₦airaland Forum

QuinModah:
1. The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a husband is. A husband is that man God made and then saw that it may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for making him, without a help mate and then made the woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled. MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of building the family of God here on earth.

2. For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is today, may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying that you should pick anyone that comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men are husband materials. What I am saying is that you should stop setting your standard on material acquisitions or
physical appearances.

Look beyond the physical. WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that which he is made of is, most times, not seen with the physical eyes, only its effects can be seen. Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which is not seen is permanent.

3. Relax and go to God. God did not just make Eve for making sake; He made her for Adam's need to be met. May God help us. Good afternoon

1. None of what you claim has to do with God though, this since His formula as far as marriage is concerned is simple. His Law defines Marriage as an agreement between a man and a woman. Following that, there is absolutely nothing wrong with those gals setting the bar as high as they have it for their potential mate. Instead, you are in the wrong by telling them they need to settle for less and invoking the name of God at that.

2. Unless you have an algorithm that can clearly predict this destiny of a man you speak of, i suggest you, and others such as yourself, stay the frell away from discussion issues you are clearly ill-equipped to. Look around you at 10 of millions of married Nigerians living in abject poverty, most of whom swallowed the many "Destiny Helper" sermons preached from pulpits across the destiny, and conside the fate that await the many children born in those homes, all of them waiting for magic to take place because that is the reason they got married..

It is not the job of these single women to alleviate what you call "husband scarcity" so stop seling them your half-baked attempts at resolving a problem you clearly don't understand yourself.

3. Again, leave God out of this hogwash abeg!

CorGier:
In every healthy heterosexual relationship, the ability of the man to manipulate and dare i say mess with his woman's emotions is very key. This might come off a tad chauvinistic, but every tumultuous relationship stems from the unhappiness of the male folk. For a woman to be truly happy in her relationship, it invariably means her man is happy too.

On her part, she's not oblivious to his manipulations, in fact for a high-value male she allows it. It's innate their their nature to please men. Then ofcourse one good turn deserves another. She owns the vagína, after all.

What?

So your viewpoint is that a healthy heterosexual relationship revolves around the man's ego - all this because he has an outtie while she has an innie?

Nacoss25:
My marriage of 10 months is gradually craching.
I and my wife some issues 2 weeks ago and ran away from the house to her parents and now the parents are denying seeing her while from my investigation and information gathered she connived with her family to go into hiding.

So the dress incident with you narrating how you discipline your wife happened only a couple of weeks after you two got married?

Well, they say there is no smoke without fire.... oyinbo go talk say, "you had it coming..". What I don't understand is your resort here to blame your wife and her family for this.

CorGier:
1. Manipulating and guilt-triping a SO is fair and proper in a normal, healthy heterosexual relationship. Girls your type are your own worst enemies - being too smart for your own good. The tendency to overthink and overanalyze every damn thing.

2. I mustn't be a narcissist to feel uneasy if some smart-arse chick thinks she has me all figured out. Maybe it's just a question of a bruised ego.

3. The "silent treatment" as a powerful control tool? Maybe the poor guy is just sulking or simply steering clear off a toxic person?

4. At the emboldened, it really takes one to know one darl. You really need to look in the mirror.

1. Please explain what you mean by the statement in bold abeg. Manipulation in a healthy relationship? The professionals and experts out there are all screaming "HELL TO THE NO" -\

2. A bruised ego or low self-esteem?

3. You have a point but even those of us who use the silent treatment in that way know it isn't necessarily the best way to handle such situations though.

4. Just because I am able to spot bullsheet from afar does not mean I am swimming in it.

Wittyduchess:
Bros it haff do na ,you sef.

No mind me... I am just getting my Monday mornings kicks is all..

humility33:
Good for you oga good for you
Pls sue me pls do
I am even replying you sef

***picks insects out of teeth*** ....sure.

humility33:
You're the busy body here because the matter is not entirely yours and the person I quoted later explained to me I even apologised but you still busy busy with matter

Abeg ooo

Repeating the obvious won't change anything....just so you know.

humility33:
What do u expect me to say when you've been busy all over carrying the matter on your head like gala...haba

I don't understand your intentions either to paint me bad or to make her or everyone have a bad impression of me thank God it is a faceless forum

If you were really mediating you would have been happy that we finally came to a truce and make peace at the end thats the essence of communication....I even apologise to her

What do u want Oga?

Was simply out that your bullying and eventually attacks were unwarranted and simply unbecoming of one who claims to be matured experienced as far as human relationships are concerned.

Surely, you didn't expect me to turn away when I saw you attempting to bully her, did you?

humility33:
1.You dont even know me. I didn't even send her a PM and won't do

2..I learnt from her today...And I enjoyed the conversation even though the conversation didn't start well I understand not all conversation should starts on a good note. I get to know from her perspective why the terms and it really made to know under stand this from ladies angle

3. You're just the one doing busy body all over claiming you already know who you don't know

You didn't send her a PM, but you asked me to send her one, this after she made it clear to you that she does not desire nairaland friendships. What do you think that tells me of the kind of person you are?

2. I highly doubt these claims of yours.

3. I am one of nairalands many unofficial, if not its only, busy-body after all.

Felimax:
Anyway they are both God's servant and I wish them well.

No they are not! God no send any of His servants to dey do wetin these men dey do in His Name.

humility33:
Be scared of yourself ooo
And write it on your black book

When next I see fight here on nairaland will quote you to mediate...It seems you're good in that

Why don't you send her a DM and let me rest
The person nor even carry the matter for head like u

You don't need to quote me on nairaland...I get around pretty well by myself..

I don't need to DM her since I prefer to respect her choices wishes instead. She say she no wan nairaland friends... no be by force for anyone. Your inability to respect that clearly reveals you for the kind of person you are.

humility33:
Mr. Attorney go and eat the comments

I have made peace with the lady thats more important than a thousand words from you

You can rest now except you still wanna keep quoting which I won't reply

You made peace with her... now I am even more scared.

You think you can change your stripes just like that after what you revealed here?

I am tempted to repost her comment about how the nairaland inuobong connection right here... that is how scared I am right now.

humility33:
She called hypocrite... common sense should teach u that those words go in sequence

She wrote those words to me even though i know the way i replied her parent comment wasn't too well... I ignored the first one she told me to shut up

I don't follow

humility33:
Kobojunkiee
So read this last paragraph and tell me what it is

I think you should begin by explaining to us all what part of that constitutes an insult to you.

This forum giving room for anonymousity houses scammers, ritualists , terrorists, propaganda agents, people pretending to be what they are not, rapist and rape apologists, misogynists and women haters , Yahoo boys and so on.

Did you know the guy who killed inuobong was also a nairalander?

So again,it's not in your place to tell a lady how to indulge an online stranger ,so shut up.

humility33:
Thank u bro. Noted
Also learn how to mediate in disputes
Not everyone will reply u the way I did with no insults even when you were obviously biased and lopsided in your judgements

Your kind makes for a bad judge

This is nairaland. If you are looking to catch your victims without others meddling, don't post here at all.

Your kind gives us all a bad name by thinking bullying others into submission amounts to a show of intelligence or superiority.

humility33:
She has removed them save for the one she called "hypocrite"

You're a very biased referee Lol.
Do enjoy the rest of your day papi

She called hypocrite? Na comprehension be your issue or what?

Oh, I am biased for not agreeing with you even when you ar obviously unable to backup any of your accusations against her?

humility33:
You ask me a question and you even end it with I should be sincere if it was my sister
Now I replied and you are capping it with "i now determine how a woman should get to know strangers"?
I checked you quickly remove the insults you threw up in your first replies
It seems you're good in playing VICTIMS
anyway nice engaging you
Be good

How could she have removed the insults when you quoted(copied) most everyone of her posts?

Learn how to better socialize. All you did here was attempt to bully a person into submission and when she pushed back, you jumped straight into attack mode.

Badboibipo:
1. Why is it that majority of girls are always slim at their teens but the moment they start getting older they start getting chubby. .... What really causes it? I personally think it’s because of very long deeks that fvck them and the sperm they swallow during serx makes them glow and add up.

2. Most men say this all the time that it’s deek that make women become like that is this a fact tho?

1. Because as people grow older, they engage in less activities.. same applies to boys, not just girls.

2. Those most men are stewpid, that is why they believe such nonsense. You probably should find yourself more intelligent crowd from which to source information. Make Google your friend instead.

humility33:
Just the way you can be busy going through my replies do same to hers...you'll see it well and clear

She didn't insult you from what I saw. If you can prove others, please by all means, go for it.

Repost these insults you accuse her of make we see now.

humility33:
You were blind to see her insults right
I try engage her in a sane manner

Only for her to always round up her replies with insults

Repost the insults make I see.

I saw you.... you were attempting to shove your own ideas and views down her throat too.

humility33:
You're a bitter soul with no joy inside

You've insulted yourself severally even when I try engage you thinking you're sane

You need to move on girl

Later now you come lie say you no attack am.

Stop trying to bully her for korokoro, dey think say you get wayo sense.
Take your own advice there... move on!

humility33:
Not meant to attack her
Wasn't the one that made a request to her
God forbid bad thing
She is hurt and heart broken such a lady is to be left alone and avoided with all might

I sometimes see those terms as pride

You are kidding, right?

Wasn't this your comment from only minutes ago?

humility33:
It cuts across, if I am to talk on my relationship experience here...you'll feel for me but we men barely talk on this things

Society have trained us to conceal our pains no matter how many times we've been hurt we find reasons to love again. Everyone has a story to tell
Don't be surprised the guy chyking on u might have been hurt more than you even think or gone through but still he believes that when the good times comes the pains and past times will be forgotten

So why are you are nitpicking on this assumed pain of hers?
Who installed you as her pain manager or pride-lord... you don manage your own finish?

She no wan your friendship... no need to bully her for saying no to you. Move on!

ProDigitals:
You don't date facts. From your energy, you've never experienced true love and care

May it find you dear

Again, how old are you?

humility33:
What's wrong with been friends outside nairaland

I don't know if it is pride or what you ladies act as if friendship with you guys gives a man gold

Whereas the man will be doing most of the checkings and even making the conversation lively

Friendship with you na by force?

See as you begin attack her for being honest about what she wants instead..

ProDigitals:
Calm down dear. You're sounding like one that has experienced true, mature loving. If you meet the right persons, all of these will be tales of the past

How old are you?

Happycharles:
All in all,

what i see here is benefit of attending church and Advertisement of a particular church...

The only work of the church as u have mentioned is to reach out to the unsaved and help disciple the saved. Others benefits such as marriage we can also find in night club.

Thank God for your church too and what God is doing through the ministry of His servant, Senior Pastor Enoch Adeboye.

Jesus Christ never sent any of His own to "disciple" the saved.

Instead, Jesus Christ sent His followers out to preach the Gospel, God's New Covenant Law in the Kingdom of God - to the unsaved and to teach them to obey His commandments. Once they are baptized and saved, they belong to Jesus who then becomes their one and only Teacher, Master, Guide, Helper etc..

What you do in your churches have absolutely nothing to do with what Jesus Christ commanded of His own and He certainly made this clear over 2000 years ago when He distanced Himself from the doctrines and traditions of men(and their churches) which He said were lies intended to deceive and delude many away from following God's Truth. These lies make up what is religion today.... they nullify the power of God and render void the people's worship of God - Matthew 15 vs 1 - 14 & Mark 7 vs 1 - 13.

Omooba77:
1.Many negative things have been said about Church, yes few of the allegations may be true, but Truth is many positive things are coming from and through the Church of God.

2. I have seen many that have lost hope, but coming to Jesus through Church have changed their lives tremendously.

3. Some have gotten jobs, accommodations, helps and so on through connections from their local assemblies. Likewise many got their life partners and help meets here too.Answered to prayers....Above All many destinies have been altered positively by getting Saved through Church.

4. So be grateful to the Church you have been planted!

1. I highly doubt your claim here this since your churches have absolutely nothing to do with God since they are instead monuments erected for the glory of the men who own and run them like every other business out there..

2. Changes their lived to what exactly? Even Muslims and Buddhists can make similar claims of those who visit their temples and shrines. And Jesus Christ, we know, distanced Himself from the religions of men(and their churches) over 2000 years ago - Matthew 15 vs 1 - 14 & Mark 7 vs 1 - 13 ..

3. Nonsense! Billions more who have never ever graced the entrance or your churches also have testimonies to share of getting the very same things.

As for your claim that people have been saved through your churches, unless you will also claim demons saved,that is impossible. This, again, because, Jesus Christ made it clear that one cannot live in submission to the doctrines and traditions of men(and their churches), lies aka religion and be of God. Such a one does not know God and worship of that kind is void where God's Truth is concerned- Matthew 15 vs 1 - 14 & Mark 7 vs 1 - 13

4. Look, what your churches offer you are no different from what the world already gives people plenty of, this without you needing to pay swindlers(pastors and mogs) who themselves have no connection to God..

Jesus Christ came to offer people that which is greater than the world can offer or give them. And your churches have nothing to do with Him and His teachings.

Lizzydonnah:
He is a nairalander

ROFLMAO

lalalista:
The institution of marriage should be abolished. Imagine getting married to a boring person and living with him for the rest of your life, you'll be frustrated, angry and you'll probably die of depression. I know you will ask such a person that didn't she know he was boring before marrying him? Of course u know that men pretend to like some things a woman like, just to get her attention and finally have her. The society should stop pressurizing single adults into getting married.

Aren't single adults ashamed to claim, here in this information age, they were pressured by society into getting married? Do you marry for society's sake or do you marry because it is what you want to do?

And yes, if you marry what you call a boring person, the law allows you an exit from even that. Marriage has never been a life sentence of sorts, so why blame marriage for your refusal to use the provided exit door?

West2019:
ask your father buhari

You kind ehn..... lobotomy!

digitite:
Relationship by human nature.

Hey Kobojunkiee. Wow longtime. Where and how have you been ?

I have been back on almost 2 years now.
Unlike before, I barely spend any time in politics section though... I found God and quit that foolishness.