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No! not only is it disrespectful, but why would you?

kistehsia

LOL! its the fact then when you look at the picture you can't help notice SOMETHING is missing,

kistehsia

OOOOPS that was supposed to be "can't"

rokiatu:
OMG that dude Joystick look so small, he should never be allowed to wear such.    


What was the topic again?

ROLMAO! I'm sorry but I van't help but agree!!!!

kistehsia

Perhaps before they get involved in relationship want to make sure man is not married with family, they don't want to be cause of a broken family?

kistehsia

passionate88

I am not Naija but my Beloved is, and I love and respect him dearly.

kistehsia

My heart goes out to you, I feel so sad for you, no one should ever have to go through this, so so wrong, I wish you all the best and please know I am praying for you and your family,

Huggs kistehsia

I tend to agree with you, not a very funny joke, just plain mean!

kistehsia

No, I have never dated a younger man before, Was faithful in a loveless marriage to a man 6 years my senior, And like you I was not looking for or chasing after men. I had plenty of advances both younger and older, but none that I had a connection with till my Beloved came into my life, It has been months and I have no regrets,

kistehsia

@Shy_One

My story is very similar, and I could not walk away from him either, have fallen in love with him. Cougar, that's cute!

kistehsia

There are money hungry women in all races it is not limited to Nigerian woman, Heck I have known some money hungry men (yes white) that would be quite happy to live off of a woman's money while being lazy and demanding, My advice is choose wisely, money should not be in the picture when first dating, just not cool, you should be getting to know each other with no pressure, learning of each other, Please be wise, and don't feel you are wrong for not putting out your money, I am sure there is a nice girl out there for you!

kistehsia

Yes, and I have/am and He/I see no nothing wrong with it, may not be for everyone though. Only you know if you are comfortable with it or not, doesn't make it right or wrong. Just a matter of whether or not there is a connection that you wish to pursue or not.

kisteshia

So this has turned into a Bash The White Woman thread, ? Once again label all without knowledge of all, !

leaving thread, kistehsia

I would like to learn Nigerian Pidgin, if anyone can help it would be greatly appreciated,

Thank you in advance, kistehsia

May I ask, well we are on the topic of language, anyone want to help with learning Nigerian Pidgin?

Thank you, kistehsia

TRUE love kows no limits, whether it be color, race, age , whatever!  WE are but ONE race HUMAN!  Can't we stop bashing one another and maybe try respecting each other?  Hatred is sooooo cruel, Every nationality has good and bad persons, but to label is not right,  we wonder why war amongst the human race, well look around.  There are beautiful people in every country and beauty is not only about outward appearances, Any human could have an exceptional a heart of gold that would make anyone fall in love with them and color or anything could not stop that, JMO

kistehsia

@Inked_Nerd

you picked well!

kistehsia

emmatok:
GBAM,

How to do you expect a young single guy to overlook those nice young lady, for a divorcees (baby-mommas).

A divorcees with loads of emotional problems.

Na they should their KIND.

I know that everyone is aloud their own opinions, but wow, a bit narrow minded in my OPINION, Thank goodness not everyone is of the same opinion!

kistehsia

1. Intelligence
2. Confidence
3. Power/Influence
4. Fashion sense
5. Height and Good lucks [in the same boat]
6. wealth

Ok, if I must, this is my order,


kistehsia

Sagamite:
Follow the rules kistehsia.

Yes Sir!

1. Compassionate
2. Soft Spoken
3. Understanding
4. Intelligent
5. Hygenic

I too am in a relationship with a Nigerian Man, I love him dearly. I am all about looking after him, love to cook for him, love to please him, I respect him as head of the household, I sometimes have an issue with him telling me how to better take care of my own needs(rest, eating more, just plain pampering myself) he can be firm about that but I am learning, have always done the looking after so now it feels a little odd when someone wants to look after me. But for the most part there have been no clashing issues, When and if they do arise we will deal with it appropriately, we have been very clear with the fact that if you don't say whats on your mind or troubling you it wont get dealt with.

kistehsia

Yes! and I am happy proof of that, enjoying my life, new found love and my two beautiful little daughters.

kistehsia

claremont:
I love older women as well, they are wiser when it comes to "the ways of the world".

LOL!

I liked that!

kistehsia

In all reality, unless you r sharing living expenses and are living together you should not be asking/expecting money from your BF, Perhaps a job or second job could help with that little extra money you need, or you have family and friends who could help out if you are in NEED of something you can't afford. Most family/friends are happy to help when a loved one is in need, I just think you should look to them before your BF, if your BF and yourself share living quarters and are that committed in the relationship then that would/will be a different case. Just my opinion, Takes a lot of stress out of the relationship if you both keep your finances out of the relationship till there is a true commitment.

kistehsia

Yes! love is about chemistry, compatibility, and respect for one another, show me where in the bible it says only men may be older then the woman in a relationship/marriage, if you enter in a relationship where she is older then you and constantly worry about that age difference, how are you to enjoy that relationship, you should be worried about making each other happy and not worrying about what other people think about it. JMO

kistehsia

Guess it's each to his his own, be upfront, no lies no hidden agendas, damn I am older and white, it doesn't matter to us and we don't give a s$^^$ what others think. So do what you want , either love em or leave em, better to decide now and be done with it, and move on then to stew about it.

kistehsia

@rokiatu

Thank you!
kistehsia

@rokiatu


You obviously have no children or don't give a F%^$ about them, typical comment from a thoughtless, non-caring person, you should not be so quick to publicly show such a negative characteristic, doesn't say much good about you! But why should I be surprised, seems to be the trend here! Have a nice day!

kistehsia

@ OP
If I may share a similar story, only from your fiance's point of view, I was violated by my best friends husband! I lay asleep on the sofa at their home as I was staying there for a couple of days while repairs were taking place in my home, my three very small children were sleeping on the floor in the room with me. The husband came to me at 2 in the morning, violated me, I did nothing but bite my bottom lip while tears rolled down my face and i tasted blood from my own lip, I refused to say a word although fought hard, he being 100 lbs heavier then myself and over a foot taller left me at a disadvantage, Why did I not scream? I refused to have my babies wake up and see such a horrific act that would haunt them for the rest of their lives, I wanted to protect them from such a violent act made by some one they thought they could trust, Did I say anything to my friend?, NO! I dealt with the issue myself, sought professional help and moved as far away from there as I could, to this day I do not regret the choice I made, If someone does not want to accept that choice or mistrust me then so be it we have nothing further to discuss, end of story, go your own way, I will not feel guilty for a choice I made in the best interest of all involved.

kistehsia