₦airaland Forum

PerfectStranger:
➜Please what labor are we talking about here? Expatiate!

You are not aware that your wife and mother do labor in marriage?

iammolise:
The evils men do, the devil in his stead will be amazed like "this one even did me one better"

The devils are the humans who do evil.

reddingtonblack:
➜ which kind mvmv talk be "so long" do you know even with family planning atimes, pregnancy still surface, giving a conditional statement does not negate what men can get away with women cant that the bitter truth,
➜ Life can only be unravel by experiences and reality as we see
➜A yoruba adage says ; obinrin toh yun alé bií o ba se ikú pa oko o ma se iku paa ara é Meaning : a woman that cheat if she does not end up killings the husband she might just kill herself
➜ Over the year i wondered why did our elders say that to only women But as i grew older i understood better

1. These ramblings do not make sense outside of your head, abeg. Do a better job vetting your brand of mumu-ism before posting.

2. Fortunately, reality is not tuned by your mind for all of us. 🥱🥱🥱

3. Yet, most women out there who cheat do not end up killing their husbands. What does that tell you about the veracity of this so-called adage? 🥱🥱🥱

4. You grew up accepting an idea that does not conform to the reality of adulterous women? Yikes! I do not pity ignorance.🥱🥱🥱

Ittakescourage:
➜ :PI read carefully. I don't want to start explaining all the things that happened, Draining. but I know walking away was one of the best decision I ever made. I'm thinking about proper divorce but I want to be financially stable alittle.

How exactly does separation, not divorce, help you in attaining financial stability? You are currently burdened with raising those kids alone and unable to have any free time or money put aside to help with your financial stability. Fortunately, you are living with your parents, but that probably only frees you from needing to pay rent alone(you probably wouldn't be able to afford that otherwise). So, please explain so I can better understand, please.🥱🥱

nghubs1:
Lin Shuping, a 24 years old woman from China have claimed she is still a virgin even after giving birth to a baby girl.
Lin said she has no clue how she became pregnant. She said she has no boyfriend neither have she had s*x with anybody before.
On 16 November Lin fainted and was rushed to the hospital where she went into labour. Even though she has not seen her period for the past nine months, Lin said she never knew she was pregnant.
Lin sees this “immaculate conception” as less of a miracle and more of a hassle. She says that she doesn’t have the money to take care of the baby and wants to give her up. The hospital have been trying to contact Lin’s family because she is couldn’t even pay the hospital bill.

Who are the people who live around or with her? If she truly does not know the father of the child, then DNA work should be done immediately, and the police should investigate all the males around her. 🥱🥱🥱

Btruth:
Oga ooo. This couldn't be a true story now? 😞

It couldn't? We have all read stories of ancestors who knowingly kept the truth of their impotence from their wives, allowing the women bear the shame and humiliation alone, some of them resorting to having children by strangers to remove some of that burden unfairly placed on them, while living out the rest of their days sad and guilt-ridden over the decision. Na the exact same level of wickedness e be. 🥱🥱🥱

DeltaBachelor:
➜Please stop quoting me. I have noticed that your responses are always opposite , filled with feminist ideologies and out of point. I need rational thinkers please. Kindly ignore mentioning or quoting my comments in future, I beg you in the name of God. Thank you

. You need rational thinkers, yet you continually post irrational ideas? 🥱🥱🥱

reddingtonblack:
➜ if a Man cheat, what burden does it bring to the woman, will she pay any bills say the worst happens. i can show you Men that cheat buh still treat there wives like queen, number 1 in their homes Buh show me a Woman that cheat and still respect her husband at home
➜ The moment a woman that cheating outside the Man at home must suffer ... she will resent her husband touch and her disrespect go pass...own
➜ if i cheat i wont pass the consequences on my wife Buh when women cheat they bring the consequences home .. Maybe her sextape is about to be leaked by her lover .. naa the husband she go try extort to pay the ransom
➜ she carry belle na the husband she go wan impose the belle on

. If a woman equally cheats, she brings no burden to the man unless she does not use protection and becomes pregnant from one of her encounters. 🥱🥱

2. Men who cheat are also notoriously disrespectful and sometimes violent towards their wives at home. 🥱🥱🥱

3. Storyland! There are so many sex tapes out there of men who cheated on their wives, too. 🥱🥱

4. So long as the woman no carry belle from the encounter enter the marriage, there is no difference between her cheating and her husband's. Get over yourself this 2026! 🥱🥱

Snipingme:
This one don nack outside

The husband too no nack outside?

DeltaBachelor:
➜So sorry for your predicament. What I would advise is that you confront him personally and let him know that you are well aware of his theatrics and manipulation and that if he doesn’t stop, you reserve the right to stop him from coming over to see his kids. After that, make sure you are always around or within earshot the next time he comes to visit them.
➜As per the staying faithful part, well since you guys are separated but not divorced, I will advice that you still hold on (if you can), otherwise, you don’t owe anybody anything. We are humans and have blood running through our veins. It is all biological to satisfy a want/need, be it sexual, emotional, physical, psychological, spiritual, financial etc, so anytime you have the cravings to “get in the sack”, and you can’t hold it anymore, then have a mutual partner or “friend with benefits “ before you commit something grievous like rape or incest o. Na separate/break-up, you NOR kill person o. Best of luck madam !

1. Confront an adult who reasons himself intelligent in advising his own children to look down and hate the very mother who is responsible for raising and caring for them? Confront a human being whom she suggests may have led to her death had she remained with him?

2. Is the man staying faithful to the woman at the same time, or are you suggesting she remain faithful to a man who may have already moved in another woman into his house as we speak? Let's cut the crap about these things already. A woman had no reason to stay faithful to a man who was unfaithful to her. Granted, for the sake of her sons, she should seek divorce from the man at this point for their sake to render his accusations completely meaningless. 🥱

Ittakescourage:
➜I want to seize my children phone and stop them from communicating with their father.
Do you think it's the best decision? I initially allowed that communication so they don't feel his absence too much but he's saying wrong things to them behind me.
➜ To be honest, it’s almost one year since my husband and I separated due to numerous issues. And I thank God we are apart otherwise I would have been dead by now. Since then, I have not been intimate with any other man. Not because I can’t or don’t feel tempted sometimes, but because I personally choose not to. I have never cheated.
➜ We have two boys. Lately, I discovered that he constantly calls them to question them about me and say hurtful things especially when I'm not around. Yesterday, he told my 12-year-old son that I’m having affairs with other men. that I’m cheating. and was busy explaining it to him. That broke me.
➜ My son didn’t even tell me. He just went to sit quietly watching TV until I asked him what was wrong. I overheard everything. I work so hard to take care of my children alone. The bills are much, and everything rests on me. Nothing comes from his side.
➜ When we separated, I moved back to my parents house. I'm still there. I've not been able to save enough for a decent accommodation till now, but God has been faithful. I told him he is free to come for the children. I am not stopping him and he knows that. But instead, he chooses to say hurtful things about me to my son.

1. You would have been dead? What do you mean? I ask because the man communicates with his sons and has yet to show up to kill you. If he was violent, why are you still married to him and not formally divorced? Why are you allowing him communicate with your children, knowing he could easily plan to come down to where you are now and maybe continue his violence? Anyway, I had to ask. 🥱🥱

2. You are separated and not divorced from him? Why?

3. The man has probably moved another woman into his house, with whom he is not just sharing conversation, all while he is teaching his sons that a woman, however, has to remain loyal to a man she is separated from. That should give you a better idea of the sort of nonsense the man is intentionally drilling into the heads of your boys. The sort of jargon that aids in raising boys who are violent and irrational towards women they consider to be beneath them. So, I guess my question is, why are you still tied to this man and letting him get away with such nonsense? 🥱🥱

4. Why have you decided your ex has to be freed from the responsibility of raising and providing for the children whom he still claims as his own? Why are you not sharing custody of the kids with him? Shouldn't they ideally be spending 50% of their week with the man and the other 50% with their mother?

5. He should only come to take them if he agrees to shared custody, unless you are saying that you are not able to care for them at this time and would rather he have full custody until you can get your feet on the ground. Get a lawyer, get a divorce, sort yourself out as far as custody issues are concerned, and don't let him use you and your kids to his own benefit.

My recommendation is that you explain to your children that when a man and woman are divorced, not separated, they are free to date other people as they want. Teach your children right from wrong so they can more critically reason about what they hear, even from their father. Additionally, get a divorce immediately from this man so you can free yourself from such libel from him. Also, consider demanding shared custody of the children if he intends to continue keeping contact with them. If he is not able to afford it at this time(let the courts ideally determine this), then he should pay at least half of the grocery bill and upkeep for the kids every week until he can take on the shared aspect of raising his own kids. Don't let yourself be used for free labor and resources even after divorce/separation.

Foodempire:
✓ SAY NO TO DRUGS. If you like ignore the warning, you are the first to partake in whatever problems you invite into your life,then family and friends may try to rescue you for a while,if they realize you are hellbent of destroying yourself and dragging them downwards,they will opt out and leave you to waka from Lagos to kano and enjoy your madness in peace.

There is a case in my hand right now, he dropped out of uni unknown to the family, a guy in his twenties now looks like a 60 years old man, no future ambitions than to always chasing his next highness,now becomes a shameless begger just to satisfy his cravings.
✓ Sending youths to higher institutions especially far away is now a trap and medium for them to indulge in drugs, some of their colleagues in school now possesses drugs from the egbon adugbo in order to sell to students on campus. The danger of sending 15/18 years early to uni is another topic of discussion, some of these children can't even cross roads by themselves because they are get inside kids,they aren't bold enough to say no to peer pressure.

If any part of your body is sick,na your brain 🧠 go tell you and reason how and where to get help but if your brain is sick ,who go tell am?

1. He chose his own path. 🥱

2. Rubbish reasoning. 10s of millions of young people are sent far away to college each year. But because you happen to know one youth who, due to circumstances beyond our knowledge of his upbringing, chose to chase after drugs, you wan blame the sending of kids to college for his own kwata. You sef get problem abeg!

3. The brain already knows it is sick. That machine is more intelligent and complex than you realize. However, it has to contend with the human mind when it comes to fixing things in the body and for itself. That's part of the reason why a decent upbringing is better than a trashy one as people who are raised well are at least provide the ability to critically reason all of the information before them at any given moment to decide the best path forward in whatever situation they find themselves in order to increase their chances of survivability, at least. 🥱

babajero:
✓ so how is that justice?

Justice and innocence have a completely and entirely irrational --- 7th century Arabia -- meaning in Islam and that is what is still practiced to this day my Mohammedans. 🤔

What you see practiced in the North today is nothing of culture -- culture in the North has been almost completely eroded from begining from the time the region was colonized by Islam. Much of what up have there is over 90% Islam. 🥱🥱

bizzibodi:
What if she is using contraceptive to shage outside is that one faithfulness?

The test is not for faithfulness but to ascertain whether the kids are at least his. I don't see why any man who is himself probably unfaithful would believe he deserves to have a woman faithful to only him. 🥱🥱

bizzibodi:
✓ Are you a Muslim?

Sirah Rasullulah, The Quran(all over 30 different versions of it) and the numerous Hadiths are online for anyone out there to learn all they wish to about Islam and the root of the many beliefs within the system. 🤔

bizzibodi:
➜You are beating about the bush no Muslim man will keep a woman if she annoys him,refuse to perform her wifely duties,left herself unkempt,refuse to cook well...he will be compel to give her tripleT.

A Mohammedan does not need any of those reasons listed to invoke "Talaq" on a woman three times to get her out of his way. He only needs to have some sort of dislike or detest, even if unfounded, to do it. That is what the Quran says, and that is what we see happening out there in the Northern states and many other Islamic countries out there.🥱🥱

Rupertek:
And why was she jubiliating? Jubiliation is a direct reaction being released from tension. It simply means she was not sure of herself and the result before. That means she was cheating.

So what if she was cheating? So long as the children are his, then what? Are you certain the man was not himself cheating all the while, as is the norm with married Nigerian men these days? 🥱🥱🥱

Bahamas95:
Is it something to celebrate? That means she must have cheated on the man, she's celebrating because the men didn't impregnate her.

Well, that only matters if the man has not himself equally been cheating on the woman all this time. If the man has been cheating on the woman, then the woman does not owe him loyalty of any kind, except maybe ensuring she only has him raising children that belong to him. 🥱🥱

Musty112:
➜Haha, what kind of people are these ones. For one, to show how ignorant there is only a version of the holy Quran!!.
➜ Secondly in any of your supposed 30 versions, bring out the verse of the quran to support you claim. At least show that someone somewhere sacrificed something to get you educated.
➜ Don't disgrace them by pandering around these blatant falsehood.

I started reading the Quran again in January of 2026, and this time with the help of the Haddiths to provide for better contextual understanding. So, ignorance... none of that applies here. 🥱🥱

2. Yes, there are over 30 versions of the Quran still out there. The Quran was never just one book.

Narrated Anas bin Malik:

Hudhaifa bin Al-Yaman came to Uthman at the time when the people of Sham and the people of Iraq were Waging war to conquer Arminya and Adharbijan. Hudhaifa was afraid of their (the people of Sham and Iraq) differences in the recitation of the Qur'an, so he said to 'Uthman, "O chief of the Believers! Save this nation before they differ about the Book (Quran) as Jews and the Christians did before." So 'Uthman sent a message to Hafsa saying, "Send us the manuscripts of the Qur'an so that we may compile the Qur'anic materials in perfect copies and return the manuscripts to you." Hafsa sent it to 'Uthman. 'Uthman then ordered Zaid bin Thabit, 'Abdullah bin AzZubair, Said bin Al-As and 'AbdurRahman bin Harith bin Hisham to rewrite the manuscripts in perfect copies. 'Uthman said to the three Quraishi men, "In case you disagree with Zaid bin Thabit on any point in the Qur'an, then write it in the dialect of Quraish, the Qur'an was revealed in their tongue." They did so, and when they had written many copies, 'Uthman returned the original manuscripts to Hafsa. 'Uthman sent to every Muslim province one copy of what they had copied, and ordered that all the other Qur'anic materials, whether written in fragmentary manuscripts or whole copies, be burnt. Said bin Thabit added, "A Verse from Surat Ahzab was missed by me when we copied the Qur'an and I used to hear Allah's Apostle reciting it. So we searched for it and found it with Khuzaima bin Thabit Al-Ansari. (That Verse was): 'Among the Believers are men who have been true in their covenant with Allah.' (Quran 33.23) Sahih Al-Bukhari Vol. 6, Book 61, Verse 510

Fortunately for mankind, at least 30 of those different versions of the Quran that existed during the time of even the first Caliph...

Narrated Zaid bin Thabit:
Abu Bakr sent for me and said, "You used to write the Divine Revelations for Allah's Apostle: So you should search for (the Qur'an and collect) it." I started searching for the Qur'an till I found the last two Verses of Surat At-Tauba with Abi Khuzaima Al-Ansari, and I could not find these Verses with anybody other than him. (They were):

'Verily, there has come unto you an Apostle (Muhammad) from amongst yourselves. It grieves him that you should receive any injury or difficulty ...' (Quran9.128-129) [Sahih Al-Bukhari Vol. 6, Book 61, Verse 511]

...survived until even now. And you can now purchase any of them on Amazon in several languages. 🥱🥱

3. Back to the issue at hand. Talaq applies only to the man seeking to divorce his wife. As for the woman, she has to apply for a divorce to be granted to her either by her husband or by a court. 🥱🥱

Musty112:
➜Such confidence in your ignorance!!!. Wow, anyone who does not know any better will think you are an authority on this topic. A woman in islam can divorce her husband even WITHOUT a reason. A simple Google search would have given light to your blind and bias and ignorant take

. Please, stop lying! 🥱🥱

Almost all of the over 30 different versions of the Quran out there insist that a woman must first apply for divorce and have her application approved, sometimes by her very husband, before she can be granted divorce. 🥱🥱🥱

PerfectStranger:
➜As a young lady, you don't make your love for a guy transactional and expect the relationship not to be transactional.
➜After breakup or divorce, every man should collect back whatever they wish to.

You have it twisted. Relationships have been transactional for the longest. Your ancestors did not provide for their women without expecting something in return. They did it expecting the women to provide them with children, sex, cooking, a home, emotional care, etc., at the same time, the benefits that come with the married status in society. Women are only now catching on and taking the transactionality of the contract more seriously.

2. Wrong! For every transaction, you are meant to pay the market value or at least the agreed price for the goods and services received. Stating that a man should take back whatever he wishes in the case of a divorce or breakup is going against common sense. The woman's time and labor during the relationship need to be adequately compensated.

nairalanda1:
✓ Both of them need counselling. Something tells me there were issues in the relationship and marriage from the word go.

I suggested the counseling as a safe way to begin proceedings for the end of the marriage instead of just suggesting she cut things off without getting both individuals closure. 🥱🥱

I wouldn't suggest any individual continue in such marriage unless she is living some sort of handmaiden-esque delusion.🥱🥱

koning:
✓ A woman can sleep with her husband at 5 am in the morning. The husband goes to work. She will then sleep with another man around 4pm same day. Both sperm from her husband and from the other man will be in her system waiting for the egg to drop. Both sperm can sit there for 48hours.
Once her egg drops the sperm that swims the fastest will fertilize the egg. So, heavily cheating women are never sure who the real father is. Hence, this woman's jubilation. She is a confirmed cheater.

Wrong! It is not the fastest swimming sperm that wins. It is the sperm that is found most compatible and viable.by the egg that wins. 🥱🥱🥱

Rexymania:
Realistically there's nothing wrong. You can only be afraid of spirits if you're a Christian. Christians always believe something is chasing them

By Christians, I hope you also mean Mohammedans as they, too, were regarded as a heretical.sect of Christianity during the early days of Islam and their every day culture is built on countless superstitions -- their lives also revolve around avoiding Jinns/demons, Satan's and sins. 🤔🤔

JaySmart4422:
✓ Why is she jubilating?
It simply shows that her husband did not trust her enough to opt for a DNA test.
Couple who trust each other, and are faithful to each other will not even think of DNA.
As a woman if you are faithful to your and he demands DNA go and do it
The moment the result is out and it confirmed that the kids are his end the married he doesn't trust u and can never trust you

Na so me too dey see these things. 🤔🤔

Maybe when the man begin dey send food wey the woman cook go lab for poison test her brain go begin tell me say this marriage no worth am at all. 🥱🥱🥱

Rep9jaCom:
Women Jubilate With Married Woman After DNA Test Proved All Four Children Her Husband Claimed Were Not His Are Indeed His.

Jubiliating? Does she perceive that the man would, after this begin to treat her any better than he had been for the many years of the marriage or what? Going as far as to test all 4 kids says "I don't trust you with my life/ I have no modicum of trust in your person!" She should at least be thinking marriage counseling is seriously needed or maybe a complete end to the marriage at some point.🥱🥱

We seriously need to raise children to more critically analyze every situation. 🥱🥱🥱

Dzzzz:
I claim it for you In Jesus Name Ameennnn..

Out of the over 4000 different hells out there, na the one weu this Jesus supposedly spoke of you dey claim for OP? Ans when we openly state that you religious folks are simply voraciously wicked sacks of flesh who mask themselves with false piety una go take offense. ,🥱🥱🥱

FSBoperator:
➜The Roman Catholic document Nostra aetate (Latin: “In Our Time”) rejects the traditional accusation that the Jews killed Jesus Christ, affirms the validity of Judaism and Islam, and condemns antisemitism.
➜ Also titled “Declaration on the Relation of the Church to Non-Christian Religions,” Nostra aetate was promulgated in 1965 by Pope Paul VI during the Second Vatican Council (1962–65), an ecumenical council that was convened to foster spiritual renewal for the Roman Catholic Church and promote unity among Christians. Nostra aetate in particular was drafted under the orders of Pope John XXIII, who had convened the council and was inspired by his experience as a former papal ambassador to the Muslim and Orthodox countries of Turkey and Greece and his friendship with Jules Isaac, a Jewish historian and survivor of the Holocaust.
➜ The document was authored by a closet homosexual Jew who claimed to have converted to Catholicism and was an ordained priest. Gregory Baum will later quit the catholic church, get married to an ex nun in an open marriage where he openly flaunted his bi-sexualism and had several gay partners.
➜ He openly bragged after leaving the church ''that if I had be known to be a homosexual, I would have lost credibility''. A deceiver who rewrote doctrine, defiled the alter and walked away when the damage was done.

1. These right here are ideas that form a direct contradiction. Islam commands Mohammedans to subjugate and slay the Jews wherever they are found. To Mohammedans, Jews are filthy pigs, the worst of humankind. All of this can be literally found in the Quran and its Hadiths, by the way. And the information contained is meant to be timeless... meaning without an expiration date. Antisemitism is literally one of the foundations of what it means to be Islamic. 🥱🥱🥱

2. This claim makes no sense given what we know of the relationship between the Catholic Church and Hitler.

3. Your issue seems to be that the man may have been a gay man, and not with the fact that the hypocritical Catholic church, which openly supported the slaughtering of Jews, now aligns itself with Islam, the other ideology that openly hates Jews? 🥱

The Arab world began heavily displacing its Jewish population around 1948, following the creation of the State of Israel, with the mass exodus continuing through the early 1970s. Over 850,000 Jews fled or were expelled from nations like Egypt, Iraq, Yemen, and Morocco due to state-sponsored persecution, anti-Jewish riots, and revoked citizenship.

I am not Jewish, but to me the greater evil here remains the Catholic church, which seeks to hide its long-standing loathing of the Jews behind another ideology, a religious one called Islam this time around. 🥱

4. Nonsense! Are you certain he deceived you? He was probably used by the Catholic Church to claim the document is without malice against the Jews since it was written by a Jew. That document is one of just one of the many deceitful documents the Catholic Church hides behind.

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Jesus Christ never once blamed his brief stint in the grave on the Jews... He never complained or cried that an injustice had been done to him by those days he supposedly spent in the grave. But here we have whole organizations and religions pretending they carry the cross for him. If this is not clear eejiocy, I don't know what else is.

Mirasteel:
I said you should shut up. if they don't want her there she should go somewhere else instead of inciting trouble, learn to respect other people's fate.

Who are they not to want her there? Who are they to decide where she can be or not be within what is public space in UK? How do you folks reason at all? 🥱🥱

AlphaMale666:
➜Though I know it's all fake and there nothing like that rubbish..
➜ But if it's real, I will like to go there because that's where all the realest people will be and there will be alot of entertainment going on there. It will be exciting.

Hell varies across each religion, denomination, and so on. So, kindly be more specific.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W1fYxK6GZ04?si=VUilF8rW-Q-COpo9

2. Real in what sense? What differentiates the people all around you today from those you assume will meet in this hell you choose? 🥱🥱

grandstar:
The living know that they shall die but as for the dead, they are conscious of nothing at all.(Read Eccl 9:5,10) The dead are harmless. It is wicked evil spirits that want us to believe that the dead are still living.

Dem wicked no be small. 🥱🥱🥱

amoco:
✓ You claiming not to believe in gods or deities don't make any difference to others' beliefs in gods or deities. Not like you have any empirical proof of non existence of gods or the woman's claims.
She may be right. She may be wrong. If she has reasons for her claims and can convincingly back them up, that's fine.
People have experienced haunted homes and legitimately documented their experiences. That may not be the same in this case. But then such claims are valid

I said I don't believe in gods and this is regardless of whether you think they exist or not...they are meaningless to me. In particular, the ones whose lies people like you slurp up without first demanding evidence of. 🥱🥱

2. Anyway, until you have proof of these haunted houses phenomenon, I suggest you and others like you learn to put a sock in it 🫦 until you have evidence to back up those looney lies at this point in human existence. Your numerous lies have ruined enough lies and deliberated human intelligence long enough. 🥱🥱🥱