₦airaland Forum

GreenCovering:
➜Yes you are wrong because it is haram for women to be traded for price.
➜ Reason: her consent must be sought for marriage. That is the example that The Prophet (sallAllahu alaihi wa sallam) showed.
➜ You cook up lies in your coven against Islam to come and be spreading in a public forum.

1. It is haram yet women are literally traded by way of a bargain that is sanctioned by Sharia Law every single day?

Consent from a 4-15-year-old girl whom you literally brainwashed from the time she was in diapers into believing that her happiness in life(and in death since muslim women are giving suffering in this life to gain happiness in muslim heaven afterwards) is only guaranteed by her continued obedience and acceptance of everything you bring upon her as her father? (You, as her father—or as husband— are literally a god over her existence.) Get the f-k out of here! 🙄🙄🙄

3. Dude, you suck at faking denial of the facts of your religion! 🥱🥱🥱

adams123:
➜what's the fault of Islam here??

Her father sold her at 15 to her first husband under the Islamic system(probably the Muta'a system) since he later resold her to the next highest bidder. Sharia law allows for women to be traded for a price. Is that wrong?

SPAMBOX7:
➜Make she first advise her family members to follow her advise.

Given your traditional system, almost every family in that country is probably impacted by the same.

grandstar:
➜She has a point but the way she worded it sounds like an entitlement.The man needs to be spoken to empathically. He has been hurt greatly. Swiftly abandoning the child is wrong (Read Proverbs 14:12, 16:25). It's no better than a wife dumping her husband the second she finds out he has a child outside.
➜There's need to meditate on what to do, and assisting him to reach a positive conclusion should be the goal Many men have brought up their wife's affair baby.

It ain't even close to the same. Why? Because there literally are no bonds between the wives and the children these men have outside of their marriages.

2. As someone who sees no problem with adopting and raising children that are literally born to total strangers, I think the lawyer has a point, but too many are blind to these.

mrkings84:
My own be say people should mind the way they run their mouths when they hear matters like this because if their papa decide to run a DNA test on them, the matter go be just like this one.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Arostar2023:
➜If the mother was raped, why didn't she tell her husband? There are things you don't hide in marriage because when it blows open the consequences may be painful.

She should tell her husband, who will likely cast her out as a useless woman on top of all of the trauma of rape?

Shedrack777:
➜ is everything okay with you up there? A married woman is supposed to use protection when trying to cheat on her husband, that is if she must cheat.
➜What concerns my gender with putting the seed inside of a married woman? she's the one who brought herself to him so he can do anyhow he wish to her.
➜In a nutshell a married woman should stop cheating simple

. Not if she intended to have children to maintain her status as a married woman; not if she is to save her reputation in a society that believes women without children are damaged specimens; not where the glory of her husband— his fertility— was in question.

2. So, blame the women and not the men who supply them with sperm? lol.

3. The same way married men have stopped cheating, right?

Mathewrichard99:
Nothing is as good as government legalizing compulsory DNA test as soon as a child is born to be conducted in Njgeria to ascertain the paternity just as being done in Namibia, Kuwait and Australia........with that, there would be less paternity fraud......

You no dey read, abi?

Namibia does not have a single "DNA system" but rather several systems for different purposes, including a developing system for wildlife crime forensics, a proposed but currently rejected mandatory paternity testing system, and existing systems for criminal investigations and medical purposes. A recent proposal for mandatory paternity testing for all newborns was rejected by the Ministry of Justice, which currently has no plans for it.

Dukeofotukpo:
➜Sharp sharp thebot of you are leaving my house[b] the woman go collect beating for street[/b] I go arrange that one down for am

I hope she is intelligent enough to charge you for assault and ensure you are jailed and charged for it too.

Cerebellum:
I still find it hard to comprehend how a man will be giving money to a lady all because of relationship, so amusing Even when men still dey street dey game, A go just give you raba like that? I'll rather still task collect from ur papa

But that amusing fact is what your ancestors saw fit for men to bring to their relationship with the women they chose. A man brings money, whereas a woman is expected to uproot her life and join the man in accomplishing what are his dreams and aspirations in this life.

Think about it, apart from financial resources/material provisions, what else can a man provide a woman with that a woman is unable/incapable of obtaining for herself outside of a relationship with the man?

Amumaigwe:
✓ You people are created never to take responsibility. Blame the shameful act of adultery and paternity fraud by your gender on the 'other' party as usual

Visit your traditional history to understand why many of you are probably not related to the men you call your fathers.

Juliearth:
✓ Though I'm not an authority in this field, one thing I know is that in-laws can vert much lead to the annulment of a union. A man should be able to define boundaries between his wife and his family. Not abandoning the latter, but ensuring that they understand the new arrangement. This is necessary especially if the in-laws "do not like" the wife

How many men do what you say ? Not many that is why the women should instead be informed of her powers in marriage as well. 🥱🥱🚈

OLAADEGBU:
According to multiple sources familiar with the development, Edun’s collapse was not due to a medical condition alone but allegedly linked to a shocking security revelation that left him terrified.

Tales by moonlight! 🥱🥱🥱

blacksam01:
✓ You are twisting the fact... It is her husband who lives money more than his family....
He sold his family for a million dollar

Like her father who sold her as a child bride did not love money more than his daughter? 🙄🙄🙄

Yes,all those almajiris literally abandoned on the streets across Nigeria are so loved by their fathers and/or husbands, abi no be so?

Outthemudbyvoke:
✓ She was not smart enough. There was a time in that relationship when she was the courted bride, and source of happiness to the narcissistic Aliyu Abubakar in question. She enjoyed attention and huge sums of money from him on her request. She relaxed thinking it would continue forever, and now crying foul, seeking for help at media houses now that he has discovered a new gold mine sleeping with her daughter and sees her as conquered.

The thing is you never know when the billionaire would change. I also made the same mistake but I invested in so many high end gadgets so it was easy to liquidate them to sponsor my exit if not I would have remained a slave.

This is easy for you to say since you were not literally brainwashed from birth into believing that obeying your husband is the only way you can get Islamic heaven after your suffering.(yes, Islam for women is literally about suffering on this earth to gain joy-- or what resembles joy --in their heaven after death.)😒🥱🥱🥱

Yes, it is nonsensical comparing the intelligence of a child bride to the intelligence of a graphic designer with skills and education to booth.🙄🙄🙄

nurudeen181:
✓ I went through the comments and i see no logical comments just hate and blames and religious fanatics... Nothing substantial. No one asked what does she think was her mistake, did she drag anything with him and he said he will make her regret, was she in any way not what he expected to have as his wife. Men dont just abandon women. Women push them. Who knows maybe he ran for his life. If he had died, all we'll hear was he died of an infection or slept and didn't wake up

You assume there exists justification for of spousal and child abandonment? 😒😒

Avedonn:
➜No, American Movie. You should check it out.

If it the same old movie that we have all seen, then it is nothing like what is described here, given that the character in that movie was not a slave— she had a choice in the decision — unlike this woman here and her daughter, who is now being used by the man supposed to be her stepfather.

budaatum:
➜Sorry, but I beg to differ. Common means just about everyone can easily have it. As in, no effort is required for its acquisition. While superior sense requires a lot of effort, which makes it not common to all.

Locate a dictionary immediately if you are struggling with this one.

com·mon sense
(noun)
noun: common sense; noun: commonsense; modifier noun: common-sense

good sense and sound judgment in practical matters.

budaatum:
➜I'm my own opinion that's even worse, because common things are stuff one easily finds on the streets with very little effort, while much effort is required for superior sense use.

Common sense is not easily found on the streets. Great effort — knowledge and understanding — is necessary to locate it.

ERockson:
According to common sense and moral tradition

Just so you know, moral traditions differ from culture to culture, heck, from religious denomination to religious denomination. There is no standard moral tradition that everyone follows. Since this is an Islamic-only allowed case, that is why I ask if the standard you invoke is related to Islam or not.

Jayhome24:
➜She had four kids for her Lebanesse husband but Aliyu changed the name of those kids to his name after marriage. Are those kids his kids in real sense? Pls dnt tell me about legal adoption its all scam. Let her go back home with her kids Aliyu is jot the father of those kids. Rest!!!

And here I thought I was conversing with a being of at least some intelligence.

ERockson:
Go and research it though morally wrong

Morally wrong according to whom? You or Islam?

Heffalump:
Reading through the lengthy story, my ears started painting me. This woman was sold into slavery by her ex- husband. Is this actually possible in real life? Anyway, there people that don't value life, especially those who live perpetually in violence, like Lebanese.

Na everyday occurrence in Islam be this beginning with parents selling their children for as little as $100 in some cases.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GpmcDj5AtMA?si=TNmwII6RbEBXxYyL

Jayhome24:
➜Read the article again about the kids you will realise you are the one to keep quiet. Read and Read again.

You clearly missed reading comprehension lessons back in primary school.

Chimex002:
Despite her emotional turmoil, she eventually agreed to marry the businessman in mid-2014, hoping for stability.

“After our marriage, Aliyu changed all my children’s names to his. They now bear Aliyu Abubakar as their surname. But not long after, he began saying he could not continue spending on another man’s children,” she recalled.
SaharaReporters sighted the Nigerian passports of the children, which confirmed that they all bear the name of Aliyu Abubakar.
In an effort to keep the peace, Suhair said she gave birth to twins for him, whom he named Marwa and Safa. But things worsened instead of improving.
“Since then, Aliyu has not been nice to me. He has abandoned me and my children and left us to suffer. I can’t even go back to my country because I need his permission to travel with my children; they are all recognised as his,” she lamented.
The woman further made a shocking allegation that the oil mogul is having an affair with her own daughter, Zainab, one of the children he allegedly adopted after paying her former husband.
“The most painful of all this is that Aliyu is having an affair with my daughter, Zainab. He is married to me and sleeping with my child,” she alleged.

Avedonn:
This issue is similar to a movie titled "indecent Proposal."

Na Islamic movie be that?

Jayhome24:
➜Madam its so shameful that your husband a Lebanesse sold you out with his kids for 1million dollars. Pls madam just find your way back to Lebanon Embassy or Consulate or Lebanesse community here to get you a tickets with your kids back to Lebanon. You made big mistake madam for being sold out and still went ahead to marry this kind of a man, you goofed badly.

Her own parents sold her into marriage at the age of 15. Why should she head back to Lebanon when the man who bought her next is a Nigerian and she now has Nigerian children? Abeg, keep quiet if you have nothing better to say.

ERockson:
According to Islamic law or doctrine, it is permitted for Aliyu to marry the lady's daughter..

Even after he changed their last names to his own?

budaatum:
➜Oi! I'm feminist too! ..

I have never been a feminist.... I am a common-senser!

Shedrack777:
➜when you supported what the married ex in-law did, you didn't care to know where his funds were coming from, whether it belongs to both him and his wife or him alone. So why asking now when the table were turned for the source of his funds.
➜ And again you asked if he went over to their house and meet them celebrating it? The clearly stated that it happened not once, maybe multiple times, meaning; they either come to his house and talk about it or they usually call his wife when he's with her to discuss it.
Kobo let's call a spade, a spade

1. All we know is that a man who happens to be the ex of OP's wife gave money and gifts to OP's wife's family. We don't know the why of the gift, so I have no reason to judge or condemn the gift-giving. How is that the same as supporting? Why are you folks so intent on interpreting this according to what are obviously private delusions?

2. No, it doesn't. OP didn't say it happened more than once or that it happened over at their house. That was me assuming it happened as I described, since the OP did not provide details; please read to comprehend before responding. 🥱🥱🥱