₦airaland Forum

chinchum:
➜The reality is that it is almost impossible in Nigeria for many to have 1.6 million naira. However, most government hospitals with a budget of 300,000 will cater for most emergencies including operation. Your benchmark will exclude 95% of Nigerian couples from giving birth.
➜The worst carelessness is the one done where a couple with about 8 months of time to plan fail to save or borrow for emergency that child birth complications can bring. Saving 40k every month for 8 months, means they have 300k at birth period. That budget in most government hospital is a safe zone, some wont even spend up to 100k. Registering for antenatal and going regularly also reduces risk of childbirth complications. These painful story does not suggest there was any antenatal done.

1. Nigeria will continue to go on if that 95% would prioritize saving up that amount over the next 10 years over having children that will end up a burden and a problem to the system. With a population reaching about 230 million and over 170 million of them living in poverty— over 24 million Nigerians are homeless with over 10 million orphaned and with no where to go —, they do not do anyone any good having kids, not even the kids benefit from being born since there is nothing for them as yet, where Nigeria is today.

2. It is quite disturbing the behavior of people who are thought to be developed enough to be contributing citizens in any country.

azpekuliar:
➜Nigerians can be heartless. My dad is a retired medical doctor. He worked for many years in a faith-based hospital. In the 2000s they will admit patients without a deposit. Patients will arrive at the emergency and their families will wail, beg, plead that the patient should be admitted and treated while they run round to raise the deposit. Immediately the patient gets well u no go see im family members again. Before u know am patient don abscond from ward.

I have seen so many videos of hospitals lamentiing this over the years.

ennon92:
➜Bro, my wife attended antenatal whenever they gave her appointment...A week before she gave birth prematurely, she still went there, she complained of how she was feeling, they said it's normal cos she's carrying twins...
Not until you experience these things, you wouldn't know how fvcked up this country is

The country is bleeped up... no questions about that. But that doesn't in any way excuse what this particular man tried to do, which reads like an attempt at a scam; it backfired most terribly.

chinchum:
....As poor couples, you can have sex all day long in the midst of excruciating poverty , but use protection, or if you prefer it raw , get the female on iud or male to tie up and enjoy your raw sex while languishing and relishing poverty with hope of better life. Sex is good, but don't bring too many kids than necessary in to poverty. 1 or 2 kids should be okay till things improve.

Any poor man who does not have at least $1000 in the bank and a combined monthly salary of at least Naira 170,000 should not be considering having 1 or 2 kids in this economy.

ClassicEvilSpir:
➜There is no virtue in making life harder for oneself and unwilling participants. The Koreans, the northern Europeans; most western countries in general, despite their better standard of living, are facing a decline in population thanks to reduced breeding. Many are smart to realize if they do not have certain resources to birth and raise a child or children, then they are better without.

Tell a black man that and he will immediately tell you stories of how the God of Israel, or is it Allah, mandates that he produce babies even in his poverty.

Watch out for this particular man. The man go soon go carry another woman to impregnate before too long. I wish say someone know the man and where him live to report on this for us.

ennon92:
➜The experience is unpalatable...That's how i lost my twins last year September, my wife gave birth prematurely at home, I wasnt even around cos I travelled so had to tell her to go to her mom's place with my son...She didn't even know it was labor prior to that day tho she was feeling uneasy, it was around 2am she delivered them, thank God she was stayed with her mom, if not how she would have done it by herself and my 3 years old boy...After the delivery, they had to rush her down to MCC but they rejected her outrightly despite how she was bleeding profusely...they were told to go to General Hospital at Akodo or Island Maternity on the island, despite outrageous charges Mother and Child at Abraham Adesanya collected for antenatal yet they couldn't attend to my wife, they had to sent them away..
➜ On getting to Island Maternity they discovered one of the twins already died while the second one was refered to Masssey Children's hospital, we stayed there for 25 days, we spent a lot, over 500k, buy these buy that, we paid for oxygen 3k a day, incubator 1,500 a day, and some other mumu expenses, different drugs, injections, blood transfusion nko...omo it was a terrible experience...still lost the other twin, but thank God my wife is hale and hearty now...Person wey hin wife born without stress or difficulty no knw wetin God do am...This country is terrible, nothing is working, just pray you don't have challenges beyond your power, if not eh, u go wail tire,

This your story no too clear! Ante natal was expensive? After birth, the two babies were rushed to another hospital for what purpose?

Why couldn't the first hospital handle the emergency if money were not the problem? What was the reason that they gave?

Please consider creating a thread to detail your ordeal so those who are pregnant and are, in fact, ready can also learn other ways things could still go wrong in getting the care they paid for. It is people like you who ought to speak out so we can better understand the true problems within the health care system itself. Unfortunately, they say it is the empty barrels that make the loudest noise.

TechBaron:
➜You're truly a junkie. Kindly f*ck off.

After you doofus! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

TechBaron:
➜Go and take several seats man. You know nothing. You think you fucking have your life figured out and you got everything under control. Bleep you man! I repeat, Bleep you bro!

You are obviously off your hinges since you seem to insist here that planning out your future is the same as having everything under your control. Nonsense! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

The same you now go know say you suppose save money up if you plan to buy that car you like or carry that babe you don dey admire for sometime now? Some of you are just termite brains. 🙄🙄🙄

TechBaron:
➜Mr. Kobojunkie or whatever sh*t you call yourself... Shut up!... Fucking shut up man. What fucking intentional... Look at what this fool is typing. Wife to a friend of mine who used to work in commercial bank delivered conjoined twins two years ago... Do I need to speak further? Look at this idiot.. Calling me irresponsible! Life never hit you. You're just spewing rubbish. Intentional kee you there!

Yet another emotional rant! Your friend's wife delivered conjoined twins, and so? Because of that, your friend and his wife should not have been expected to pay the bill. Or have enough resources to adequately cater to the kids, even if aside from any unforeseen costs of raising conjoined twins, assuming they had other medical complications? Nonsense and egridient!! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Gboom:
Where did I write there are 3 baby daddies in my post. Are you hallucinating or you have mental derailment

3 different babies equates to 3 baby support checks(even if rolled up in one).
✓ if one baby daddy for all 3 babies, then that man should definitely be cross off of list of potential partners for any other sane woman unless he is a billionaire.
✓ if 2 baby daddies for the 3 babies ,then you have 2 baby-mama makers to watch out for with one being a high risk
✓ if 3 baby daddies then you ultimately have 3 men to watch out for in case any of them comes courting your daughters or sisters.

autoez:
✓ Not all kids are destined to live in mansions

Ah! It is there fault that there parents chose to deprive them of a life lived in a mansion, abi? Wow .. 😩😩😩😩

Like I said, you religious folks are some of the most wicked entities on this planet and this reality is seen clearly among the very poor in Nigeria. They are many of the most religious and also many of the most wicked to their own children. 😐😐😐😐

ogascomax:
✓ Some of una are still babies in thought. Pray that you don't enter some emergency that is when you will understand life.

I am so irresponsible to live on a prayer; I plan for every emergency possible and that keeps me above the stewpid things your life is riddled with. Stop ruining the lives of your children by your foolishness.

TechBaron:
Rule Number 1 - Never think it can't happen to you.

Your rule number 1 does not apply in my world because I am not as irresponsible as you are; I live life intentionally.

autoez:
✓ That’s not realistic. Can you really say that to a woman?

✓ It might seem okay to tell a man not to have children, but who will fulfill the strong desire many women have to become mothers? Men, of course. And let’s be honest, men are naturally drawn to women, with a strong libido and deep desire. So how can reproduction not happen? Especially when women are aware that their biological clock is ticking. Bros, remember God said, “Be fruitful and multiply.” That wasn’t just a command, it was a divine statement of purpose. If you stand in the way of that, you're working against God's plan. Have a good night rest.

This message is for both women and for men as well. Again, why should a woman not know to use protection until she has fully resolved the issue of poverty that will keep her from adequately raising her kids when she finally has them?

You religious people are some of the most wicked arseholes on the planet.

I tell ya. So because of that passage, you take it to mean it is OK to have kids when you absolutely don't have anything that rais them with? 😩😩😩😩

Cmanforall:
✓ You are being honestly blunt! Saying things as they are!

I wonder why the hospital should be blamed. The fact the hospital referred them to another hospital shows that the hospital staff care (imagine what would have happened if they had kept the woman and she eventually dies in their hospital. This man would have called them out, and may also not pay the requested 500k deposit, which he claimed he could have raised).
Even the man admitted that perhaps the hospital doesn't have the facilities to treat his pregnant wife, which is possibly the reason they demanded that amount to deterr him and for then to accept the referral to a government hospital which will be cheaper and have more professionals

Imagine driving to a Convalescent Center for Emergency care after a whole 9 months or pregnancy? Who does that without first ensuring the clinic is equipped to handle emergencies?

autoez:
✓ It's not possible to cut my brother. Inflation is killing this country

Cut out on having babies you cannot afford.

autoez:
✓ How can you save in a country where your expenses supercedes your income. To survive this country well, it's either you're into fraud or you have a high paying job.

If you are unable to save them why should you be creating situations for when such savings would be necessary?

Kaczynski:
✓ aren't they both human beings there's no difference between a mad man and dwarf both of them are disabled , one's disabled up stairs while the other's disabled by height. yet most nigerian men are still raping mad women

There is a certain judge in the Abuja courts today who without her medication and support system will probably be on the streets with the label madman dogging her all the way. However, that apart, her life does not compare to that of that of millions of Nigerians living in abject poverty.

Having a disability is not a fault one has to be ashamed of. However, being able to make the best of one's life despite the disability is possible for those who have available the resources and support necessary.

nairalanda1:
➜ And many of those excess kids are running on the street up North. Never ends well

You forgot to include the agberos and the many gangsters recruited by people like asari dokubo , the fat pig in the riverine area.

Catapault:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gz01QU4bWeY?si=qTHlCgJ57UKqzLfX

A video of yourself as the one doing the buying is no proof. 😐😐😐

Aspayastudenthu:
I hear that Dr Adanna , Ohakim’s daughter is now the SSA to the president on women’s healthcare. I hope someone can draw her attention to this. She talked about policy and I appreciate this may be too soon as she just assumed office nevertheless, I do honestly believe that change can be imminent in the Nigeria’s healthcare sector.

What exactly will her police do in the case of people having kids they can't afford?

Catapault:
✓ But the market is filled with people buying and selling.
How many Nigerians use Shoprite?
✓ How do we even know where or when he is filming that thing? Are you it’s not the SHOPRITE In Abakiliki or Awka that he’s filming from, and claiming Silverbird?

Where is your video proof of this? 🤔

2. You could always make a video of your own revealing how the ShopRite in your own part of the country is a lot better than his.

LawWithEbele:
✓ If you or someone you know is considering divorce on the grounds of adultery, please understand your legal rights and steps before taking action.

What’s your view? Should adultery alone be enough reason for divorce in Nigeria? Let’s discuss.

Doesn't your writeup insist that there are a total of 8 possible grounds for divorce? Nigerian divorce laws definitely have a long way to go.

Kaczynski:
no, should a mad man reproduce

That's entirely different. Sort of along the lines of asking if those who are poor should procreate. If said madman has his madness under control and has resources enough to properly and adequately raise a kid, then why not.

Balablue64:
Cc ...

First, you should probably dig deep into the condition to better understand what Dwarfism is and how some can have normal height children. That way you can better understand how prohibition may not be a humane approach to tackling the issue. It is never a good idea to take away the rights of people unless there is a just reason to do so. https://www.thetech.org/ask-a-geneticist/articles/2006/ask179/

I completely understand how the disability does impact the lives of those who are born to it, but the major issue happens to be the terrible state of health care in Africa.

TEMINIKANSOSO:
How did you overcome your anger? Share your past and present state?

Through self-reflection, criticism, and honesty, you too can gain the emotional intelligence that you desire. You need to figure out what triggers you, why such things trigger you. Why does your mind allow those particular triggers to hold power over you? Anger is an internal reaction, and to curb it, you need to look inwards to find the root of your suffering and deal with it at its root.

binary01:
the act of putting all those things within his coffin is an indication that she does, such practice is really old and spread across many cultures in africa especially acient Egypt

According to what proven methodology?

fcbelle72:
✓ In most case body no be firewood , some are case of chop and clean mouth, boom belle enters

You and I are old enough to realize that having sex is different from having babies. Many of these issues were raised in the information age and are well aware of the existence of more than one effective birth control methods. Refusing to take responsibility for one's life and the potential consequences of having sex without protection is what certifies them as deadbeats.

nosa2ekundayo:
✓ Hahahahaha...ur number 2 made me laff joor...anyway, I like your resilience....I just like your energy of standing by your submission...
3. I love your careful use of words... By reality of things at the time of events /experience....
So bro, you experienced the events(multiple) over a time period (eg 2000 to 2025) only within which you were alive to see, feel, touch, eat, drink etc(experience), this is your fact!
✓ Thats your fact sir, not an older mans fact..he cannot change your fact,neither can you change his....

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3. But facts are not subjective.That I had the same dream multiple times over a period of 25 years does not make my dream a fact. The experience is a fact since dreams(recurring dreams as well) happens to most(not subjective fact) though. But the actual content of the dream is itself subjective..

4. You should probably look up the meaning of the term fact before you go on.

ophilly:
➜They are only being optimistic that things will change for the better in future.

Over the last 10 years, more than 50 million more Nigerians have been shoved below the poverty line; those of them who were there before this time were shoved even lower below abject poverty levels. Those of them who, 10 years ago, thought it would all magically work out, are today living worse than they did back then.

To claim people who debase themselves in this manner are merely being optimistic amounts to tacitly admitting they are stewpid Nigerians doing what stewpid Nigerians do best — living stewpidly.

ibechris:
➜My advice to everyone is especially ladies. Don't marry a man whose plan has no financial backings.
Don't be surprised that the same man is part of those who supports evil such as bigotry in Nigeria. He practically killed his wife. He had nine months to prepare for the worst but he had none and not even friends to help out,no family members to help. Shameless man for that matter. ➜Just wasted someone's daughter.

Women who choose this kind of man are not victims. She is culpable, as her death is also due to negligence on her part.

She already had two kids, she was aware they were not being raised well, yet she proceeded to have another kid on top of that. In addition, she made no plans to ensure that she would be taken care of in the case of an emergency. How can she trust it all in the hands of the same man who has not been able to properly feed her and her two children?

2. She wasted her own life and self—provided the man did not intend to kill her. People should begin raising daughters with higher intelligence and standards. Why should any woman submit her eggs to such men? Why? A woman ought to hold out for as long as is necessary to ensure any kid they have has a worthy father— it is better to have any kids at all than to help a deadbeat proliferate; she submitted her life and self to an entitled entity, and look at the result.

Aonkuuse:
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Probably hundreds of those are abandoned every month in that one state alone.