₦airaland Forum

yinkeys:
You cannot take a joke lol

So that one na joke? I don already imagine you living in astronaut suits while on Earth.

Mosco100:
➜No. He has rights in his marriage; that's what I'm defending, not his sin.

That makes absolutely no sense since the grounds for accusing her come not from marriage but religion, where you admitted earlier that he, too, is a sinner.🥱🥱🥱

Selynbriel:
Was told that there's more to this, the husband friend wey dey same barracks with the guy said his wife came to visit and caught him with another lady and both got into a heated argument the husband threaten to set her ablaze she then called the barrack OC on phone to complain to him but they didn't respond
That it's the husband that set himself ablaze. That he is the one always beating his wife Say na the guy buy d petrol dey threaten his wife. That he will burn her alive And when he put d fuel light the house on fire the thing consume him first That he even beat her one time till she miscarriage a pregnancy. She is cleared and back home to her parents Well, I believe the both of them new one of them is short tempered
But still went ahead to marry

That is some f-cked up crazy story right there. 😣😣😣

Jman06:
➜This is what happens when people marry for the infatuation they usually refer to as "love"! Just within six months of marriage, they've become tired of the fine faces and hot bodies and now want to start demanding accountability from each other! At this point, they start seeing all the faults they allowed infatuation to block them from seeing ab initio.
True love does not hurt , rather it forgives readily even without being asked to. It does not bear grudges nor get so angry with their lover to the point of desiring to hurt them. True love is gentle, slow to anger and emphasizes communication rather than rage!
In this generation, people don't marry for true love but for infatuation and selfish considerations! God forbid that I get so angry with the one I love to the point of hurting her! It can never happen

Nonsense! Like this, here, does not describe the vast majority of marriages out there. Come on naw!

Anyway, I heard the woman has been cleared of the crime. So?

motionarena:
Latest update
She has been freed of any wrongdoing Its believed to be an accident on the husband part

What exactly happened to the man? Someone should open a thread to present the latest on the case to clear this woman, as the comments on here have her described as some sort of banshee!

yinkeys:
➜When the Nephilims return Most Women will cheat on regular male humans with them It’s that crave for dark triad personalities
Find and keep a good kingdom woman, if you ever find one

Nephilims return? This one don drop off planet earth completely! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

hafeeanubasy:
➜Don't mind them. I married my wife at 22yrs and she has been the most responsible woman I have ever seen

. So, because you supposedly married your wife when she was 22, every other woman out there who gets pregnant at 22 should also consider marriage? Why are you people like this?

Is this story of yours any different from the stories told by some religious nutjobs that because their god married a 6-year-old girl, therefore, every other one of them should also be able to marry other 6-year-old girls?

Gotocourt:
➜Get baby mama and rest

I blame baby mamas who make themselves cheap and available to your kind. If you had to share custody of your child, where you would need to have and raise them two weeks out of each month, I doubt you would come here announcing babymamas as an alternative to marriage.

kingthreat:
➜ There's nothing as beautiful as family. Don't let bad stories dissuade you from enjoying total happiness. Simply do your due caution by marrying right.

Family na im own special kind of delusion o! There are many men and woman out there surrounded by this same thing you call family, yet are so lonely and empty on the inside.

gmo10:
➜The lady is free and home 💯 and this is a fact that can be independently verified by all. Many might know her family. It's quite unfortunate many just copied and pasted the wrong story about this lady without fact checking.

You mean the story that had her as the killer was not based on facts? Yikes! Please create a separate thread to clear this woman's name with any evidence you have collected.

Ihenzy:
➜This thing sounds like a joke but there is a lady I tried wooing earlier this year. She was serving and on one occasion I suspected she was serving because of a guy there so I cut off. Recently, I initiated conversation again only to find out she's pregnant. She's 22 and a graduate sha. Funny enough she's a strong advocate of morals online. I'm glad she's fine and ready to overcome her fears especially seeing that a lot would criticise her for what they've come to recognise her

Strong advocate of what moral lines? She is pregnant in Nigeria, with the economy the way it is, and you insist we believe she is fine and ready to overcome her fears? Her own case na alien situation?

wunmi590:
So if your mama and papa no born you, how you go come take exist? Choi, every malam with him kettle 😆

The 25% other people of your own papa and mama's generation who no born nko? Why must he live life according to his father's template? Are you here to inflict on the world the same playbook that is your papa and your mama?

Stop trying to force people who are not mentally equipped for such a struggle culture into signing up for what they should not.

Bigchris01:
➜You sef join them, So why are engaging me! Did you see anywhere in my post when I talked about being defraud or the men complaining? Abeg quietly look your front otherwise I go change am for you.

There is nothing shameful or criminal about her being an OnlyFans content creator. Stop pretending there should be.

Martinez39s:
➜Smh. Actions have consequences, and I'm big on that. If I repeatedly warned you against something and told you the actions I would take if you disobeyed, then you only have yourself to blame if you disobey. If you get ruined, then it is all you.

Not insinuating that actions should not have consequences. Rather, I am insisting that we not keep replaying the same failed formulas of the past, expecting new results each time we do.

Qualty5:
No matter the challenges [b]we cannot do without getting married to each othe[/b]r it is better than to have baby mamas everywhere

Records instead have it that about 25% of the population — both men and women— remain single for their entire lifetime. So, why do you continue to trade these obvious lies? For what purpose if not to continue to deceive people into signing contracts they have no reason to? 🥱🥱🥱

Comfortableme:
Wait, una wey don marry how is it going? It's like the good wife's has been married off. Because na almost every day I dey see news of wife killing her husband, one even use knife cut her husband preak. Am in my 40s but let marriage go to dungeon. No wife, no kids am good. My mama no kill my papa make one woman no come make my family cry over me.
Ire ooo

Marriage has never been by force, so make we hear word,o'jare! 🥱🥱

EarthKing:
➜That's quite correct. The problem is, how do you even define a good man/woman in this context? The general consensus of a bad man in Nigeria, is when you are care free, look tattered, do dr*gs and other similar vice. But that's not true. Some unassuming fellows with innocent look can be more dangerous. So, the concept of being a good man, or a bad man is subject.
I feel, people cheat, because they want to.

That is an irrelevant question, given that no matter how good or bad you decide a person is, he/she does not deserve to be cheated on.

Cheating is not a fault on the part of the one being cheated on, but an abuse— emotional and physical abuse(since cheating puts the partner in potential harm)— of that person by the one doing the cheating.

bigpicture001:
➜HV u thought about the limited resources u hv to train ur remaining 3 children will now b used on 5 children.... Dnt u think it will breed poverty..?

The resources to raise the child have to come from the girl and the father of the child. They are both old enough to make children, so they should both be responsible for the well-being of that child themselves.
Grandparents(on both sides)can contribute now and then, but the bulk of the burden should be placed on both the man and woman who conceived said child.

ajalawole:
➜what happen in fulfilling her career whole still in marriage.
➜ Abi she is first person to be a career woman and still in marriage. Una go dey support stwpidty for this forum.

First of all, not every marriage provides an atmosphere conducive enough for a woman to strive and thrive in her life and career. So, I guess my question to you would be why you assume that marriage automagically provides such a benefit to all people.

2. She may not be the first career woman, but that should not be a reason enough for why she should not step out of that which does not work for her and her career, should it?

goodman41:
➜Please, i need your advice should I go ahead to get her number or should I forget about her?
Remember I to them that am married. But I didn't tell them that am devoiced.

First, make absolutely sure to divorce your wife; if you have children, file for shared/joint custody of them so you will continue to have access to care for and raise your own children. Then you can freely go after this woman.

Bukola94:
➜So deep, I understand your point, but I still prefer too good husband or too good wives. And I will try not to cheat on them.

Most people do not go into relationship planning to cheat. They do everything they can to avoid it. However, when those cracks from their past begin rearing their ugly heads while they are in a relationship, it becomes of absolutely no importance whether they are in a relationship with a good wife(s) or a good husband(s). It becomes merely a battle of personal resolve/will.

bewisemasses:
It has to do with lack of excitement. Good men r actually boring to be with. that's what makes them good. Girls love flirty talks with sweet talk even though they r lies. Good men cant pretend or lie and ladies take that to mean they don't love them.

Nonsense! 🥱🥱🥱

LoneSoldier:
➜I don't think there is anything complex about relationship, if you know you gonna cheat on a good man, why not tell him you don't like him anymore and move to the person you want to cheat with.

Ever heard of the concept of monkey-branching or the psychology behind it? You should spend more time investigating it.

Bukola94:
it is not natural to commit adultery, many believes and most religions go against it. That is why Islamic religion encourage polygamous, if you are capable.but people criticise it. Traditional marriage and others don't go against multiple wives too

. People rightly criticize it because even those men who engage in polygamous relationships are not immune to committing adultery in the end. The same is observed with the traditional religions as well. Additionally, they also make no provision for women who could also commit adultery. If the man is allowed to marry multiple wives, why is the woman not equally allowed to marry multiple husbands or have a harem of her own? 🙄🙄

Religions of every kind seem to target and glorify the male ego over common sense(or all genders).

LoneSoldier:
✓ Again with the "I was with him when he had nothing"
I don't even know the drunkard that invented that lame line, every man hustles and suffer to make it on there own, he didn't make it because of you madam.

The badge of honor that some women typically love to boast links back to men. It was cooked up by men who insisted that women be willing to submit themselves to men even when the man literally has nothing to his name.

FriendsAndFans:
➜But is she married now? That's the big question

Because marriage is the ultimate prize and measure of success in life and relationships, right?

Bukola94:
Please speak for yourself only, if I see a too good man or too good woman, it will bring out the best in me. And my mind will be at peace

. Actually, cheating has nothing to do with the person in front of one but with tangled-up emotions from one's own past. Most times we cheat, we do so to fill up some sort of void inside of ourselves; childhood traumas and unresolved longings from our pasts. These voids can, of course, never be filled by others.

brain54:
✓ A 22 year adult is old enough to make her own decisions...
And to take responsibility and consequences of whatever follows from her decisions!

The same way you have to abide by the tems and conditions set by your landlord is the same way OP can go about imposing terms and conditions on her while she lives under his roof.

Martinez39s:
✓ I would ask her who the father is. Regardless of the answer, I would tell her to get her baby and go camp with the guy who impregnated her. As father, you must warn your daughters early on to avoid unwanted pregnancy or at aleast make sure they get pregnant for a guy who is capable and willing to house and take care of them and their kids.
If you get pregnant for a guy, you are leaving my house to go stay with him and I won't be responsible for you and your child. If the guy happens to be a bum or one irresponsible bad boy who wants nothing to do with you and your child, tough luck and go fend for yourself.

Like this formula has ever worked out, the many millions of times it has been rebooted before now. All you do by foisting your daughter on the same person who didn't think before impregnating her is increase the chances of her ruin and that of your grandchildren, too.

We need to start thinking with that brain we claim to have. 🥱🥱

bigpicture001:
✓ HV u thought about the limited resources u hv to train ur remaining 3 children will now b used on 5 children....
Dnt u think it will breed poverty..?

Your 22-year-old needs to go out and hustle to raise that child. The father of that child also needs to hustle to raise that child too, assuming he is a jobless boy somewhere. If he is not, then he should either be paying child support or having to take care of the child at least 2 weeks out of each month. The first should be the better option both for your daughter's sake and the baby's. This agreement should be formalized to ensure the man is unable to drop the child off with relatives when it is his turn to care for it. .

bigpicture001:
✓ What about her child

The baby is your grandchild and your blood. You should do all you can to protect it by ensuring, if possible, that both the father and mother raise it properly and with love. I am not suggesting you force them into marriage. Rather, you can help them work out a court-sanctioned schedule that includes the child in both their lives—not just your daughter's life.

Again, if both your daughter and the boy who impregnated her have court-approved shared/joint custody, then they will both need to spare time to take care of the child. Instead of having just the one person --- your daughter, most likely -- having to sacrifice all of her life and dreams to raise the child.