₦airaland Forum

Remarriage is not a big deal either for a widow or a widower. The bigger issue is finding a partner who would respect and love your children the same way he/she would love his/her own. Na the children be my own concern.

Feldie:
Women hate condom. They are more concerned about pregnancy than infection. They will only be asking if you came inside instead of thinking what if you infected them with something bad. I have had to deny lots of girls sex because I didn't have condom and trust me, they were all furious, sad, ashamed at the same time. They start by trying to go ahead with the sex even when you say you won't, then blackmail (you don't like me, you are afraid of pregnancy etc) then anger, then begging finally shame. Sister just relax let me use fingers but they want more

. So, the woman force sex on you be your own argument? Kai! 😩😩😩😩😩

OkpaNsukkaisBae:
Abstaining from sex is the best. These condoms dem fit disappoint during hot and intense sex. Especially during doggy

Rubbish!

Ekele22:
➜This is just my candid observation and not to tarnish the feelings of anyone.
I took a random interview with 40 Ladies I came in touch with,lo and behold,just a handful of 10 ladies uses condom,the remaining 30 just smile and pass ,signifying they are not using condoms. These boils down to the high rate of single mothers in the present society.
I am not castigating anyone both the male or female because life in general is not what you bargain for. If am to advice,it will be better to use protection as to avoid the unwanted pregnancies and keep yourself from stress of raising a child all alone. Am not exempted from this,I have had series of ladies visiting me and if I don't initiate condom use,they don't mind going raw and I frown at that. Not because I am condom freak but just to avoid the unthinkable. Currently ,am in a slum area for a job and close to me are malnourished single ladies with at least a child and if you ask them,who is responsible for that child,they claim the father is no where to be found.
Condom could have prevented that . Conclusively,,am not finger-pointing but as a civilize individual,protection is better than cure. The use of condoms should be reintroduced as ladies now prefer diving raw just because of money . This is my little observation here in belyasa state.

Aren't the condoms designed to be worn by men and not women? Why not balance this survey of yours by asking the men in the area how many of them wear condoms during intercourse and how many of them have been infected with STDs? Also, ask how much they have had to spend treating said STD while you are at it.

I am not fishing for who to blame or any of the sort here. Just pointing out that since the condoms are, in most cases, designed to be worn by men, the focus should then be on why men don't wear them at all.

MrDoGood:
➜Did you read what I wrote up there at all?
➜ Why not save the life first and you can even double the bill because it was done on credit.
➜ I pray you don't loose someone in such situation. You will understand there's nothing compared to life..
➜ you have security in each ward that check if you're owing the hospital before leaving. Why put them there if you're not gonna offer services like this.
➜ Even the banking system can actually mess you up with poor network. Like what GT bank did last weekend. From Saturday night till Sunday morning.

1. These people are in business to make money by saving lives. They offer the service and expect to be ahead.

2. Again, they are in business and not your saviours.

3. Losing someone close to me would not change the facts here, which is that these hospitals are not in the business of acting as your saviors but are instead in business to make money by offering you life-saving services.

4. But a more important question we need to ask at this point is where you get this idea that hospitals should not have security of the kind in each of their wards? What mandate or statute do you invoke by this belief of yours? Please, provide details.

5. The reason that particular situation can easily happen to you all has to do with the fact that you continue to allow the most incompetent lunatics to rule over the nation from the grassroots up to the top, essentially stifling meaningful development, which could help mitigate such foolishness.

Helpout12345:
➜I think you are sick like him. I don't give a fu.ckk about his opinion. I wanted to help him test his boasted physical powers and he chickens out.

You are full of bullsheet, aren't you! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Helpout12345:
➜I cannot email any online lunatic coward. He is the one boasting and that want to fight 6 Nigerian men. I am not the one. So, if he is calling for a fight, he should be bold to drop at least a street address and NOT a whole Ikoyi, Lagos.

From the conversation, he is not a coward. You are the coward, thinking it is OK to attack him for having an opinion, while at the same time refusing to meet up with him, as you yourself suggested earlier.

You literally said you would like to meet him in person, and he immediately volunteered enough information for you to contact him and arrange a meeting place. Then you backtracked, claiming he is an online lunatic coward... Come on... this isn't rocket science! 😩😩😩😩😩

Helpout12345:
➜So we should be looking for one Abeg white man in the WHOLE of Ikoyi, Lagos, right We should start from Obalende, through Falomo and be looking for a lunatic online coward??

He said you should email him, and he would probably meet up with you somewhere in the area. It is the same thing we do here, too. So, the question is, what are you afraid of?

Fenrir:
➜Again I'm Norwegian you illiterate bastard
You're as stupid as the cunt that sent a Danish murder to try and insult
Look mate put up or shut up
Send that email
Bring 10 men and all get raped by 1 bigger man

My mistake! I thought I read Swede somewhere on page one.

QuinQ:
➜Study this 60 seconds video. These are our fellow mammals. This same instinct is at work in most human females Mother sacrifices her life to save baby https://youtube.com/shorts/U4tqfijZCYE?si=QlR5af5LZDQpnCXH

A video on YouTube cannot serve as evidence against the facts on the ground. What you call mothering instincts are now known to be associated with learned behavior rather than behavior of the instinctual kind you claim.

I was able to find a better video to help you, maybe start thinking of it a bit more. If you pay close attention, you will note how the many unconscious trainings that are given primarily to women have been designed in such a way as to program their minds into believing in many mythical ideas, including this one. Of course, we also know that women who don't meet the mark set are immediately demonized in many of the societies where this mental programming is deployed.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZtTe6KuwNs?si=lXyZT0qkZ4F7rfL6

I should state that I do not necessarily agree with everything she said— I was busy while this was playing, so didn't get time to listen to the end— but it does give you a good idea of how the issue of maternal instinct does not sit well with all women.

Helpout12345:
➜No Nigerian should reply this coward again. He is just an online mentally ill coward.
➜ He boasts of how he was military, 7ft tall, can beat 6 grown Nigerian men
➜ but I gave him a favor yesterday to drop his photo, and address here so that we can put that his physical ability to test. He couldn't but gave me lame excuses, his daughter, he is retired and all bullcraps.
I personally think this person is not who he is claiming to be. And if he is actually a quarter of his claims here. Then, he is just a lunatic coward.

From where I sit, he ain't the coward at all. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

2. Nothing wrong with boasting.

3. He literally gave you his name and even location. I bet the Swedes in that area would be able to point you in the right direction if you were to get lost. Go already and stop playing internet champion!

Ganjafama:
To you it's nonsense because you don't want to see sense in the truth.

It's nonsense because even after realizing from my previous posts that I was not concerned about such details, you took it on yourself to still ask after that which I already made clear I was not interested in. Respect is necessary when trying to converse with others.

Trossard:
➜ I believe my aunty told this prophetess everything about it. The final prophecy was that I should end the relationship and never had sex until I marry if not I would contract HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases. This has put serious fear in me and for the past three years, I haven't had sex. I'm about to ignore the prophetess and get down with a some lady at this moment. Body no be firewood Biko.

Living in Nigeria, the chances of contracting HIV or other sexually transmitted diseases if you have sex without protection is quite high. You don't need an Aunt using a prophet or prophetess as a medium to pass that message to you, since it is just common sense. But since life is yours anyway, you are free to continue on as you please!

Biodun556:
➜Since childhood, I have observed that mothers do prevent their children from going to the toilet after eating even though they are pressed.
Ignorantly, some mothers believe that their children will passed away the food their children just ate, in other to prevent waste of food, they stopped the innocent children from defecating after eating. Even some educated mothers are caught doing same.

What nonsense is this? Never heard anything like that before!

Ganjafama:
➜In all of this, who is to be blamed? The innocent man? The innocent girl? The wife?

Nonsense question! 🙄🙄🙄

QuinQ:
➜There'd always be outliers. Vast majority of women want children for no personal gain, and will die for their children

There is no truth to that claim since it is more that many women have been convinced through social rhetoric that having a child is a path to fulfillment for them.

⚉ Is Maternal Instinct Backed by Science?
⚉ Maternal Instinct Is a Myth That Men Created
⚉ The big idea: why the maternal instinct is a myth
⚉ ‘Maternal instinct’ is a myth—and parents are struggling because of it

The 4th one in particular is some serious deal. i personally believe that a lot of women have sociopathic and some psychopathic tendencies, and should not be allowed anywhere near children, let alone have them. But, because of this nonsense thing about Mother's instinct, so many children have had to endure suffering that could have been easily prevented.

QuinQ:
➜Pure nonsense, trying to reason an instinct. Even if a woman has all these things she'd still be crying for children. It's an instinct deeply buried in biology. You can't reason it

. It isn't actually!

Antichristian2:
➜Islam labels disbelievers as disbelievers. It is same in all those other languages.
➜ Paul too advices you not to yoke equally with disbelievers.
➜So that doesn't stop Islam from being the only religion from the time Adam till date! All other religions are essentially manmade!

If, according to you, all religions are under the umbrella of Islam, how can there exist "infidels" or whatever subtle term you wish to use for them at this point in time?

2. Paul did not advise me since I am not Paul's servant. Also, according to his letters, those who were not of his belief were Israelites who refused to convert to the New Covenant that was offered to them by their Israelite Deity. You would note this since the same Paul had no issues presenting himself to the Romans as one who was to be considered on equal footing as them, given that he too happened to be a Roman. He obviously did not consider the Romans unbelievers.

3. According to you, every religion out there does not exist because they are all, by default, Islamic, regardless of the deity they bow or bowed to. That is the extent of your previous claim. If all other religions are manmade and everyone is indeed an Islamic, then what exactly have Islamics been agitating for? So, why backtrack now?

MrDoGood:
✓ A quick one, my wife gave birth in FMC Abuja. We've paid for everything up front months before delivery. On day of delivery, around past 10 pm, the doctors said it's gonna be CS and we need to pay extra 600k or so. I have the money in an account where I can't do transfer. No ATM card. Nothing attached to that account. But I have a very reasonable amount of money there way more than they were asking for. Even my car is worth more than the money 38 times. These guys didn't proceed until I paid the full money. I had to call my brother that transferred me m just incase . I went ahead and paid, went to show the doctors the receipt of payment before they went ahead with the cs. That was on Friday night/ Saturday morning. Imagine I didn't have someone. Just imagine!!!!! And the money they're asking for is not a problem.

Let me tell you guys something. The same thing you described happens here in most hospitals. You provide payment or guarantee of payment before any service of the sort described is provided. People sign up for these service providers that are able to director connect them to the hospital's pay system. It is the same everywhere. Why hasn't that service been implemented in the Nigerian situation? Because the people do not provide themselves a government that enables businesses to hatch and thrive. What that means is that the responsibility rests on the individuals still to ensure they have access to funds even in emergencies. You do not on the one hand deny yourselves good governance and then on the other hand expect to blame the government for that which you all voted against having.

BenedictAbajue:
✓Op I think you are making noise at this point.
many other people here think so too

He ain't the one making noise, in my opinion. 🤔

Why naw? 😐😐😐😐

Merry100:
✓ Yes, walk away, is there a problem? Proverb 14:7 TLV.
Understanding comes when we seek truth with an open heart, not by engaging in discussions that lack intellectual or Spiritual nourishment. May the good God heal you. Be Blessed.

Do you at least accept that the one brandishing the foolishness I am to walk away from here is your person?

Merry100:
✓ Okay, sweetie, I get you; but when the Word says walk away, who am I to argue? Proverbs 14:7. Be blessed.

Walk away from what? Try to pay close attention to the advise given to gain understanding rather than these attempts at imposing ideas different from the contained message.

DEmeritus1:
How market @ ...

Without delusions of an army of any kind.

Merry100:
✓ Proverb 1:5 A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels:

Pay close attention to what that message is infact trying to teach you.

suckprick:
If it's a punishment. Then stay single all your life this girl!!. Marriage no be by force. Avoid the punishment.

Or a woman could choose a partner who sees her as his equal in all-wise. Marriages founded on this also exist.

Merry100:
➜You call it lazy to seek the truth.
➜ But Proverbs 18:2 says, 'A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion.

1. What you seek from these theologians isn't truth, but rather you want them to validate your own ideas, which is likely never going to happen, particularly since submission is considered a core tenet of the religion you belong to.

2. The foolish one here happens to be you, the one seeking validation from others, your theologians, as far as what to believe.

Merry100:
➜I’m not looking to engage in a debate about my faith. This was intended to be a discussion of Christian beliefs; not an avenue for attacking the faith itself. You’re clearly making this about personal grievances with Christianity rather than engaging in a sincere dialogue. While you’re free to hold your views, mutual respect for differing perspectives is important. Do have a nice day!

This isn't about me or my grievances, but the fact that you, a Christian, are attempting to argue against a theological doctrine— wholly religious with no biblical origin whatsoever— while at the same time insisting the answers must come from the very same people who hold and propagate the very idea you are against. It is a sort of mental laziness... is what it seems.

Bogoshipo2:
➜For all who said nothing would change.... you were right. In 2014, he got a call from my family, as I took his phone. I saw him run up the stairs. I looked at his logs, i saw she called and he called back about after 10pm. I thought it was suspicious for him to make a store trip the night before.. my suspicions were right. He went out to make a call. He denied as usual. I can say without a doubt, i died that day. He was STILL talking to her after everything?? Then I was really really the loser. Prior to this discovery, he swore the last time time they spoke was the last time I caught them.

While you died that day, I hope you have since then been able to raise yourself and move past it all in all that time. I hope that since then, you have built yourself a life of your own separate from the life you had before all of this.

DEmeritus1:
Arsenal to qualify ; Arsenal a si na.

Nonsense talk!

RedboneSmith:
Did you say all of this to the "uneducated idiot"'s face or did you run home to the safety of your keyboard like a little bitch?

You mean to the face of the Barbarians?

OMgosh! I don't even know where to begin!