₦airaland Forum

Merry100:
➜I’m not looking to engage in a debate about my faith. This was intended to be a discussion of Christian beliefs; not an avenue for attacking the faith itself. You’re clearly making this about personal grievances with Christianity rather than engaging in a sincere dialogue. While you’re free to hold your views, mutual respect for differing perspectives is important. Do have a nice day!

This isn't about me or my grievances, but the fact that you, a Christian, are attempting to argue against a theological doctrine— wholly religious with no biblical origin whatsoever— while at the same time insisting the answers must come from the very same people who hold and propagate the very idea you are against. It is a sort of mental laziness... is what it seems.

Bogoshipo2:
➜For all who said nothing would change.... you were right. In 2014, he got a call from my family, as I took his phone. I saw him run up the stairs. I looked at his logs, i saw she called and he called back about after 10pm. I thought it was suspicious for him to make a store trip the night before.. my suspicions were right. He went out to make a call. He denied as usual. I can say without a doubt, i died that day. He was STILL talking to her after everything?? Then I was really really the loser. Prior to this discovery, he swore the last time time they spoke was the last time I caught them.

While you died that day, I hope you have since then been able to raise yourself and move past it all in all that time. I hope that since then, you have built yourself a life of your own separate from the life you had before all of this.

DEmeritus1:
Arsenal to qualify ; Arsenal a si na.

Nonsense talk!

RedboneSmith:
Did you say all of this to the "uneducated idiot"'s face or did you run home to the safety of your keyboard like a little bitch?

You mean to the face of the Barbarians?

OMgosh! I don't even know where to begin!

Merry100:
➜Sweetie, I asked about biblical submission in the face of abuse, not for a tired lecture blaming women for their own mistreatment.
➜ Theology should be able to tell the difference between submission and maltreatment.

There is no biblical submission. Rather, what you have are religious narratives constructed by your religious gods of men in attempts to keep you all subjugated/mentally controlled.

2. Well, theology is based almost entirely on the musings of the minds of the many men who rule over the narratives. So, isn't your first error expecting them to be able to tell you this difference?

fabolouz1:
➜It's a good example and should be emulated by all right thinking individual.

Why make such nonsensical assertions? It is a good example of how? Emulate it, why?

blacksam01:
➜The lady posted it, not the man

That explains much! She looks like she has not had it easy at all. 😂😂😂😂😂

Inshame3:
➜I will get married early next year,but I am a perpetual visitor of brothel and my wife think I am a virgin should I reveal my past to her or I should let it go

On the other thread, you said you took sniper to kill yourself only days ago but somehow that didn't work. Why are you now planning to get married?

Merry100:
➜Should a woman submit to a man who is cold, abusive or unfaithful; simply because he is her husband?

A better question would be, "Should a woman, knowing fully well she has no desire to submit to any being, choose to enter into marriage with a man whose sole desire is for her to submit to him? Women need to take responsibility for their own failures here. They are usually not forced into these marriages, and divorce has been available from the very beginning to everyone convinced he/she had made an error in marriage.

JOACHINpedro:
This is woke mindset. I don't see any value in that.
Immediate satisfaction, yes but not value. He may likely be a sex addict. Because being broke and having an erection is a difficult combo

Are all who pay for hookups addicts?

RealSolution001:
➜A girl from a well-to-do home is into hookup for whatever reason, charging N200k or more to spend a night with a man. A struggling guy is using his hard earned money to pay to sleep with this girl. Who is the silliest among these two?
The girl from a rich home for making herself available for a struggling guy? Or The guy who should use his money to better his life instead of paying such amount for a night sex?

She is a business person selling her services to those who would want it, and he is a customer paying for the service with his money. Why describe either of them as silly in this case?

Eberechukwu4u:
➜She was always at home gossiping and playing with my kids, but she could not make egusi soup for me because it was nighttime. But this babe, despite having a busy day, still had the energy to cook for me. Wow! What a beautiful woman with a strong sense of respect.
I took out my phone and sent her the money in front of my wife, who witnessed everything. Then I left, feeling satisfied and eager to eat my favourite dish. She was almost done by the time I arrived at her house. Later, I ate and slept at her place. However, when I arrived home in the morning, my wife had left the house, taking my two children with her. I called everyone, but they said they had not seen her. She is not at her father's house nor with her aunt.
However, someone claimed to have seen her leave with my two sons. She turned off her phone. Can you just imagine? She had the intention of taking my sons and leaving my house, possibly to her boyfriend's. Who gave her the authority to leave my home at that ungodly hour?
➜ It has been two days, and she has yet to return. My patience is running out, so I just want her to bring my sons to me and explain where she went. A woman who competes with a man is unworthy to be called a wife. If she is no longer interested in the marriage, let her return my children to me. She has bitten off more than she can chew. I just want my kids back. What are your thoughts on this?

The wife did well to realize that the man was probably better off marrying the working-class gal and not her. She should go find herself a man who could better appreciate her elsewhere.

2. Patience running out? Simply file for divorce from the woman, and also fight for custody of the kids(though shared custody is usually better). Afterward, he can then marry the other woman he pays to cook for him. End of story!

ExAngel007:
➜https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.vanguardngr.com/2025/04/nigeria-loses-2bn-annually-to-medical-tourism-fg/amp/

I would like to know how he came to that number, though.

Reference:
➜Crazy contraption but to those stating different meals cook at different rates as a problem have either never worked in a kitchen or multi-tasked. The simple logic is that you start with whatever takes longer to end up somewhere about the same point.
However the laws of thermodynamics will ensure that the 'partitioned pot' breaks down after a while.

Everything on this planet eventually breaks down after a while.

Antichristian2:
➜Yes, the only religion all Prophets from Adam to Jesus and Muhammad practiced is Islam!

Religion is a biatch! This here is the very same religion that labels all those who don't bow to its own god "infidels" we are talking of here. How can Islam be the only religion practiced by them all when Islam refers to those who do not bow to its particular deity— the Jews included— as infidels? The very world we live in today is regularly rocked by this fact thanks to Islamic zealots. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Antichristian2:
➜So Job's temptation is not different from Jesus?
➜Of course it doesn't to you! Anything goes so far its for Jesus! Jesus had it cool for himself biblically!

Temptation happens to all already implies the details of temptation itself are of little or no importance when considering the person it happens to. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

2. Nonsense! Even Jesus Christ of Israel made it abundantly clear in the book that YHWH, His Father, is the one whose Will is what He does and the only Will that matters.

Antichristian2:
➜The religion of Christianity does not exist! Only Islam exist from the time of Noah! Saying Christianity exists before Islam is the lie!

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 See wetin religion don do person head abeg!

So, the enterprise called "Christianity" does not exist because the other corporate enterprise called "Islam" would rather, against the very will of all, claim the entire religious space for itself? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Dzzzz:
You don’t want to have a discussion rather you want an argument bro..I’ve been consistently telling you, I don’t care what the girl is going through. My concern right now is with her father and not her cause anytime soon she could run to her father..E.O.D..

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Dzzzz:
BTW it’s not my issue but a friends story recap..You only fighting for the emotional trauma the girls going through and forget what the father who stood by her for 18yrs would be going through right now..Like i said,she’s lucky she still in that house..

Again, your personal issues, whether they pertain to your friends or not, have absolutely nothing to do with this story. Go back and read the OP again if you have doubts. The girl made clear that she was rejected by the man she had known as her father for all of her life after he discovered that she was not biologically his. The rejection she experienced is what she narrated in her post. That is what this conversation remains about.

Dzzzz:
P.O.C,they ain’t my kids…Do you know how many man have died because of this and you busy talking about the emotional impact on the daughter!?..A friends friend foound out the 3kids are not his and the first is 15yrs of age..That man is dead now so don’t tell me about emotional impact…Till it happens to you then we see how you deal with the emotional impact.”

Again, learn to keep your personal demons and delusions out of the discussion.

Dzzzz:
..✓ You looking for someone to accept the the man’s wrong but bro no one really gives a shit..So you mean to tell me the man who father a child for 18yrs is emotionally ok with everything right ?..Are you even thinking of what that man is going through right now?..The girl is lucky to still type this shit under the same roof..Men have committed suicide for this act of wickedness and you tell my about emotional impact on her lol…

Now you have pretty much abandoned the original narrative and given full control to your personal delusions. Learn to keep your private issues and misgivings out of discussions. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

All I have stated is that the girl's statements describing the devastation of the rejection that followed is valid -- her emotions are valid, and not to be thrown aside before of some other side of the story as you claim. 😩😩😩😩😩

Dzzzz:
…There are two sides to a coin so why listen to only what she is saying?..So far she’s no talking about the mistake her mom did but talk only about the father,from where I sit you and I are assuming..

So, because there are these two sides to stories, the emotional impact the rejection had on her should be disregarded? Is that your genius way of reasoning with your own kids too?

InDiscov:
✓ Here's what will 99% likely happen, after this marriage the white man will relocate her to America or Europe and she will either refuse getting pregnant or get pregnant for him, after sometime she will look for fault and if she fails to she will provoke the man by living wayward life;

She will provoke him and tag him controlling with cohesive behaviour or lie to the Police that he beat her up, the uzzellezz Police will come and evict him out of his own house; she will then divorrce him and use the children to milk him off his finances through child support, frvstrate him by refusing him access to his children and if the man is foolish he will continue paying child support without access to his children. Believe indiscov it's slavery.

Stop with these Stewpid tales abeg! If you are tired of the marriage, seek divorce. Your father's in Nigeria encourage marriage abandonment, a crude prototype of divorce. So, why pretend that divorce is some alien idea?

idahme:
✓ Divorce is not simple

It is not simple to those whose ancestors and cultural leanings favored such crude ideas as spousal abandonment?

Curious345:
There is nothing like marriage trap. If you get in and it's not working. Just get out via a simple divorce

Such simple common sense suggestions are beyond the capacity of those who forever see themselves as victims.😩

Dzzzz:
We re both assuming here cause we not eye witnesses.As to the second questions,yes I have..Who are we to to blame for this tragedy?

I made no assumptions here. The story clearly says the man rejected her after so many years of her being his child. Rejection to individuals particular children can be as devastating as murder.

Antichristian2:
Have you been eating with the devil to know this!
I grew up reading the Bible and learning its history... I am on the right! God has no son! God needs no son to help him! God is one not three!

That is a definite lie! Rather, you, like over 97% of the religiously inclined, grew up consuming religious doctrines -- narratives structured by other men-- voraciously. That explains why almost all of your processing of content linked to the books contained in the compendium remains aligned with the religious narratives out there and not the facts as stated in the books themselves.

I suggest you banish the thought that your particular religious delusion is in some way superior or better than the religious delusions traded by the religion of Christianity, which came before the religion of Islam, as they were both founded on lies.

Antichristian2:
✓ I agree that human's temptations vary!
The harder your temptations and trials the more the level of such person in God's sight!
✓ Comparing Jesus's and Job's trials, Jesus's trials from Satan still remains subpar sha!

There is no truth to this in Israelite Scripture; this particular idea was crafted by your religious overlords for your sakes, I believe.

2. When it comes to Israelite Scripture, such comparisons hold no meaning.

Antichristian2:
✓ Sinning does make one a sinner! But once you repent you are no more a sinner! It does not make it OK to sin! We must try to avoid sin as much as possible! But whenever we falter, we should repent ASAP!

✓ Humans are created to sin but they are not sinners? 😩😩😩
✓ Once you sin and repent, even though you are remain a human and were created to sin, you are not a sinner?😩😩😩
✓ it is not OK to sin even though you are a human created to sin? 😩😩😩😩

Dzzzz:
✓ At least he didn’t chase her out,some would chase her and the mom immediately..

First of all, aren't you erroneously assuming here that the house belonged to the man? Second, have you ever loved under the same roof with someone who once regarded you only for that person to, suddenly, begin to avoid you like a plague? It is heart wrenching for many especially when what once existed was a parent-child relationship.

Dzzzz:
…A whole lot of people would have handled it much worse than the man..18yrs of sweat gone down the drain cause a woman couldn’t put her vagina on hold!..

Handled it much worse? How much worse? By literally murdering her as opposed to the psychological murder of rejection he inflicted on her? How many of those lot of people have you ever met before? 🙄🙄🙄

DonBenny77:
It will work any one that's get done first can be dished out. It works but I blame Tinubu

I blame Nigerians for allowing themselves be ruled by the most incompetent for so long.