₦airaland Forum

HaneefahRN:
Got married in my 20s and making my money. Just ensure you get your education or handwork or business rooted and don't marry a weapon fashioned against you

Many women who also married early had or got themselves an education and also boast of a ministore where they sell goods or maybe even a market stall — handwork —but poverty continues to follow them no matter what.

DigitB:
➜We men are logical all the time.
Most women claim they don't want to marry until they make their own money. Ask them what they're doing to make the money and you'll find out they're making chin-chin, small chops , cake, makeup and small tailoring then augmenting the income with hookup and hopping from one divck to another.
A woman marrying early will help her to align her goals properly. She don't have to keep worrying about men-catching most of the time. With her husband's support she can be whatever she wish to be.

Let me be sure that I get this right! In Nigeria today, the vast majority of women live below the poverty lines both in marriage and outside where they are generally in poverty as a result of being raised in poverty. We are talking many generations mired in poverty today — a population of well over 100 million women in Nigeria. But here you are attempting to convince us, against all logic, mind you, that by marrying and bearing children in poverty, a woman aligns her goals properly?

Are you people OK in the head at all?

DeeScan:
➜Meat could have been fresh out of a grilling machine...

Grilled meat that was burnt to charcoal?

Tunaji:
➜Where do you live? What is the source of your statistic? World Bank or IMF?
Does $1 actually have the same purchasing power as 1,500 naira, its monetary equivalent? I mean what is your yardstick? Is poverty in inner city DC the same as poverty in Kwara for example? See, I'm itinerant to some extent, and on ground in several places in Nigeria, the kind of life Nigerians have enjoyed in this 25 odd years of democracy, they would not have enjoyed it in a military rule. So yes, things are getting better.

What in the world is all of this rambling for?

Tunaji:
➜You are preaching 60s, 70s and 80s gospels in 2025. A lot of Nigerians are getting an education now and people's prospects are not what it used to be: people are getting jobs, the uneducated and the half-educated are trading heavily and making more money than the white collars ones. People are in political parties and are doing well, making money off politicking. In short people ' s lot have gotten better in Nigeria. So the gospel to get marry early is a good one.

60s, 70s, 80s, yet we know that over 170 million Nigerians currently live in poverty despite this claimed education and jobs you say they have?

Are you OK?

killuminati:
It's called "Sizzling"

Sizzling produces smoke and not steam?

Misterone:
This is banga soup in a drying pot called éwéré

Does the use of a drying pot cause the meat to smoke(not steam) even after it has been placed in the soup?

DigitB:
➜Another proof that most women are empty brained. We all know the hóre is just chasing clout sha. Women should get married immediately they reach 18. She can still go on and conquer the world in any field she desires. Science, technology, humanities or whichever. A woman can achieve anything...

Millions of girls who have known nothing but poverty in their lives should go on to marry when they reach 18 and cement their lives of poverty and that of their offspring as a result. Many of you don't seem able to reason logically with your brains.

Tunaji:
➜Utter nonsense! This lady is basically advising people to marry when their libido has decreased. Make money but make sure to marry in your 20s please, especially after school. She probably didn't know the saying that goes thus:" A young man's wife is his bedmate, A middle-aged man's wife is his companion An old man's wife is his nurse"
➜You don't want your spouse to be your companion and nurse only, marry him or her when the spontaneity, libido and love are still strong.

Your kind of advise is the major reason why over 170 million Nigerians are currently living below abject poverty today, with many of them having been caged in poverty by their parents/ancestors before them.

2. Companion and nurse in poverty? How many people living in abject poverty in Nigeria today are enjoying said marriage?

Empresa:
She is trying to console herself why she is still single and past her 20s

She is doing so by applying wisdom, something many don't consider at all. That is a good thing !

occfx:
➜According to the topic, she said make enough money. So my reply is focused on enough money which I said you cannot gauge.
➜In fact, it is not early marriage that makes people poor if that's where you are confused.

I think by "enough money," she probably meant something along the lines of escaping the poverty threshold completely before then proceeding to raise kids.

2. Over 170 million Nigerians today live below the poverty line, many of them as a result of poverty having been passed down to them by their parents/ancestors. This means the vast majority of Nigerians currently in their 20s are living under the poverty line, and many of them believe that somehow marriage will magically save them from a life of poverty, a notion that defies reality.

Early marriage, in and of itself, isn't a problem at all. Rich people, for example, are known to arrange early marriages for their children with other rich people, and these marriages typically solidify their wealth and connections as a result. However, for people coming from a poverty background, early marriage mostly serves to exacerbate the condition, propelling it to a generational status in their lives and that of their offspring.

Muhylonaire007:
➜Let people do what works for them. This life no get template. The other day, one man was lamenting that the mistake he made in his life was not marrying early. You can’t tell people to live life in a certain way. Your template may not work for another person.

there is indeed no template for how to live life. However, there are many more foolish ways to live life than there are wise ways. With over 170 million Nigerians currently living in poverty, and with common knowledge being that poverty is highly likely a generational curse, choosing the wise templates would be the right thing to do for all at this point.

iamnotillicit:
U too like to argue Just swallow ur spit sometimes and move on... No be everything Everytime be debate

Again, was the meat on fire?

israelmao:
➜With fleeting nature of woman's beauty and splendor my candid advice to ladies is if they men who truly love them in their 20s they should waste no time in saying affirmative.
➜Some social media commentators/ influencers' pieces of advice could be confusing.

Only to end up mired in poverty for the rest of their lives and then pass it on to their children and so on, right?

2. Abeg, please, this year, begin to dey use your brain!

occfx:
➜Foolish people think money has gauge.. There is nothing like enough money... Just find your size of partner and continue the hustle ... Your own difinition of wealth may be another man definition of poverty. The problem people have is not cutting there coats accordingly. How can you be a salary earner and be dating a Brazilian wig marshal? The more money you make the more your taste board increases. E no get gauge unless you contend with yourself. My own be say, try to be a better person everyday or learn new things everyday. Make sure where you are today is not where you are tomorrow.

So the over 170 million Nigerians living in abject poverty today, with over 50 million of them having passed the condition on to their children and so on, do not have any fault in the fact that is their poverty, is what you are saying. We can gauge poverty but not wealth.

occfx:
➜The smoke is unnecessarily much

I want to believe that either the man was smoking some really bad cigarettes or the smoke was photoshopped onto the picture

Adakintroy:
➜What works for you may not work for others so its advices in the end not definite statement of instruction.
Marriage is not bad for young girls. Making money is not the female role but the male. The female is the support. If you spend your twenties making money, you may find yourself way too competitive or assertive to recoil or summit to a man. Other times you on the aging side to attract the right kind of man. Other times again too picky because of your conscious statues.

This isn't about marriage being bad for young girls but the fact that the majority of said young girls are from a poverty background at this point in history and should not have any business with raising children of their own until after they have conquered the poverty issue first. Either that or risk cursing their family and children with poverty for generations to come.

Hellisreal70:
➜E.g omotola jalade, regina Daniel, etc abi?

Against that handful of cases you mention, I play for you the over 50 million married Nigerians(North and South) who are living on the lowest rungs of poverty, many of whom also started families early and are— with at least one generation later — mired in poverty.

cr7lomo:
➜Men hardly marry women in their 30s ...did she consider the biological factor ?? At 30 women loose 90% of their eggs and at 35yrs she could have serious problems conceiving

. It is high time women avoid such foolish men altogether.

ItisWell22:
➜A financially strong female is a plus to the society at large. Beautiful!
In the prevention of childhood illnesses, girl child education is almost always number 1. Reason being that an educated female is expected to be viable, financially as well as make good decisions and contributions to the wellbeing of the family.
But then, there’s no age range or limit nor starting point for making wealth. It happens when it happens. Do what works for you, lady. For me, I’ll always advocate for early marriage. The benefits healthwise, are enormous. Your body will thank you. If you can’t do it early, make sure you position yourself well, especially financially, to make it less strenuous on your body. Your body will be grateful…

This suggestion of yours goes against common knowledge at this point, which is that the vast majority of women who marry earlier are more likely to not only remain poor but also guarantee their children remain mired in the very same. What this means is that these supposed benefits of early marriage that you claim are only in the minds of those who subscribe to such opinions.

Mopeola:
For your accurate peace of mind and harmony, l recommend you do not marry but try have a kid or children, ask your self why

That only works with those who have transcended such things as religion/tradition and their manipulation.

idahme:
After making the money iin your 30s you still look for a man to take care if your bills who are you deceiving? Yourself of course

How does that amount to deceit?

1Sharon:
➜Asake 🤨

Is he/she one of the parents described in the OP?

Adanambra1:
noted sir

. You are not even trying to fix the disconnect between the content of the article and your topic, are you?

Villa12:
➜What's your take please

Quite an unfortunate one there. Maybe you should just go hear the grandmother out and then go from there. Even if she offers that you take custody of the boy and you have to decline, it is still ok to listen to her. 😩😩😩

Andrecole:
➜You're just a fool

I am the fool, but you are the one who compiled that OP for the consumption of others? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

SoftSport:
Ah bro, it’s like your family is caught in some ancestral Netflix series, land grabs, eerie customs, and diabolical twists, but stay sharp and play the long game; your wisdom will outmaneuver all this drama.

Netflix is not the real world, where the opposite is typically the case— people are too afraid to act wisely.

missjekyll:
➜It's very hot. Looks like banga soup. That food is way too much for 1 person

That looks like smoke in the picture, not steam.

Andrecole:
➜I don't even know the appropriate caption for this post.
I'm really dismayed at what is happening in my family. First, my paternal grandfather died many years ago when my dad was only just 10yrs(according to Him). After my grandpa died, my grandma(father's mum) remarried. This time she got married to my grandpa's cousin. According to the customs and traditions of the land, when a man dies, the deceased brother is allowed to marry his late brother's wife and possess the children as well. This prevents the widow from going outside the family lineage to remarry. My father grew up with his stepfather who doubled as his uncle as well. Now my father died a few years ago, and my mum remarried. Presently, I'm scared this may happen to me cos it's beginning to look like a viscous cycle. I'm really worried.
➜ Secondly, my father's land which is my possession(by inheritance as the firstborn) has been seized by my uncle. An older stepbrother to my late father. My dad built on the land many years ago, but before he died, the building had collapsed. A few years after his burial, this step-uncle went and built on it without the permission of me or my siblings. At the time he Built on the land, I was only 20yrs of age and now that I have grown, I became very angry and reported the matter to the elders in council. I told them to find another land for me to build my own house since I can't bring down their own building. Though I'm not financially ready to build now. I'm only trying to secure what is rightfully mine. In my village they don't sell land. They just give, and u appreciate the giver with a token. It is forbidden to sell land. Sincerely I don't know what to do again cos this man doesn't have any land to give me and he's a very fetish and diabolical person. He is a core idol worshipper who loves charms a lot. In fact, He kills. I'm trying to apply wisdom in dealing with him.

1. What vicious cycle would you be referring to? You forgot to mention why your granddad and then your dad died. So, please explain to us what it is you are afraid might happen to you.

2. He built it without permission, and you are unwilling to take him to court because?

Kaczynski:
➜to see old person way get sense hard like f maths

Na almost myth for Nigeria.😐

1Sharon:
I'm happy that Asake isn't married yet. You all would have been quick to accuse his wife. Yeye.

Who is he/she, and why the mention?

Adanambra1:
➜"This sounds undoubtedly driven by the fetus," said Kent Thornburg, a fetal physiologist at Oregon Health Sciences University who was not connected with the study.
Thornburg said the findings do not necessarily mean that boys are heavier solely because their mothers eat more.
"That would lead to the conclusion that the more a pregnant woman eats the bigger her baby will be and that female babies would be larger if only their mothers ate more," he said. "A more realistic hypothesis is that fetuses stimulate the appetite in their mothers in proportion to their requirement for optimal growth."
Scientists do not understand exactly what causes appetite to increase during pregnancy, but the study's findings suggest there is a chemical communication between mother and fetus so that males can grow faster than females, with the mother being signaled to eat more to enable that growth, Thornburg said.
Thornburg said the findings could be relevant to the recently discovered relationship between growth in the womb and the risk in adulthood of illnesses such as heart disease and diabetes.

I can't seem to find the connection between the title and the information presented in the article.