₦airaland Forum

free2ryhme:
➜Monitoring you? You wish 🤣

Someone who I don't know asks me if I am still alive. Of course, the individual must have a recollection of my person and must have been monitoring for even a while.

free2ryhme:
➜Kill you? You ain't worth cowries 😂😂

I ain't worth cowries but you have been monitoring me?

free2ryhme:
➜You are still alive 🤔

Where you trying to kill me or something?

Brenbentondiaz:
➜Exactly. But people don't consider it prayer if you don't scream for hours on end and let your neighbours know you're a "prayerful christian" that can boldly say "I prayed for 3 hours last night".

Their deity is either deaf or hard to reason with is probably why.

psucc:
Prayer is not mechanical. The length of time spent doesn't in anyway affects the efficacy of prayer positively or negatively.
➜If only your faith can carry you, it's the very vehicle that conveys your prayer to God.

Efficacy of prayer? What exactly is prayer meant to do?

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JUMO95:
➜It doesn't matter how long or short you pray. ➜Just make sure the purpose is meaningful

What is this meaningful purpose of prayer you speak of?

rock003:
Her apologies should only be to God and not a Church or a pastor. Why do these stupid church goers allow pastors to deceive and enslave them?

Church going isn't about anything but belonging and being accepted by members in the group... This public shaming exercise is for the benefit of the group too. It is part of the power game.

Omoawoke:
Did you see any white person in that church?

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Segzy19:
➜You will see a lot of people giving you wrong advice here that it is a small income . Yet a lot of these people are online millionaires o... I'm real life, most of them are nothing to write home about.
Guy, if you are earning 500k just know that you are better than many many millions of people in Nigeria. No income is really enough... Find ways to add more... But then you didn't tell us your circumstances... Are you single or married? Are you sponsoring yourself or your siblings in further education? Do you actively cater for your parents? What other burdens are you bearing?

Saying he is better than millions of Nigerians means absolutely nothing. I would think many of you would have realized that at this point. If he is unable to chart a way towards his dreams with what he makes, it does not matter whether he earns more than 140 million Nigerians because he still can't meet his own goals with what he makes.

Stop with this disgusting tradition/religion of gauging your progress by considering the fate or plight of those less fortunate. It is a seriously disturbing behavior bothering on a mental problem too.

sprints1:
For single man or woman paying less than #400k a year on rent it is okay but for couples it is not okay only if both husband and wife are living n their parents house

Unlesss you built the house yourself, expect your rent to be raised this year. With the tax regime to go into effect soon, you are all in for more shege in Nigeria and this no be curse.

VTJN:
less than 2% of Nigerians earn that amount

That still does not change the fact that those who earn it are now well within the poverty bracket in that same Nigeria that we speak of, thanks to the shenanigans of its government.

Obaaderemi2:
➜You don't need a census to find out something like birth rate. There's something called sample survey in statistics. Families are getting smaller across the world including Nigeria. Stop talking like a fool. Family planning is now commonplace and cheaper than it used to be. Women are getting into professions more than before. I gave you stats and because it didn't favor your narrative then it's wrong.
➜But then you posted something on population earlier on and think it's the gospel truth, even when we haven't had a census since 2006. Gosh! Some People are just funny 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

1. How many of those sample surveys have been recorded and reported since 2006 in Nigeria and carried out by what organization? A quick look at the UN and World Bank sites would reveal they too still depend to a great deal on data released by the NBS in Nigeria and we all know NBS has been resorting to forging the numbers for a while now. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

2. I quoted the population estimates based on guesstimates based on the 20-year-old census, numbers which I never claimed were gospel truth to begin with. You, however, suggested that your values are more current, and upon review, I found that those numbers are based on NBS-released numbers. So?

descartes400:
Why would the government deny the crash? Haven't they been announcing previous national grid collapse to the public?

While you are at it, also ask your government why they have suddenly taken down the same-day real-time Grid reports as well. I had to use a different tool on the website to figure out that the grid started experiencing many problems around 2 pm that day. The previous tool would show you exactly how much was being generated in total from all the grids at the point you accessed it.

aremubabs:
➜Are the children in foreign countries faring better discipline-wise?
➜People make reverence to the foreigners when it comes to corporal punishment, yet no one tells us how the banning of corporal punishment in many western countries has actually helped keep crime rate low. At least, before colonialism, the African discipline method helped to keep African societies disciplined.
➜The funny thing is that the Whites that colonized us also used our corporal punishment method to train our boys who all turned out fine.
➜The earliest black headmasters/mistresses and principals like the Kutis, the Soyinkas, all used the rod and society benefited immensely from it.

1. You mean Nigerians many of whom grow up to become agberos and touts — even the ones who join the army, police, and guards equally act as bullies are better than the kids in foreign countries who majorly turn out to be more responsible citizens of their various countries?

2. So, do you actually believe Nigeria's crime rate is low compared to foreign countries? Are you convinced that crime in Africa does not come anything close to that obtained in foreign countries where even Nigerians would rather run off to — braving the deadly deserts and seas— than remain in Nigeria? WOW!!

3. You say that as though they loved or considered you all as humans to begin with. We are talking here of people who considered you inhumane, to begin with. They beat you and so therefore you must now use that inhumane approach in raising your kids, is that it?

4. So, because Kuti and Soyinka were hit like animals when they were kids and probably did the same to others, you then take it that hitting people like animals is the way to go? Yet if a policeman approached to bully you in the same manner now, you would cry foul? 🙄🙄🙄

donself9:
■ Oga i think you are mistaken incentives for privilege, in your context that "incentives, although privileges can act as incentives but incentives cant fully act as privilege. if its what any child next door can get, thats not privilege, like i said in the 90s maltina na privilege, our parent promise us bicycle, how many children around fit get that. For you just say incentives.

Whether you choose to term it a privilege —reward only available to those who qualify(earned privilege)— or you classify it as an incentive( a motivation for doing good work), the fact here is that these are ideas to help you raise your kids without needing to resort to violence. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

donself9:
➜ like seriously 🤣 thats raising a "Pikin". Oga even if i dont know anything i know privileges are not "Basics" or regular things ... groundnut privilege kwa 🤣 noodle
➜privilege is getting what other children wont get on a normal day .. if noodles is a special treat that child should be with social service 🤣🤣
➜ in the 90's .. drinking maltina is a privilege for any child your playmates that day

1. I am afraid it can be just that simple. What I described earlier is just what the 6.5-year-old settles with. I didn't even say anything about what the 12-year-old accepts or the one older than that works for.

2. That is instead what you assume.

3. Even as far back as the 80's my own mother knew that she only needed to bribe me to golden morn, suya, or even a new book from the bookstore to get me to do chores at home. Again, Privileges can be as simple as I described. Ultimately, what most kids want is to know that they have your attention. If you are not able to afford the Nintendo Switch for instance, they will settle for a kid or a pizza if they know that you are at least thinking of them. 🤔

XXCASH:
➜Hahahaha. I enjoy your conversation. Clearly you must be a lady Op over to you. Let go, the mutual love is not enough according to ...

Does this mutual love thing pay the bills, hospital bills, school fees, house rent, put food on the table, buy clothes, books, shoes, etc? I have never heard or read of mutual love ever doing that for anyone. So why continue to insist it should be able to do what it has never been designed for?

XXCASH:
➜Hahaha. You wont kill me with laugh. Please help him talk to the lady to convert some of those needs she keeps demanding for to wants abeg. You can help her with some knowledge and wisdom to better her understanding. Thanks for your help. Much appreciated

OP cannot meet her needs; he has admitted that much. He is the one who needs to let go of the woman since he simply cannot afford her.

XXCASH:
✓ Kobojunkie, you can argue sha
Humans' needs are insatiable. It's a known fact, so please just leave it as this.
✓ True love brings understanding. Another fact you should also not argue. Now connect both. I hope you get the point
✓ Then please leave that scam that people don't want more. Everyone wants it better than they have now. That some don't demand is part of the understanding

1. You are clearly confusing ideas here.

The saying is rather that human desires -- not needs ---are insatiable. What you claim is what is not based on fact. That a person has many desires does not mean that person needs all those desires satiated.

2. This is another false claim. There is no direct connection between the notion of true love and understanding. Understanding instead stems from knowledge and wisdom both of which have nothing to do with the general notion that is true love.

3. Did you ever take the class explaining the difference between your needs and your wants, abi wetin? 😩

XXCASH:
➜Financial needs are limitless for everyone. It's never enough
➜My point is the lady will be more understanding if she truly loves him and keep her needs within his capacity. There is no lie here. That's what it is

1. That isn't necessarily true for all. There are people out there who don't even care for much.

2. You are instead attempting to assert a mere opinion as a fact. In the same way that a man's financial need is not limited to how much his father or mother can afford, a woman's financial need is equally not based on how much her father or mother can afford. This attempt to draw a connection between love and financial need is at best unreasonable.

easytig:
➜No man in his right senses should settle with a lady that can't afford to change her sanitary pads with her own money.
➜What I am against is outright refusal of women not wanting to working to support her man, no matter how little she brings.

1. Yet in that same Nigeria, every year over 20,000 men settle for exactly the kind of women you described. OP is probably one of them so are you attempting here to deny him the right to go for what he seems to prefer?

2. The man is OK with a woman who does not work to support her man. The woman wants a man who would not mind her not working and is ready to support her needs. Demand & supply ... they are both available to each other. He is not a victim and she isn't a victim here— no crime committed by both in their choice.

Why attack the woman when she is the man's choice?

XXCASH:
➜They will demand but not beyond your capacity if they love you.
He needs to be open and clear to her so she knows what he has. Then her response would determine if she loves him or not.

Stop telling this lie! Financial need is not measured against love. Has never been that way and never will be. Stop drawing connections between ideas that are in no way remotely connected.

easytig:
➜Okay let's turn the table,a working class woman married an unemployed man, believe me that marriage won't last one month,it will scatter, because the woman will realize she is breadwinner and she will show the man shege.
She won't near any man that is not in her economic status again ,she will rather be single and live her best life.
➜As per the bolded ,na poverty and liability dem dey sow,and na serious suffer dem go reap later,it's not advisable for either partner tto be redundant in a marriage

1. Why does it matter whether it lasts a month or not? If she chose her volition to marry an unemployed man and later changed her mind—divorced him—, that is entirely her business. The point here is people are allowed to choose their burden in marriage and whatever comes of it is theirs to bear for as long as they see fit.

2. It is not advisable yet every day, across Nigeria, people living in abject poverty conditions continue to worship marriage and even enroll themselves in it even when it does not serve an advantage to them in any way. Nigeria currently has over 133 million people living smack in the middle of the poverty bracket. Guess what? many of those people will get married this year to unemployed spouses and even proceed to have babies, ensuring that poverty continues as a generational curse for themselves and their own children as a result. Who is to say they cannot do that?

recklesslove:
➜More then 95% of the time that people say they consult and were told their mother is witch this is What is going on.
When your mother is angry with you, cos of your character or the way u treat her or just for any reason at all, that anger or sorrow she feels innocently when she thinks of you creates a force field, that force field now stands against you in the realms of the spirit cos she is your mother n has authority over as someone who carried you in her womb.
If u feel your mum isn't happy with you , et her n beg her , if u need to take people to beg her pls do. Appease her, make sure anytime she thinks of you that she has a smile on her face n see how your life makes a turn around. .
Change the narrative. Your mum isn't a witch.

Please make an appointment immediately to see a professional mental health therapist before this gets any worse than it already has.

easytig:
➜No reasonable father or mother will let his or her daughter marry a man without something doing to support herself in the marriage.
➜Make she no go shamelessly ask her hubby for sanitary pads money.

1. Yet, what you described happens over 20,000 times across Nigeria —at least 20,000 traditional marriages take place where unemployed women are sold into marriage by their families— to this day. So, what are you on about?

2. What has shame to do with a man consciously choosing for himself an unemployed woman as his wife, agreeing to buy her sanitary pads as well? These men are not forced into these arrangements so why do you feel the need to vilify the females in these setups?

yarimo:
Since you can't accommodate her and she can't stay in her father's house, I think police cell can accommodate the both of you

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easytig:
➜If she can't fix basic things in her life ,she has no business in a relationship, relationship is all about sacrifice and support from both parties,if not had I known will be the last comment of a fool

Let's not tell this lie abeg! The traditional relationship model in Nigeria pretends the woman is to be supported by the man meaning that so long as a woman is ready for a relationship, the man is to give in and provide for all of her needs. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Riskymarvelous:
Bro the lady no really love you she only need 90% of your income in a month

A person has financial needs and asking for help means the person does not love? 🙄🙄🙄🙄