₦airaland Forum

The anthem of emotionally and physically absent(deadbeats included) fathers, right? ☺️🥱🥱

JuanDeDios:
✓ That charcoal stove is not particularly stressful. It doesn't smoke either. He's just trying be financially sensible so that they can afford house rent, school fees, etc., and maybe save something to build their own house or buy a car. Why are you like this?

Na him sabi wetin him marry sha.

if it is so free of stress then the man should have no issues taking over cooking using it. 🥱🥱🥱

2. Why should his so-called financial sense have to impact his wife in any way of form? He should take full responsibility for the impact all by himself. 🥱🥱🥱

The woman is right in requiring he do better, and leave her out of the equation. 🥱🥱

Sexyrosey:
✓ Yes, I understand. Even though it’s not easy to put yourself first in an “African marriage” settings, a marriage where the success and failure of a marriage rest solely on the woman especially when children are involved. But I will try.

Ever asked yourself why you had to bear alone the burden as far as the success or failure of the marriage while the man is praised in the case of success and is pitied as a victim if it fails? 😩😩😩

Children are involved but do you not see that what you have is what your children see as the mirror of what a relationship should look like ... A situation where the woman lives unhappy and lonely, dying each day for affection while the man goes about his life without concern. Is this really the example of love you want your children to grow up with? Do you really want them to believe that what may be a mistake is something they will have to spend the rest of their one life making up for? 🥱🥱🥱

Sexyrosey:
. Thank you

Just so you know, loving yourself means being honest with yourself. This honesty may lead to you leaving that marriage, which you think you need. Are you ready to begin now, loving yourself —centering yourself —above all else? 🥱🥱

sonofsteven:
➜Was it not you that i wanted to show something in the spiritual realm? Because you dey doubt spiritual activities

So, for you to show me this something in your spiritual realm, I must first put my trust in you? Don't you see right there that you have revealed yourself as a fraud, and your so-called spiritual realm is nothing but a figment of your very delusions?🥱🥱🥱

budaatum:
➜Quote chapter and verse that you read that tells Muslims to kill non-believers then. It is that simple!

You mean the passage you quoted out of context earlier is what you present in defense of Islam? You previously scolded someone else regarding the quoting of verses out of context, yet you turned around and did the same... expecting me to do exactly what with that? 🥱🥱🥱

budaatum:
➜I so love how you ignore the fact that a city with only 15% of Muslims elected a Muslim whom you believe practices a religion that you claim wants to murder you.
➜Even New York that is 57-60% Christain just elected a Muslim mayor, but you want to believe Muslims are encouraged by their Quran to murder non-believers, and you want me to discard all those opinions and voters that disagree with yours and elected a Muslim and consider yours worthy of consideration. Sorry, no can do. Enjoy your opinion.
➜And I have read the Quran. That's why I know it does not encourage Muslims to murder you! And that's apart from the fact that I bet you meet Muslims every day and none of them have ever threatened to murder you, yet.

1. London is not Nigeria, where I would expect individuals to vote only along religious lines. So, stop focusing on the silly things. 🥱🥱🥱

2. Again, stop deviating and focus on the topic! 🥱🥱🥱

3. Are you Mohammed that you would imagine some sort of authority over muslims? Are you sure you are OK? 🥱🥱

Sexyrosey:
➜The Loneliness No One Talks About. It’s a different kind of pain to feel lonely while lying next to someone who is supposed to love you. To be married, yet feel emotionally single. To wake up every day craving affection, attention, and connection… and still go to bed empty.
People think loneliness only comes from being alone. But sometimes it comes from being with someone who no longer sees you, hears you, or desires you. I miss being wanted. I miss being touched with intention, spoken to with softness, loved with effort. I miss feeling like I matter. I’m tired of pretending I’m okay. Tired of acting strong when inside I feel invisible. Tired of pouring love into a space that feels cold and silent.
This is not about perfection. It’s about presence. About romance. About feeling chosen, not just tolerated.
➜ The hardest part is knowing that I’m still capable of love, passion, and deep connection — but I’m living in a place where none of it is returned.
And that kind of loneliness… hurts more than being alone ever could.

1. The problem with these statements of yours is that it fails in recognizing the source of lack — loneliness — you feel. Loneless is a result of inner emptiness . No amount of external affection, attention, connection, romance, passion, etc., can cure emptiness. The solution has to come from within yourself —self-love.

2. Capable of love, or performance of love? I am of the mind that one is not able to love if one does not first love oneself. You say you are still capable of love, insinuating that you have been loving all this time before now. Is this really the case? I suggest you consider carefully what you think love is, and consider whether it has instead been you playing a part which you confuse with love. Love comes from a whole inside, not one battling loneliness. Please consider becoming more self-focused so you can once and for all resolve the reasons why you still have yet to love yourself more than anything else first. 🥱🥱

Ibkay32:
➜I’m a single guy, and there are days the loneliness hits me deeper than I expect. Sometimes it feels heavy, like something is missing. There are moments I just wish I had someone to talk to someone who would listen, understand, and remind me that I’m not alone but 🥲

. Loneliness is resolved by way of loving oneself — inner work inside of oneself, and sourcing validation from the inside rather than from external sources. As OP has clearly shown, marriage does not and cannot resolve that problem. Even if her husband suddenly changes, that inner emptiness will never leave her until she resolves that emptiness that has been exposed by her subconscious. 🥱🥱🥱

budaatum:
➜ That is predominance! It means more Londoners are Christians than any other faith, and not 'most Londoners are Christians', which is what you seem to think it means.
The fact is London, which is 40% Christian do not think Islam promotes their murder, or they wouldn't have elected a Muslim as Mayor!

Again,

Kobojunkie:
London is not predominantly Christian. Yes, there are more individuals in London who are recognized as Christian compared to those who recognize any other religion, but again, London is not predominantly Christian. 🥱🥱🥱

Look up the meaning and correct use of the word again, if you are still struggling beyond this point.

budaatum:
➜Yes, I think you should! Unless you want to argue that Muslims don't do what you claim their religious books says they should do!
➜ And for your information, the Quran does not "promote violence against those who do not subscribe to the religion"!
➜ And claiming it does is like saying Christianity promotes crusades because some Christians interpreted their Bible
➜ so, or that Muslims adhere to the interpretations of boko haram!

You conveniently didn't answer the actual question asked. Again, do I need to wait for a muslim to actually attack me before I can acknowledge that indeed the Quran is a book that promotes violence against those who do not subscribe to the religion?🥱🥱

2. I take it then that you have never in fact read the Quran at all? 🥱🥱🥱

3. Wrong! Christianity, the religion, is found nowhere in the Bible, nor can anything about the religion be connected to the Book in question. It is literally impossible to trace anything that the Christian world engages in back to the books of the Bible. Anyone who has honestly studied the religion of Christianity would admit that the book is a chronicle meant entirely for the bloodline of Israel— the people who bear YHWH's name— God of Israel—, and the population that is Christianity does not claim to be of that bloodline. The Romans— the very people who destroyed Judea and exiled the Jews from the land(bringing an end to the movement that once existed in the land) —not only created and championed the religion that is Christianity today. 🥱🥱

4. I don't do interpretations of any book. I read and comprehend what is written as it is written, and that book clearly states that all Jews and Christians(including all those who do not believe) are fodder for those who do. 🥱🥱

budaatum:
➜I knew you'd want to argue it, so explain to me please how Christianity, with 40%, is not the religion with the most adherents in London!

Recall what you, in fact, posted, which is...

budaatum:
And do you think predominantly Christian London would elect a Muslim as Mayor three times if what op posted were "Islamic truth"?

London is not predominantly Christian. Yes, there are more individuals in London who are recognized as Christian compared to those who recognize any other religion, but again, London is not predominantly Christian. 🥱🥱🥱

budaatum:
..., and before you start arguing about predominance, perhaps look up its definition.
As used, it means Christianity has the most adherents of any religion, and we Londoners, including atheist me, elected a Muslim as Mayor!

Huh?

budaatum:
➜The problem with some of you is you completely disregard your own personal experience and say what contradicts said experience. I am very certain there must be Muslims where you live. Pray tell, how many of them have tried to kill you?
➜ When you go to the market, how many times have you asked the religion of the person selling to you to ensure you are not buying from a Muslim who wants to put poison in what you buy?
➜ Regarding your "This topic concerns the religion of Islam and its teachings for those who subscribe to it", the Mayor of London subscribes to Islam and has not killed anyone yet, and nor do we Londoners have any reason to think he intends to, which is why we have elected him three times already.
➜ As to your "First, London is not predominantly Christian", "the religious composition of London comprised: 40.7% Christianity, 27.1% No religion, 15.0% Islam, 5.1% Hinduism, 1.7% Judaism, 1.6% Sikhism, 0.9% Buddhism, 1.0% Other religion, and 7.0% Not stated". Wiki. And you contesting this makes me think you are just pulling your supposed facts out of thin air.

1. Do I need to wait for a muslim to actually attack me before I can acknowledge that indeed the Quran is a book that promotes violence against those who do not subscribe to the religion? I am trying really hard here to understand why you seem to be having a terribly hard time with this one, given that you don't ever have a hard time at all, casting Christianity down as a religion that never seems to have truth to offer. I mean, what is with th double standard here?

2. Again, I made clear in my previous post that this discussion isn't about us trying to diagnose individuals but the belief behind a religion out there. So, why are you supposedly having an utterly hard time separating sentiments from the issue and facts that apply to it?

3. So, you equate this Mayor of London with the person of Mohammed in the quran whom all Moslims are expected to live their lives in honor of? Do tell us, what aspect of this mayor of yours reminds you of the person of Mohammed? Since you have made him the standard as far as Islam and its teachings are concerned. I am curious to know what it is about him that reminds you of Mohammed, the figure whose example every muslim is expected to follow. 🥱🥱🥱

4. Oh boy! Now, figures taken from the London census of 2021 data are not good enough for you? 😫😫😫😫

bigpicture001:
➜Because of the high cost of energy, I barred her from overly use of electric hot plate, also gas finishes so fast.. all these are draining the family maintainance resources.. So I deviced a means to bring down the cost of energy by purchasing gokpo charcoal stove.. it's a new kinda charcoal stove that doesn't fume, it's clean energy and also burns faster..
Just that u need to infuse charcoal enough and cook straight hours so u can exchaust the charcoal, lest it won't stop burning inside.. Believe me, it doesn't darken pot nor fume..
By she has refused to use it, claiming I am taking her to olden days and causing lots of stress..
➜ Okay I suggested she start to part pay the cost of cooking energy if sh must stick with her choice.. but sh has not filled gas since then nor part pay the huge NEPA bill that comes monthly.. Abeg wetin I go do for this case

1. Well, she has a valid point there. Why should she have to take on additional stress all in order that you can save yourself from the stress of having to do more to afford the bills? I mean, you are trying to give her more work to do because you don't want to have to do more work as a provider. That ogboju dem dey call that one. 🥱🥱🥱

2. What reason would you have to suggest she do that, though? Anyways, you could always divorce your wife and go find yourself a cheaper woman who wouldn't mind cooking using charcoal and taking on all the stress that goes along with it. Alternatively, you can take over cooking duty in your home so you can handle the stress all by yourself instead of stacking on to the stress your wife already has to deal with. 🥱🥱🥱

noobody:
➜Na the doctor part shock me pass. Not sure the guy finish medical school sha Maybe na chemist wey dey claim doctor.

You dey mind dem and their stories?

budaatum:
➜You are entitled to disagree. Especially when you call ops post "Islamic truth", which it clearly is not.
➜ If op's post were "Islamic truth", don't you think most of the world would ban it?
➜ And do you think predominantly Christian London would elect a Muslim as Mayor three times if what op posted were "Islamic truth"? Now, if that particular man had, say, instituted Sharia Law in London, then it would make sense for you to bring it up as an issue for us to debate here on this thread.

1. It isn't? Please, do tell us what aspect of the post is not based on that which concerns Islam? I am actually interested in reading your rebuttal. 🥱🥱

2. You mean the same way that the world has literally banned every other evil religion out there? Are you sheeting me? 🥱🥱🥱

3. First, London is not predominantly Christian. Second, this subject is not about a man who was elected mayor and happens to be of the religion of Islam. This topic concerns the religion of Islam and its teachings for those who subscribe to it. 🥱🥱

Eniitankorede:
➜So you agree!
➜ And you are now asking why?
➜ You will continue to argue about the why until all your family become Muslims.

1. Agree with what?🥱🥱🥱

2. Asking you why what? 🥱🥱🥱

3. You have the wrong person entirely, as I have to Whys to shove in your direction, especially where religion is concerned. I deal with fact,s not falsehoods or suppositions.🥱🥱🥱

Lastpharoah33:
Like, I'm currently valued by Forbes to the tune of $8.3bn? Dunno who leaked that to these mfs in 1st place anyway. Anyone coming around for anything marriage, is around for the goodies godammit. I'm cooked dawgs, I'm cooked.

If you are scared, it means marriage is probably not for you. It is really that simple... no need to make a thread of this. 🥱🥱

budaatum:
✓ Which proves my point. You didn't read the book, and are quoting verses out of context with no understanding whatsoever!

And I am a born atheist bred in Europe, not that that should matter.

Oh, I disagree with your assessment of OP's post. And I also don't buy the claim that anyone who calls out the Islamic truth does so out of hate. 🥱🥱🥱

Yes, every religion out there is a scam, but we all know that Islam is a religion that is not only a scam but also bent on the ruin of those who don't subscribe to their ideologies, and this has to do with the fact that the true Muslim is a Muslim who lives his life according to the way Mohammed lives his life
That should scare the bejezzusss out of anyone out there. 🥱🥱🥱

honesttalk21:
✓ Even if you appear tranced into a state of drunken confusion let me break and reply your statements one by one perharps you will gain staying clarity.

Al-Lat, al-Uzza, and Manat were goddesses in paganism, but they were not considered daughters of Hubal, and the Qur’an clearly denies that they were daughters of Allah. Specifically you know Allah does not beget nor is begotten.🤔
Even before Islam, Allah was recognized by pagans as the supreme Creator, while Hubal was simply a statue used for fortune-telling. ...

Allah did not exist before Mohammed came up with the name. There is no history tracing that particular term to any people or region before Mohammed started his religion. There are opinions on where he possibly got the idea for the name from, but the actual name as is used today...Allah... didn't exist as is until after Mohammed came up with it as the name for the deity belonging to his religion . 🥱🥱🥱

BigYash:
✓ You will call it tales,cux you have not experienced it. But life it's deeper than you think..
I happened to live in a compound around 2009/2010,where some girls in my lodge travel long distance to go mark themselves with black powers to attract wealthy men. I heard some OS still do it till date..
People practice witchcraft and voodoo for wickedness in this part of the world.

Always telling baseless stories! 🥱🥱🥱

Phut:
✓ She probably could get in annulled based on the fraud

She should! 🤔

Eniitankorede:
You can’t shock me. But I will shock you, the religion with largest reverts in the world is Islam. You can’t compare the large number of Muslims to the small number in other religions. In fact, Christianity is fast declining in the west. Churches are turning to mosques in U.K. What is more shocking than that?

I read your post and then saw this video pop up on my YouTube page. It is worth watching. 🥱🥱

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3pW5MmZrYFs?si=kCmzWDHzjUCP7RP2

msbyao:
➜It's not new. My dad is in his late 80s and my mum in her 60s. It wasn't until his 80th birthday that we knew his actual age. His sister sent a special birthday message in church. We didn't have any big celebration, nothing special, because we didn't know it was his 80th birthday. It will be hard to explain that to anyone. My mum was in shock.

WOW.... I can only imagine what has been running through her mind since that moment. 🥱🥱

casualobserver:
➜it is a lie.
1. traditional marraige is different from registry (official) marraige
2: returning dowry does not negate an official registry marraige. in the eyes of the law they are still married until a court divorce.
3: he could not have "brought" her to Australia on the basis of a traditional marriage.
either the story is not true or he is just fooling himself by returning dowry and not divorcing her in court.

The person who posted the story is a pastor... of course it is a lie! 🥱🥱🥱

A Pastor posted it? It is definitely a lie! 🥱🥱🥱

Jayhome24:
➜I'm not supporting the man to lie but young woman if that man is "money na water corner" and he is even 75 years old will you be saying this?

It does not matter how rich the man may be; as long as the relationship is not consensual—she was not given a chance to decide for herself whether she would settle with an old man or not— it is a scam marriage. 🥱🥱🥱

nnamdi640:
You mean court will just annul the marriage just because she accused her husband that he lied to her without any proof to show in court.

This is an issue best left to the courts to decide. Not for you or me to decide. 🥱🥱

nnamdi640:
✓ I don't think court will annul such marriage accept the lady will present an evidence to show that his husband lied, if not court has no evidence to act on most especially if it is a verbal pronunciation by the husband while still dating her

The Courts can and will.🥱🥱🥱

Rubyjade:
You find out your friend is selling fake products to “feed family.”
What will you do?
👍🏽 = Call them out
❤️ = Mind your business

Are those he is selling those fake goods to not people you may know(strangers can become friends or even family)? Call him out on what is fraud and at least inform people you know --- friends and family -- of the facts of what you know of his scam, so they too can, in turn, warn other people they know etc. 🥱

Your friend is not the only one suffering, so why should he bring added suffering to the lives of others? 🥱🥱

Nigerian tales dey really tire person! 😩😩😩