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Black face should learn how to stand on his own oo

If this is real then it's a good development though it's also a campaign tactics

This is really serious ooo,blood covenant hmmm

QuizPay:
I will make this epistle to be as short as possible, forget about the grammar and focus on the content ...

Is this a red flag or not or its just what it is, or what is your take in this?

My fiancee Fines it difficult to cook (though she can cook and a very good cook), I am not the type that eat outside always (I love home food), I only do such once in a while. She cooks sometimes in the evening or at night but it's a no no in the morning, I have to make my dishes for myself before going to work and house chores is even the worst. l gave her 9.9% that's how worst in terms of house chores, her excuse is "my weakness is house chores, I will try to be adjusting blablabla.

She only tidy/clean when I complain, after that she returns to former ways except if I complain again. Any time she does house chores she won't let me hear words, I did this, I did that, you don't even appreciate me, I did that too ecsetera. Her suggestion is for us to hire househelp (and house help is a no no for me, even if I will take in house help not now). The house is even small for house help to come in. Sometimes, she dodges cooking by trying to convince me to buy/order food while coming home etc, I do that sometimes but most time I decline and tell her to prepare food at home.

Although if I compel her to do things in romantic way sha she will do it but must I be compelling someone daughter in romantic ways always before doing what she needs to do ni. Also she works in a finance firm and leaves the house around after seven or 7:30am (House to work is close), back by 6pm but should this be an excuse to prepare dish for me, for someone that finds it difficult to prepare breakfast as Early as possible for just one person how much more when kids are involved waking up to take care of kids ecsetera. We agreed she will stop the work and I will set her up when we got marry and she promised after that she will be able to do the tidy and cooking very well . Planning to knot this year anyways, just a bit worry about this house chores of a thing which I have told her times without number...

The good part about her
* She is faithful and literally tells me everything that happens to her on daily basis.
*she can confidently give me her phone to work (this has happened twice, because I need to help in fixing her phone) , which I will give her updates about her callers, messages etc when she returns back from work and her phone has never be on lock.
*She is open and transparent
*She is supportive and submissive (with the time I have spent with her)
*She is a prayer warrior (she can pray for 4hours ), though she skips Sunday sometime because of resting. And Sometimes, i am tempted to tell her to reduce prayer at night so she can cook/tidy things that need to be tidy in the morning.

About me
Me: Am I.T guy, In aspects of earning I earn thrice more than her but I find it easy in doing house chores, (my mama taught me well you know) do dishes and tidy up things myself, (that was how she knows me) and always putting things in place, provides everything needed, supportive etc...Am the kind of person I return home late sometimes because after leaving my official work, I check in my personal business before going home.. So something 9pm or 10pm or 11pm (depends on traffic) before I get back home.

To married people, Councillors, experienced people in the house, , I will like your contribution in terms of House chores issue and wife responsibility etc, It can help me or some people out there in this kind of similar situation. Thank.. (no insult I beg.)

Though there is no perfect woman anywhere,but for a typical African woman,House Chores should be no 1 on the list of a Home Maker.Let me use myself as an example.I am a teacher with two kids.When my kids were still very young,my husband is the type that doesn't help with any house chores.He doesn't take breakfast before leaving home but I have to cook for my kids before going to school so I do all the chores in the evening so that when I wake up I will be left with only sweeping and cooking because I love fresh foods for my kids and we leave home around 7:15am remember I have to bath for one of them and dress her up because the older one could bath himself and dress himself up when he was 8 yrs.I know many ppl will say teachers don't close late but our work is so tasking you all know what I mean someone teaching like 4 to 6 periods talking and standing during these periods then we have to go back to d class in d afternoon to coordinate students to read.So we leave sch then by 3:30pm and I have to pick my kids in their schs,you can see it's not easy because on getting home I have to get them something to eat and then supervise their home works,prepare dinner,do house chores e.t.c
So house chores and cooking is a woman's major assignment in order to keep her home in order.If your fiancée's job is so tasking that it makes her so tired to do these things she should do them in the evening.Try and monitor her whenever she's on leave.Then you can truly know what's contributing to her complains.Then make sure she sleeps on time so she can wake up on time to do her duties.If it's possible for her to cook and keep inside the refrigerator then warm in the morning,it's not a bad idea.Just try and make things work btw both of you and correct her with love you can do the chores and cooking together with time she will get use to it.It's not a good idea for a woman to shy away from house chores when she's still single so when she eventually gets married how would she cope.I have seen house maids becoming madam of the house because the Mistress was so careless and left every duty for d maid.So sit her down and strategize how she will be able to carry out her responsibilities when she eventually gets married. A word is enough for d wise.

Have you been a caring man,gentle and generous,if you are then she won't say you are irritating to her.Women are connected emotionally to men who possess these three attributes. You wouldn't have to make advance s her heart will be glued to urs if u exhibit these behaviours

ukpahu:
pls brother your own is small,only God know what i am passing true with my wife,i fill like commit sucide

That's serious, sit her down and ask if she wants you dead or alive.If she's not ready to reconcile go and see her ppl and let them call her and question her while she's acting like that.If she's not ready to change suggest that both of you should live separately for that least 3 months then come together thereafter if this will refresh d marriage because of d tension btw both of you.During this period both of u should check yourselves and work on your imperfections,I believe there's going to be some differences

I am not here to judge,but search your heart Op if you are completely innocent because some women can go to any length to fight their husband without considering the consequence s if their husband is cheating on them.

Farms...the farms are not safe at all..herdsmen and bandits are everywhere..

Money is good but spending money on ungodly things is really bad repent.E.g buying human head with money,buying babies that were kidnapped,paying agents of human trafficking and more so this one that Bobrisky is into

The lady is very lucky to have this kind of man as her fiance.What of we ladies that are responsible for 80% of the family responsibility all in d name of she is working in a better place

Ok

Even nairaland is owned by afonja what a talented tribe,haters will never see good deeds ,any negative news related to d Yorubas will spread like fire as if we have only saints in other tribes

Any little thing Afonja afonja and they are d ones that are your top pastors,musicians, politicians,so how do you cope without mentioning them.Jealous set of ppl

LINTUNE:
See eh, as a Lagos boy, one thing I can tell u about the yorubas is that they are so hypocritical...see eh, forget all those their forms of greetings o( postrating and bowing), and show of fake respect..an average Yoruba guy is terribly arrogant...na only person wet never de with them go de believe say them get respect true true.

There are still God fearing ones.

That's too bad,so disgusting of her

Emmypure:
They were on the other thread boasting of being the tribe that respects their elders most.
Now all of them has now run away from this thread.

That boy is a bastard.A tout will always be a tout.Black sheep of the family.

tikotin:
it is not gt that removes the 50 bucks but federal govt as stamp duties on any amount of 10k and above received

First bank removes #100 even when #1000 is transferred they will render d money useless

First bank no dey carry last,they remove #100 on every alert

You ppl really try oo

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Richpet85:
I never knew she will change like earlier. She was cool with my family and friends until d wedding night. Secondly, immediately after our marriage she started her Youth Service and my company redeployed me to another state. So we weren't actually together for almost 2years.
If I had saw this redflag initially I wouldnt have end up with such miserable life.

Finally I work with financial institution, I can't follow through such decision that required time aspect during annual leave which sometime is not enough to enable one take care of some challenging family issues.

Just pretend you're filing for a divorce to scare her maybe she will change.Let ur lawyer know you're just looking for measures to calm the storms in your marriage.Make an outline of all she had done to cause d havoc in your life that you can no longer continue this way.Then stay away from her for like 3 months during that period,I believe she may still come to her senses.Then readdress the situation and let her know she can't separate you from your family members.

Lionnation:
if you like don't, in the day of judgment you shall explain

I hear

Lionnation:
watch the video oga, that is why before you say yes to any man you must have known him your yes to him is you voting him to power just like we have voted the incompetent buhari to lead but he is leading us to the abis and yet there is nothing we can do about it we already gave him the power, your husband is your head, your Representative, your leader, in everything backed by the Scriptures

Ok I shall submit my money to him one day

Make I submit my hard earned money for dis sai baba regime,I hear o madam prophetess you're doing well

This is lovely

I thank God for creating me a woman,we can stay even for years,no shaking

Remove all his cloths both old and new and plan as if hungry street thieves came home to ransack his home in the afternoon when he wasn't around and cart away his cloths and some valuables like generator e.t.c.Then when it's done on him he doesn't have any old clothes again he will be forced to dress reasonably.Meanwhile be ready to replace all d lost clothes,generator and other items.After a year reveal what happened and tender your apology that you have given away d old cloths to beggars.

What of women whose husbands had already lost their jobs that are now doing menial jobs,who will pity them,if they complain that they are broke,ppl will say what of your husband

After fumigation they can disappear for six months and reappear again the only way to get rid of it is continuous fumigation then replacement of all infected furniture then relocate to another apartment. If you can't relocate then go for vacation with ur family for some months.

Try and visit d hospital if you haven't been there,and this eleweomo(Yoruba traditional herbs sellers)I pray for speedy recovery in Jesus' name

This topic is provoking me

The sch alumni should come together and do something to rescue the situation