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Omoawoke:
✓If he sure for you, go meet 75 year old man and sleep naked in same room for one night of your ovulation (if you are fertile) .If you no carry 9 month course, call me donkey
Health affects both 21 years old man and 75 years old man… but as for age, a 21 year old and 75 years old man will send you on 9 month course
Una go just one dey compare man and woman , this feminism na problem ooo…

Why do I almost always have a hard time making sense of your submissions..what has having a 21-year-old woman lay naked with a 75-year-old man to do with any of what is in the OP? 🥱🥱

My head literally hurts from trying to dissect the way you reason alone. 😑😑😑😑

Zouzer:
✓ Horseshit.
In my experience, and I'm sure in the experiences of most men, being nice to women only begets misunderstanding. Most regard your niceness as an attempt to sleep with them

How many women have stalked, raped or killed a man you know because of such misunderstanding?

Yes, humans are prone to misinformations but surely you know that women are more prone to having their freedoms violated by men that misunderstood them than by the women who do. For that reason alone, it is essential to see beyond the horsesheet assessment you have of her statement. 🥱🥱🥱

DiarisGodoo:
✓ You arguing somrthing that's long settled. Women love and marry for the most part ONLY after hypergamy has been satisfied. Men don't do that

That a false notion is held by a hoard does not mean the hoard is correct or right. It simply reveals how infectious ignorance can be and how plenty the ignorant really are. 🥱🥱🥱

DiarisGodoo:
✓ You watched the video. What it is basically saying is - "A woman's love is conditional and Women generally don’t MARRY based on love". The operative word is "MARRY". And the video is RIGHT!
✓ A mother will love her son no matter what. That's what we mean by unconditional love.
✓ I didn't say women should not be hypergamous or thst there is no reason why they should be. I only stated the FACT that they are!

if you have problems with comprehension then go tackle that before we continue. The video is wrong!

And I have more than given you reasons why at this point , including the fact that love filtered on the basis of hypergamy is also love. 🥱🥱🥱

2. Wrong! Women cannot love even their children unconditionally. I believe you confuse attachment with love is part of the problem here too. Attachment is not love and love is not attachment. 🥱

3. Regardless, the assertions made so far regarding hypergamy in the video are wrong! 🥱🥱

Deeeeeeeeeeeeee:
The concept of virginity makes zero sense. The comparison with the Lamborghini is no different. It is only humans who place so much value on something as natural as eating and defecating. It's just sex, as long as you're legal and ready go for it with who you're comfortable with.

Exactly! 🥱🥱🥱

tiswell:
✓ Diswan go fit see husband marry like dis Attacking men and masculinity intentionally.

Are you sure you are OK in the head? What part of that is me attacking men? Is masculinity of ignorance and denial then? 🥱🥱🥱

DiarisGodoo:
✓ You are defining "unconditional" too broadly. For our purposes it means loving someone for who they are and NOT for what they are or anything attached to them. Men can love that way. Wonen can't.
✓ Hypergamy is the chief determinant of a woman’s "love". Hence a high value woman can love and be willing to be third wife of a high value man than be only wife of a man of status lower than her's. The sexes are DIFFERENT!

Look up the meaning of the word in the dictionary if you are struggling to wrap your mind around it's meaning and application. We humans are incapable of a wholly unconditional entanglement with our fellow human beings. The labor of love is done either for emotional, mental or emotional benefit implying there are conditions/reasons behind everything we do for qbs with others at least within ourselves. 🥱🥱🥱

2. Whether you imagine it to be chief of not,the fact is the criteria isn't the only one available out there used but women in filtering out potentially unwanted love interests hence it is invalid to claim that women are hypergamous.

cutecommend:
✓ Firstly, the guy that may be bugging you, shaming you or harassing you because you are a VIRGIN above 25, is not a good person. If he pressures you for sex and you allow him deflower you, he may find another lady who is a VIRGIN to marry.
A VIRGIN below or above 25 years is a "Lamborghini", a Diamond and Precious stone.
✓ Again, do not let ladies who sleep around or who are not morally upright to shame you that you are still a VIRGIN above 25. Generally, VIRGIN ladies are one of the most marketable set of ladies in the marriage market.
✓ There is no place where Almighty God applauded people for losing their virginity to pre-marital sex, before or after 25 years.
✓ If you are still a VIRGIN lady or guy, keep your VIRGINITY till you marry. If you are a NON-VIRGIN who is morally upright and sexually pure, keep it up and continue with such sexual purity.

She is a Lamborghini, not to the man whom she first had sex with but to some phantom other guy? 🥱🥱🥱🥱

2. According to you, there are guys out there who sleep with these virgins and treat them as trash afterwards so why attack other women and not those men for not seeing the Lamborghini in the girls?

3. There is also no place that any God for that matter applauded a woman for not having sex in the first place. So why drag him too down into this much that is you?

4. Oh ok! So, she is a Lamborghini who should be kept for men who will marry her before they then treat hee as trash then? I will make sure to tell this to the many women out there who were got married as virgins only to end up as single mothers with babies after they too were abandoned by their husbands. 🥱😀😀

Salt06:
✓ Curious about your profound interest in God/ MOG matters

Why? Can I not have an interest in the one who created me out of the 1000s of gods known to men?

DiarisGodoo:
✓ Point of the video is that women calculate (consciously or subconsciously) before they love AND MARRY! Men don't. You'd hardly ever see a female CEO love AND MARRY the office cleaner. But men do such things all the time.

The video only reveals the level of intelligence of those who agree with it and the news is bleak. 😩😩😩

What is the ratio of male CEOS to female CEOs abeg that you would expect to compare them to each other in the way you attempt.

Also, stud after study has revealed that when it comes to romantic relationships, men have more to gain than women who in most cases carry much of the emotional, mental and physical burden of keeping/running the relationship by themselves. So why expect women in such relationships not to at least look out for themselves with all of that? 🥱🥱🥱

DiarisGodoo:
✓ You keep saying human beings are incapable and it's not true. A woman loves her child because of WHO he is, not because of anything else - that's what we mean by unconditional.
✓ Likewise, a man can love a woman regardless that she is very poor and of the lowest status and even "ugly". Women generally DON'T love like that - you must tick certain boxes before she "loves".

I said hypergamy is by far the most, I never said it is the only

I should probably have started by asking you what you think Love is. 😞😞😞

Those are tales you were fed to keep you ignorant. A woman cannot love a child because of who he is. There are other things involved in that which you choose to interpret in that way. Women and men are humans. 🥱🥱

2. For the umpteenth time, a human cannot love unconditionally. Our love is conditional...based on ideas/rules that we invariably gain a benefit from in some way -- emotionally, psychologically or materially, etc., , but never none. 🥱🥱🥱

3. And I already explained that women tend more towards hypergamy to at least guarantee themselves one potential benefit out of a supposed romantic relationship. Women who mostly use hypergamy in filtering down their range of potential mates typically do so because they realize that the chances are high that they benefit little to nothing else in the relationship otherwise. 🤔🤔

Also, if you are fully aware that hypergamy is not the only option, then do you keep insisting that women are hypergamous? That makes no sense! 🥱🥱🥱

DiarisGodoo:
✓ You are defining "unconditional" too broadly. For our purposes it means loving someone for who they are and NOT for what they are or anything attached to them. Men can love that way. Wonen can't.
✓ Hypergamy is the chief determinant of a woman’s "love". Hence a high value woman can love and be willing to be third wife of a high value man than be only wife of a man of status lower than her's. The sexes are DIFFERENT!

1. We are hham. Beings and hence incapable of unconditional love. A man or women telling you they love another just the way he/she is either has a reason (by virtue of being a human being after all or confuse what may be attachment with love.. -- something that a whole load of people out there do. 🥱🥱🥱

We would need to drill down to the particulars of the supposed love in each case to know exactly but is behind the claim. 🥱🥱

2. Hypergamy is but a determinant but a safest option for most women when choosing love. Note the difference, please. So we do not keep going around in circles. 🥱🥱🥱

ngmgeek:
✓ Kind of things teenage mothers say before giving their kids up for adoption. The kids need a stable home and family. But later, emotions kick in and they start looking for kids they abandoned and crying that they're their biological mothers.
✓ If you believe in what this lady expressed, then allow me sell the national stadium in Lagos to you

When it comes to Nigerians, it is instead usually the children searching for their parents and not the other way around, I have noticed. 🥱🤟🥱

2. Usually, men abandon children with the woman. What she is simply saying is that she will instead let the man -- the children's own father -- have them or be their primary parent -- they also have his last name(not hers) naw. So what is so wrong about that? 🥱🥱🥱

yinkeys:
➜Lol Ask Ned Nwoko

I read somewhere that at least one of his children was born via IVF. Are you insisting that it is not the case?

DiarisGodoo:
➜You are wrong. A man can see a woman and just love her FOR WHO SHE IS, NOTHING ELSE!!
➜ Women don't operate that way.
➜ You must satisfy her hpergamous nature and other criteria before sho "loves" . The two sexes are simply not wired the same

. A man always has a reason for why he chooses to love a particular woman and not the next woman or all the others around her. That is one of the many ways to indicate that love is conditional. In the case you pointed out, you indicated that he loves her FOR WHO SHE IS... the condition for his love.

2. Wrong! Women, like men, are humans, and also capable of loving a man or woman for the same reason you pointed out. There is nothing scientifically or psychologically gender-based about the ability to love another conditionally. Study after study has shown that men and women are capable of exhibiting the same emotions and acting in similar ways to them.

3. What most of you who drone on about hypergamy fail to realize is that hypergamy is merely one of many options — there are other options also available to women— that a majority of women gravitate towards to ensure they are at least guaranteed some benefit out of what is a relationship with another human being whom they have no control or rule over.

DiarisGodoo:
➜You wish is all I can say. I try to believe you but I know people are people and women are women. What options does she have? How old is she? How many kids do you have? Have you ever gone broke? Etc

You are far from being reasonable. Like men, women are not a monolith. Yes, men and women are human beings, and men and women behave alike. We have the same limited set of emotions, and we are allowed to react to each emotion(signal) by acting as we each choose. However, we cannot say that because a group is of the same gender, their response to a certain signal has to be the same, like some sort of hive. It does not work that way when dealing with human beings.

So, yes, your reasoning is deluded and ignorant at best.

DiarisGodoo:
➜According to the video, by definition, a woman cannot love unconditionally as a man can. They always "love" for a reason and conditionally!
➜ A woman's happiness does not derive from that kind of love - unconditional love. They love conditionally and are quite happy to do so!

1. The video is wrong! Love, in and of itself, is conditional. A man cannot love a woman unconditionally because he is a human being who conditionally decides which woman to love and when to love and maybe even marry her — all of that is conditioned on parameters he has on selecting who to love, marry, and remain married tto.

To say a man can love a woman unconditionally is to suggest that a man is not even a human being at all.

2. A woman's happiness cannot be derived from that which is impossible for a woman. In the same way, a man's happiness cannot be desired from that which is impossible for him as well.

Don't just take what you read(or hear) at face value. Analyze it to ensure it makes sense before you decide whether to run with it or put it back in the trash where it belongs.

DiarisGodoo:
➜You initially sounded like you disagreed with the video, then went ahead to validate it!
➜ Relate it to Regina and Ned. She said she loved him.
➜ Note what the video describes as what women mean by "love"

. Far from it, I instead pointed out the many problems with the claims made in the video regarding women. Beginning with the suggestion that a woman married to a man she does not love can be said to be happy.

2. I know nothing of those people and so cannot relate the gobbledegook from the video to them either.

3. Wrong! The video only presents a skewed idea of love from a biased man's point of view.

DiarisGodoo:
➜90% of married women do not really love their husbands. They're just happy to be married.
➜Modern marriage is not about love. It is about convenience, it is about security, it is about validation.
➜ A woman's loyalty is conditional. Her faithfulness is temporary. Her devotion is only as strong as her option.
➜ Hypergamy is undefeated. Women are wired to seek the highest-value man they can get. When they say "I love you" they often mean "I love what you do for me", "I love the lifestyle you provide", "I love the way others perceive me because of you", "I love that I don't have to compete anymore". But does she love you really? Or is she just satisfied to have locked down a provider, a status symbol, a walking retirement plan?
➜ A woman's love is transactional. The moment you lose your value, she loses interest. The moment you stumble, she re-evaluates. The moment another man presents a better deal she rethinks everything

A woman is happy in a marriage with a man that she does not love? Yikes! Is that even a possible thing? Define happiness in this situation.

2. So which of these translates into happiness for a woman, abeg?

3. But there is no such thing as unconditional loyalty, to begin with. And faithfulness to a man she does not love? Isn't that asking for way too much?

4. If hypergamy is the rule, then shouldn't it simply mean that men should know their levels? (Don't engage women of equal or higher class than the one you operate in?)

5. Love, from its very beginning, has always been transactional and conditional. Why are people now threatened by the most basic of things?

I guess she hasn’t gotten any child yet and when she feels the love of a child, she’ll understand better.

Love of a child? One of the most absurd of myths that was used to manipulate many women into having and raising children when ordinarily they would have happily lived without them.

What we now know is that there is no such thing as the love of a child— biological or otherwise— and women are not biologically nurturers.

RollinTNDA:
➜Our ancestors used the moon to calculate when a woman was more sexually active. Unlike Europe where modern electricity has disorganized the flow of women making women have different times of menstruation African women however still maintain this rhythmic sync with the moon. When you see the moon half cast it means majority of Nigerian women are on their follicular stage after period. Estrogen is building up in high volumes and as of this week I joticed how many of my female co workers have started getting more flirty.
➜ The hormones are hitting them really hard. They are becoming more playful and giving off Hot vibes due to the increase of estrogen this period of ovulation. This is the time to seduce het and she will give it you warm and wetter than you can ever imagine. Just be careful not to load inside her during ovulation.
➜ Her chances if pregnancy at this period is 89%

. This is a myth!

2. Hormones hitting really hard do not translate to sexual energy for intercourse alone. In saner climes, you will find women in meeting rooms, out in the fields, or even on their farms, channeling that same energy into their tasks or work. Yes, intercourse during ovulation is one possible way to use that sexual energy, but it is not the only way it can be used, and shouldn't be.

3. While the chances for pregnancy for the woman are at 89% at that point, it does not always translate to a pregnancy for many, since conception is also impacted by the health and age of the man the woman is looking to impregnate her.

SixSeven:
➜Okay Goodluck.

That article was written in 2015, yet here we are in 2025, and women are still able to have babies well into their 50s. Since then, we have also learned that among the factors that most impact the probability of conception in women is, in fact, the male biological clock, which people have, on the most part, paid little to no attention to until this research was released.

The Male Biological Clock Is Ticking — Silently, Shamefully, Fatally.
We’ve all heard of the female biological clock.
But what about men?
Here’s what science now tells us:
🕒 Sperm quality declines with age — DNA fragmentation increases by up to 20% after age 40.
🧠 Untreated stress, anxiety, and isolation are silent killers — not just for fertility, but for lifespan.
💔 Men die 4–5 years earlier than women worldwide (WHO, 2022).
🧪 Men with high depressive symptoms have 60% lower sperm motility compared to non-depressed peers (Human Reproduction, 2018).

https://www.linkedin.com/posts/srividhya-s-ab86041a3_menshealth-mentalhealthawareness-maleinfertility-activity-7322850063368474624-TAtl

So, while fertility in women seems to decline with age, that decline is also impacted by such things as the age and overall health of the men they are trying to reproduce with. The younger the man is— the sperm donor—the less likely the woman, regardless of her reproductive age, is to have issues conceiving. And we are talking miscarriages, difficult pregnancies, and complications as a whole with her pregnancy. So, the problem isn't so much fertility but the age of the man from whom the sperm were drawn. A 50-year-old woman who has yet to enter menopause, for instance, has a higher chance of a pregnancy with a 20-29-year-old man than with an older man.

If you have yet to read up on any of the research for yourself, I suggest you take out time to educate yourself.

➜https://www.nairaland.com/8541960/men-actually-biological-clock-silent
➜ https://belibaby.com/blogs/resources/men-and-fertility-tick-tock-goes-the-biological-clock?srsltid=AfmBOopvOtX0DVkq1BLiR9Nvt0R3tTtPapiAmXP5IDTqUC3N0dZxxg-0

SixSeven:
✓ I remember this post about women and feminism. They don't dislike men, it's women who don't listen to them.
✓ The beautiful thing about the whole thing is time. Women don't have the luxury of time that men have. Biology does not work with sentiments so don't bother arguing with women, with time, they find out. The older women know but if they are wicked, they will lead the young girls on because they are jealous of their youth. I have heard what the OP said before from doctors and it's not new but again, let's keep arguing and be doing theatrics with life. FAFO
✓ One beauty of this same social media, depending on who you follow is when they ask older people what they regret in life or what they wish they could do if they were younger. You hear it all the time from women. CHILDREN!!!

This is nonsense! 🥱🥱🥱

2. Recent Scientific Research revealed in 2025, that women have never, in fact, had time against them. It was all false conclusions that led them to believing in such things. A woman is as capable of conception until she is into menopause; the DNA of her eggs remain quite stable until much later in her 40s and early 50s. 🥱

There are in fact little to no benefits of early pregnancy for women, especially and no study out there links early pregnancy to success whether in the raising of children, marriage , or career(financial and fulfillment wise) for women. There are literally no incentives out there for women who chose early pregnancy.

3. Stop following people and begin following knowledge and wisdom, so you stop parroting debunked foolishness. 🥱😒😒

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That woman in the picture there, Kate Mulvey's book, Accidental Singleton ought to tell you that far from being a feminist, she was a woman desperate to find herself --- she was signed on to dating services for much of her 30s and 40s-- a man to love her but has yet to. Her book does not portray her as a woman requiring equal rights but a woman looking for a man to complete her.

RealityKings1:
🤣🤣

The original meaning of the term Lady refers to unmarried woman. It does not matter her age.

RealityKings1:
When you see signs, you will see wonders

🤣🤣🤣🤣

belikewater:
➜You read without comprehending…let me help you out
Therefore, the next time feminists groups come to discourage you from having your kids early, pay no heed to them as many of them are frustrated bitter women who want to project their inability to marry and raise great families on unsuspecting young girls. Thank you’
At no time did the OP vouch for ‘baby-mamaism’ but we all know your mind traffic na one-way.

The OP did exactly that— make an argument for babymamarism. The vast majority of babymamas out there are women who had early pregnancies, not late pregnancies. This will include women who got married early, had children early as well, but were later abandoned in marriage to join the single motherhood train.

No study out there has linked women marrying early or having early pregnancies to the raising of great families. It is important to point out the falsehood of this claim contained in the OP and your post.

Study after study has shown that when women spend their twenties building themselves mentally and financially, they are less likely to become babymamas and single mothers.

LINSAR:
➜I am a 24 year old man who has never dated before. I noticed that my primary sexual characteristics, specifically my D, didn’t grow during puberty.
Early this year, I did hormone tests and they all came out normal. Though testosterone was low-normal(3.8 ng/mL in a range of 3 - 10).
I also did testicular ultrasound and the result was normal. The doctor likened my situation to women’s breasts where some are small, average or big. He said I just happened to have a small D probably due to genetics.
The problem is I see how women shame men with sizes even bigger than mine. I don’t have the courage to ask a girl out. The disappointment on her face when she finds out can depress me. What can I do as I’ve been brooding over this issue for years now?

You are just 24-years-old. Why not give yourself some more time to really grow to accepting who you are(your body included) before you go out chasing after women and stuff? Prioritize self-love over romantic love so you can develop the shield necessary to keep you from breaking down when attacked by others for your body.

Self-confidence, stemming from deep self-awareness and self-love, can and should be your best weapon when pursuing romantic love.

DyshApp:
➜A young lady has stirred intense debate online after declaring that if her marriage ever ends, she would leave everything behind, including her children, for her husband to care for.
In a post shared on X (formerly Twitter), the woman explained that she plans to sign an agreement with her husband before marriage in case things go wrong. She wrote: “My husband and I will have a written agreement that if ever our marriage ends, he’ll take the kids and I’ll leave with nothing. “I get them on weekends and holidays and I’ll be checking in on them. My status will be ‘Oh, I’m single and I have two kids but they’re growing up nicely with their daddy.’”

I hope she does not compromise on this later on.

njokuuche77:
➜I see where you’re coming from, and you’re correct that fibroids can develop at any age and that women have multiple reproductive options later in life. The point of the original post isn’t that early childbirth guarantees you won’t have fibroids, or that it’s the only way to have children. It’s just a biological observation: studies show that early pregnancies can reduce the risk or growth rate of fibroids in some women, and fertility tends to be higher in the 20s and early 30s.
➜ So it’s not about fear or forcing anyone to rush, it’s about awareness. Knowing how age affects fertility and fibroid risks lets women make informed choices, whether they decide to have children early, later, or pursue other reproductive options.

But this point is moot since women who have early pregnancies are also at risk of developing fibroids later on. Also, biologically, a decline in fertility is not an absence of fertility: women can have babies well into their late 40s and even early 50s in many cases.

2. It is fear since it insists that women should have babies earlier in life, in some attempt to avoid having to run into problems of infertility and fibroids. It conveniently fails to inform the same women, among so many other things, that fibroids could happen to them even after these early pregnancies, and that the chances are 5-10% that infertility could result from fibroids removal surgery, and that IVF and surrogacy could be a workaround even in such cases.

So, yes, overall, the OP is a terrible opinion piece meant to coax ignorant women into considering early pregnancy when there is really no benefit to be had by women from it.

Emeskhalifa:
1. That her story doesn't hold water, just another twitter story for engagement.
2. That she's meeting some randy men (which I am sure she's the one showing them the greenlight and when they make a move she cries victim) doesn't mean every man out there is same. Like I said, she tries that madness with someone else, she's getting yanked off. Someone like me will just forget about her existence.

You already know what she is talking about (the statement in bold), yet you remain adamant that her story does not hold water all so you can continue to feign ignorance. That na your own problem!

njokuuche77:
➜You actually made some good points, but let’s be clear, nobody said women should rush into having kids without stability. The post was just highlighting a medical fact: fertility and risks like fibroids are often easier to manage when childbirth happens earlier in life.
➜ That doesn’t mean “go and get pregnant at 19.” It simply means biology has its timing and we shouldn’t ignore that while chasing other goals. Yes, women should be educated, independent, and secure but that can go hand-in-hand with early planning for family life. It’s all about balance, not pressure. And about your sister, fibroids can appear at any age, true, but medical studies still show early childbirth helps reduce the risk, even if it doesn’t eliminate it completely.
➜ So, both views can coexist. The goal isn’t to shame anyone but to create awareness and make informed choices, not emotional arguments.

1. This is false information.

2. This is also a wrong conclusion since studies also show that some women could also develop fibroids even after early childbirth! Women are mostly capable of reproducing via several methods out there, even up until menopause, so a fear of fibroids shouldn't be considered reason enough to want to rush into such things at an early age.

drstranged:
1. That's the point! Not all men think that way. So generalizing it for all men is just a dumb move by her. My opinion is that she should be herself. If being herself is being friendly and nice so be it. There are decent guys out there who would truly cherish that quality in her with no negative intentions.
2. Being mean to all men is not being smart, neither would it guarantee her safety. Being too nice too wouldn't also guarantee her safety.

1. Again, the point is studies and crime rates— around the world, mind you — have shown that enough men think that way, and so it makes sense for women to want to choose meaness over general niceness at this point. This isn't about generalizing but about being logical about the situation in most countries, let alone in a country like Nigeria, where the rights of women and general security of citizens are pretty much non-existent.

2. It is actually smart. Removing completely the chances of men thinking she is giving them signals actually goes with smartness.