₦airaland Forum

nahr:
➜No he doesn't. My mum has chickens so we keep them inside the baskets.

What do you mean "your mom has chickens"? No be the two of them dey eat the chicken?

nahr:
We have a coconut tree in our compound and whenever my dad trims the fronds he uses it to make baskets. He is retired bdw.

That's a nice hobby to have!

geoworldedu:
➜You didn't read the article

The OP initially had it that he passed on in the title of the thread.🥱🥱🥱

Also, nothing in the article indicates that the man did not die of illness or unfortunate circumstances, since the ones who claimed he was not sick were not professionals or even individuals who had insight into his medical or mental condition at the time. 🥱🥱🥱

Ukeh1w2:
➜I have been pressured by my uncle to tie the knot with my woman which we already have two kids. I made him understand when we spoked about it last April that I wasn't ready, yet he kept pressuring me that it doesn't matter. We should go see her people, that he specifically will help see me through this financially and even our family both extended will come together to support. That I shouldn't fear. I took his words for it, and we finally went last month for introduction and they mentioned all what I will provide for the bride price..the traditional list was long that my woman even had to plea to her people on my behalf for them to reduce. To cut it all short, I have been calling my uncle for some days now, he doesn't pick like he use to. When I try to discuss the marriage and how the preparation will be, he goes all quiet like he has forgot about what he said. I don't know what to do, I have no fund's that can take me out of this mess. My woman people are currently waiting for me. I need help

. Are you at least paying child support to the woman for the children you have with her?

sureboykris:
➜Passing on does not negate the fact that he might have died of Ill health

Yeah right! 🙄🙄🙄

Passing on is a term used to describe the deaths of the elderly who died of natural causes. A 62-year-old's death is rarely natural, but due to illness or unfortunate circumstances.

osuulola:
....

Passes on? He was 62 and likely died of illness or some other unfortunate event. Wetin be passes on? It is time we start demanding a reason for deaths and not this nonsense abeg! 🙄🙄🙄

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Solofresh2:
✓ Am just thinking she won't feel so entitled in the future

Children learn best by example. You have to show her how not to be entitled and this is by you setting and enforcing boundaries for her to either adhere to or face the consequences for. If you do not teach her that entitlement mentality is wrong by, for instance, correcting her misconceptions, and maybe even cutting her off or having her earn the rewards you have for her, how will she learn not to feel entitled?

alphaNomega:
✓ that you know one person who it has happened to you or you read stories like these on gossip sites like nairaland? how?

An uncommon scenario is a scenarios that is commonly obtainable...not a one off or of gossip.

Kaido:
With money, he will only find fake love.

But there is no such thing as True love. And those who have money don't really go looking for true love but for a partner that their money can afford them on the most part -- transactional partnership aka love which is what we mostly know as humans.

Kaido:
With money, he will only find fake love.

Start by telling us what this true love is then since you pretend to know of it. Also, tell is how you discovered that it exists amon to those who are poor.

Solofresh2:
This girl now feel so entitlement to my things now because have been gifting her stuffs.She is my step sister and in secondary school education SS2 .I took over paying her school fees even before we lost our dad last year.Her mum is dead and she is the only child.My siblings had asked me to be careful with her but I loved her so much and I used to feel pity for her.Though I am single close to my late 20s I decided to take responsibilities of her education because my dad stopped working a long time ago because of his health.
She now feel so entitled and I just hope it won't get out of hand in the future What do you think guys?

At this age, you still don't know how to set boundaries and enforce them?

Bigdickmoney:
➜Not entirely true. The intention was not to use her to get visa at first.

It doesn't matter whether it was at first or not, so long as you have something you are looking to use her for, you don't get to come here and label her as the bad person like you did. Start opening up and telling the truth if you're truly seeking a solution.

Bigdickmoney:
I own the house I just put her name on the contract.

First of all, the police, even in the UK, would not throw a man out of his house if he were a victim in an assault case. You came here and claimed otherwise. Why?

Second, if you really own the place and are not guilty of assault, your best bet to getting the lady off your property is the police, but you already accused them of not following the law. So, are you certain you are ready to get the woman out of your life or not?

Bigdickmoney:
➜It’s not like that anyway. It’s not because of nanny part of the reason I Dey the relationship na because of visa

You dey gain from her and you come dey tell us say na she be bad person, abi?

Bigdickmoney:
➜This is Uk bro. Women come first before a man.

The other post was right in insisting that there is something you were not telling us, and it turns out you were just using the gal to get yourself a visa.

xtianchris:
I guess you confused with what I'm saying.
Once a man has positioned himself all these the Op is saying won't come up...

Nonsense! 🥱🥱

Positioned himself, how? Keep running all over the place with this vague and meaningless bullsheet you lot are notorious for. When you are done, come back and admit that you are the one who has been confused from the start!🙄🙄

xtianchris:
➜I guess you writing From experience I doubt if you understand what I wrote there
😂😂😂 Is it your Poverty ... There's poverty love. ..Love have link with Poverty and That's UCHU. ..😂😂🤣🤣😂😂.
➜ I than by what I said. if a Man is cleaned up the rest his history

Poverty/struggle love is to be blessed for the over 100 million Nigerians existing under abject poverty conditions today. Is that the love you are telling OP about — this selfish and wicked rebooting of struggle on millions just because?

2. If poverty is his history and present, what does it matter what else he imagines is cleaned up?

xtianchris:
➜As a man once you arrange and position yourself Everything will align...

Like the over 20 million married Nigerian men living in abject poverty today, abi? 🥱🥱🥱

Misery really does love company! 🙄🙄🙄

Kingogbotor:
➜To find money...hard...to find true love..hard....To even sleep ...hard

Without money, you will never find true love. You can find a broken/damaged individual— a person who does not even begin to know how to love oneself(people who don't first have self-love and self-culture don't know how to love) —to be with, but love... nah. No way!

Noblejohn32:
➜Op, tradition is tradition. When you grow old, you'll see it in a different light. It's just the African way of life. Marriage is honourable and it's only mandatory to settle some rites.

Which of your many traditions is honorable? Name a couple, and tell us why, in 2025, knowing all we now know, they are honorable?

Hhh4444:
kobo, people still wear slippers to dates...guys and gals wear slippers to dates. If I'm on a date with a gal and her slippers gets spoilt,I won't judge her with that. If there is anyway I can help her,I would do that. Anybody that abandons you because your slippers got spoilt on a date should not be in your life. It means if worse situation should occur,she would not hesitate to ditch you.

Not when you barely know each other enough to be that casual. 🥱🥱🥱

Hhh4444:
✓ what standard are you talking about?That the guy's slippers accidentally got spoilt should now be considered a redflag? It's something that can happen to anyone no matter how careful you are... it's why I prefer wearing shoes sometimes cos I know shoes are more reliable but that doesn't mean I will now crucify the guy cos his slippers disgraced him.

So you know of standard yet pretended that women requiring them are silly? You think you are smart by half,abi? 🥱🥱🥱

immortalcrown:
✓ Prove your claim or remain the joker you are already known for.
I never implied that marriage list is a bribe. My point is that giving your in-laws all or part of whatever is on the list is your responsibility. It is the same way you buying clothes for your parents to attend your wedding is your responsibility despite the fact that nobody makes it compulsory for you to do so.

See this one thinking he is smart by half..🥱🥱🥱

OP, if you don't want a marriage list, date a girl who would want to bypass all that traditional nonsense and get married at the registry instead. 🥱🥱🥱

[quote author=immortalcrown post=137331827✓ Define bribe. Bribe is what you offer to either get what you don't deserve or to get what you deserve through a shaddy means.
✓ No sane person is proud of bribe. Bribe is a shameful thing.
✓ Settling your in-laws is same as feeding your children and paying the children's school fees.
✓ Settling your in-laws is your responsibility. It is wrong for you to term it bribe.[/quote]1. Was it not your intention to suggest that the marriage list is intended to bribe them in order that they attend future occasions?

2. "No sane person is proud of bribe", yet you literally informed us that the marriage list is meant as a bribe to get the extended family to show up for occasions? 🥱🥱

3. But after settling them, you would still need to also feed your children and pay their school fees ba?

4. Even the language you use makes it all too clear you see it as a form of bribery.

immortalcrown:
✓ And the court shall represent your in-laws whenever you want to do things like naming ceremony, child dedication, or burial.
Every choice has benefits and consequences.

Ah, I see! So, you literally have to bribe your family members and in-laws for them to show up for you on those occasions listed? The dysfunctionality packed in that statement you posted there cannot even be described with mere words. 😩😩😩

Sirchiboy:
Any girl I intend to marry , and the family bring out marriage list then that is the end.
What is the meaning of marriage list?
Bride price is enough.
Nothing like marriage list in the holy book.

Go do court marriage and you won't have to worry about a list. That is however no excuse to marry in poverty. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

blacksam01:
➜At 85..? U will hardly HV good memories of data ND names

There are people who are over 100 years of age still living in cities and with good memory.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IGLHFe3yL1U?si=NwQWKCEsgDq-QcNY

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YBCMcE3bPxU?si=nKQ0SkQFfjHc370L

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iwSR399-CUE?si=CU_ISkzANCU5GZc6

Hhh4444:
I hope he learnt his lessons with this before it's too late...these gals don't even deserve to be taken on a date... ordinary say slippers cut,she block you... imagine what she would have done if something worse happened. I stopped all these nonsense dates since last year. If you no fit come my house then rest...No time for any nonsense date.

You mean women are not allowed to have standards as far as the bare minimum that they would date?

GAS76:
What if the guy did that intentionally just to test the babe? The guy might possibly have done that to hide his identity.

He intentionally went out to humiliate himself in front of a girl he spent time and effort trying to woo? 🤔🤔

Oizee:
I have shared this with my husband, I don beg the man taya to reduce unnecessary pressure, he worry over things that I feel is no big deal if we can't achieve it now, even if I pay children's school fees, when he has he would still return it saying it's his responsibility as if they are not mine as well.

May God protect every responsible father and husband out there. Daddy oyoyo is a gift our kids needs to say to Daddies all the time.

Which God to protect what? You better save up for yourself and for the future of those children. 🫤😃

Better go outside of your bubble there to see the many households that Daddy Oyoyo abandon in misery afterwards. That God you dey talk of no like or protect those ones, abi?

Mathantics:
➜I have heard about hook-up, it's girls that do it, Do men also involve in hookup? If yes, then how?

Yes! The how is the exact same way the women do it. You can maybe ask the hook-up girls out there where the guys also doing hookup hang out.

MONEY247:
I have never been into any relationship..... I mean I just wake up go to work sleep, eat, pray, and thank God.
Nobody calls except family and work, and wrong numbers 🤣.. I do not like girls.. Or women because I think they can be too much....Sometimes...
I have not been in a relationship.... I tried that manisfestaion shit, and I manisfested shit... She likes money too much... I tried online dating app, got billing on the first day of chat... I just got tired. I mean how do you guys do it, people in relationships

Romantic relationships are simply not for everyone, is all.

nurudeen181:
➜Atleast this one get recorded and shared and the government has seen it, why not allow the government do their job and hey, people like me aint special, i guess people like you are the problems, because you talk too much instead of acting or letting others do their job

Are you sure you are OK at all?