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Authoritative. Given by own upbringing and my acceptance of reality, their is no better way to raise a child, my opinion. 🥱🥱🥱

Whether as a man or a woman,if not present as authoritative parent, such a person is a terrible example of a parent.

Ebymyk:
imagine...I won't wait for her to attack,she will be moved to where mad people are rehabilitated ASAP...

That's a crime since you have no right to do any such to an individual for assaulting you.

guest1234:
✓ She don't beat me but always use that as her first target because she knows I will not retaliate

Not retaliating was the sensible thing to do--- of course, you should have reported her to the police and had her charged as a domestic abuser, but that issue is another topic Nigerians as a whole continue to drag their feet on for lord knows why --- , but not removing yourself completely from that situation was completely out of wack.

guest1234:
Things we do for love and fear of the unknown

You mean attachment instead, right? You had better go learn your about the difference between love and attachment to ensure you prevent yourself from replaying that same nonsense on yourself, even if in another form.🥱🥱🥱

yemre:
If you find it difficult to comprehend all I wrote up but interested in just picking out a few words to wimp an uncouth narrative, well, I can not help you. If only you could read between the lines, you would understand. However, why are you even on my mention? I wasn't referring to you, neither was I referring to your gender.
This is none of your business. Those who need what I wrote already understood the message I passed across.

Simple question and you begin dey foam for mouth😩😩

Again, when your wife eventually cheats on you, what you will do is find the problem and solve it so you can continue on in marriage, right? 🥱🥱🥱

lilsmart:
If na me be the man I go marry 4 wives join biblical knowledge most men are polygamous.
No ask me. Ask king Solomon. Oh!! I forget e wise pass you. (The wisest man) na Bible talk am.

Because most men are kings of the Nation of Israel formed by Moses who were allowed to have many wives by the Law of Moses, abi? 😩😩😩

There ought to be.a law ....🥱🥱🥱

Obapluto:
lol.. I can't divorce my woman.. No weapon formed against us shall prosper lol

Most of the people now divorced also said something similar. Staying when the situation becomes harmful or toxic will get you no medals here. it is knowing when to leave for the best of both parties in the marriage that is the measure of one's intelligence. 🥱🥱🥱

xest:
How did he abuse her? He only cheated

Cheating is not only a blatant violation of the marriage vow -- a complete dismissal of it, but emotional abuse that denied the other spouse of a say in whether he/she wishes to be put in such a potentially damaging -- emotionally and physically (sex diseases) --predicament.

When a man or women is cheated on that devastating emotional and mental blow never leaves them even after the cheater chooses to apologize and change his/her ways. Now imagine having to live with an unapologetic and unrepentant cheater as a wife or a husband and you can only imagine how damaged the spouse being cheated on ends up -- a shell of their former self, probably unable to heal from it all for a very long time.

lilsmart:
✓ While it may be best for a daughter to remain primarily with her mother, I believe a son, by a certain age even before ten years should live with his father. This critical period is essential for a father to mentor his son, guiding him to become a man of even greater character than himself.
[b]This mentorship should focus on teaching him how to navigate the world independently, value teamwork, and make logical decisions without being overly emotional. It is also crucial to teach him not to become emotionally dependent in his relationships.
My personal believe is that the absence of this kind of guidance is why so many modern men have lost touch with the proud foundations of African masculinity.
Critical thinking everyone is entitled to his/her [/b]opinion[color=#990000][/color]

This notion regarding sons needing to live with their fathers alone after a certain age is equAlly wrong. Your children need to be neutered by both parents and to this end having shared custody will provide them a better balance than having just the one parent handled them alone.
Mentorship got even a boy child should best come from both the male and female guardians since he will hand up live in a world that is compromised of at least both genders.

Obapluto:
I prefer my kids staying with there mother.. My daughter self no fit survive 1 week without there mom even when she knows I can buy her anything.. Mothers always win..

In that case, joint custody of the children would be in their best interest and I hope your wife demands this.

yemre:
✓ Lastly, if you divorce your husband on the basis of cheating rather than stay to find what the problem is and solve it, you will ultimately become side chicks for other married men or intimacy gadget for some single unmarried men that are ready for any marriage! Pls be guided.
A word, they say, is enough......

So when your wife eventually cheats on you, what you will do is find the problem and solve it so you can continue on in marriage, right? 🥱🥱

Montana23:
✓ my mum had about 4 house before she died, my dad always cheated but she never left..after she died my took care of us in every way he could as a father but if she has moved out their will be no one to guide me and my siblings.

Your father basically disrespected your mother and here you are praising her for condoning the blatant disrespect to her person over and over all in a bid to hold on to her Mrs. Badge no matter what. 😩😩😩😩

Are you sure you even saw that person you call your mother as a human being a any point while your father kept throwing poop in her face? Did you ever even love her? 🙄🙄🙄

Naijalegal:
✓ What do you think? Should custody decisions really depend on the child’s gender? Or should it always go to whoever can care better — man or woman?[b][/b]

In Nigeria where there is no sex offender registry, I think it should remain based on child gender at least. However, if any of the parents have previous criminal charges, that should also be considered especially if sex crime.

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simeonabio:
It is when the woman kills their son, that you will understand why it is better for the family to intervene.

If your family is into doing any such, you better warn them to stay out of husband-and-wife matter, even if divorce, before they meet their match in a woman/man.

intruder15:
✓ Your write up sha. If I may ask, are you a male or a female? Cuz your write-up portrayed a female personality.
Your analysis didn't hint on the actual issue. Which is a lady making a decision without carefully analyzing the consequences of her actions.
It's okay to decide not to go back to her husband. But she should have lived up to the expectations of taking care of the kids. Being financially stable.

Lived up to someone else's expectations or her own expectations? Aren't you assuming there that another person's child owes you something there? 🥱🥱🥱

jaxxy:
✓ There is a reason God put forgiveness into every relationship between humans include marriage.

Both men and women, husband and wives should forgive each other where possible.

Which God be that one? Aside all of that, you can forgive someone but that don't mean you should hang around the person.

IamAsiri:
✓ Unfortunately, there is no proper documentation trail here in Nigeria. A person can be an violence offender and his/her name does not pop it up with pictures when searched.

With a population of over 200 million, that country don become wild West be that. 😩😩

dollypi:
✓ The bible God is not against polygamy. He not only okayed multiple wives, but concubines also.
Read carefully:
2 Sam 12:8
I gave your master’s house to you, and your master’s wives into your arms. I gave you all Israel and Judah. And if all this had been too little, I would have given you even more."
It's the state's limiting, property transfer focused, female-serving and female-orchestrated marriage/bondage contract that is giving modern women delusions of grandeur.
The natural order is "our husband", if he has the means and desires it.

I always marvel at how when men cheat, people like you automagically conclude that not only are such men made Israelites by their actions but that they are also kings of Israel. (the passage you quoted was in reference to a King in Israel; they were allowed to marry as many wives as they needed but not too much. (As if adultery is not condemned by the very same God of Israel.) 😩😩😩

The state in which a man needs to be to descend this low, ehn .... Tufiakwa! 😩😩

Eniolohunda:
Both men and women should be responsible. My advice to women out there is please when you are in relationship observe, and don't overlook the red signs. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. And don't forget to pray if you don't have a mother praying for you.

I disagree with this notion since I am well aware of the existence of narcissistic individuals who are able to learn and cover up the red flags until after they have properly snagged their victim. Freedom to pursue life, liberty and happiness is better than a remaining in a broken/toxic marriage.

Ifeemelunma:
But make una no vexoo I want to a simple but serious question and my question is how that crippled guy go take chop and enjoy her opueh given his physical condition??I come in peace ✌️

It doesn't matter. He was able to afford the woman he loves is what does.

Mckandre:
you carried ai lamba post here,this write up is so distant from reality.😮‍💨

Sure the post may be false but the reality is many of us hear or read these sort of tales told as some cautionary tale to keep women holding on in toxic/terrible relationship. That is the sole reason why I felt to dissect the foolishness behind the tale and the claims made by some women out there who also tell these tales to other women or even their children.

Meedon:
This news is gorgeous and we hope to read gorgeous news as this in the future. Keep the gorgeous news coming because it encourages men to do the right thing and not die in silence in the name of "for better for worse."

"For better for worse" was coined by male-focused systems to help keep women in check. Men being encouraged to stand up against the establishment is actually a good thing.

Wyrax:
This question has been bothering me.
Most girls now are after men that will spend lavishly on them without giving anything in return

Take care of you, how? Are you sick or something? Even then, don't you intend to pay the woman who you want to take care of you? Abi you think say another man daughter suppose come replace your mama? 🥱🥱

Sonnobax15:
-XWow See true love na.
But then again,the right way should have been the lady proposing to the man for almost sacrificing his life just to save her

The man really tried . I'd really love to be as kind as he's towards women in my next life

Even though hypergamy is clearly involved, you note it as true love? Interesting ! Let's hope you won't be quick to condemn other women who apply the same parameters when choosing too. 🤔🤔🤔

Cum4me:
✓ How wish she refused now a lot of nairalander would have shouting nagging about men being foolish to train a woman through school. Some ladies are completely different from those ungrateful hoes. May there union be blessed I'm happy to see this because she didn't disappoint the nigga.

It is foolish to do so; that it works out in a handful of cases like this does not change this fact. 🥱🥱

DiarisGodoo:
✓ I'd say our discussion so far demobstates that my comprehension is actually top notch. You'd seem to be the one stuck on the "miscomprehension" that words only have one definition

Oh boy! Anyways.. good luck! 🥱🥱🥱

DiarisGodoo:
✓Not only humans, even trees don't move for no reason. That's not the issue here
That's why we had to define "unconditional" specifically as it applies to our discussion

Again, go work on your ability to comprehend the language so you don't keep having this need to shift the goal post whenever you want.🥱🥱

The dictionary meaning of the term is what we ought to be working with here, not your private meaning/delusion. 🥱🥱🥱

DiarisGodoo:
How so?
What didn't I comprehend?

You were asked:

How many female doctors do you know are married to male nurses. Heck, how many female nurses do you even know are married to male nurses?

There are about 6 weeks left in the year. I suggest you pick up and read some good books, even if grade school level ones so you can improve your upon your comprehension skills before 2026. 🥱🥱🥱

Hypnotise:
Madam, his seven hundred wives led him astray. Do you need your reading glasses to see verse 3 clearly, before jumping as usually to vs 6?

🥱🥱🥱🥱🥱

DiarisGodoo:
✓ A woman dying or being ready to die for her child, would you consider that love or "attachment"?

Most men or women who supposedly die for their children do so convincing themselves they are doing it for what they believe is the greater good, the notion that somehow somewhere there is some glory to be gained by them for doing so. The other side of that is they are ready to go -- depression can fork your mind that bad --- and convince themselves that might as well do it for some imagined glory anyways.

Yeah, humans always have a reason behind their actions. Otherwise, we would not be humans at all.

DiarisGodoo:
✓ Ok, let's get AI to settle the extremely obvious (below)

How many female doctors do you know married to male nurses. Heck, how many female nurses do you even know are married to male nurses?

I can see now that lack of comprehension is really strong with you. 🥱🥱🥱