep hoping till they die!

I dey tell u my brother 😂

ChybuzzDD:
He's not a bastard; he was right.
He said ''probably'' and i'm sure you don't know the meaning of that word or you were blinded by your fake love for Nigeria.

The man would have PROBABLY died if he had remained in Nigeria. This is correct, if you are really educated

The only bastard here is the presumed educated adult who doesn't know the meaning of the word 'PROBABLY'.

Probably and yet u haven't and he haven't died since he was in Nigeria including me MYSELF 🤔


Why are u so fool or yourself by saying all sorts of rubbish about the so call Nigeria..

Your education NIGERIA
your birth NIGERIA
your grwoth NIGERIA
Your meal NIGERIA.
Wizkid Davido, Dangote Otedola all got their wealth NIGERIA ..
ETC
which I can't mentioned yet u keep comparing Nigeria of 63th year independence with countries that haves their independence 300+ years ago 😢😭😭😢

How old are you if I may ask 😡
BECOS
You are d real foolish or bastard have ever seen 😢😭😭😢

Website design and development..

With a ain't of graphics design

My rent 400k

Ganjafama:
Japa is not a means to wealth, rather it is a means of attaining a comfortable life and also means of creating a good future for your kids. This is something that is hard to achieve here in Nigeria.

God bless you u at least u comment with a valid idea and reasons to Japa but 90% of people believe it's a means of wealth 🤑.

That's my point ☝️
They do say it as if getting there will make u pluck money on d tree without paying taxes Levi's and so on ..

GanagiBitrus:
Only kids respond with insults to comments on a faceless forum.

My point is he should draw his positive lessons & be thankful for life & move on.
Or are you saying there is ZERO possibility he may have died from any of those vices?

&I would have still said similar thing to someone who is living in regrets that he didn't travel to USA. That he may have been killed in USA by mass shooters etc. It's all about finding reasons to encourage yourself & be positive.

There is nothing like that bro it depend on ur region in Nigeria .
So u think there is no death too in overseas and mass shooting 🤔

Why is it that u guyz always paint Nigeria black for terrorism bandit and d likes ...

Don't be fooled bro u can also die in oversease where guns are even a legal permission for individual..

So fate is everything have seen people that doesn't step out of the country and was very successful like no other ...


So either u are in Nigeria oversea or whatever ur fate is still ur fate ..

If u won't make it or die in d race it will happen bro

Intergrated:
lol na portable be your best example lol Kai.

I listed wizkid and Dangote na aba

Basic123:
DAVIDO,BANKY W,TIWA SAVAGE,TENI,DBANJ,JJC ETC

THEY EVEN ALL CAME BACK TO MAKE IT

God bless you

Royaltyy:
You used the word Fvck 16 times in the short piece you wrote up there ☝️, guy, what is fvcking wrong with you?

He is fucking insane living in a fucking environment and that's why fucking is more than what he was trying to express 😆 7

Tsolutionifede:
I am close to 40yrs, In Nigeria, still breathing fine, so I don't know what you are talking about, maybe you are just a pessimist

God bless u for this and don't mind that bastard saying rubbish

ColonelMichael:
So out of all successful people in Nigeria, it is only portable you deem fit to describe Nigeria?

That shows exactly what the other guy insinuated, to make it in Nigeria with the calibre of leaders we have and the clime, it is only through negative ties, imagine a country with a Chicago drug kingpin as a president.

Leave president alone and answer my question is it all d people that Japa became successful?

If YES then let's compare them with obi Cubana , TINUBU, buhari, and our elites ..

payaseriy:
Govt sponsoring media to discourage japa

If u like Japa it doesn't guarantee success but it's just location u will change.


Name 5 people that Japa that has made wealth like Wizkid Davido portable or even Dangote self mtheeww.


See Nigerian mentality as if Japan is a means to proserity

Edusouls:
ur father and mother since they were born and bred in Nigeria then got married and had you, all of you that are in Nigeria have been killed by armed robbery, kidnapping, herdsmen,road accident, poor health care? At times hide ur foolishness a bit Abegi, the thing too Dey expose you

God bless you my brother that's what I just replied him now..

They will always say bad things about Nigeria I just don't know why as if it's d worst place on earth to live 😢

GanagiBitrus:
Well, there will still be a lot of positives to draw from those 30years in UK & USA and so he still has reasons to be grateful.
Perhaps if he remained in Nigeria, he would probably have been killed by Armed Robbers, herdsmen, Kidnappers, road accident, poor health care...

U be mumu why are u guys always looking for a way to paint Nigeria black and useless .. if he is in Nigeria he might have even be more successful..

Do u think is everyone that travel abroad will make it like Wizkid and Davido Dangote 🤔

All this people made their wealth here ..

Tell me 5 people that have traveled abroad and rich like portable ..

Please let's stop this mentality of using bad things on our dear nation nigeria

Not everybody that travel abroad will become Dangote and Davido or wizkid some of Dem they are destined to make it in Nigeria
......


SO JAPA IS NOT FOR EVERYBODY

Heya I feel ur pain and what u are going through that's why I do tell some people I can't blame some human that go into blood.momey, crime or weird life sometimes just to earn a living because u may not tell what some people are going through indirectly too u can't be preaching for such group of people about heaven or repentance because what they are lacking in life..
Money ❌
House ❌
Friend ☹️
Better life ❌
Girlfriend ❌ don't forget u can only have girlfriend when u have money 💰 at least to take care of yourself and she herself too..
And so on ..


PLEASE JUST TAKE THE LIFE THE WAY YOU SEE IT 😢😢😭😭😢😢

Goodlyhrt:
Where the standard of enjoyment is enhanced to accommodate for the traumatic life they've had while on earth because men it's something else and living in Nigeria from a poor home hmm.

I believe there is no heaven, no higher justice system that will compensate niggas that have been through hell while on earth example a poor broke special needs person is in hell, especially in Nigeria, society cast us aside.

We don't get much attention: dating, love, hustle we are handicapped.

I can't pursue my dreams (I want to score a goal in Old Trafford.. anyone) talk more of being comfortable because I am broke and I don't have the right skills or certificate because guess what I am broke.

I am kinda finding a motive to live. Well, there is none I guess I ma just hang in there and see how this shipwreck goes.

Guys I am truamatized, depressed god damn me.

saddler:
This man left Nigeria in 1984 because Nigeria was bad and now he came back to 2023 when Nigeria is dead and buried


Omo this man go like suffer i swear.

Ọmọ 😂 i thought I was d only one that saw that paragraph that they are japaring then due to bad situation in Nigerian so what about now 😢😭
2023 under agbado

babyfaceafrica:
Even the Citizens are highly corrupt!!! Go the schools, churches, mosques and offices, everybody one cash-out!!

Exactly that's why the change we are expecting in Nigeria ehn 🤔

I still don't know how it can be achieved because d government and citizens are not left out

ican2020:
We know already and that’s why Nigeria is the poverty capital of the world

Worthless EFCC is aware of this but the only thing they are interested is how to get more power to harass the majority masses that are already deprived of their Gods given rights to good life

..like this topics is useless and we don't really need update on it because we know already that curruption is in their blood stream

Broke men no dey date ..

You better learn from men's mistake and face ur work

Amb1045:
in all you said you never mentioned one thing your wife did. I think you and your wife has mental health issues. I advise you meet therapist for solutions

God bless you I thought I was the only one that smell that reason because he didn't mention one thing he was just telling us d decision he took and how d kids was with him and getting married to new wife and d likes mtheew

Exceed15:
LOL.. Ow old r u?

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Edusouls:
that’s the Blackman for you, it’s an empty race of humans that loves pleasure, Good things of live so much, but they can’t work hard to create it, but only depends on the ones other human beings created, that’s why the world would never respect us till the end of time

God bless you ..

You really understand me

fineboynl:
what the kind of mentality will have on nairaland. No wonder this nairaland is what is it today.

Success is not measured by carry cement or concrete on the head morning till night. What do you know about be joblessness. I know people like you.

Good I love your contribution



I accept ur idea

HellVictorinho6:
How does feeding comfortably guarantee training a child?


Which meaningless job?

Not all jobs are meant 4 humans

Some are worse than human trafficking



Nonsense

Hmmmm am hearing this for the first time

Alba3:
We make it difficult for ourselves.

It's abnormal to put 3 of the largest ethnicity in Africa in one country under one 'Unitary' federal system of government and expect it to work. Can you mention one country in the world like that?

True federal is difficult kind of but if u think of division too do u think it can come to past without civil war??

Tempulated:
Mumu.

U are a matured fool