₦airaland Forum

qtx:
✓ Some people cant read and comprehend. Read that write-up very well. He said he can afford N5M right now. Haba this guy.

So because he talk say him get 5 million that means he is ready to feed another mouth and even carry kids in Nigeria of today, abi? Many of you are still disconnected. Either that or poverty is your default mode!

Tellmeastory:
MONEY AND BILLS.

➜Money and bills are the reason why you cling to an unhealthy lifestyle. This seems to the at the root of the problem then since you are like the fifth person who has used money and bills as an excuse to hold fast to a lonely existence out in the west.

JoshOxborn:
➜Racist in Nigeria? Do even know the meaning of the word “Racism?”

Tribalism is racism. Yes, Nigeria is among the most racist countries in the world. With over 250 different ethnic groups multiplied by the various religious groups and their sub-denominations in the country, going to Nigeria means bracing up for more racism than you are exposed to out in the West. 😐😐😐😐😐

foodlum:
➜Yes I am still lonely.....no i take that back. I am more lonesome than lonely. Aint nun strange bout this. I'm sure you are aware of this as I sense you also live in the West. Loneliness is a huge social problem in the West, especially in America, a nation that emphasizes Do-It-Yourself-ness, individualism and richly rewards lone mavericks and geniuses.
➜Good thing tho is I am not depressed or mentally perturbed by the lonesomeness.
➜I have grown to love the privacy, peace, quiet and tranquility.
➜But I am a huge and mighty ebullient extrovert. That side of me longs for the open freewheeling style of life in Nigeria.

1. I live in the same West that you do yet I am not lonely at all. Those things you blame for your loneliness are actually many of the things that make life exciting for me out here in the West. So, I am sorry but you and I aren't the same at all.

2. You are not depressed or lonesome?

3. You love the privacy, peace and tranquility yet you complain that you are lonely? Am I the only one who senses some sort of contradiction in all of this?

4. This ebullient extrovert side of you cannot be expressed here in the West but in Nigeria. And you wonder why I insist that you are the architect of your loneliness?

foodlum:
Bro I choose to digress. Your conversation tone is unnecessarily combative and salty. I thank you for engaging

I am not being combative but rather trying to help you see that loneliness can also be a result of personal choices made. Every night and weekend, people all over the people, meet up and socialize with each other. Many even do so over remote connections. Here you are telling us that you not only made personal choices to deny you that ability for a long time and you continue to remain lonely even after reaching your goal. How is the place you live in to blame for this I am trying to get you to reason.

Verytallman:
➜You are right. I have vitamin D supplements at home. I also try to hangout with friends most weekends. This helps me to unwind and at least interact freely with people which I don't get to do on weekdays

Yeah! So, as long as one is ready to socialize, there are so many avenues to do so. So, I don't understand why folks presume it is OK to claim life abroad is boring or lonely. No be the same abroad their many politicians for Nigeria dey steal up-and-dan to buy houses and citizenship for their children and family again? Do those ones every get lonely or depressed abroad?

Snowx:
Just 30..Hmm ....the pressure I am facing at 38..I don't want to get depressed but the pressure is much on my side..the pressure I am facing really getting on me..but sometimes I said "I am enough" Though I am looking for a wife..atleast now I can boast of paying bride price and traditional marriage..she won't be hungry in my house.
But past years I can't boast of even 200,000 and I am the first and bread winner of my family..but as God may have it man can boast of 5million..
Guy take your time..look for something that fetch you money..and start looking for decent girl to settle down in future

You can't feed yourself and make sense of your life as it is but you are dreaming of having a whole other human adult as a dependent and intending to raise children on top of that? This thing wey dey do una self so, na for water e dey abi na for food?

Verytallman:
I understand. Na this UK winter dey cause your depression. Stay strong bro, Summer is coming.

Even the UK Winter does not need to be depressing. Load up on your Vitamin B & D, shop for and wear appropriate weather gear, and, meet up with friends as frequently as you used to, or hang out in public bars, malls, movies, etc, as often as you would like. Join an outdoors club if you are up for it.

foodlum:
➜I recently sold my house in North Carolina after I paid it off then cash bought a house in Atlanta and moved here to ATL.

And let me guess, you are still lonely, abi?

foodlum:
➜Bro, I had set goals.....to work hard and pay off my house and cars within the shortest possible time.
➜I achieved all that. But then everything became a monotonous boring routine. I ain't got no friends out in this biatch.
➜ Work hours is hella long and draining.
➜ Only time I socialize is when I meet up with my old buddies from college in Tennessee at our annual HBCU Homecoming week. After that, its back to the same ole same ole till the next year HBCU Homecoming week.

1. So, your particular goal was to live a lonely life so that you could focus on work alone and pay off your house and cars within the shortest possible time? Now you are finally being honest!

2. Well, they say, "All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy!" What did you expect would happen if you cut off all play so you could pay bills and live a monotonous fun-less existence?

3. How can 8/12 hour work hours be draining if you get to choose how long you work for Pete's sake? Even kids who attend school every day average that much. It was all your choice to overwork yourself and now you dey cry like say na the place or person do you.

4. Because you refuse to socialize at other times who is to blame for this if not you? Think carefully before you respond please!

foodlum:
➜Why u say that tho? I am also seriously thinking of leaving the US to live in Nigeria. All we do here is work and pay bills. Life as y'all know it in Nigeria is not obtainable here. Its a socially cold, distant and impersonal culture here in the US.....and much of the West.
➜ Very lonely daily routine bereft of spark, devoid of life and true living. Just a boring drone of daily monotonous repetitiveness. No wife, no kids, no family nearby. All my family members are scattered far from me....way out in DC, Baltimore, Los Angeles etc.
➜Just living a lonely life here in Atlanta. Yes I have my own house, 2 cars (all paid off) and all the comforts of daily life. But there is no spark. No connection with other human beings. Everyone is cocooned in their own world. Is this life?? When will once start to live?

All you do is work and pay bills? Are you OK?

2. People out here do way more than that even in the winter. We attend events, hang out on the weekends with friends and family, and visit bars, nightclubs, etc. We even have game meets and so on. So, why is it that all you have chosen to do with your life is work and pay bills?

3. Loneliness is actually a choice. So why do you choose it in a place that is not desolate?

annsings:
➜29 years old married woman, Brenda From Umuahia Poisoned Her Children with Sniper and Killed Herself after discovering that her husband is having an affair with their housemaid.
Information from the letter she dropped shows that she found her husband "cheating" with the housemaid, she didn't want her children to be left alone with the man. So she ended it all by killing herself and her children

Marriage is indeed not for everyone abeg! 😐😐😐😐

claremont:
➜Back then in Nigeria, we used hang out with friends every Friday night at the beer parlour. In UK, it's all man for himself and family oh!

Every weekend in the UK, millions hang out with their friends at beer parlors, clubs, cinemas, etc. So the question really is why you are OK doing that in Nigeria but not in the UK? Wetin dey hold you back?

CoronaVirusPro:
➜The reality I have told you! Take it to the bank. It takes time before you realize you are losing your sanity, that’s you not stuck the system. I am not telling you hearsay, I am telling a system I have taken time to study in depth.
You don’t have an obligation to believe, but whenever reality dawns of you come back here and apologize! The West is a race you will never win except you run away from it.

Abeg get the f-ck away with your nonsense make person focus on those that matter abeg! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

CoronaVirusPro:
➜Is that the last straw you want to hold on to? You probably will be a newbie in the West, and why the system is freaking. You will mature in it and reality will dawn on you. Trust me, I was once in your shoes thinking it was the best place to be.

The same you whose history is openly known on this Nairaland claims to have been in my shoe? You people are just grand eejits through and through! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

CoronaVirusPro:
➜You heard from me first and must give me kudos. Sewage water is recycled for consumption in the West.

OMGosh! This one believes recycled water compares to pumping and drinking water straight up from the same underground water source where all latrines and toilet waste openly drained into....🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Lokostar01:
where are you that 77k can not buy bag of rice, in my home town bag of foreign rice is 75k

What is the name of this hometown of yours where rice is 75K per bag so we can investigate this claim for ourself.

CoronaVirusPro:
➜Is waste water not recycled in the West? Oh! I need to tell you that...

OMGosh! This one believes recycled water compares to pumping and drinking water straight up from the same underground water source where all latrines and toilet waste openly drained into....🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

CoronaVirusPro:
➜The government will compensate you if you have valid documents.
➜If Davido should give you his house, nothing can take it away from you. But if Jay Z should do same, you won’t last 5 years before you lose it. You will never meet up.
➜People have borehole and never will have to pay for water. Can you do that in the West? Yes, but you will have to go to a dead end living with rattle snakes.
➜People farm in their backyard and rare animals for consumption in Nigeria just to subsidize their needs, can you do same in the West without council or county officials serving you notice.
➜People live a more balanced life in Nigeria than the west. They might not have all rosy, but they have a more balanced life.

1. Joke of the century! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

2. What the heck does this even mean? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

3. Borehole pumping water up from the same underground water source that the many toilets(including latrines) drain straight down into. No wonder why the mortality rate remains low even in the 21st century. 🤣🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣

4. They all farm yet over 35 million are expected to face serious food scarcity this year, if it hasn't already started. 🤣🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣

5. More balanced life in a country where absolutely none of the 774 LGAs can boast of even pipe-borne water, robust health/mental care system, a library network, or even anything close to an acceptable school system at both the grade school and college levels. 🤣🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣

Oh, boy! This was hilarious! 🤣🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣

CoronaVirusPro:
➜It’s not about vitamin D. It’s about the system. If you build a house in Nigeria in a government allocated plot, nothing can make you lose it forever. That’s not same in the West.
➜Talk about water, light and basics yo get along, you can find it with very little. You have a community you can count on in worst scenario, even if it’s your family members. There are free accommodation and farm lands in villages that you can relocate too.
The west will make you to keep running forever.

Go tell that bollocks to the thousands of people who have lost their homes in only the last couple of weeks. They too built their houses on Government-allocated plots and had proof of this only to have the current government that those documents, some of them over 40 years certified are no longer acceptable. Tell that story to the many thousands more, foreigners living in Nigeria included, who lost their homes to government-deployed land grabbers who equally accused them out of thing air of not having good enough documents. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

2. Water where most Nigerians have no real access to clean drinking water, let alone light? Oi very! 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

Jamestaiwo:
➜Abeg rest

Scuttle off already~

Jamestaiwo:
➜It is not your fault, this is just the product of bad influence on you.

Abeg scuttle off into a corner somewhere! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

CondemnBattery:
➜Abeg how bad is the uk? why are people depressed in UK, something that most 9ja guys are wishing to japa to. Please can you throw more light? thanks

Depression is likely caused as a result of experiencing unresolved stress by them in a system completely different and removed from that which their minds and heads had formerly become used to.

The thing about depression is that rather than push the victims towards facing the trauma, depression suggests other irrational ideas shifting the mind away from the problem itself.

GeneralPula:
➜Mention some depressed people in Nigeria that family and society looked down upon..?

I see.... the robust mental health care system in everywhere Nigeria is clear evidence that mentally ill Nigerians are not looked down on by both family and society, abi?

raphy:
➜...Coming wont solvw your problem unless .you have your own mansion to live peacefully and you have a good security system in place because the averagw nigerians dont sleep with 2 eyes anymore. ...

Tell that to the many people who had their own mansion until Wike and Tinubus many goons happened to them. Thousands lose their mansions in Nigeria every day, no thanks to corruption abeg!

Great100000:
The Director General, National Youth Service Corps (NYSC), Brigadier General Yushau Ahmed, has said corps members will start receiving monthly allowance of N77,000 in February 2025.
Ahmed, who disclosed this Thursday while addressing the 2024 Batch ‘C’ Stream 11 corps members in Katsina, said the allowance has been captured in the 2025 Federal Government’s budget.
“This month (January) has already ended, but once the budget is passed. By next month (February), you will start receiving N77,000 instead of the usual N33,000,” the NYSC DG said.
He explained that the N77,000 monthly allowance was approved by the Federal Government and urged the corps members to reciprocate the government’s gesture during their service year.
He emphasised his commitment to the welfare and security of corps members across the country, assuring them that they will not be deployed to security threat communities for their service.
According to him, “We will not send our corps members to wherever we have challenges of security threats. Wherever we send them, they should be less assured that the place is safe and secured for them to serve.”

This has indeed become a monthly tradition for these eejits! How many times have they announced this same news since the increase yet nothing?

Roboto11:
➜Family gives better support. Suicide is rife in UK, especially amongst yourng men. Loneliness is a great factor in depression. Being in the midst of family and friends could be a great comfort and therapy for people suffering depression.

Stop wriggling like a worm around the main issue abeg! 🙄🙄🙄

Again, a better support system in Nigeria where depressed people are generally looked down upon by family and society? Are you OK?

Roboto11:
➜If you are depressed, I can tell you that you'll have a better support system in Nigeria.

Better support system in Nigeria where depressed people are generally looked down upon by family and society? Are you OK?

There's no single cause of depression. It can occur for a variety of reasons and it has many different triggers.

For some people, an upsetting or stressful life event, such as bereavement, divorce, illness, redundancy and job or money worries, can be the cause.
Different causes can often combine to trigger depression. For example, you may feel low after being ill and then experience a traumatic event, such as a bereavement, which brings on depression.

People often talk about a "downward spiral" of events that leads to depression. For example, if your relationship with your partner breaks down, you're likely to feel low, you may stop seeing friends and family and you may start drinking more. All of this can make you feel worse and trigger depression.
https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/depression-in-adults/causes/

Coldie:
➜Am in the UK and I am feeling very depressed, am even beginning to feel . I need to leave this evil country

The UK is evil and Nigeria is good? 😐😐😐