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Emmanuel30a:
✓ Did you mean she didn't quote it completely... She didn't include the part that said you shouldn't divorce except in the case of adultery...and when you divorce...in the case of adultery...you must remain unmarried...

She misquoted since the context here are Nigerians whereas the context there is clearly the bloodline of a man named Nigeria who had nothing to do with Nigerians. It would be the same if she had quoted words of Zeus, the Greek god.

Ijoba85:
Feminists are filled with entitlement mentality . I don't know who bewitched them . Ole jatijati . No toto no money .Period !

There is nothing feminist about the girls from his description. You can easily continue to pay money for your toto, but what OP is looking for is where he does not have to pay money at all for a relationship.

OP keeps getting into relationships with women who are looking for financial help. That is it! And when it is revealed that he is not what they want after all, he complains that his relationships are to blame when he is the one who keeps dating these girls.

tensazangetsu20:
✓ Well, I only blame the simps in her circle. I am just glad that I dont have to deal with shit like this again

A comment ago, you were blaming her. Now it is the simps to blame? 🙄🙄🙄

dollytino4real:
➜ok u don't read Bible so no need to argue bible with u Sir

I think this response should be redirected back to you since you are the one who misquoted the book.

tensazangetsu20:
✓ They are asking you to just call and check up on them and its a problem for you. You never ready yet. Keep it up, the right man will find you

If you have to ask someone you believe is in a relationship with you, don't you think that there is all the red flag you need to know the person is probably not fully into you? Not that the person is bad but simply that the person is not right for you and it is for you to move on. Why do you want this girl to bend herself for the man's sake here?

missjekyll:
➜The head of the family is the breadwinner of the family. You are the head of that family..

So, how come when the woman is the breadwinner, she is not regarded as the head of the family? Take the case of Osinbajo as an example, the woman was the breadwinner, yet her husband, children, and family did not see her as the head of the family.

essentialone1:
If you cannot give to a man what you give to your husband, don't ask from that man, what you supposed to ask from your husband.

This makes no sense! 🤔

Reloadedisraelp:
🙄🙄 which kind judgement be this🙄

OP does have a problem. He dates broke girls and then complains when they ask him for money. Why?

Rearealki:
✓ I am really concerned about this.
My last relationship ended like my first.
Billing!
Ok, so this lady called me that we should be in a relationship. I was excited about it and we started dating. We haven't had sex we are both Christians.
This particular week she started testing me financially. First she said she is hungry, later she said her phone spoilt then she said she needs a new laptop.
What made us breakup was when she said she needed airtime. And as at then I didn't even have any available money except my savings I said I don't have
She then told me she deserves to be taken care of that she hasn't asked me directly of anything than this airtime. It shows I am stingy...and if it's happening like this this early we might have to cutoff. She said is it because we both work in same place and we earn same salary? ,she said I should take care of her
So I thought about her statements and I told her we should break up. That I am not ready.
This same scenario happened to me in my first relationship. I really loved my first love. But she pressured me financially. Which led me to all end it.

So, you go out of your way to date women looking for a savior financially and then you cry victim when it is exposed that you are not the one for them?

frog12:
se this one na mammy water or marine girl ?

Don't drag that beautiful babe into this mess, abeg! 🙄🙄

Akano5:
➜You're the delusional one. Who told you that I got the holy spirit from my Pastor??

No be your pastors fill your heads with stories about a holy spirit, you can get by being baptized as Nigerians? Abi, you want to deny say na your religious overlords feed una those tales?

columbus007:
The reason why so many men go back to their grave early 😅😅

It is by their own hands too.

Chilipepper:
➜No wonder some fathers dey kpai quickly 😔😔loads are much! Is this what you go through as a father?

That is, instead, what being an incompetent father can be like.

Akano5:
➜Did you get baptized with water?? Holy spirit doesn't descend on you, hence, your situation. Mathew 3:15-17

See delusion.... so, your lying, thieving pastors and reverend fathers who baptized you in millions are the ones who placed this holy spirit on you?

Therock5555:
May God no allow us to have Yama yama parents IJN...

You have it in the wrong order. Yama-yama parents choose to have kids; kids don't choose their parents. Praying to your gods afterward, you have been born by yama-yama people, won't change the yama-yamaness of the parents you have.

VladimirTheGrea:
Go for a local voyage and see for yourself if all water routes are taken without spiritual permission. What you don't know is greater than that borrowed language you typed.

Oyinbos don dey take all water routes without your so-called spiritual permission for 1000s of years now. Why e come be say na only when poverty-riddled minds such as yours take the same route, problem go ensue?

No be the same borrowed language you dey type in so?

engrelvis:
➜V met ur type b4. Arguing with u is complete waste of time. I will be 53 yrs this yr with alot of globe trotting. V seen alot bro. U said u DNT believe. No wahala. Make we rest

Basically, you have no proof or evidence to offer in support of any of your claims, yet you are hell bent on claiming I am the problem for not buying into your delusions? 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

Ulogwe1:
✓ See you, dey form woke. Even the traditionalists have a way of appeasing the marine. In the Delta State, they called them olokou.

He is right. Most of these fables only manifest in the minds of poverty stricken individuals who easily choose ignorance over knowledge most of the times.

engrelvis:
✓ The world we live in is deep..
✓ Uv not seen or experience something doesn't means it doesn't exist.

The world you live in is deep, yet you have absolutely no proof of this supposedly deep side to the world?

2. I have definitely seen and heard a lot of stuff. Hallucinations were a daily occurrence for me for the longest. Only weeks ago, I heard a gunshot that sounded like the gun was fired right beside me in my bed as I woke. When I opened my eyes, there was no one and no gun. Turns out what I experienced is called Explosive Head Syndrome(EHS).

Things do exist, but most of them are in your minds and not outside of them.

9182736455O1999:
✓ Bro you aren't weak, it's normal to feel that way. It's part of the emotional attributes instilled in we humans from our creator. Nobody might really understand how you feel. Life's not fair on the normal scale, we just have know that and live with it but whatever comes at you should not overwhelm you. Just live life bro. ✌️

It is OK to be weak. All humans are made of moods with emotions coloring the stage of our being; our vulnerabilities are part of what makes us humans. And there is everything alright with that.

Brahamimo:
You're correct

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0TEuUTT_k4E?si=P7jZGxgfakji7lU8

Brahamimo:
➜This woman complains a lot. I'm always praying that if I'm returning back to this world, in my next world, let God not give me her type as a mother please. Others are testifying good about their own mums, but mine is different.
I want to ask the guys here, please how often does your mum call you?. If she had something to offer, I wouldn't even mind the calls, but she has nothing to offer except something to take..
➜ Has someone ever been in this position? Please tell me how you feel about this

. Not everyone who parents a child— man or woman— is a good parent. You mentioned earlier that all mothers do things a certain way, but that claim is far from the reality of things. About half of mothers out there do not — for one reason or another —do for their kids much of what you claim your mother did not do for you. So, there is no need to attempt to compare your mother to others, as your experience is just as valid as everyone else's out there.

2. Did you know that there are others out there in the same shoe you are in who would give everything they have to the same mother? Some of these individuals are convinced that because their mother carried them for 9 months, their very lives are to be devoted to serving her whims in every way. If some of those people were to show up here to tell you that you are some sort of ungrateful element for rejecting your mother's calls, and maybe even refusing to send her money regularly. How exactly would you take that?

You are asking the wrong question. I don't think you need validation of your feelings from those who do not see your experience the way you do. You were wounded by your experience, and your feelings are just as valid as any other person's feelings. You should seek healing for yourself and your siblings, and you will not get it by asking others about their experiences.

EmekaA125:
➜A business man, Mr Chibuike Nwandu has cancelled his wedding slated to hold on August 2nd, 2025 after a shocking revelation which dealt a big blow to him. He discovered that his wife to be, Miss Chidimma from Ukpor, Nnewi South LGA of Anambra State has been having affair with a Catholic Priest even after introduction. He called off the wedding and equally cut ties with the lady.

He should be elated that he found out before and not after the wedding.

DrMB:
➜A man was abus!ng his wife, and after several attempts to resolve the issue failed, he continued. One day, he be@t her mercilessly. Her brothers went to the house and gave him the be@ting of his life, and that was the last time he ever la!d a hand on her.
➜ In another case, it was the wife who was physically abus!ng her husband. Despite several attempts to talk sense into her, nothing changed. One day, she be@t him badly. His sisters went to the house and gave her a serious be@t!ng. She never tried it again.

Stop telling fairy tales, abeg! These stories are narrated from a point of view colored by ignorance of human nature. Let me guess, na your pastor abi na comedian tell you these yeye tales?

Christianoir:
➜I see people saying you shouldn’t care about what people say but I’ve been trying it not working because people might say bad thing about me and I will start thinking about it for days
How do I get that I don’t care attitude I know inot possible not to care but at least I don’t want people opinions to weigh we down
How do you guys do it Please suggest guys It weighing me down

You don't really need an "I don't care," attitude to have a healthy self-esteem and sense of self. You simply need to investigate the state of your mental health and work towards treating any issues you may have been carrying around with you.

If depression is the underlying reason for any of what you describe, for example, I would suggest you make an appointment with a professional mental health therapist and stick to recommended treatment for as long as is necessary.

cutecommend:
➜What Old-time Pre-marital And Extra-marital Sex May Cause You Today.

Many of these are mindless myths perpetuated by ignorant and equally arrogant beings.

Glimpsetv:
➜Uhmm, okay. Pictures censored. There was no intention of shaming the little girl. Dragging or not, I’m sure no one here knows the girl — the incident didn’t even happen in Nigeria. But knowing the kind of people here, I get it. By the way, the mother posted the video herself. Hopefully, people learn something from this.

A clearly irresponsible mother did it does not make it OK to do.

Veryniceguy01:
➜Hi Fam, What will be considered an adequate monthly pocket money for an undergraduate in a Nigerian tertiary institution today? Whether university or polytechnic or college of education? The expectation is to cook every now snf then and will be given food stuffs periodically.

What about the cost of provisions, transportation to and from the market, etc? Give at least Naira 120,000 a month.

Glimpsetv:
✓ A US-based mum has cried out in frustration and heartbreak after discovering that her 12-year-old daughter is pregnant. According to her, the shocking discovery began when she checked the trash can and noticed unused sanitary pads.
Suspicious, she confronted her daughter and asked why she hadn’t been using the pads despite claiming she was. When questioned further, the daughter hesitated but insisted she had been using them. Still unconvinced, the mother handed her a pregnancy test kit and asked her to take the test in the bathroom. The result? Positive. Her 12-year-old daughter was pregnant.

The devastated mother revealed that she is a single parent who has been raising her daughter alone, doing everything by herself. To make matters worse, she disclosed that the daughter had previously run away from home and only returned about a month and a half ago—only for this new shock to follow.

In a fit of anger and pain, she stated that the girl will now go back to her father. “If he likes, they can go for an abortion,” she said bitterly. “But she’s going to do it with her father. I’m tired. It’s not easy being a single mother.”
The mother also vowed to find out who is responsible for the pregnancy, threatening to arrest and jail whoever got her underaged daughter pregnant. She plans to conduct a blood test to trace the culprit.
Watch the full video to hear the emotional conversation between the mother and her pregnant 12-year-old daughter.

OP, why do you believe it is OK to shame this girl for her mistake at 12 years of age? With this pictures of her, you are literally trying to drag her here on Nairaland.