₦airaland Forum

Mattswaggz:
➜Those instances I used as examples are still true in most cases today. Btw, let's look at those points you listed.
~Housekeeper/governess :- a lot of men help in house keeping though in less in society like Nigeria but Men largely help in this regard in modern society.
~Cook/Chef :- most men even if they can cook dislike cooking... It's one of those things men view as a woman's role... Which means most men don't cook. (FIRST SOLID POINT).
~Emotional dumpster/counselor :- I'd like an example of what you mean here so as not to misinterpret what you're saying or trying to say.
~Sex Partner :- Sex goes both ways and....it's not a one way thing.
~Personal assistant :- has to do with whom you trust....if anyone sees this as some sort of burden they can easily distance themselves from being viewed as such. .

I am afraid I don't follow at all. Care to explain in plain terms what you mean by all of this?

Kobicove:
➜When you want to marry it's best to look for someone from the same social and economic class as yourself. Don't go and overburden yourself by marrying a person from a poverty stricken background and be deceiving yourself that love conquers all

It is usually not love but a desire to have an upper hand in the union that leads most men looking in those poverty stricken places for women to marry. Why else would a man driving the latest car waltz into a community that barely has any roads in sight, looking for what he refers to as the "right woman"?

MrHandsome2013:
➜I mean do you cope. Guys married to Igbo women from poor background how do you cope

Did these women from poor backgrounds put a gun to the head of any of these men or something? Why drag the women when they are literally the choice made by these men?

ediko5:
➜This your question is the reason many say Igbo men top the chart when it comes to SIMPing men in Nigeria. Most of 'em behave as if they don't have a life of their own to live, they behave as if they're living their life for their girlfriend or wife. Imagine where a young man is obligated to train the sibling or siblings of his girlfriend in order to qualify them to marry their daughter according to girls' family.

These men literally seek out women from poor backgrounds to marry so that they can then live life as designed in their minds afterwards. Why harass them for what is their choice?

bukatyne:
➜Christianity isn't. The Bible is written in English amongst other languages and very accessible to everyone. Anyone deceived with Christianity has him/herself to blame.

Christianity is a scam, and yes, the blame lies with the gullible billions who subscribe to the religion. All religions are scams.

AllBlack:
➜who told you? self glorification

Is this accusation coming from a place of not being able to find anything to love about yourself? Are you someone who always needs validation from others or something?

Mattswaggz:
➜ Contributes to the success of the marriage.... agreeable but the success of the man is debatable.....like how did you come to such conclusions.
➜ Most of these roles you mentioned were viewed as that of women since time immemorial (just like Men would be expected to do the defending in case of an attack)and they help keep the marriage if played properly but most men tend to be successful on their own before even considering marriage.

1. Debatable, you say? The following are roles the man either had to occupy on his own or pay others to take care of on his behalf.
➜ Housekeeper & Governess
➜ Cook/Chef
➜ Emotion dumpster/Counselor
➜ Sex partner
➜ Personal Assistant...

However, notice that after marriage, not only does the man get a live-in woman to offload those duties to, but he also does not need to pay her a salary for all of her labor. And by doing so, the man is better able to focus on his career and success outside of the home.

2. Humans have only one lifetime to worry about. It should not matter what people in the past held to, since we are now in the information age and are better informed about both the past and the present, to realize it makes no sense to default to the past for answers regarding issues realized in our present.

bukatyne:
✓ Marriage was designed for the benefit of men.
According to the Bible, God said it is [b]not good for a man to be alone & created a woman. So naturally, women bring more to the 'table' ( to mirror the OP). [/b]
The ask is that men bring something commensurate; 40% will do.

The Bible instead sad, " It is not good for man to be alone." Adam was the only man who was alone at the time hence the man referred to in the texts.

authority2006:
✓ May be you should research further, their men are equally rejecting marriages and having kids on the same level if not higher.

I have done my research well on this. And what remains at the core of this is women rejecting marriage. The major complaint among men happens to be the economy which has made it difficult for many to fully provide for themselves let alone for q marriage. Other than that, most men seek to someday become married. However, the woman on the other hand are literally quoting marriage, some going as far as rejecting even dating and that has incensed a lot of men leading to increased attacks against women in many areas

Mattswaggz:
✓ Can you name those things you're talking about because in general you're far from the truth..... Men's handiworks and brilliance is what keep things lively in this world of ours.

This, again, is all propaganda to keep men deluded and deceived. Time and time again, it has been shown that the average woman contributes more towards the success of a man and the marriage than the average man does.

Someone gave list of roles occupied by the average woman in marriages in Nigeria and I gave a breakdown below.

Kobojunkie:
The average Nigerian woman occupies the role of
➜ Baby mama
➜ Nanny
➜ Housekeeper & Governess
➜ Cook/Chef
➜ Emotion dumpster/Counselor
➜Sex partner
➜Personal Assistant...
....in marriage. When you consider each and every role individually, you find that the average man out there can't even afford to pay for those on his salary as a Nigerian. However, these are contract roles played by women in marriage, and most of them for free. A life of suffering masked as an achievement and "glory" for the religious among them.

2. Those who also carry on their backs the role of provider in marriage leave me dumbstruck every single time. I can never understand what drives these women to such lengths .... suffering?

In places like Japan, South Korea and much of Asia, the traditional role occupied by women also includes
➜ Caring for aged in-laws
➜ being available when called on even by her in-laws
➜ catering duties during family rites, etc.

360who:
Whatever a woman brings to the table can be paid for and be replaced. Can't say the same for a man.

Interesting claim! Would you mind mentioning just one of the things that you believe men bring to the table that cannot be paid for or replaced?

netricoin:
➜The prophecy has meaning. It say of what will happen to israel in d BC era, and what will happen to israel in d AD era. When u say spiritual israel, God don't see these present israel as fake, d are still in God plan

The prophecy never said it would happen to the nation of Israel. Rather, the nation that Daniel belonged to was the nation of Judah. Israel, the nation, had been cursed about 150 years before the time that Daniel got that prophecy. The nation of Israel was destroyed by YHWH — He used the Assyrian Army to accomplish this —around 720BC.

netricoin:
➜the book of daniel 9:25-26 did say that in d last days it'll b a time when israel will have strong defences, an e.g 0f these was in 2011 when israel began operating d iron dome air defence. It also say that it'll be a time of israel trouble, an e.g of these was in 2020 when israel was trouble with d coronavirus, after which israel has been trouble with war
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. Nonsense! 🙄🙄🙄

The last days described by Daniel were the Last days of YHWH's judgment over the nation of Judah—not Israel —in the land of Canaan, and this judgment took place almost 2000 years ago.

debbydams:
➜ lol, I don't want to be like my mom, she's too calm..
My siblings takes after her...im the only one in the house that don't take nonsense, I'm not troublesome tho but I don't tolerate nonsense...

😁

A lot of Nigerians go on to become just like their parents before them, and these are some of the many who cry out, "Generational curse," when they find themselves repeating the same mistakes those before them made. I tend to believe that rather than become like our parents, we are instead to learn from their many mistakes and endeavor instead to become better, upgraded versions — nothing of the old — of them. Version 2.0 should, in all ramifications, be better than Version 1.0, even though it came from its existence.

authority2006:
➜Lol. No where in the world does female gender brings more to the table than men. Not even in the developed economy where they are trying much to raise status and earning capacity and ability of women to level up to that of male gender.
Go out there and ask random 100 men and 100 women questions about their annual income. Without income to support the family, no family can stand

. That is instead a myth and not a fact. It has been shown time and time again that the average woman tends to bring so much more to the table than the average man does. What is happening in places like Japan and South Korea — with many women rejecting marriage and childbirth altogether — more than proves that the men never did bring the most to the table in many cases.

Aifrobeats:
➜My focus wasn't on the woman so I can't say.

I don't follow. Is a man less capable?

Aifrobeats:
➜Yes, a man is capable of doing that almost daily till the kids are grown to avoid the troubles and the husband must believe in himself, though it's not going to be easy.

Is it easier for the already frustrated woman to do?

otipoju:
Let her wake up earlier. She's passing out her frustrations on the kids who in turn will think it's normal amd start doing same to others.

If she is frustrated then the non-frustrated partner should take on the responsibility. After all they are his kids too, and getting them ready for school can be handled by anyone of the couple or both.

Chilipepper:
Can a woman get her kids ready for school without shouting? Please recommend ways to do it for me because my wife shouts too much.

The solution is very simple! You take over the chore of getting your kids ready for school each morning.

debbydams:
yes...my mom. I don't want a man like my dad.. He hardly talks and he blames people for his actions

Your mother, by being the way she is, ended up with your dad. This implies that if you become like your mom, you might end up with a man like your dad.

kevwemike:
➜A responsible man and a responsible woman brings more to the table, any woman that actually love her husband and want both of them to grow very old together will always help the man so that the load won't be too much on him, men are dying in silence dey don't even think of themselves, their health is going down just because they want the best for their family, women stand up and assist us, is not easy.

That turns out not to be the fault of the women in the marriage but the men!

RollinTNDA:
An 18 years old me will say Hell No But the 29 years old me will say YES

And would then go on to repeating the mistakes made by that parent, only to then cry "generational curse," abi?

[quote author=dollytino4real post=136194236]➜U just posted wat was on my mind to post one of these days,!!! Me like my father helll NO but like my mother YES one million times[/quote.] If you are like your mother, doesn't that then predispose you to ending up with a man like your father? 😏

tunjijones:
➜Yea you are right, women bring a lot of underrated things to the family. From bearing children, raising Godly children, organise the home, take care of the kitchen, brings emotions, brings stability without which a home can't exist.
Most men know this, but they are just too arrogant and proud to admit it.
➜ Yes, a woman can raise children alone, provide and still be a mother, I doubt if a man can raise children alone.

The average Nigerian woman occupies the role of
➜ Baby mama
➜ Nanny
➜ Housekeeper & Governess
➜ Cook/Chef
➜ Emotion dumpster/Counselor
➜Sex partner
➜Personal Assistant...
....in marriage. When you consider each and every role individually, you find that the average man out there can't even afford to pay for those on his salary as a Nigerian. However, these are contract roles played by women in marriage, and most of them for free. A life of suffering masked as an achievement and "glory" for the religious among them.

2. Those who also carry on their backs the role of provider in marriage leave me dumbstruck every single time. I can never understand what drives these women to such lengths .... suffering?

theredaddy:
➜ If Marriage was designed to benefit Men ... why are the wives mostly next of kin
➜ if Marriage was designed to benefit Men .... why is the wedding day regarded as the Bride joyful day
➜ If Marriage was design to benefit Men... why does it impede polygamy
➜ if Marriage was design to Benefit Men ... why are mothers the main recipient of children benefits at old age
➜ if Marriage was design to benefit Men ... why are the Men expected to sacrifice the most nd die for the family

1. In Nigeria, there is no statistic out there that claims wives are mostly next of kin.

2. They are regarded as the bride's joyful day— idiomatic expression— DOES NOT mean the bride is fact in happy on that day.

3. Impede polygamy in what sense? 😏

4. There is no evidence that mothers are the main recipients of children's benefits in old age. Rather, there is instead evidence that the parent most involved with the children benefits the most in old age. It is not a consequence of marriage but rather of emotional investment made during the developmental years of the children.

5. The sacrifice most men make is instead to secure them the benefit of claiming the title of head of household in the marriage. It has little or nothing to do with anything else, really.

Let's stop perpetuating falsehoods regarding the place and benefits of marriage, shall we?

Merry100:
In my opinion, Nigerian women bring more to the table

. A lot of married Nigerian women are wife-appliances. According to stats, over 30% of married women in Nigeria occupy both the role of breadwinner and wife-appliance in their marriages.

TechAI:
I don't feel shattered.

Cool! Then here's some insight into what I see!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ahScYGUxiuI?si=bGBr-Peg1Zd3HjIF

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q8vlLU6yEXY?si=icesUdxU-BlcZ7AF

ifytrik:
the pictures you are looking for is currently not available please try again letter, thank you😋😋

You don't have a picture of your wife?

Domainer1999:

I don forcefully put my iPhone usb port inside my MacBook port. I don drag am with teeth, hy no comot. Make I try plier? Oil? But I dey fear make he no spoil the port. Help me! Help me!! Help me!!!

A plier can easily pull that out of there. Just do so gently!

Dzzzz:
You had many other quotes to chosose but you took from the Bible…Bro I wan go do something I’ll be back..

So, because of that, I must be a Christian even though I have made it abundantly clear that I am not. WOW.... you must be a genius!

Dzzzz:
Youre Christian bro..

But I am not a Christian— I am antireligion. So, are you insinuating that I have to be, whether I like it or not?