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Samakus:
✓ Things of tge spirit are foolishness to those that are perishing

Social media is against this spirit you invoke, abi?

96ACE:
➜ If you’re half as smart as you wanted to sound then you should also know that God is not religious and there’s no where in my post i made reference to Christianity. So carry your ideology elsewhere.

Now he denies that the references he made are taken from the doctrines according to the religion of Christianity. Which God you been dey invoke then? Amadioha? Allah? Zeus? 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

Love800:
I want to know. What is the annual amount am going to pay for council(tax) as a business owner?
How many councils do visit one's business or shop? Which other people from government, do normally visit to request for money? I will be a business owner later in life. So i would love to have an idea from business peeps!

You better go to the tax office or you LGA office to get the actual details for this or risk being played for a fool by the many agberos out there.

MASTAkiLLAh:
➜they should both agree that he's lazy and irresponsible therefore, he should stay home like a proper housewife while madam gives him upkeep money. It's either that or divorce

How many Nigerian men, both at home and abroad, married to a full-blooded Nigerian woman, have ever agreed to such an arrangement?

mclloyd22:
➜But there was a time in their relationship when the man was capable.
➜A man’s life is full of OPs. No man is an island. Until I hear from the man then I will give my final responseZ
➜ This gender I no believe no trust them

Capable of what? She told you that she has been the sole burden bearer in the marriage from the very beginning. So, when was this time?

2. So, because of these ideas in bold, you think it then becomes OK for a man to freeload — no work, no responsibilities, absolutely no aide of any kind to his family — for a period of many years?

3. No trust them hence it becomes a reason for OP to stay in a marriage that she is majorly depressed over.

GUNITGuy:
➜They're issues that could be sorted....than resorting to divorce.....
➜Complaining to others particularly to women would further compound the issue ....
➜Let are deal with it with wisdom until she gets thru it

1. which of the issues that OP has pointed out are solvable in this case? Provide specifics.

2. So, she should not complain to other women but to men? Why?

3. Until she gets through it how? Be specific!

nnamdi640:
You just don't get it. I'm not here to win any argument, I just want you to know that we need to be updated on what the world are focusing on, we can't be left behind. Hope you know that presently mass communication as a course is now obsolete, this is because such profession has been replaced with modern technology. A time will come when I don't need to start chatting with you in English, all I need to do is to set my chatbot to do the work for me. Am sure you already know that some organisations are doing that now. A time will come when speaking English fluently won't do you any good if you don't follow the trend of what the world demands from you.

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GUNITGuy:
✓ Most of the things she's complaining of are what can be sorted ....
✓ As long as her life isn't threatened she should pray ✓ and Endure for tr the sake of her children... Life after divorce is not the same

How so?

2. OP's depression due mostly to the incompetence of her husband and his perceived absence as a partner in the marriage is not a threat to her life? 🙄

3. For the sake of the children, because rather than have the man bear the reasonable consequences of being an incompetent husband and dad, it is better for the children to bear the guilt for why their unhappy/miserable mother had to remain in a loveless marriage?

Insectkiller:
✓ No matter what..try to sit ur husband down and discuss...
Don't leave ur husband alone (one advice)
If you leave ur husband, u will never get a steady pr*ick again..and you are growing older daily...you need companion..
Just sit him down and see how you both can understand each other..
Marriage is good..don't mind those people giving you wrong advice..
In all ur explanations, u didn't say ur husband beats or physically assault you...that means he is teachable based on how you want him to be...
Whenever you want him to speak and stand as a man..talk to him... borrow him idea..
With time he will get use to his manly responsibility..
Don't leave your husband except you want to be exchanging di*ck pr*ick for the rest of your life.

Yes! What is a woman's life worth without that steady dick in her life even if she has to pay constantly for it with her own mental health, abi? Yet, when a married man goes out to get for himself other vaginas, it is not a thing of shame or to be frowned upon. 🙄🙄🙄

OP, many of these people don't wish you well in this life. 🫤

96ACE:
➜I don’t want to comment on this post but with this comment you just dropped, I think you’re being very immature here.
➜For how long have you even catered for your household responsibilities that you brought the matter to an online forum? God gave you a cool headed husband and you want to turn him into a tiger because you can’t live peacefully with your neighbors. Why can’t you be like your husband and overlook some things? Do you always have to react to everything? So because you can’t sleep your husband should also develop high bp and kill himself? You don’t have any problem except for the negative thoughts and advices you have saturated your mind with.

You Christians and parking it is all as God of Christianity's fault is inseparable! 🙄🙄

So, the Christian God is the reason why OP ended up with a man who basically weaponized incompetence against her abi? The God of Christianity is to blame for all of the anxiety and depression —suicidal ideations as a symptom —that OP confesses she has been suffering in her marriage. WOW.... What a terrible God of Christianity he must be. OP, you better run away from that God as he has nothing good in store for you.

lendahand:
➜that's why a woman is a weaker vessel. She faints at the sight of a cockroach. A man provides for the family without complaining because God has made it so when both humans were cursed in Eden, it's the natural responsibility of a man and he's built to do that. A woman's role is to carry and birth children, then support the man. Whenever the whole load rests on a woman, push has come to shove and the square peg will be easily identified in a round hole. It is very natural for a woman to complain when left to fit into a man's position.

This one brain never find im bearing at all in this life! 😂😂😂😂

mclloyd22:
➜I see alot of men advising you to walk out of your marriage not know how long and time you have invested, so that can have space to Bleep you and turn you to a single mother. My advice to you is Be careful of what decision you take so it doesn’t affect you kids and you.

But OP already lives as a single mother while maintaining a dick — her husband. She told you in her OP that she pays for everything including him.

WantsandMore:
I like how you recognize the inconsistency despite your rationale

I did no such thing as you claim since I instead explained that Life isn't to blame for your chosen perception of it. That you have chosen to place your ego before reason does not mean that Life is influenced by your ego.

If you want to learn how to control or stop thoughts — barring the existence of any mental illness, that is— then I suggest you study the life of Buddhist monks. They are humans like you.

nnamdi640:
I feel sorry for people like you. That slavery mentality won't allow you to reason properly. Thank God you said that they sees it as second language, not even their official language and here you are defending rubbish as if there is any productivity attached to use of English. If you like speak English like the real owner, that won't create opportunities for you but in the world of tech, you have lots of opportunities to make it in life.

Spoken like the typical Nigerian! Once cornered, you lot resort to personal attacks as a way of supposedly winning the argument. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

tctrills:
If you were wise, you would have read at least one of the papers before you continued with the argument. Oga since you are too lazy, let's not insult ourselves, just go.

It is always the way you lot confidently beat your chests over your blatant ignorance that makes me wonder why! ***shudder***

nnamdi640:
✓ Lol, my dear, even reality is confused sometimes! But don’t worry, when India and China finally take over, I’ll be here to help you translate your CV into Mandarin.

So, reality is confused because you are not aware that in Chinese and Indian school,many of the kids learn English as a second language? Reality is to blame for your blunder?

nnamdi640:
✓ You are not alright, that is why you want people to value foreign language than the main thing bringing money. Enough of this salary mentality of yours

Insulting me won't change the fact that what you keep insisting on makes no sense considering the reality of things in even India and China.

WantsandMore:
ehn do you not recognize life is a bit more complicated than simplistic?

Life is actually the opposite of what you think. We are instead to blame for assuming or concluding it complicated and mostly because of the human ego.

nnamdi640:
That is not true, countries like China and India don't value English, they prefer their native languages, go to YouTube and see what I mean, they teach almost everything with their native languages.

They prefer even though their basic curriculum is created to ensure their kids, from even before elementary age,learn English as a second language?

Are you alright?

tctrills:
➜Insult is free but after insulting, please find these papers and read them.
Parental Divorce, Familial Risk for Depression, and Psychopathology in Offspring: A Three-Generation Study by Myrna M. Weissman et al. (2018)
The Role of Parental Divorce in Childhood on Depression Among Adults by Sarah A. Myer (2021)
Anxiety, depression and associated factors among recently divorced individuals by Severin D. Soukup et al. (2020)
(PDF) Parental Divorce and Depression by Naomi Wauterickx, Anneleen Gouwy, and Piet Bracke (2013)
DIVORCE AND DEPRESSION: A FORENSIC CASE OF OUR OBSERVATION AND PREVENTION STRATEGIES by C. Scalise et al. (2023)

It is always the way you lot confidently beat your chests over your blatant ignorance that makes me wonder why! ***shudder***

WantsandMore:
not really.

You are not aware of this simple fact of life at this point in your growth?

tctrills:
➜This man, already, there is a big link between divorce and depression. It has been studied and papers have been written on it. It's ok if you take time to study.

It is always the way you lot confidently beat your chests over your blatant ignorance that makes me wonder why! ***shudder***

WantsandMore:
Yes, I understand that my behavior is driven by my thoughts but why is it hard to control or change those thoughts?

An adult who finds it hard to control his/her thoughts is one who obviously lacks self-discipline. Duh?! 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

SouthAmericalif:
.....i bought him toyota camry,
.....bought big nylon machine he no work all this money na from legit struggles when i suppose package my self japa
but the business i dey use my hand do dey work even with this i dey run 2bedroom flat rent ,expensive act fees and all the bills myself include food. I no complain
my complain now is that while carrying out all this struggles one neighbor out of joblessness and jealousy of what i am not even enjoying will be bullying me psychologically publicly

DrFunmisticGlow:
➜ you are a married single mum. Better drop the dead weight you call a husband and focus on yourself and your children.

BINGO! 😂😂😂😂😂