₦airaland Forum

Arizoner:
➜Omo, some of these gals that work in bars are baddies. I say make i come out naso i see one barlady dey shake her yash for customer. This was someone i was admiring for her dedication to work

. You found her shaking her arse for a customer and immediately took that to mean she is not dedicated to her work? How? 🥱🥱🥱

Abi, na because she no shake her arse your way, as you sit as monitoring spirit over her work culture, na him you decide to open thread on nairaland to insult her 🥱🥱🥱

emmaodet:
➜Don't mind him. He is still talking about true Love in this era. He is still asleep. Na who Love epp?

True/Eternal love na religious fraud, the same way "Till death do us part," na religious fraud.

emmaodet:
➜They will have to get used to the wide age gap because most of their boys/males in their age group they will like to date actually won't be ready when they are ready.

They don't need to do that since they can make their own money, unlike their mothers and grandmothers before them.

jay1409:
Thank you very much, I really appreciate your idea

A lot of times loneliness is not really about having friends and family but more about having unresolved emotional problems that remain unresolved inside of one. Please spend some time online, do some research on your actual symptoms to determine if merely making friends will resolve your particular type of issues.🤔

Fyi, there are lots of people out there who have no friends yet are not lonely at all. Why? Because they have learned to not only develop self-love but also realize that the best friend and companion one can have is oneself.

WizardOfNG:
➜Lol. I believe you live in the USA and know the reality there. Don't come on a Nigerian forum thinking it's full of simpletons you can browbeat
➜ You can argue with the good Doctor below since ,if we get down into it, we not what the materialism culture of blacks is really and indicator of.

The reality I know is that most Nigerians in the USA claim first to be Nigerians and Americans second(for those who are citizens). A high number of them carry their Nigerianess and culture on their head. You see this in the fact that there are Nigerian communities, churches, shops/markets wherever you find many of these Nigerians. They would rather date and marry their fellow Nigerians first before considering people from other races in this same U.S. 🥱🥱🥱

2. Your good doctor is no one to me. 🥱🥱🥱

Idemma:
➜A Nigerian man, together with his wife and three children, has been reportedly deported from the United Kingdom (UK). The family’s deportation reportedly followed a visa dispute that arose shortly after their arrival in the country.
Visa Dispute Triggers Family Trouble
According to TikTok user @the.story.town, the woman in the family obtained the UK visa while her husband and children traveled with her as dependents. Tensions reportedly began when the woman asserted authority over her husband, threatening to remove him from the visa because he was only listed as a dependent.
Husband Removed from Visa. The disagreement escalated, and the woman allegedly removed her husband from the visa, putting his legal status in jeopardy. Additionally, a young girl was included on the visa under the claim that she was their child. The husband reported to the UK Home Office that this was false, prompting authorities to cancel the entire visa for the family.

These una stories no dey add up. Please provide a link to the direct source of the story and not silly gossip. 🥱🥱🥱

GloriousGbola:
➜...as a parent - this is something i realise one needs to teach ones daughter about - october rush and distractions and how you can forget what you came to school for...

Sons as well need to be taught to not continue traditions that really amount to nothing in the way of actual benefits to their days and lives after all is said and done.

Look at OP, even after 6 years of college, still believing that the October rush will make or break his love and relationship life, not realizing it does not even begin to amount to anything in the end.

jay1409:
Hi, good evening. I hope you all are doing well? I'm lonely and I want to make friends. Please feel free to comment so we can talk. Thank you for your attention to this matter

. Why not start by honing your social skills using those around you? Yes, step outside of your current room and go say "Hi," to those around you. Do that every day and try to advance to saying other things to them as the days and weeks go by.

WizardOfNG:
➜Lol. They are Americans. American values, especially crass materialism in the black community, defines both of them.
There are many reality shows in the USA today featuring empty and vapid black folks who are about nothing other than bling, luxury spa visit, beauty-enhancing surgeries, fine dining, lounging on Yatches etc.
Whereas most are even too dumb to keep control of their spending meaning they quickly slide into debt and bankruptcy while continuing to fool the world they are balling.
These two became broke spending to keep up appearances.

They are Americans because they were caught in fraud, but are Nigerians if they had won medals or presidential honors?

Comfortableme:
➜Do you remember that Sanda who stabbed her husband to death in 2020 and was sentenced to death? She got the presidential pardon. Una remember she was weeping profusely when the death sentence was pronounced on her?
Unfortunately she will be walking free while the man rot wherever he is. In that marriage, always use your head. Walk away from trouble because there is no justice for the dead. Marriage no dey my Dico abeg.

Is this gossip or something? No source?

Ade1177:
➜Make sure you find your wife in university days or nysc. Once you enter the rat race looking for money. You can no longer find a lady willing to build up with you, sorry is your name . You will have to buy your love and continue paying till it expires
I will advice anyone still in the university to leave books in the evening and go out, read your book in the morning and afternoon, find good girls, have fun while at it. Before you close your eyes 4yrs don go, unless you plan to be single at 35 True love can only be found when you are in school

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Africans and delusions are indeed inseparably joined.

The last time I checked my alumni chat forum, I found that all the so-called true loves from back when we were in school broke up not long after life and reality hit them smack in the face. The vast majority are now with and doing relatively ok— at least for now, since I don't know what the future holds for them— with true loves they found outside of school. So, how many true loves people dey in fact have in this one life? No be as many as one desires to give oneself again? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

EFULEFU1:
➜This recurring dream? Anytime I fornicate, I see this dream. Please what's the meaning? Check the dream in the picture

. Possibly unprocessed guilt or shame linked to your having sex or your sexual past. You should begin processing your emotions and dealing with them rather than continuing to run from or cover them up.

beerfraud:
https://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/web-series/news/english/wendy-osefo-and-husband-edward-arrested-real-housewives-of-potomac-stars-charged-with-16-counts-of-fraud-report/amp_articleshow/124469808.cms
https://amp.tmz.com/2025/10/10/wendy-osefo-husband-eddie-arrested/
https://abcnews.go.com/amp/GMA/Culture/rhop-star-wendy-osefo-husband-arrested-fraud-charges/story?id=126407318

The woman claims she has 4 degrees, and her husband is a lawyer, yet this?

“Real Housewives of Potomac” star Wendy Osefo and her husband, Edward “Eddie” Osefo, were arrested for fraud, Page Six can confirm.
The Carroll County Sheriff’s Office in Westminster, Md., exclusively told Page Six that the married couple, who was taken into custody Thursday, would be released Friday after placing a $50,000 bond each.
Wendy, 41, was charged with insurance fraud, conspiracy to commit insurance fraud and false statement to a police officer.
She faces a total of 16 charges, including seven for felony false/misleading info fraud in excess of $300, eight for misdemeanor on-false/mislead info fraud in excess of $300 and a misdemeanor charge of a false statement to an officer, per the Carroll County Sheriff’s Office public information officer.
Eddie, meanwhile, faces a total of 18 charges, including nine for felony false/misleading info fraud in excess of $300, eight for misdemeanor on-false/mislead info fraud in excess of $300 and a misdemeanor charge for allegedly making a false statement to an officer.
The charges stem from a burglary the couple reported in April 2024, in which Wendy claimed several of her designer bags and jewelry were stolen while they were on vacation in Jamaica.
However, per docs obtained by Us Weekly Friday, authorities have cast doubt on the validity of the theft.

Na wa oo!

Commentor:
➜Why do you all think everyone's life experience is the same as yours?

What makes you believe that by entering the same input as others before you — doing things as so many others before you have — that you will somehow come out with a result so many times different than theirs? I think this is a more valid question to ask at this point, given what we know of human behavior and consequences/outcomes.

Uptownerd:
So a man allegedly has started selling off some of his properties to enjoy his life while he still breathes after his children started neglecting him, focusing on their mother instead.

There are so many questions to be answered here before one can give reasonable answers.

✓ The man claims he sold his property worth about Naira 500 million to spend on himself. Did his wife equally have financial gains from the marriage, or was she financially abused by the man during the course of the marriage? 🤔
✓ The man seems to claim responsibility for the success of his children without going into details as to how he, in fact, contributed to their successes. Why? 🤔
✓ Why do the man's children not consider him worth spending or taking care of? That is a big question that needs to be answered. We read from the OP the man's side, but what of the children's side of the story? They know best why they would rather buy for their mother than their dad, so their input is necessary in this. 🥱🥱

bigpicture001:
➜What if he keeps saying something abstract like he wants to be a cartoonist...➜Or want to sing..?

I am not against my child wanting to be a cartoonist or a singer, though. Also, Cartoonists and Artists do even better if they attend college or art school. -\

I am, however, against my child expecting me to provide support for that which is abstract. For this investor to continue investing, the child would need to provide a clearly detailed plan; otherwise, college would need to remain at least a backup plan— even if it would need to be via an online/distance learning program.

bigpicture001:
➜This is becoming common especially as more and more graduate struggle to get a better life after school, it has started bro bring doubt in the effectiveness of school anyways among the young ones...
So how would you react if your child suddenly refuses to go for higher school after senior secondary..?

Ask the child to develop and present a detailed alternate plan, which we would then proceed to analyze for real-world potential and worth.

donogaga:
➜A recent research report by AIDS HEALTHCARE FOUNDATION shows that around 4,000 young women contract HIV weekly in Nigeria alone. Guys, ZIP UP! OR find a good woman and marry. These bitter women with all manner of infections are everywhere looking for men to hang their trauma on. Do not allow konji and 2 minutes pleasure rob you of the whole life ahead of you.
Be wise!

Are the women injecting themselves with HIV? And how does marriage make things any better for both the men who likely infected the women and those other men who are not currently infected?

donogaga:
➜I do not have an ex, my husband is my first relationship, my first man ever, but I am old enough to have seen several women who fell flat and started fvcking their ex's because they made light or made simple the power of the human emotions.
A young man told me in my DM how his newly wedded wife said she can never stop communicating with her ex, they found a way to reconnect back again severally, after he blocked and deleted his number and their conversations from her phone. This is a typical case of a woman marrying who was ready but not whom she loves. You can’t claim loyalty while you're busy hiding messages. Delete temptations before temptations delete your marriage. What you protect privately reveals what you truly value publicly.
➜ There are people you need to block not because you're offended but because you have the tendency of being vulnerable around them. You ex's are not your enemies but they are still not your friends. Keep your emotional window closed. Severe the attention, remember that attention breeds affection, stop the emotional cheating. I spoke to his wife today and surprisingly she told me in confidence, how she has to imagine her ex knacking her, dwelling in her emotional window, she has to picture him knacking her before she can express love to her husband physically. Terrible things are happening, things that can be easily prevented only if we choose to.

1. OP claims your husband was her first, meaning she did not at any point before that meet any man that she found worthy of her time or had her time, right?

Well, for many women who hold on to the contact with their ex, the reality is that they had to settle for their husband because the ex was not ready or available at the time. Simply blocking phone contacts is not the way around such emotionally deep connections.

2. I have lived long enough to realize that these bandage solutions are as useless as putting honey in a cup of bitterleaf tea. Men and women who harbor feelings for an ex or have feelings of unrequited love for an absent love interest should simply avoid romantic relationships with others altogether until those feelings have been fully resolved. 🥱🥱🥱

Emerald557:
➜Hi friends, I am sharing a GoFundMe to support a domestic abuse survivor fighting for custody and healing. Every donation helps her rebuild a safe life. Please share and support if you can 🙏 ..

Why is she fighting for custody of the kids, @OP?

Commentor:
➜Never been in that situation. I'm sure he'll be fine.

It is already happening to him as he made this known right there in his OP. Yet, despite that, you wish to believe it could never happen to him? Are you sure you are OK in the head there? 🥱🥱🥱

Commentor:
➜He'll find a lady right for him. Hope you'll find your own partner.

Life never do you tube-&-tire is why you're mouthing off that bullsheet! You'd better ask the millions of lonely Nigerian men roaming the campuses and streets of that country, some of them married(even some to more than one woman).🥱🥱🥱

Commentor:
➜He should wait until he has a duplex and G-wagon.

He should or he should find himself an unemployed woman(probably uneducated too) out there who sees him as his ticket out of poverty to settle with, like the millions of married-by-force folks out there. When she finds herself another man to level up with, she go latch on to that one.

Stay there... You dey find gals to look your way without you needing to level up, abi? There are millions of boys with such a mentality out there, so you won't be alone.

Commentor:
➜He should not find a partner.

From what he posted, he needs to find himself a solid job and life before anyone would want to partner with him. So, shouldn't it then follow that you encourage him in the right direction and not the one that he seems fixated on?

Meedon:
✓ The only exception is Mr. Paul Enenche

Rubbish! They are all frauds, no exception! 🥱🥱🥱

Meedon:
➜Pastor oyedepot must here this

All of them including Adeboye & Kumuyi are frauds.🥱🥱🥱

Passionate1:
✓ Don't be a wuss!

This from someone who spoke(commented , really)earlier from both sides of his mouth,abi?

Meedon:
✓ Then where did pastors get that useless line from?

The same place they got all of the other lies they tell you are connected to that book that has absolutely nothing to do with their primary mission which is to deceive and delude many to their doom in this life and maybe even their next.

Hypnotise:
➜It’s because many black men don’t know what white women want, and hence don’t understand them, but if you get their scope, no be suffering again, na enjoyment.

I don't believe ignorance is the issue, but pride. What I think instead is that many black men— men who believe themselves to have entitlement entitled where they have not sowed— go in thinking they can somehow game the white woman— women raised with great confidence and intelligence in themselves and their rights are human beings— in very much the same way they and their ancestors have been able to game the black woman— women brainwashed fromo childhood into believeing their place is under a man no matter where — up until now, only to realize at the end of the day that their intelligence amounts to foolishness where the white woman is concerned. A woman who loves herself and knows her rights can destroy any man who comes thinking he can take advantage of her and get away with it.

This really has little to do with skin color, but the mindset of those involved!

Sammy101111:
➜Just stop there stop na don't you read my bible even in bible it is writing couples should not deny them self without there body so what are you tell me I guess you are not married right . A man needs sex to stablize the body calm the body. God created woman for men not to be doing soupy na bro don't argue why will a man not want sex only gay man will say that a man needs sex I can tell you sometimes ylu dick will stand with out you even noticing and even sometimes you will try to control it come down it will not on till the dick wants to come down it self that is nature . PLEASE THE BODY NA NARMAL THING

Did you mistakenly post what amounts to brain farts in my direction or something?

TouchNfollow:
You never start life you don tire?? 😭

You think it is easy to be born into poverty in this day and age?