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dettolgel:
✓ Most Nigerian marriages are not built on love or understanding. They are mostly built on...

Do Nigerian men, a majority of who end up cheating in marriage --side-chick culture is the norm --, some eventually marrying other women, marry for this love you pretend Nigerian women ought to marry for?

Why should a Nigerian woman marry for love when the vast majority of Nigerian men don't? What incentive or benefit is there for her doing any such?

StaffofOrayan:
Bro travel out of Nigeria first!, Most Nigerian women strongly believe in 'his money is our money, my money is mine'

If you have ever indeed traveled outside of Nigeria as you pretend, you would have learned that it isn't just Nigerian women who think that way. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

Also, you would also have learned that the only way you can end up in marriage with such women is if and only if you choose to marry a woman who reasons that way; essential the men who marry such women only to then complain about them are to blame.

StaffofOrayan:
✓ I think it's because few men simp financially like naija men,

There is no truth to this claim of yours. You should probably take time to study other cultures to see that what you describe is in no way unique to Nigerian men.

Ifybwoy:
✓ Guy you are talking trash. The main reason for our naija women misbehaving abroad is because majority of them never married for love but because they believe the young man will protect them financially....

Do Nigerian men, a majority of who end up cheating in marriage --side-chick culture is the norm --, some eventually marrying other women, marry for this love you pretend Nigerian women ought to marry for?

Why must a Nigerian woman marry for love when the vast majority of Nigerian men don't? What incentive exists for her doing any such?

theophorus:
✓ Absolutely, we all should raise our kids same way irrespective of Gender and no one should be thought to be the Provider but both of them.

The men-are-providers-and-women-their-slaves marriage could never have worked for all.

omoredia:
✓ More fail in Nigeria the difference is poverty. poverty will make u remain with a woman or man u have already divorced in ur heart.

Marriage abandonment rates in Southern Nigeria seem to mirror divorce rates in other climes, including that in Northern Nigeria. Southerners refuse to admit to themselves that abandonment is pretty much now an illegal form of divorce.

DaddyCoool:
✓ There are certain things that feel good to humans - unless you are not human! One is sex. Another is delicious food. Humans can easily survive without sex or delicious food but it feels much better having them!

Your list tells so much about your kind of person; I blame myself for the engaging you. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

Airoflaw:
which kind Good and bad advice be this lol

Good in what sense?

DaddyCoool:
✓ We'er talking of something that feels better. If something doesn't feel good you won't want to go back to it, habit or not.
✓ Cuddling is part of it.
✓ You'll do just fine alone but by human nature it feels better having someone you can hold (and fucķ if u wish, let's not forget that)

1. Isn't it obvious to you at this point in time that your ideas of that which feels better does not connect with everyone out there, not even every woman?

2. So, because cuddling feels good to you, you take that to mean it must feel good and be desired by every human? [b]How old are you? [/b]I should have started off with this question.

3. So, even though almost 50% of humans never really enjoy/experience this cuddling and fking, you are rather convinced that it is all instead according to how you think? 😳😳

DaddyCoool:
✓ You are wrong. There's a reason previously married people find it much harder staying single than never married people. If you taste both you'd need no one to tell you there's a huge difference - heat is NOT heat!
✓ Social animal means just that. There are animals that are naturally solitary. There's a reason humans always end up in groups

1. Ever heard the saying, "Old habits die hard"? 😳😳😳😳

2. And in your tiny mind, being social has to do with an inane idea of cuddling ? 😩🙄🙄🙄

DaddyCoool:
➜You missed that I wrote WARM room. Heat from another's body feels quite different from ambient heat.
➜How about having someone you'd be bantering back and forth about what you're watching. We'er SOCIAL animals whether we like it or not. You can survive quite fine alone, but the best human life is one SHARED with others

1. There is no truth to this as warmth is warmth.

2. You should probably go research what it means to say that humans are social animals since you keep applying the notion wrongly! We are social animals does not mean all humans want to cuddle up. That particular delusion is yours. So, stop extending it to all humans particularly women as you do them a disservice by doing so.

DaddyCoool:
➜This was a SCIENTIFIC contolled social experiment. You do know what scientific means, don't you?

Does scientific control mean we are not to ask questions? Answer the question I asked or move on abeg! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

DaddyCoool:
➜So why aren't you attracted to men. They equally have a warm hole where you can stick your dick

Could you please stop pretending you speak for all women because your ignorant insinuations— which you confuse as facts— make them seem to portray them as pathetic beings that they are not.

DaddyCoool:
➜Fact. You can sleep quite fine alone in a warm room in cold weather. But it feels better under covers cuddling with someone, watching a favorite movie or sport event

Please stop perpetuating this brain-dead nonsense. You make women seem even more pathetic when you do this.

Some good blankets and mattresses give people a better night's rest and all the warmth necessary. Research after research has revealed that cuddling DOES NOT guarantee individuals a good night's rest nor does it provide better quality warmth since even those who cuddle find they need blankets and a good mattress during those cold nights.

nwirinedu:
➜It is not the so called burdens on the women that kill the marriage, rather the undeserved privilege of being able to divorce your husband without any explanation...

You mean like your ancestors were able to bundle a woman back to her father's house without so much as an explanation or even alimony? Is this what you regard as a deserved privilege?

StaffofOrayan:
➜The crazy part is that while Nigerian men always have the option of dating from other races, the black woman is mostly stuck on single and bitter! All men in general avoid them

Because she was programmed from a very young age to believe that her life is to be spent with a Nigerian man. That is the issue. Some of them eventually break out of that programming but a majority of them live and die even holding on to the delusion believing that somehow the Sky daddy will send them a Nigerian man to keep them. This is all connected to the Nigerian tradition of raising the girl child for marriage, a terrible thing.

omooba969:
➜Men rarely beg to keep a marriage nowadays, hope you know this. Compare the number of weddings in a year to the divorce rate and you would be alarmed. When you get a chance, try and visit the shiloh service so you can grasp how serious the situation is. Baby mums and baby dads nkọ....hahahaha! 😂

As far back as the 80s, divorce in Northern Nigeria has been above 60%. It is only among Southern Nigerians that you find these meaningless ideas that divorce is taboo— to be looked down upon— or not to be accommodated at all.

BloomingDale:
➜There was a social experiment in Britain where young boys and young girls were separated into different apartment for a week. The boys devolved while the girls thrived.

What ideas were those boys and girls fed of their identities and responsibilities before they were then separated?

DaddyCoool:
➜I typed "different". I don't know how it changed to "better". Do you agree that everything is energy and that female energy is different from male energy?

I don't believe in such scams!

ibedun:
➜It’s going global but it has always been well hidden in past eras.

A fraud that has been perpetuated since the time of your ancestors and mine is going global. Come on now! Are you alright?

➜We are just a weak people with no self identity… copy and paste and easily influenced
Nigerian woman get abroad start speaking English and be saying “I’ll throw him out of the house” wetin dem dey see for Hollywood…

Sad but true of the vast majority of ideas and traditions of Nigerians.

ibedun:
➜Open your eyes Sir

To what? That marriage as a fraud is a fact everywhere and not just in the West.

1Sharon:
➜See your mouth like mortgage. Who dash am? About 30% of homeowners in the UK are black. For an immigrant Nigerian, that percentage is even less. If a Nigerian immigrant man is paying the mortgage, there is a good chance that his wife is helping him pay it. ➜Money stops nonsense, if women in Nigeria had the means, they'll also leave their marriages.I always tell my little cousins in Nigeria to make money before marrying. A broke woman is more vulnerable than a broke man.

A broke woman literally ends up no better than a slave while fighting for rights for the duration of the marriage.

DaddyCoool:
➜Do you agree that everything is energy and that female energy is better than male energy?

Wrong! There is no such thing as "female energy" being better than "male energy". Take a trip to a hospital's ICU, senior/living home, or Emergency Room to see this for yourself. There are instead individuals born into bodies with brains they are left with no choice but to adapt to and live with.

ibedun:
➜You make me laugh. The only remedy in the WEST is to avoid marriage altogether. It isn’t critical to life and it’s now a fraud.

A fraud in the West but not a fraud in Nigeria?

DaddyCoool:
➜I googled it. Women are naturally better at house-keeping, caring for things, keeping things organized

There is nothing natural about the behavior as it is all learned behavior!

Nobody is born knowing how to clean, be better at housekeeping, care for things, or keep things organized. Everyone can learn these skills if taught or at least introduced to them.

theophorus:
➜You see ehn, Shebi you self get Brothers and you go still born Boy abi? Hope you will be VERY HAPPY when other Women treat your Brothers and Son(s), the way you treat/or want to treat your Husband? Back to the Topic, Social media and wokeness did more damages than sharing of Financial responsibilities.
Some of our mothers handled more of the Financials when our Dad's finances hit a rock and our Mothers never divorce them. Marriage is a Covenant and not a Contract and it is suppose to be a "Till death do Us path" but wokeness has led to lack of Loyalty.

Any man or woman who treats his/her son differently from daughters is already setting up well for failure in relationship, marriage, and life itself.

Sojourner2000:
➜For real... It's hard answering this when I know for sure that the God we are referring to is just an illusion that most humans chose to accept as a reality.
Anyways I wanted to commend you for the hard facts you have been dropping and how you have been tackling responses. I need people like this in real life. Everyone around me is just dumbed down

See contradiction abeg! 😩😩😩😩😩😩

How can someone drop what you term hard facts on something you believe to be just an illusion? The main education wey many of una get ehn! 😩😩😩😩😩😩😩😩😩

Nnamdipapa:
➜If you are indeed anti-Christian/religion, then my beef is not with you.
Demanding answers in terms of justifying their position not that I needed any for myself. My choice of words seems to be wrong, we live in the age of information and I could readily get an answer I want in a matter of minutes on any topic.

Justify positions that are clearly built on top of numerous contradictory ideas and beliefs. Or have you not yourself figured out that that is in fact what religion— all religions — are in fact founded upon?

TUANKU:
➜OP made a post and asked for opinions and i shared mine or don't i have a right to air my opinion again? Typical of religious people, running when no one is chasing you lot.

Seems you were rattled by the questions I asked. How come?

Nnamdipapa:
➜Because we interact with religious people in our day-to-day lives, some of us were in bondage to religion the most of our lives. I felt robbed by all the years spent in religion so we try to demand some answers.
➜Surely religious folks, such as yourself, would not be shy in explaining their positions and motivations.
➜Also, we try to open the eyes of others who are weak-minded and indoctrinated into religion.

1. You felt robbed yet you demand answers from the very same which you claim robbed you. For what purpose?

2. I suggest you direct your grievance in the right direction since I am not a religious person as I have made myself clear on several occasions that I am anti-religious—Christianity not sparred.

3. How can you open the eyes of others when you insist you need answers from the one's you pretend you are able to save them from?

TUANKU:
Religion and Free will is like oil and water.

But without Religion, you have all the free will you desire. So, why bother yourself with religion? Why do people choose the chains that is religion?