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Kobojunkiee:
If you don't like how she does the cooking, even after letting her know your concerns, then the next best thing for you to do would be to take over the cooking duties so you can help minimize waste and she can maybe spend her energy on other things that need doing.

..so that she can spend her energy in making money. Why is it so hard for you to say it.

Samantha124:
If his family comes to the house, I'll only cook for them if I can because I'll be busy working so that I can financially support my own family when they require financial assistance... Because I'll be obligated to help them when the time comes.

Don't be bringing God into this because this is neither the religious section or church... And that same God said thou shall not fornicate, but y'all are fornicating... That same God also said men should be the providers while the women should be submissive... Immedialtely you stop fulfilling your duty as a man, I'll also stop fulfilling my duty as a woman.

I can't miss my job to cook for people who can cook for themselves... Their son will cook for them... I'm not obligated to ditch my job to cook for people who can cook... Must I I risk losing my job because of a mere surname that won't be making me any money?

Lol..you’re just letting me know you’re a child.

Samantha124:
I have no issues with the cooking, but you can't expect me to miss my job just to cook for people who can cook for themselves, especially if the husband wants nothing to do with my own family... He'll cook for them.

It's not like they'll pay me one million for cooking for them.

I'll be busy working so that I can have enough money to financially support my own family if ever the time comes for them to require financially assistance.

Remove bitterness and competition out of the context and see what Reno meant.
You’re your husbands priority, not your family or extended one. If your extended family is having financial issues, your husband is not obligated to help. Just as you are not obligated to cook and clean for your husband’s family in their different homes.
But if they come to visit you in your house, you will be honored and over-joyed to cook for everybody instead of your husbands younger sister.
You forget that your surname is now your husbands family name.
Competition for supremacy will not do you any good because God has designed it this way.

Samantha124:
What if i have my own money and I don't ask the husband for money before I buy the grocery?

I'd be busy working for my money and not having the time to cook for people who can cook for themselves, I'm not their chef.

Trust me, when the time comes, you’ll beg to cook for them.

youngsum:
Hello nairalanders rejoys with me


Today the 5th of December I received my first salary in life as a fresh graduate which I was employed as a school teacher last month.


Do you think I will be able to get marry with this salary by next December?

Ok we seriously need that girl that use to say poor men should stay far away from her🥴

Kobojunkie:
Maybe she wants to attend them now that she is back in Nigeria, so what exactly are you really afraid of?

Did she make a pact that she would never attend social gatherings or what ?

This one didn’t even read the story but already giving a strong opinion 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

Jeon:
Sorry, she didn't want her daughter to be a single mother.


Willing to marry her doesn't count @ all.



The mother sense that it will be miserable life for the girl to be lockdown in marriage that happened in a mistake or likely abandoned to become a single mother, which sounds like a threat according to your gender.





I don't understand @bolded .How is the child theirs? thought man is said to own a child cuz the woman is a stranger?.

Your bitterness is too obvious. Try to make it a little indistinct so that people will not think you’re clouded with sadness and depression.

SweetBuns:
They say that "beauty is in the eyes of the beholder", but honestly speaking there are certain calibres of men I will never go near no matter how hard they try.

To get straight to the point,

1. Short men
Oh my God.... I don't just know what to say about these sort of men. If I'm taller than you as a girl, then sorry but I can never see you as my second piece. You'll always be like a younger brother to me. No hard feelings.
Short men also have this irritating attitude whenever they see girls around, as if they're trying to compensate for their low height. And some even go to the gym and gets muscles.... But it just makes them look shorter like a 5 litre jerry can and irritating
Also, why in the world would I pick a short guy over a tall guy? I literally feel so protected and safe when I'm with a guy that is wayyyy taller than me (I'm 5'2 so my height is kinda average)... So ofc I'd want a tall man and not a mini man.
Imagine hugging a man and he's hugging your waist cause he's short ugh.
I wanna stand on my toes whenever I kiss him and strain my neck just to look at his face. No more no less.
Tall men also stand out more, they're far more attractive and I also want taller sons and daughters.
Who should the short guys date then? I dunno... But not me.
The bar starts at 6'0, but If you're like 6'2 or 6'3... I want your babiesss

2. Bald men
The only age where I think baldness is acceptable as a man for me is if he's like in his 50s or 60s. But if you're in your 20s-30s and you're already going bald.... It just irritates me low-key in a inexplicable way... Like why will a young guy have a hairline that receeds all the way to the middle or back of your head? Where did all your hair go? Gross
I also read somewhere that early balding is genetically inherited so that means my children too will suffer the same fate? God forbid.
My man ought to have a head full of hair well into his 60s, then we start talking about hair loss.

3. "Oju yo Bo" people
I didn't know the English term for this so I had to Google it. It's a Yoruba term for people whose eyes pop out of their sockets like that of a wall gecko. This is also something I don't like in my man.... I want his eyes to be like that of Henry Cahill... Neatly tucked inside and having small slit like opening.

Addition: so I just googled it and it's called prey eyes. I prefer the hunter one since it gives my man a piercing gaze and I just wanna hug him immediately.

4. Eyebrows
A man MUST have thick eyebrows. If you don't, I can't take you seriously

5. Men with bad posture

6. Men who supports man U

That last one was a joke but I'm dead serious about the rest. And I'm sure other girls will agree to some up there too.

You have all these list and you’re 5foot2inches😳!

Benwallt:
Fubara is the reason Wike is still with PDP. If Fubara spend one year as governor of Rivers State, then he is a strong man

Power is transient.
I love power because no one can hold it forever.
Ameachi was more powerful than Wike before. How e be now!
Wike can never pull what he did for Tinubu in River State again. He was able to do it because he was in power.
He hasn’t joined APC and Sim has nothing to do with it.
He knows that the moment he steps out of PDP, he’s done politically.

KillahPriest:
The PDP is a party of arrogant prîcks especially at the leadership level. They've been too comfortable for a long time hence taking the goodwill and common sense of ordinary Nigerians for granted. Those is the party with direct access to relevant ears are another big problem, 99% of them are hustlers looking for their stomachs, they have no good ideas to bring the party closer to the grassroots and they don't want to listen to what others have to say. When they saw that time was too far gone especially with Wike's gimmicks, they resorted to tribal bigotry especially that middle aged fôol Reno okoro and the big baby Theo. PDP is finished as a party, they can't lay a finger on Wike who caused their downfall and is still calling the shots from deep within the APC. The PDP should just pull the plug on its own life support because Nigeria is now basically a one party state

Why should Nigeria be a one party state when a ruling party has never had a stronger opposition before.
When PDP was in power, their oppositions were not as strong as the current APC opposition. So no!
Nigeria is NOT a one party state.
Unless you can prove any of these below 👇 as wrong, Nigeria is NOT A ONE PARTY STATE;
1). PDP as the runner-up in the last Presidential election scored the closest score to an eventual winner in any Nigerian Presidential election ever.
2). PDP as opposition governs 13 States currently, the most any opposition party has ever governed in Nigeria.
3). PDP as an opposition holds the most seats in the upper chamber than any opposition has ever held before.

Prigidypogodo:
PDP is dead and buried
SE was the last region holding the forte in pdp both online and offline.
as soon as they left, pdp became dead.

PDP as the runner-up in the last Presidential election scored the closest score to an eventual winner in any Nigerian Presidential election ever.
PDP as opposition governs 13 States currently, the most any opposition party has ever governed in Nigeria.
PDP as an opposition holds the most seats in the upper chamber than any opposition has ever held before.
Learn to be open minded when making political comments. Everything is not izogbu zogbu!

ILoveNG:
He is praying to God who needed to understand him, not the audience. He’s neither giving a speech nor performing a show.

The audience need to understand him too because at some point, they need to say ‘amen’ in unison.

socialmediaman:
If Nigerians could turn back the hands of time to February 2015

APC destroyed the judiciary and democracy in Nigeria

Pray for Nigeria 🇳🇬

Nigerians do not need to turn back any hand. Just have a united opposition. It’s as simple as that. I said this when LP and NNPN were flying out of PDP with greed and selfishness.

God is punishing them one by one for sabotaging PDP😆

garriAndsugar:
why cant Atiku take the blame game? must it be Obi or Wike?

Because Atiku legally won the primary ticket for the opposition party.
Look I don’t care who’s representing the party. All I knew was that a united PDP would have defeated APC.
Atiku was not chosen he was elected by delegates. Wike also bought a primary ticket and lost to Atiku. He should’ve kept to his promise by supporting whoever wins.
Mind you, Atiku is not a saint too. He did this same thing to Jonathan in 2011.
If PDP conducts a primary and Atiku or whoever wins should be fully backed.

garriAndsugar:
on a normal election how many votes can bayelsa deliver? kano can do 7times bayelsa.
If the merger cant remove mamood then expect another blow from APC

Look Mahmoud can only do so much.
Before the 2023 election, I was crying for a merger but LP supporters thought it was a joke.
Those numbers for APC in the presidential election was correct. I told people even before the election.
Anyone who understands numbers should know that the emergence of LP and NNPN did not weaken APC but PDP who are supposed to be the most potent opposition that would have dislodged APC.
Reno is simply saying that if we go into the election like this again, it will be an even easier victory for APC.
PS: Any smart person should know that Reno doesn’t support Tinubu one bit. He’s just upset that we allowed APC back into power after such a disastrous 8years and that’s thanks to Peter Obi and greedy Wike.

garriAndsugar:
If APC use the strategy they used in kogi and Imo election then no merger will work.

No merger will stop APC from rigging, let's tell ourselves the truth and stop deceiving ourselves like Omokri.

For those asking why they didn't rig Bayelsa, the votes in the state is even small and they will only need 25% which APC can get comfortably there.
After taking Kano from NNPP they would win easily

You lie sir.
Your excuse for Bayelsa did not track. APC cannot control everywhere. They need powerful people to do so. They clearly don’t have enough powerful people in Bayelsa as they do in Imo and Kogi, that’s why they lost Bayelsa.
The merger is the only hope to kick APC out. Reno is 100% right.

Kobojunkie:
Keep twisting yourself up with these lies.

The day una go confess to una self say una no different from aboki wey dey join queue for mass wedding ceremony na that day wisdom go don reach una.

Okay👋
Have a nice day.

Kobojunkie:
What has this to do with my response abeg!

2. You are maybe looking for too much financial security and overwhelmed by financial insecurity yet your eyes are on jobless and mostly skillless teenagers? What is this?

Ofcourse there are teenagers out there with low standards who are looking for anyway out of what they assume an already miserable existence. But what has A to do with B abeg or any of what I said?

3. You know what? I refuse to be burdened by your confusion in life. No point!

I only gave you a personal attestation. Men are either too picky or have other reasons unrelated to inability to finding a woman.
You already know this and you’re highlighting your points with bullets 😁

Villa12:
not all men reason like you guy.

I agree with you my dear.

Kobojunkie:
There are lots of Nigerian men in that situation. Nevermind what you read online. The reality is that men and women experience these same issues.

I’m just laughing. You know the truth. I just turned 39 and unmarried. Maybe I’m looking for too much financial security and overwhelmed by the fear of poverty. Not because I can’t find a girl 🥴
Even if I want a teenager, it will happen in a heartbeat.
My dear, don’t deceive yourself, the position of a man and a woman is not the same here.

Villa12:
I know a man earning close to 2M monthly. He is 41 and still searching for a wife. Most girls only date him but doesn't want to marry him. The girl he sent to school (polytechnic) still dump him for a guy that earn less than him

Did you know Why? His character. If you doubt me, you can send me a DM and i will take you to meet the guy. This is someone that is doing pretty fine for himself but still struggling to get a wife. I only know about men struggling financially having issues getting a wife. I was surprised to see someone doing fine having same issue

Is it in this life that we are living in or in an alternate world!
Lying to yourself will not make you feel good about being a woman.

Magnoliaa:
I have not even finished reading this post, but the blanket statements are turning me off already.


Is it not getting married out of necessity that pushes people to cheating? I would have expected the post to address how there are many ingredients for a successful marriage. Espousing either of money or love as the most important thing is what will always lead to issues.

So if financial security is guaranteed, there'll be no more problems?

And did you really say (most) broken marriages are caused by finances? What does broken means here? Because they're many couples who are living together and fulfilling their responsibilities to each other, like robots, but there's no love shared between them. And where will you rank infertility, infidelity, abuse, children rebellion, family interference, etc., on the scale of marital issues? What data is backing such claim up here in Nigeria?

Finance is not the only important aspect of marriage but this one is focusing on the importance of money in a marriage, look at the topic. You really attacked this like a woman 🥴

spiSeyi:
Let me school you Mr man, ACN was a strong opposition to PDP to the extent that they were able to break PDP into two when the Atiku faction decamped to ACN and later merged with PMB CPC to form APC, before the formation of APC ACN started claiming major political stronghold in the SW and NW, NE. PDP was only able to manage SS, SE, and NC until 2014. Tell me today which of the opposition parties is pulling such political strength as at Now Wake up to the reality no opposition party is as strong and formidable like the then ACN

Are you sure you were of age in 2007?
ACN came a distant 3rd in the presidential election that year, behind ANPP and PDP. Look at the attached picture and see the difference.
Why do you think there was a merger in the end?
Save your breath, the opposition was too powerful.
Dude in 2007 how many ACN Gubernatorial candidates won their state election?
Save your breath ACN won only one state.
No political party has ever been as strong as PDP in 2003 and 2007.

Since 1999, the strongest opposition to a ruling party that lost an election is PDP in 2023. No opposition has ever lost an election in general with such lesser margin.
Again look at the attached picture and don’t ever mention ACN again 🥴

spiSeyi:
It's greed that will finish Atiku he wanted a coalition of mushroom parties to fulfill his selfish ambition and not for the good of democracy . Atiku just validated what the political juganut are seeing and saying "APC will turn Nigeria into a one-party state" . Atiku's greed will make it less difficult for APC to turn Nigeria into a one-party state.
APC has no opposition as we speak because PDP is dead and cremated, and LP is not serious

There’s still so much you need to learn in politics.
In 2007, PDP had oppositions. Guess what, the party occupied the top seats in the upper chambers with 31 Governors in 36 States.
In 2023, APC the ruling party Governs 20 States whilst PDP Governs 13. NNPN, LP and APGA Governs 1 State each.
Ask yourself this question
In 2007 and 2023, which opposition is stronger!
You can see that everything you just typed there about APC not having an opposition is gibberish.

meum:
This is what PDP should have done pre 2023 elections. If they eventually do, Atiku shouldn’t try getting ticket for himself. It won’t end well.

Also, the merger party shouldn’t try playing nice with APC.

True. Also, that merger should definitely not end with welcoming people like Wike and Obi back to the party. These are desperados that can sellout easily.

XerXers:
You should have stepped down for Obi

I think Atiku should step down but not to Obi. I just don’t like Obi’s desperation.

LegendHero:
PDP should just relegate Atiku and make Tinubu the leader of the party.

Tinubu should be the rightful leader of both PDP and APC because the current PDP under Atiku is as good as dead.

Atiku is the weakest politician I ever known, I used to think he is an OG but the elections and happening after that shows Atiku is just a baby politician who shouldn’t be classified as A class.

Wow! You kept going without saying anything 😟

Kobojunkie:
It is quite possible OP is attempting to judge a situation without having all the details necessary to do so.

You will give anything to make this story end with the woman not returning to her husband🥴

Indispensable85:
I don't engage blockheads.

Stop being a proud fool and learn.
Even if you don’t admit it, you will never make such foolish statement again that Nigeria is a one party nation.
PS: click the link below to see PDP defeating APC
https://www.nairaland.com/7909352/bayelsa-guber-diri-maintains-lead

Indispensable85:
Dino my guy... Lol 🤣🤣🤣 even his own people rejected him for Abejide.
Truth9jafm how market?
LP get 567 votes. I laff ooooo 🤣
By 2027 Nigeria will be one party nation.

This is Kogi State. What will you say after PDP wins in Bayelsa State?
Sometimes I don’t even know if you people do reason at all.
APC has a strong opposition in PDP.

In 2007, when PDP was in power, they governed 31 States out of 36.
In 2023, APC in power governs 20 States, opposition PDP governs 13 States.
NNPP, APGA and LP governs 1 State each.

There has never been a stronger opposition as it is now in 2023. PDP is not Labour Party.
Stop talking nonsense.

BERNIMOORE:
Chaii Dino...insulting Tinubu & Wike same time....I was waiting for who will do magic for Dino....ATIKU is expired already but they're too dull to realize it.

You are dumb o. So Tinubu and Wike won the election for Ododo in Kogi state. Your senselessness is legendary😟🥴