₦airaland Forum

Mordecai:
■ Granted, she contributed to his earnings in the three years they were married. His mother contributed prior to the marriage, and even during the marriage. Just like he presumably owes his wife, he owes his mother too. And he was making those payments religiously. Just like a man that divorces and remarries. His wife cannot accuse him of marital fraud if he was allocating 80% of his earnings to his ex-wife, as long as he was contributing reasonably to his home.
■ Drop this issue. Any judgement that convicts him of marital fraud is not justice. It's intimidation and oppression.

1. Marriage is defined by law as an agreement between a man and a woman. Unless he had signed a business agreement between himself and his mother requiring he pays her a certain amount each period, that one no enter at all.

2. I think the average Nigerian is terribly misinformed when it comes to the law and marriage. Mass education is definitely needed in these major areas.

padi94:
What if he was paying a debt he owed his mom

Storyland!

LivingSage:
He cheated, yes, that's bad. Asking for half of his property is NOTHING but madness. Who does that. If hakimi were to be your brother, would you have accepted such?

1. There is nothing mad about it. In parts of the U.S. For instance, spouses get 50% depending on conditions. So why shouldn't she be able to ask... she be lesser human being? Abegi!

Thegamingorca:
Marital fraud Marriage itself is a fraudulent agreement

Abeg make una stop all these brainless pronouncements. Like say dem hold gun to anyone head make him marry.

Westerhoffe:
■ And the same GOD said, whosoever calls upon the name of the LORD shall be saved.
■ He also said, whosoever comes to Him He shall in no wise cast out. Think properly and understand the Bible before quoting.
■ When the men on Nineveh, who do not even have any idea of the GOD that Jonah came to proclaim about humbled themselves, fasted and prayed, did GOD not hear them and changed His mind and turn away the evil proclaimed against the land and its inhabitants? You don't decide GOD'S next move, choice or decision by your self righteousness my friend.

1. Think properly and understand scripture before quoting it — your own advice
When God said that which Paul quoted in his epistle in Romans 10, God, in fact, said it in reference to His people, Israel, and you know what God in fact said? Well, see the below passage.

14 [/b]You leaders in Jerusalem should listen to the Lord’s message, but now you refuse to listen to him.
[b]15 You have said, “We have made an agreement with death. We have a contract with death. So we will not be punished. Punishment will pass us without hurting us. We will hide behind our tricks and lies.”
16 Because of these things, the Lord God says, “I will put a rock—a cornerstone—in the ground in Zion. This will be a very precious stone. Everything will be built on this very important rock. Anyone who trusts in that rock will not be disappointed. - Isaiah 28 vs 14 - 16

And as Jesus Christ, the Rock referenced in that passage from Isaiah, explained in His Gospel,
■ those of the sinners of Israel who live in disobedience(sin) of His teachings and commandments are of their father, the devil, whereas, only those who choose to live their lives in continuous submission to His teachings and commandments, God's Truth, will eventually through a knowing of the Truth be set free by the Truth and transformed into Sons of God - John 8 vs 31 - 44.
■ those who trust (Love) the Lord are those who live their lives in continuous submission and obedience to His teachings and commandments — the righteous— they are the ones God's love is stored up for - John 14 vs 15 - 23 & John 15 vs 7 - 11.

God no be any man mumu!

2. Indeed, Jesus Christ will not cast out even the goats in His Kingdom as He leaves the judgment of all things until the end after He returns to judge all the sheep and goats in His Kingdom - Matthew 25 vs 31 - 46.

3. Again, think properly and understand scripture before quoting it — your own advice

1. Then the Lord spoke to Jonah again and said,
2 “Go to that big city Nineveh, and say what I tell you.”
3 So Jonah obeyed the Lord and went to Nineveh. It was a very large city. A person had to walk for three days to travel through it.”
4 Jonah went to the center of the city and began speaking to the people. He said, “After 40 days, Nineveh will be destroyed!
5 The people of Nineveh believed God. They decided to stop eating for a time to think about their sins. They put on special clothes to show they were sorry. All the people in the city did this, from the most important to the least important.
6 When the king of Nineveh heard about this, he left his throne, removed his robe, put on special clothes to show that he was sorry, and sat in ashes.
7 The king wrote a special message and sent it throughout the city: A command from the king and his great rulers: For a short time no person or animal should eat anything. No herd or flock will be allowed in the fields. Nothing living in Nineveh will eat or drink water.
8 But every person and every animal must be covered with a special cloth to show they are sad. People must cry loudly to God. Everyone must change their life and stop doing bad things.
9 Who knows? Maybe God will stop being angry and change his mind, and we will not be punished.
10 God saw what the people did. He saw that they stopped doing evil. So God changed his mind and did not do what he planned. He did not punish the people. - Jonah 3 vs 1 - 10

Here are important things to get from the above passage
■ God's intention was to destroy the city of Nineveh; We read of God destroying other cities/Nations in like manner as a result of their evil doing. His ruling against Nineveh or any of the other nations has nothing to do with His Law which He gave for individuals to live by.
■ The King of Nineveh took a gander when he proclaimed fasting throughout the land in hopes that it would quell God's anger.
■ In verse 10 however, what quelled God's anger against them was not their individual fasting but instead that the city as a collective stopped doing evil which was God's complaint against the people...

1- 2 The Lord spoke to Jonah[a] son of Amittai: “Nineveh[b] is a big city. I have heard about the many evil things the people are doing there. So go there and tell them to stop doing such evil things.” - Jonah 1 vs 1 - 2

God did not answer the prayer of the Ninevites nor did God care much for their rituals. The people changed from doing evil to no longer doing evil .... that was what caused God to stay His anger against them.

Westerhoffe:
Go make your research. I won't argue with your type long.

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Westerhoffe:
That's it… people look at the face, but GOD searches the heart.

What kind of responses are these abeg?

Westerhoffe:
■ Point of correction, the kind of leaders Nigeria has or produced is not a reflection of who the people are.
■ What was someone like Osinbajo pushed aside for? Why didn't people value candidates like Professor Pat Utomi? Is that a reflection of who you are? What could you have done about it? So, if that defines you, it doesn't define me.

1. Oh, it most definitely is! Look around you at the populace... majority waits for his turn to chop clean mouth in that country, same as their leaders.

2. Una dey too like whine una self. What did the one man do when given the opportunity to make a difference at any level? What did the other accomplish at the grassroots level to show that he is any different from the others who were given power? Abegi make we hear word o'jare!

SUFFERInSMILIIN:
■ So you are actually encouraging the women.
■ What my friend was saying that is the situation in the nation with the ladies they like multiple partners
■ All of this woman needs to be disciplined they have no family upbringing

1. Let's be real for Pete's sake. The women are not having sex with themselves for the most part. They are having sex with the very same men whom you are here telling us ought to instead have and marry women who have no sex records. No be juju be that?

2. Can your friend boast of having and marrying just one sex partner himself?

3. So, the upbringing of these boys allows them to have sex as they want while that of the girls should cause them not to want to have sex at all? You dey hear yourself at all? No be the same parents dey raise them all?

Smartguyboy:
■ Must of you don’t know the lady is very rich too that the guy can file for child support same way Halle Berry ex husband did and she was paying him $18k monthly.

This story never land finish!

SUFFERInSMILIIN:
■ I told one of my guys why do all of these men in Nigeria like prostitute why don't they just travel to another country and marry a good women. The guy told me it is what Nigerian men like I just kept quiet. I can tell you right now 60% of children in Nigeria do not belong to their fathers. Even when the women get married they still call on other men to come and satisfy them and spoil them with financial gifts. I have not been to any country in the world where the men are so stupid

1. Isn't your friend among one of the many Nigerian men having sex with these same girls? Why would you think it makes more sense that they eat their cake and have it too — basically have sex with many of these same girls but end up with girls without a sex record?

Was your friend a virgin at the time of his marriage or what?

GreatVocalist:
1. During the marriage, not AFTER the marriage.

2. These laws are established by fallible people whose reasonings are prone to questionability.

1. Honestly, I am not quite certain because there are different spins out there on this. The point is anything he gave away during the marriage, he would have to answer for.

2. Well, you can try to question them but, um... the law is not as flexible as you would like to think.

GreatVocalist:
■ Technically, his mother owns those assets, not him. Which means she can do whatever she chooses to do with them [even without his consent], and there's nothing he can do about that. He took a calculated risk. All payments or transactions made, and items purchased are essentially in his mother's name. So there's nothing he owns primarily. How is that fraud? As much as I know, he didn't deny getting those assets. They just never entered his account, and there's no record of acquisition in his name.
■ If there's no record of acquisition in his name, then it means he never owned those properties to begin with, whether he worked for them or not. So there shouldn't be any case here. Dude was smart.

1. Not entirely true at all since the reports say that he gave her 80% of his earnings during his marriage without indicating that he got approval to do so from his wife during all that time.

2. The law is not as stewpid as many would like to pretend sometimes abeg!

redeff06:
8 WRONG PHILOSOPHIES YOU MUST RUN FROM!

Avoid like a plague all pastors and mogs, and you are well on your way to reclaiming your peace of mind, and your life as well.

ednut1:
■ No official source for this story self. By monday i expect it to be debunked by his or her lawyers.

1. Seriously? Interesting!

redeff06:
■ I suffer from Schizophrenia and spiritual problem; a mental sickness where the brain is exposed to extra sensory noises and the sufferer feel as if he's cut off from the reality of life. Currently, as I am typing this, the brain is raising with buzzing sound. They do control all areas of my life. What would have warranted this evil experience? What sin would deserve this kind of punishment? Which sin attracts the greatest spiritual punishment?

1. Why do you believe your suffering is in some way linked to sin?

Also, do you really believe you have a spirit living inside of you aka you are possessed by one?

omotodun1:
■ I will have to agree with the OP in this case. A friend of mine here in California did the same thing and he was charged with marital fraud. Now if Hakimi transferred all his wealth to his mother BEFORE his marriage, then the courts can do nothing. However, he was actively transferring the money to his mother's account DURING the marriage. Legally, that money belonged to both him and his wife.
■ Fellas, this is not 9ja o. The western world will show that man pepper. Just wait and see. Do not prematurely celebrate.

1. In California?

2. It's not the Western world abeg! What this man did was underhanded. For the last 5 years, his family has been deprived of the full benefits of his salary because he was busy hiding it under his mother's name. Come on! That is 419!

linearity:
■ That is not correct, once you are married it does not matter who name the properties are under.
All his salary and earnings during the time they are married is considered marital property subject to equitable distribution during divorce unless there is a prenup that states otherwise. There are courts would consider what he did as fraud and an attempt to hide marital assets and throw his ass into jail until he fesses up. Regardless, the court can sum up all his earning throughout the marriage less reasonable expenses and deductions and use the arrived at value as the marital earnings subject to distribution.They will then apportion a percentage to his ex wife, the wife can even move to have his passport seized and he can be imprisoned if he does not pay.
His best bet is to escape now and quit international football goodbye or come to some out of court settlement with the ex.

1. My view as well!

ednut1:
Know that if the news is true. The court is still coming for all the assets acquired during the marriage. He committed marital fraud is he transferred his assets to his mother without the wife consenting.

Indeed. The man may think he has won but so long as she has good lawyers on her side, this is only the beginning. I am already following this story to see how it plays out.

LeyeWrites:
Yes.

You are indeed a Nigerian to your core!

Westerhoffe:
■ If anyone prayed for a better country, and you think GOD didn't answer, check yourself. For a country to be better, you'd need the leaders to be better. If it's about social amenities, Nigeria is not broke to afford them. But are they on the right scale? No. So, if you have been praying for Nigeria to get better, in whose hands are the "betterment" you are praying for landing?
When the"betterment" lands, are they utilizing them? So, if you pray, you watch as well. Don't pray like an hypocrite.

1. For a country to churn out good leaders, the people need to be of equally good calibre. I say that to mean that what you have as leaders is nothing but a reflection of the kind of people that Nigerians are in general.

Efuaye:
■ Fasting and prayers work! It is never a waste of time, regardless of the religion you practice, sir!
I am proof that God answers prayers. Prayers, go with trust, submission, faith, hope, belief, patience, long-suffering, etc

1. Please stop lying! The same God who you claim answers your prayers said

■ He does want, and never asked for any of your starvation-diet fasts and prayer rituals. He ought right declared that He does not answer when you do these things pretending you do so in His name - Isaiah 58 & Zechariah 7. So are we to believe here and now that God is instead a liar?
■ God said that He does not answer the prayers of sinners, making it known that the prayers of the unrighteous are an abomination to Him. What this all means is that so long as you are not first holy, and then righteous, God will never answer any of your pleas, not even your seeks for the forgiveness of your sins. And no amount of your fasting rituals can cause God to change His mind since He already made it known that those rituals hold no meaning. So, again, are you certain you are connected to the right God?

OperationalVehi:
■ i grew up believing maybe i was fasting and praying wrongly. What about other people that has been praying, if my own prayers dont get answered, what happened to the prayers of those in the Mosques and the Churches ? this is coming from a person that used to fast and pray

1. Unless your goal is weight loss, these fasting and praying rituals are indeed a total waste of time and mental energy.

LeyeWrites:
Yes. It means you're unintelligent enough to make good choices.

Like Bill Gates and all the other Geniuses out there who are equally divorced?

Bj5all:
■ It's good you have woken up... That does not still remove the fact that as it stands today, you don't have any legacy or innovation or invention attached to your name.. This should tell you that it's not easy as said... It takes extreme dedication, intelligence and hardwork to improve humanity in a way that you put your name in the history of mankind... For now, child birth, family and properties are what many Africans are remembered for...

1. You mean poverty, right?

inforesource:
In Africa, you hear men scrambling for a boy child so that their names can be preserved. They put their wives under unnecessary pressure because of a male child. Threatening to marry new wives if she doesn't give birth to a male child. Meanwhile, in truth these men are weak, they lack inventions and don't have any impact on the sand of time.

How many of these men leave an inheritance for their sons in the end?

Icon79:
■ Logically, what you said should make sense but the fact. On the ground totally contradicts your statement. In America, for instance, the divorce rate for first marriage is about 40%. But for second marriages, the rate goes up to 50%. Logically, you’d think folks would learn from their first experience and make connections in their second marriage but it doesn’t always work out that way. O pari

1. Let's not take the focus off of what really matters abeg! Whether some people choose to learn or not does change anything really. The fact is the opportunity is ever there for them to do so and that, I believe, is of the most importance.

MindHacker9009:
■ And this your comment is equally of brain damage on your part as you have never seen this before about Judaism and the Jews:
"I will also make you a light for the Gentiles that my salvation may reach to the ends of the earth.” Isaiah 49:6

1. But according to God, those He sends out to be a light to the ends of the world are instead to gather back to God their brothers and sisters whom He, God, cursed and scattered to the ends of the earth — He promised in His Law to gather back to His Israel in His time - Deuteronomy 30 vs 1 - 6. I believe they are the foreigners — the Gentiles — whom God, the Shepherd, will gather back to Himself - Isaiah 66 & Isaiah 60 — Sons and daughters of Jerusalem. So, are you wanting us to believe that the religion of Judaism is a plan made counter to God's own declaration in His Law of Moses?

Thegoodone13:
. What do you want me to say or do?

Just saw something I felt needed to be pointed out.

God2man2again:
■Read your Bible accordingly.

1. You obviously do not read yours, and that is why you gorge yourself instead on lies fed to you by your pastors and mogs. Jesus Christ said He laid down and picked up His Life of His own — no sacrifice since He did not lose anything by the act. He said He did the Will of the Father gladly meaning He was not in any way tormented by His need to submit to the Will of the Father — again, no sacrifice was made by HIm. Why do you lot feel you must twist the narrative to indicate that which Jesus Christ never suggested was the case?

EriMma1:
■ So the women should be on their toes to make sure the "lines" are not removed before the men can have sense to do the right thing? I don't get it. This has nothing to do with the women. The men are just naturally wired like that. They lack the ability to think back and forth of the consequences of their actions before commiting the act. They just go straight up into it.

1. I am not saying women should be on their toes. Rather, women should come to the realization that when they sit tight in these adulterous unions, they cease to be victims but become enablers of these atrocities against them. You can't cry foul and at the same time continue to give rope to the one who you cry against. That is just wrong! The law allows divorce in the case of adultery. So why would a sane woman refuse to take the exit door yet continue to make noise in our ears? For what?

EriMma1:
■ How many men live up to their own end of the bargain? Yet wen are willing to put up with their sorry ass till death do them part . But just a little strain here and there, they ( men) jump out and start frolicking with another woman. Men are naturally cheats. No matter the situation, good or bad, they'll always cheat.

1. When you allow your kids the freedom to eat their cake and have it too — allow them to have two incompatible things — you create the notion that such a situation is OK and acceptable. I don't believe men naturally cheat because not all men cheat. But I do believe that by removing the clear line between what is a healthy marriage and an adulterous union, women have helped enable the cheating culture that exists in Nigeria today.