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advanceDNA:
Una never see anything.... We all crashed moral standards... There's no nothing like inappropriate again, we have replaced it with "sebi its legal" do what makes u happy...,.... We called churches and mosques that call for sexual discipline a scam..we attack both the messenger and the message. ...we call jumping around from one penis/pvssy to another woke and having fun....we now want to settle down.??..Its a lie....there is no settle down kán kán ... This is the reality... after u have built a strong habit of enjoying plenty dickś and pvssy btw ur 18-30 years with plenty of abortion to match ..u now want a ring and a marriage certificate to reset everything like nothing happened....... kó possible... Paternity fraud and plenty dose of infidelity ló ma end gbó gbó é ......hahahahaha

This reality started from the time of your ancestors who restricted polygamy to just men, simple! One reason why your attempts to use mosques and churches to stay women from exploring their rights to polygamy failed has to do with the obvious double standard in society. You can't have men living by separate laws as far as satisfying their desires when we are all humans after all.

Kriss216:
Married women are becoming something else these days. Imagine leaving your home to go sleep with your colleague
May God save and protect all married men in Nigeria. Amen

ROFLMAO

insidelife22:
These days everyone is a cheat.
Husband and wife included

Polygamous ar'us all!

sageb:
Fake pastors cashing out because of gullible worshippers.

There are no real pastors and mogs... they are all con men, thieves who come to steal, to kill and to destroy.

saintopus:
Some people with the Pastor appellation are mocking themselves not God. What difference would it have made if you simply say I bought landed property and 4matic Benz for himself? Vanity plenty with these so called men of God

Bought with money made from?

tonididdy:
■ A woman who doesn’t appreciate this little does not deserve much ask yourself, what wrong did you do to her ?

1. Appreciate poverty? She just had a baby who is 83% likely to remain in the cycle of poverty for the rest of his life and you think the woman should Appreciate poverty?

SUFFERInSMILIIN:
I do not really know but I think about the incident over and over anyway they need to feed and look for money in the harsh economic situation

I don't understand. They are obviously there because market dey for them so wetin be your own? To take it away from them or what?

tfrancis:
Joel 2:1
Blow ye the trumpet in Zion, and sound an alarm in my holy mountain: let all the inhabitants of the land tremble: for the day of the LORD cometh, for it is nigh at hand;

2:12
Therefore also now, saith the LORD, turn ye even to me with all your heart, and with fasting, and with weeping, and with mourning:

2:15
Blow the trumpet in Zion, sanctify a fast, call a solemn assembly:

Joel 2 vs 1 - 17 took place almost 2000 years ago. The day of the Lord's judgment took place after Jesus Christ left and the last wing of Israel — the people of Judah— where cursed and scattered by God to all the 4 winds of the earth, and Jerusalem was destroyed.

Oluromantic:
■ I think something worth more considering is why is it the womenfolk who ask for divorce more like men don't go through abuse.
■ And if you check well, wives of poor men don't ask for divorce, it's the wives of the rich

1. why is this worth considering? If a man chooses to stay in what he considers an abusive relationship that is his choice. Why you think a woman must stay when commonsense tells her not to is beyond me.

2. Probably because such women have nothing to fall back on and so suffer for as long as they can. This ain't rocket science really.

Persephone1:
■ Whatever you believe Kobo, you are right
■ But this remain.

1. What I obviously believe is Jesus Christ and since He is God's Truth, He is right.

2. Oh, I completely understand your refusal to give up on the doctrines and traditions of your pastors and mogs which you hold to. I simply wanted to make clear that your belief has nothing to do with scripture.

Persephone1:
What's the topic about? Adultery?

The name given by Jesus Christ to the sin committed in each case he highlighted in the above passages is adultery. If the topic had indeed been adultery, I would have had to include Matthew 5 vs 27 - 28 in the collection. But since we are on the subject of divorce and sin, I didn't include Matthew 5 vs 27 - 28 because it applies as well to all including the unmarried.

Jimmythewise:
Idk about the rest. I banged this girl 2 days ago. She loved it so much that she made me dinner and brought it last night to my house. I banged her again last night and she made me breakfast this morning. Simps like I said are the problem.

Storyland!

Call the girl abeg make we hear her side of the story abeg!

AsomStructures:
You confronted her about it and she told you if u shouldn't accept gifts from ppl?

She's not into you, in as much as it's not utterly out of place to receive gifts from friends, she wasn't supposed to be all defensive since it doesn't make u happy. Talk with her about it and if she persists ask her hope she wouldn't get angry if you collect gifts from females folks also?
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Bullsheet! You demand a grown adult change for your sake and you don't immediately expect that adult to first question the audacity of you doing such is bullsheet.

By the way, if you feel you need to change an adult in order that he or she can give you attention you desire, don't you see that right there and then that relationship has failed?

Jimmythewise:
Because more than 50% of men on earth are simps.

Like the rest somehow don't at least pay women for sex?

tk4radi:
I will think about this though..I have been doing a lot of thinking lately too..
I guess that also contributed to some kind of stress

Please do consider getting help for that weight abeg. I can tell you from first hand experience that it shouldn't be ignored.

Delightsome2023:
I just wonder why you decided to quit a profession that is prolific at the moment.
I'm into copywriting though incase you have any gig for me
I observe you're now fully active in religion section arguing with all strength and vigour.
Now my question is why are your religious beliefs so odd and you hardly agree with anyone including the scriptures. Why are you so weird?

Can you prove to me the past in bold?

As for career, I quit because it is what I needed to do in order to obtain what I truly desire out of this life of mine. It is really that simple.

Onigawara:
Its obviously not. You should have deduced better.

How can I deduce that from an OP such as yours?

tk4radi:
Kobojunkie..
Is this your alternate moniker??
The original Kobojunkie should respond to this inquiry please..

Oh yes, they are both mine. I am going back and forth from a bot ban.

Persephone1:
Kindly refer back to my first and last post for further clarification. If you insist on countering, provide where it is scripturally written that divorce is allowed.
I believe you are mixing up separation and divorce, nevertheless I'm not interested in arguing this until you provide proof of your argument.

Again,
○ Jesus Christ never said in any of His conversations that divorce is sin implying divorce is allowed.
○ Jesus Christ instead said remarriage is sin in the case the reason for the divorce that led up to the remarriage wasn't fornication.
○ Jesus Christ said nothing about separation.

tk4radi:
And you think this is ESCAPE?? GHOSTING?? And ABANDONING.??Ok then. You can keep the understanding for yourself. But then, I am telling you now that you understood that comment very wrongly.
Meanwhile... Don't put your own words across as mine, and again, don't impose a figment of your imagination into my narrative.

I get what you are telling me but it's just that I have seen it all play out enough to know that there is likely some issue at the core of such statements that need serious taking of and never a bad idea to suggest help everytime. I can tell you that getting mental health therapy for your stress is a good thing you can do for yourself at least in this.

justli:
■ The verse in front of you clearly said the theif hurled insults on. Now you are going to tell us the translation is wrong even though three books of the gospel said the same thing, yet you didn't bring any translation that said otherwise.

My response has nothing to do with the other thief on the cross.

tk4radi:
Read the thing I wrote again. And see if you can find any of those emboldened words you wrote here.. Now read it again, read it again, now that you have an idea of vacation or retreat in mind.. Which one did my earlier comment describe? Escaping? Ghosting? Abandoning? Vacation? Or Retreat.??About the man-&-wife in the OP,, I commented that we should also look at the situation from the man's perspective.. He might have a reason for leaving the wife..

The statements in bold jumped out at me while reading your post.

With first-hand experience,, I can tell you this..“Sometimes, I feel like leaving my family and work, and go for a full one-month retreat where I will stay all alone by myself.
Just alone., without any HUMAN Visitors (no matter who that person might be),, I would just be left all alone with my thoughts.. and my only nearest companions would be the trees and the birds, and animal sounds and noises..
And my phones would be put off..
I may only read newspapers and listen to news on radio in order to get updated, that is, if there might even be need for such”.
The reason I think of such things at times, even though I have a family, is because, sometimes I get totally fed-up with everything. My wife would be there thinking that having a Family SHOULD mean everything to me, and be More Than Enough for me to be always happy in this world..
Only if she would ever know that at times,, I prefer to stay with the wild trees and birds, than to stay with her and the kids So, you don't know what the man might be going through in the family. We need to hear both sides of the story.

Persephone1:
This isn't a doctrine but scripture. Kindly show where it divorce is allowed in the bible.

It is wholly of the doctrines and delusions of men and not of scripture. If you actually processed what is in fact written for your own self, you would instead find that Jesus Christ never infact said anything like "divorce is sin". He did state that remarriage after a divorce that was not due to fornication was sin but he never did say divorce in and of itself is sin.

tk4radi:
I don't know exactly what you're referring to. In fact, I can't really relate to the picture you're trying to paint here. That I sometimes feel like I need to go on a secluded vacation (which would serve as a moment of retreat for me) where I would connect with nature and use the moment to think too.. And you're saying that it is a very bad idea. Ok.. Just because I made it clear that I would prefer such a vacation to be for me alone, and not with family..??
■ If someone has a lot of things going on in his head, and needed a cool place to stay calm and think and have all those lots of things settled,, is that the same thing as “Running Away”.??

First red flag for me is you posted in relation to the man Op made reference to as though you connected with him on some level. Second, you mentioned you have severally taught of escaping your wife and kids - ghosting them for extender period of time. Now you suggest that describes a vacation.

2. Having a cool place to think or taking a vacation is one thing. Abandoning people even for a period is another thing entirely. What you describe is in no way unique to you but the best you can do is seek help for it.

victorVIC1:
■ If madam feel say oga no dey perform up to expectation, e no right for madam to express her mind to Oga? Unfortunately, a lot of couples are lacking in this regards. Na their friends dem go dey tell their mind. A lot of men also do same

From the much I know, many women do communicate these things too but the problem is men tend to have ego issues when it comes to their performance and are quick to chuck it up to stress and the many other excuses we hear. Sadly, only a minute number seek help for the problem before it becomes a problem in the marriage.

Also, how many of these men and woman inform your friends when they are themselves the problem -- the partner inadequate in bed?

2mch:
It’s not mostly stress. It’s bad lifestyle and pride. Many egos are easily bruised when it comes to non functional manhood. Also age does play a factor and women start to approach their peak after 40. While men who are unhealthy have had at least 20yrs of bad eating, drinking and womanizing. At 40 a lot of them can’t last or perform. It’s just the fact. Also, some have health problem that they refuse to address no matter how much the wife complain.

ROFLMAO

Arabk25:
Well to me I don't really blame the woman but then again she should have call the husband and explain things to him that's the power of communication the would understand her feelings then maybe work on it

Explain her sexual frustration to a husband who probably knows there is a problem but is maybe reluctant to seek help on his part?

victorVIC1:
This is often as a result of severe stress. Imagine what most people that are working in Lagos go through to provide for their family.

You leave home as early as 6am to enable you beat traffic then you get back home at night. Consequently, you're completely worn out. How you wan take perform like German machine?
In conclusion, it's very important that partners engage when having dissatisfactions cos without communications, no marital bliss. Unfortunately, some partners don't do this, they rather express their grievances on social media where their partners may not even be aware

communication is the way to what now?

ROFLMAO

Teymanhenry:
Men feel they can do that and get away with it because they foot 90% of the bills. If you have a relationship where responsibilities are shared 50/50 then the man would get scared of the idea of cheating

Maybe you are right.

OsuIgboIpob:
Lol
Guilty conscience
What's your bodycount?
Are you proud of it?
Can you tell your partner or father the truth if they asked?
If it's not so a big deal, why you lie about the real figure?

Again, when I was young, we used to call people who think such as you do mumuni or bongafish brain! Hope that helps!

Gamusgamus:
It shall never be well with hackers, how can you hack into peopies account and start attempting to destroy there marriages, what shall it profit you , remember the universal law of karma

ROFLMAO

djon78:
■ Bia Kobo abeg I no get your time. Yes I messed up, but the Bible says he that finds a a wife, find a good thing and obtain favour of the Lord. I believe that my wife is because of the favour (Grace) I obtained of the Lord
Also I learnt that honestly every human being can still allow good to come out of them if they turn towards right thing.
■ I also learnt that there is no marriage that cannot turn around for good except the ones where there is a threat of violence. No marriage is beyond redemption

1. Try to dey leave God and His mention out of your talk abeg cause all you claim so, if I begin dey dig into am, you no go like at all..

For one, grace means eternal life and eternal life has no connection to your marriage which God washed His hands off and even Jesus Christ said is not of His Kingdom. As for no marriage being beyond redemption, you mean people like Osinachi did well to hold on until the end then?