₦airaland Forum

Glimpsetv:
✓ A 77-year-old American woman, who is currently dating a young Nigerian man, has revealed her admiration for Nigerian men.
According to her, “They are the best looking guys. They’re the nicest guys — always coming to check on me and making sure I’m okay. One of the young guys calls me ‘Sweet 16,’ and he’s just a friend, but he is the sweetest young man.”

She is probably eyeing one of them hoping to play cougar and find her a lover in one. Dem never scam this one yet. 🥱🥱🥱

P.S. I am not against older women finding love or women being cougars. I am against the fact that these victims tend to ignore the red flags to fall into the hands of obvious scammers while claiming to be blinded by love.

Truths9ja:
✓ yes. But they will still felt much pains without fatherly roles in their lives.

Rejection or Abandonment either by a father or mother-- whether absent or present -- is felt by all including those who grew up with both parents in the home.

Truths9ja:
a lot of study that back it up

I know if I ask you to post such a study now, you will start running us around and around in circles, so definitely no point in asking you. 🥱🥱🥱

sunbreaker:
someone to grow with from 100L? So that you parent will trained two person in higher institutions indirectly.

Nah! Him dey look for babe to shine his knobs regularly, all while he contributes next to nothing to her total life and wellbeing, the story of the average Nigerian boy-man out there.

oglalasioux:
➜Complete waste of advice. The modus operandi for ladies now is to get married, have like two kids and start praying for their husbands to die so they can continue olosho work as a widow. When guy man refuses to die they claim domestic violence and leave anyway.
Ashawo work pays more when you are a single mother. Dey play.

This does not add up at all. Why marry when they could get those two kids while single?

dollypi:
➜How would a person without a father figure in their life quantify what they are missing? How would a person with a good father quantify what they have gained?

Interesting questions!

ComeToJesus:
Over two decades ago, Pastor Tunde Bakare said something that has been one of my guiding prayers. He said a man's prayer, everyday, should be "O God, let not my wife feed me" Why? Because a man who lost his job was getting rhe kid's school fees and accommodation paid by the wife. One day, the wife dressed up and was about to go out when the husband asked her " honey where are you going?" The wife retorted " Are you talking to me ? The man kept quiet and later reported to the pastor. A woman should never be in the driver's seat of the home. The man go hear whiiiiii

The same Tunde Bakare wey be storyteller, abi na which one?

CharlotteFlair:
➜Why do you like minimizing people's posts when you quote them? I have been wanting to ask you this since time immemorial.

I don't do any of what you accuse me of. I simply posited that while many speak of love, the reality is that most settle for the one who is available when it comes to marriage. Is that untrue?

KnowledgePower7:
➜boy go and sit down. People like you are the reason I don't want to post the full context of my Convo with A.i You are just yapping dust.
A.I didn't say there is no God.. It said the God we know and worship on earth is not the true God.

Interesting! So, which one is the true God, and what planet does one need to fly off to in order to worship him/her/it? 🥱🥱🥱

SeeWahala:
➜Well what can I say Last week a certain AI told a certain oyibo man (that helped create yahoo) that his own mum was a Russian spy He finally kilt her and kilt himself Abeg, if anybody knows op, make dem warn him immediate family oo

. What made him decide his mom deserved to die because she was a russian spy?

KnowledgePower7:
on the real rulers of this world and religion

Religion, yet you hold on still to religion? You made a reference to God, implying you still hold on to the belief in a deity. Would this be the same deity your ancestors worshipped, or that was introduced to you by way of one of those very same religions you may have previously clung to in your past?

PerfectStranger:
➜That lady right there has seen and discovered something you're too blind to see voz gender base war don finish you. Keep deceiving urself.

Your response makes no sense given that the poster above me already provided himself as evidence to disprove the claim made in the OP.

Truths9ja:
Hmm very deep here. She realised the importance of a man in her life and her kids

. More like she decided to latch on to delusions that have kept some spinning their wheels.

There are so many successful men out there who were raised without fathers in the picture.

Truths9ja:
➜Life is nothing without men. A child without a father figure in their life is in trouble."

To this day, there has never in fact been a single study to back up this claim.

Professor822714:
➜Because e never happen to you nau

It does not need to first happen to be for me to see it is obviously riddled with holes.

Unbreakable26:
We recently pack into a house, tomorrow will make it three weeks but just yesterday when I came back from work I killed a centipede and today also my sis killed another one, please who knows what we can use to stop them from crawling into the house Thanks

Find the holes through which they are able to crawl in and use plaster, cement or putty to seal them off. A centipede was able to get in this time, maybe next time na snake. So, work quickly.

Nairalander248:
But how Una dey marry person you no even love? How?

Most marriages are of people who settled for each other— nothing like love.

Tenrack:
➜ you conveniently deleted the part where it is said "unless in the case of a domestic abuse" 😀 wth has been going on with you lately? Our sweetest Dominique? E ro ra o. Good morning to you.

Domestic abuse has never been the only legal/acceptable reason why a woman should seek divorce from a man with whom she no longer sees a future. The same applies to men.

Tenrack:
➜smiles. Well, you have a point. But it takes two to tango, other times olojukokoro no dey allow certain spouses concentrate on their marriage.

How?

duduade:
➜If as a married man you know you are very irresponsible then let your wife go

I should add that any woman who finds herself supposedly trapped in marriage with an irresponsible man should look for the closest door out to her freedom. Marriage has never been by force, and divorce has always been available to all married folks from the beginning.

Geofavor:
➜Dummy, what the nonsense means is girls generally get mature faster than boys, at least biologically. Isn't that common knowledge?
➜ I'm not sure what this word salad has to do with what I wrote. You obviously didn't understand what I wrote.

1. Saying that girls generally mature faster than boys is not the same as saying girls peak before boys. Note the difference between the two statements.

Silentgroper:
I think you can receive messages on DND.. My phone automatically goes on Night mode around 12 which in turn switches on DND. I think one can always set it up for certain numbers/ contact to bypass DND .. Cause some contact like my mom call dey always enter if my phone is on DND or so .. BTW, if that person is not a doctor, what would calling her change about the sick person ..

All of these are, in my opinion, excuses Nigerians use to distract themselves from discussing the rationale behind not having a fully operating emergency service system in the year 2025. That is just what all of this is to me.

Successlane:
Yeah, nobody prays anything bad happens, but unforseen emergencies can come up at any odd hour -and YOU or any other close person might be in danger. A stitch in time could saves nine.

That is what 911 is for.

Geofavor:
➜That's how it is. That's how it's always been, everywhere. Men and women run on different biological and social clocks. Generally, women peak first. Men peak last. So, women date up. Men date down. The University really does show you this in real time. It's the best place to learn the dynamics between men and women.

Women do not peak first... or whatever the hell that nonsense even means.

Rather, women begin attempting to logically process their existence and their well-being much earlier than many men do due mainly to their upbringing. Most of these boys who do the October rush do so for the sake of their egos— absolutely nothing. Women who allow themselves to be swept by the wave do so to gain any material or social benefit that exists for them to have from it.

Sandralight:
It's always funny to me when people think "physical abuse" is the only reason women should leave marriage, what about "Mental and emotional abuse," or are women not humans too, mental abuse even kills more than physical abuse because you can't see it but it will be chipping away your very essence until you become a walking corpse.

You forgot to mention financial abuse — when a man deprives his woman of access to an agreed portion of what he earns as her share from the dividends of the marriage. A man as a provider means his wife is entitled to a share of his earnings — apart from that used in tending the household — to cover all her labor that goes towards the marriage.

Arizoner:
get the eff out of here. You simp of the highest order

. Your entitled arse probably believed that if the woman would not give in to you, she should not give in to anyone else. Am I wrong? 🙄🙄🙄

Jozilinn:
➜It mustn't be physical abuse alone, mental and verbal abuse is also part of it. Nobody supports separation of any kind, some women are married and are still the ones paying rent, children fees and feeding while most of their husbands are doing nothing.
I know of someone whose brother abroad sponsors the daughter's education she's in year 2 now in the university,her husband doesn't know and he has never asked the child how do you do in school with feeding or anything he feels the wife can handle this. I'm not against what you said but I feel they can actually do better alone depending on the type of job the woman is doing.

You forgot to mention financial abuse, where the woman gains no financial benefit from the marriage in all of the years she devotes to providing her time and labor to it.

A man can be a provider, but that money he brings, the woman should also get a share of it; otherwise, she is not a wife but a glorified baby-mama/bang maid/house maid in that house. That is financial abuse of a wife.

Farrason:
➜Hmmm... Marriage! Marriage!! Marriage is not a case of one size fits all and no man or woman sets out to get married and walk out few years later despite having kids or become abusive...
➜ These days, marriages need prayers as we are having more broken homes, bitter wives and husbands, partners turning on each other and even children hating parents...
➜ Marriages break between couples and this leads to the family eventually getting scattered. This is a wake up call and truely something is wrong!!

1. While we would like to believe no one wants that, the fact remains that some abusive men and women go into marriage fully intending on continuing their abusive behavior in marriage, expecting their partner to tolerate it until death. Is it your expectation that the victimized partner should condone such abuse without walking away because of marriage?

2. Marriage has never needed prayer but common sense. The ones who told you all to pray are the ones primarily responsible for the deplorable state of marriage as it is today. Their acts of urging you all to endure in marriage through prayer is what has led up to what you see of marriage today.

Families that don't need to scatter when a man and woman with children decide to dissolve the union. It simply takes a different form unless one partner is no longer interested and would rather ghost the other members completely. The children raised in many of those abusive, damaged, and toxic marriages are the ones today resolving never to have that happen to them again. If praying for marriage was a novel idea, the children who are the products of those marriages that endured on prayer would not have had to turn away from that supposedly good idea now, would they?

3. Nah! Marriages break because they should rightly break. That is why divorce has been around for as long as marriage has.

Bobodee09:
➜Nobody supports separation of any kind, some women are married and are still the ones paying rent, children fees and feeding while most of their husbands are doing nothing.
How many women Give us the stats let compare ratio. Last I checked in Nigeria, 95% of men are the bread winners of family and are the one driving the economy.

Stop lying! 🥱🥱🥱

Not long ago, your government released stats reporting that about 50% of breadwinners in married homes across Nigeria are women.

dominique:
And if a woman dies in a marriage, it's still this same sets of people gaslighting women to stay in bad marriages that will berate her for dying because of marriage. Not all marriages are worth fighting for. Al

Nna na wa ooo! 🥱🥱🥱

Arizoner:
➜Omo, some of these gals that work in bars are baddies. I say make i come out naso i see one barlady dey shake her yash for customer. This was someone i was admiring for her dedication to work

. You found her shaking her arse for a customer and immediately took that to mean she is not dedicated to her work? How? 🥱🥱🥱

Abi, na because she no shake her arse your way, as you sit as monitoring spirit over her work culture, na him you decide to open thread on nairaland to insult her 🥱🥱🥱