₦airaland Forum

budaatum:
➜No, kobo, I did not "did the same" and quote verses the out of context to prove the Bible advocated murder. You'd note this if you read the posts and those that succeeded it. And if you read the below specifically, perhaps you'd not accuse me so.
But I'm glad you did not fall into the trap and quote Quranic verses out of context. It ensures my regard and respect for you remains intact, somewhat.

According to the Quran Surah 33 vs 21, Muslims have an excellent model in the messenger of Allah, Mohammed, implying that the true Muslim lives as Mohammed himself lived. Go read that book and then come back and regale us with the excellent attributes of Mohammed that the world is dying to have more of in our day and time. 🥱🥱

Freshandfitpod:
marry two more wives.

So, OP being a woman should get herself a sidekick? 🥱🥱🥱

REALretep:
✓ I get you now. Your husband is emotional inert. I was once like that though but I was delivered from it before getting married 😃 It took a relationship I had before meeting my wife to open up my emotions and be able to feel and give it.
It's going to be difficult (in fact...almost impossible) to change your husband's stance.
If you believe in Jesus and the power in His name, and you are putting on your whole Armour of God, you can use your supernatural authority as a believer to change him

if you were to find yourself with a woman who left you lonely like OP is now...say 5 years from now you find that you, like OP have been pouring water into an empty basket.. would you also buy into this Jesus and the power of his name will make it all magically ok somehow suggestion you may have the Op? 🥱🥱🥱

Teymanhenry:
➜Loneliness in marriage often comes from silence, not absence. Pride, ego, and poor communication make us withdraw instead of speaking up. We expect perfection from our partners, forget they’re human, and slowly create distance through unmet expectations.
Other causes include unresolved conflicts, emotional neglect, lack of appreciation, poor listening, busy schedules, and constant comparisons.
The solution is simple: choose humility over pride, communicate clearly, ask instead of assuming, appreciate small efforts, make time to connect, and resolve issues early. Marriage thrives not on perfection, but on understanding and intentional effort.

Like every relationship, it takes two to make marriage work. If you are the one doing all of the work, as OP described, loneliness is the likely end that awaits. Loneliness is like pouring water into a basket. The only way to treat it is to stop wasting energy and begin pouring it all back into yourself instead. 🥱🥱

QuinQ:
➜Well you're wrong. Only in theory is lonliness not cure by hanging out with people who care about you

Stop spitting bullsheet already! If you don't know what loneliness is... what OP is crying out about... go do some studying, please! 🥱🥱

QuinQQ:
➜Having a happy, people-oriented job u enjoy cures loneliness sharp, sharp, and can even cure konji without sex

Nothing of the sort cures loneliness! Loneliness is not cured by way of external validations, as I already explained in my previous comments.🥱🥱

Sirseedorf:
As a single guy I feel your pain, because categorically am dealing with it as well, only me the room singing, cooking and watching films alone is crazy, I just wish i had a partner to talk to already.... find something doing that will take u mind off being lonely, trust me you will feel better.

Loneliness has nothing to do with single hood. Please get professional mental health therapy as soon as possible.🤐

zubinike:
➜My current state of Act, mind, etc. communication do not work here I guess, it’s bitten deep more than that stage Your state looks more like the affections were once there, some actions or inaction might have caused the loss in affections.
Create a space for distance and let go or live in the facade for ever

That (in red) sounds a lot like a cursed life... and the children... will likely go on to repeat the same in their own lives; we have seen this enough times to realize it the generational curse people wish never comes on them. 🥱🥱🥱

Jamie248:
➜It's like you're unemployed abi?

Employed individuals don't struggle with the mental illness that is loneliness? 🥱🥱🥱

Boomark:
➜It is used to test those who are deluded. Those who call Christianity a scam have tested 100% positive to delusion.

Alright! So, what delusion would this be?🥱🥱🥱

physics12:
➜ Get busy, and you not even notice who desire you and who don't. It's lazy, dreamless people that desire affection like this. Get to work

Stop regurgitating this lie! Study after study have disproved this claim that getting busy makes the problem of loneliness go away. It never does. 🥱🥱🥱

UnknownQueen:
➜OP, this resonates with me because I’m experiencing something similar. If you’re male, we can connect and support each other; if you’re female, we can explore being L partners. Life is too short to be lonely. I’m being genuine.

The only person keeping you in that marriage and keeping you lonely is you. Your children know you are lonely, and they are not happy about it. And if you tell them that they are the reason why you chose to remain in a situation where you are unhappy, you only deepen their sadness even more. 🥱🥱🥱

They say "Misery loves company," but misery cannot save one from itself. 🥱🥱

Whyme24:
➜The only beautiful thing in my marriage are my three lovely kids. Loneliness knows my name. Me and Loneliness no get any biz wen I dey single

The only person keeping you in that marriage and keeping you lonely is you. Your children know you are lonely, and they are not happy about it. And if you tell them that they are the reason why you chose to remain in a situation where you are unhappy, you only deepen their sadness even more.

Phraences:
➜We introverts can’t relate. So sorry

There are lonely introverts out there. Just because you are not lonely does not mean all introverts are not lonely. Let's be sure to separate the mental illness — loneliness — from what is instead a personality trait. 🥱🥱🥱

Kalulu44:
➜You make me laugh with your always rigid assertion about men. So the man was cooking for himself while single, agreed. So the woman wasn't providing for herself while single too. I'm here with you

You still haven't answered my question. 🥱🥱🥱

Kalulu44:
➜ You never asked for reverse role and you're still mentioning the man to take over cooking. ➜ Is cooking made for the man, if you say yes.
➜ Then providing is also made for the woman

1. Again, why should his taking over of cooking duty mean she should take over providing? 🥱🥱
2. That man cooked for himself when he was single... so why this suggestion that cooking is not made for men? 🥱🥱🥱

3. You still have yet to provide an answer to my original question to you, but you assert an unfounded idea as a conclusion. Why? 🥱🥱

Sexyrosey:
➜Yes, I understand. Even though it’s not easy to put yourself first in an “African marriage” settings, a marriage where the success and failure of a marriage rest solely on the woman especially when children are involved. But I will try.

I spent the day looking for this video, and hope you will take a listen. What you are dealing with is common to most married women out there. Attempting to manage it the same way many of our mothers and grandmothers did will definitely not be to your advantage. 🥱🥱

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jvU4xWsN7-A?si=u4Z8noRfJr2RedRM
Loving yourself means choosing you. Choosing to protect that which is behind your loneliness will not be to your benefit, nor to the benefit of your children after you. 🥱

Boomark:
➜ TEST FOR DELUSION
⚖️ Carefully examine these scriptures and test yourself. You will also see they don't teach the most important commandment how it is written...
⚖️ We are going to test ourselves to know if we believe the truth from God's word. Have it at the back of your mind that the reason for the delusion is refusal to accept the truth that came from God . The truth Christ heard from God and told us.
TEST 1
The Father is the God of our Lord Jesus Christ.
➜ Question 1 -- Do you believe Christ and his word that he has a God, that the Father is his God?
⚖️ If you see yourself finding it difficult or refusing to accept that the Father is the God of Jesus Christ or think in your heart that Jesus doesn't know what he is saying, especially in Revelation, that he is equal to the Father, then it is delusion.
Turning away from the teachings of Jesus Christ means you don't have God and Christ (2 John 1:9, very important).
TEST 2
Jesus Christ alone is called the word of God.
➜Question 2 - Do believe that Jesus Christ alone is fit to be called the word of God, without adding that the bible also is called the word of God?
⚖️ If you see yourself refusing to stick to what God himself say is called the word of God. By *adding* that the bible is also called the word of God, against the warning in Revelation 22:18, you are disobedient and deluded. You added something that does not exist anywhere in the scripture. Giving to a book the glory that God gave to Christ alone (a book is what it was called in Revelation 22:18-19). The scripture says, do not add to anything that is written in that book be it inside or outside the book.
TEST 3
🔥 The most important commandment.🔥
➜Question 3 - Do you believe that we have only one God and he is God the Father (The only true God)?
➜ Do you believe that whoever is the God of Jesus Christ is one God over all?

Religion is a scam. And Christianity is a scam. What is the use of this test of yours? 🥱🥱🥱

Kalulu44:
Why should you want the man to reverse his role and not same for the woman?

I never asked that the man to reverse his role. So, again, why should his taking over of cooking duty mean she should take over providing? 🥱🥱🥱

ojotobiloba1:
This life isn't balanced ehen, my wife just adopted this usage of charcoal to cook and she is so loving it. But that doesn't stop me from filling gas tho. We use charcoal to cook beans or support gas
Country difficult abeg

That money you used to buy charcoal and refill it, you could have easily used to purchase a pressure cooker which will cook your beans faster on gas and save you a whole lot. This is 2026! Why are you folks deadset on not making sense? 🥱🥱🥱

JuanDeDios:
It's about the TIME spent cooking, not how stressful it is. Be calming down when you're reading. No, I did not say cooking (by any method) is not stressful. Be calming down when you're reading.

When you are done rambling, let me know. 😕😕

BikoMERCYme:
✓ Fact that other weren't mentioned doesn't dispute feeling and seeing it as well..🤔🥱
✓ Not every act was recorded in the bible.......🥱🥱🥱
✓ Maybe/maybe..... Not all act were record...but fact dat someone saw dat might had as well spread thru the city...

1. Nor does this provide backing for your claim. 🥱🥱

2. Because you feel everything is not recorded, you therefore add whatever you wish between the lines? 🥱🥱

3. Well, you didn't see it, and you never met someone who saw it. And the one who saw it did not, in fact, write to confirm (or deny) what he said. Is seeing still believing? 🥱🥱

mysticwarrior:
✓ Yes because she left her four children behind, she didn't only betrayed the man she betrayed her children.

Ok! 🤐🤐

BikoMERCYme:
✓ Never said that......
Lot more pple around wud have doubted in if they couldn't find scar on him after resurrection.......
Seeing is believing afterall.....

The story only claimed Thomas was.the only one who had to first see the scars, so who are these lots of people you refer to? 🥱🥱

Did Jesus Christ of Israel go around Jerusalem showing off his scars to everyone he met or something, during those 40 days? 🥱🥱

mysticwarrior:
✓ He is not a lazy man, according to him he is the one taking care of the kids, he is only crying because he felt betrayed.

According to him, his wife felt betrayed long before she made the decision to leave him with the kids. So, should his feelings of betrayal matter more than that of his wife? 🥱🥱

BikoMERCYme:
✓ Simple.....not only Thomas wud have doubted him if those scars weren't on his body no more.....

It was all for Thomas? So, did the wounds remain unhealed throughout the 40 days Jesus Christ of Israel is said to have remained with his disciples before his eventual ascension? 🥱🥱

Seun, why in 2026, are we not allowed to express even informed opinions regarding Mohammed? Why is everyone else fair game but Mohammed put on some sort of pedestal in Nairaland? Abraham was a mercenary but the moment I post similar regarding Mohammed, I get censored. Why? 🥱🥱

DrAda:
✓ I used the charcoal pot for the first time during the holidays and I was pleasantly surprised. It was used concurrently with gas cooker. The charcoal pot was used for dishes that take longer time to cook like meat, beans etc while the gas cooker was used for quick dishes.
Stopping her from using the gas cooker completely may need to be revisited. Try to strike a balance or be prepared to be stripped of your blessed peace

You know that using a pressure cooker instead would have made your life a whole lot easier? 🥱🥱🥱

SpaceX:
Surrogacy will do the job.

Indeed! Have a surrogate have your babies, hire a nanny to raise them for you; hire a cook to cook your meals, hire a personal assistant to do the home scheduling, etc., and you have no need for a wife or marriage. 🥱🥱

Kalulu44:
If he takes over cooking, will the wife agree to provide?

why should his taking over of cooking duty mean she should take over providing? 🥱🥱

JuanDeDios:
✓ You're not making sense. The woman is obviously cooking because that arrangement is convenient for them.
✓ You want him to resign from work to be cooking because electricity bill is high?
✓ Your financial sense should not impact your spouse? You're not making sense.

Look, his job is as provider and it is not his place to use his wife in saving any more money. 🥱🥱

2. Oh, so he has to resign from his job to cook with the stove? Yet, you claimed earlier that it was stress free? You wish for the woman to quit her own hustle in order to use the stove all while having us believe it does not add stress to her life? 🥱🥱

3. If your financial sense has you inconveniencing others to your benefit, then consider that you don't have financial sense at all. 🥱🥱