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How did you know? Where are you because they are doing it live and just showing it now.

rokiatu:
What is wrong with it?

@poster, I hope you know that women do not wear them bare like that

You wear them like this.

That is exactly what i meant and wrote. I said wearing under short dresses.

cold:
Pls,pls,pls.No one wld violate you,rather you'd be violated by the intense heat in Lagos.Jheeze,pple develop heat rash wearing nothin,let alone when you try to discomfit yourself with some extra clothing.Na bodi go tell u

How would the heat affect you? This is net tights.

Inked_Nerd:
Hmmm, I don't know if I could wear that. . . I could try though .

Under short dresses?

ogugua88:
I, personally, wouldn't, but not for weather reasons.

Why, what's wrong with it? Under very short dresses

I posted this in the fashion sect but got no reply so hoping to get at least one here. Can you ladies wear this under short dresses in Nigeria with the weather conditions?

Come on ladies speak

googles:
Jeez ! Nigerians and double standards sha *SMH*

I remember one thread where one guy said his girlfriend is boring and dull. . .most said shez a witch,pretender, slowpoke blah blah blah

now coin is flipped [b]we have a boring boy and we all paint him as the "good husband material"  

oh please husband material ko ? who needs a boring husband anyways ? no one said he should be the party type or talk till Jesus comes. [/b]Just carry on a

decent conversation and stop being a zombie

My two cents exactly. Thanks for hitting the nail on the head esp on the sentences in bold. Because he's boring or doesn't conversate well, he is now a good husband material? Smh

cold:
@Uyi Iredia,who wants to wait for 23 years before you hear your hubby speak for the first time,another Oyaks miracle (I knw that was not what you meant).@Lacrissa,how did you even meet this guy,did he chat you up?If he did i'm wondering what he said.Did you just make eye contact & you followed him like you were under a spell?Or was it the car,looks,& power dressing that attracted you to him.In any event i'd advise you to break it off now & forget any thoughts about marriage if the chemistry isn't there.Otherwise you life will be a living hell.
Oh yes lest i forget,a couple more things;is this relationship intimate or just at the platonic stage?Does he drink,alchohol that is?

Umm i actually met him in school through facebook we were in the same university and he messaged, that he would love to visit me since we also lived very close to each other and so we met. it was just platonic 'cos i was also in another relationship we were taking breaks, but i guess automatically he assumed it was a relationship, then he started asking me out and to define the relationship. The only closeness was just a kiss we had, that's about it. It has been platonic. I doubt he drinks though.

Uyi Iredia:
@ Lacrissa >>> your take, you have repeatedly emphasized and described how quiet he is >>> but there are 2 major things I'd wager on people with that guy's psyche
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[li]they need someone to pull them out of their rut[/li]
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note that some of the greatest love/marriage relationships began with little or no initial chemistry (in a certain marriage it was after 23 years !) >>> also note that there are women (always on Chaz B's show) complaining about abusive men_ something to be grateful for

Sighss, oh puleasse! non abusive men does not equal boring men. What has being abusive got to do with being very boring here? And p.s I salute those but I cannot wait trying to form or develop chemistry. 23 years?

cold:
I can understand where Lacrissa is coming from.Conversation has never really been my greatest asset but i'm not that bad o!Especially when i'm downing some alchohol,(jheeze!that's when i'm in my elements)I rememba when a girl once told me;'what's your problem,don't you ever talk'?Back then i always had my mind on my money,money on my mind .

It's not even only the talking, almost everything. He is a good guy yes on his own but that's about it. The conversations both phone, activities, having quality time, you know things that make couples compatible, nothing!

deniyor:
Nah don't date that guy. You will be bored out of your mind and keep thinking of other guys.
Yes he is an ideal marriage guy for a lot of girls but not at this stage of your life. At this time you are wild, and would prefer someone of similar tastes.
So no don't date him now. In future you will look for his type but they won't be there anymore.

Wild? Me? I wish. i'm not wild and this has nothing to do with meeting other guys, having fun. it would still be the same thing even if i'm 50, what are we going to be doing if we are married, looking at our faces? sex? then what else?

SA Lady:
DAMN @Lacrissa, bring this guy here and let me show you what you do with a man like that, only you cant have him back once he's in my chambers girl. This guy is simply saying "Love me best way you can" and you cant do that?

Tell us what do you bring in this relationship? he brought his bit, bring yours too by making this relationship a bit more exciting. He sounds like a complete man who needs somebody to bring a bit of spark in his life, C'mon girl light up his fire. What are you doing?

You don't understand at all. I'm sure if u have him, you would also come here to post and say the same thing. i have nothing against him as a person but for the both of us to click, form chemistry and be compatible and happy together, there are other factors, not just you love/like me, then what else, that's it? then to talk of long term?

baby.me:
Poster is clearly a YOUNG girl looking for fun. Go catch your fun and go back to him when you are done

what do ya'll understand by me catching fun? who is talking of fun here

segunjowo:
I am the guy this poster's talking about. Cause we act same way. Nikki, why?

who is this? lol

aminalib:
lacrissa, lacrissa, u never learn, ok so u have a good man who is quiet and stays out of trouble and WANTS YOU, yet he is boring, yet u on here wanting advise about how to get your friend who is still in love with his ex, girl get a grip on life.

yawns who is talking about him being a good man and boring. whether he is a bad man and he is like this, i would still say he's boring. this has nothing to do with being good or bad! And yes i came seeking advice on my friend ehn, what's wrong?

amarula:
i know what you are going through cos i have been in a relationship with such a person for a long time( still dont know what i am doing in that relationship).
His lethargy kills me, but am so in love

At least you are in love which is good, mine i haven;t opened myself yet to even like deeply 'cos this whole behavior between us is driving me away to not want a deep committed relationship with him.

tashanja:
Evidently you are not compatible, accept that and move on, both of you deserve somebody better than you can offer to each other - unless of course you are still attracted to his good looks & money or wondering that he may have some hidden assets/talent that may help tilt the balance in his favour, e.g. a 9 incher that by chance could do all the conversation you need for the both of you.

Bottom line, follow your heart, do what makes you happy. Good luck.

Thanks

In relation to the weather, can or do you ladies wear tights like this under very short dresses?

obowunmi:
Is this a cause to open a thread! Rubbish.

Yep it is, since you took a look at it

Being young and knowing one day, i would get old, is it wise to have a lot, when i mean a lot, i mean soooooooooooooo much pictures? i have friends that have zillions of pics and i feel maybe that's what i should be doing too, taking and having a lot of pics.

so nairalanders what are your opinions on pictures? Do you like taking a lot?

Behind bobo:
@ poster i understand you.most replies i ve read here were posted by people who dont know how u really feel.i had a girl i loved(and still do) but our communication was zero as she always kept quiet (as in driving from ibadan to lagos without a word) and i started imagining how life will be with someone with such personality who never initiates a discussion(and even when i start up with one,she kills it with monosyllabic answers and an "i dont feel like talking responses".she never saw a big deal in being too introverted(being introverted is not bad but then too much of everything is bad).
The truth is such takes the shine off life- u should be able to look back when u grow old and be happy u lived a free,happy and fulfilled life.It could make your partner look silly when some people are having an intelligent discussion in which he should be involved but all he does is keep mum.he might have all the money but that really makes him a nobody because his circle of influence is zero.u could overlook this the first few times but then when it becomes a habit it removes that " this is my soul mate" feeling.If i were u i would talk to him over it in a manner he can relate to while holding him.it s a habit he has been with since childhood and i guess and he doesnt see as a big deal.if u make him concious of what he s doing to himself and his future home(with or without u) there ll be some improvement cos life is passing him by.

Thank you for understand me perfectly. I can't believe people are saying some of what I'm seeing. I bet if it was the other way round, they would also be here posting seeking advice. There is a difference between being quiet but one could still enjoy your company and just being quiet all the time even when you are alone with your girlfriend. Nothing to say, do, play together etc? Just sit far apart and be looking at the ceiling or tv all your lives? Kidding?

Ujujoan:
You've not even agreed to date this guy and already you want to be having conversations about the 'future'?   

What you seek is empty conversations and obviously, the guy is not one to engage in such. If you want to have something to discuss with him, then stop judging him and try to show real interest in his life. Then maybe he can see the need to start confiding in you . . .  and I'm sure you won't be so bored anymore! 

Rome was not built in a day my dear!

Personally, on my first, second, third, even fourth date with a guy, I could pass for shy, quiet and to an extent timid. But give me time and you can barely keep up with my conversations!      

We have been dating but more like friendship type and getting to know him, though sometimes he assumes girlfriend or have been asking me to officially be his girl.No one is judging anyone, as i said before there is a difference between being quiet because that's your personality but at least you could be fun to your partner not just quiet and boring all the time. Even when you are alone with you partner NOTHING. Just sit, tv is on, no matter how long, then you would ask me to kiss you or have sex? Like that's how to create chemistry? nah!

desertboom:
@lacrissa. Since I know that I am a quite type of personality I also realize that being with a girl that has thesame kind of my personality will make me even more dull and quite. To be compatible; I'll like you more if you're a social type of personality, I will love you more if you can always make me warm like making me laugh more, crack more jokes with me and don't feel shy about anything. If you can do the above for me it makes you qualify to be my wife. Please, I'm only using myself as an example to enable you understand more.

I think i understand you but for how long? If you are looking long term? He does not initiate anything and to think about it a man? You want to marry someone, when the world deserts you, you are still happy regardless because u are with that one person. Sometimes I feel bad because i know he does like me but how do i suffer just to please him? i have initiated things, told him to just talk more to me but still the same for years. what type of relationship would this be?

desertboom:
That's my kind of person. I don't talk much, don't joke much, don't attend too much party. This kind of people are always intelligent and calm, he needs someone like you someone that can cheer him up someone that can make him laugh and lively most times and I belive he will love you more if only you can be patient and learn new ways to follow him.

Ok let me direct this question to you if you have a girl. What are the things you do or she does that make you compatible with her and vice versa?

HaveSense1:
Maybe he's just a flirt and likes to strike conversations with women and compliment them. It doesn't necessarily mean he has to ask for your number.

Judesworld:
The answer is not far fetched, he is into a relationship that he adores and doesn't want to fall for any temptation.

Those were actually the reasons I thought of too.

Sometimes, some of you just talk like you talk from "     " or just feel like criticizing or fighting. What did you not understand by my post?

2buff:
I don't know why some people feel there has to be a conversation while I'm driving them around in my car.

Just sit back, enjoy the music/A.C and let me concentrate on the road. If you need something to "feel active" to, listen to music. It's what car CD players are for.

You're obviously still young though, so I understand your need for spunkiness. You still have a thirst for more of the world.
Please don't date him. If you have to ask, please Leave him for the more deserving women who have seen enough of the world and just want and can appreciate  something "dependable".

Fact is, if you date him, you'll just end up cheating on him. . . which is worse.

First of all, no one is saying there must be a conversation, that is an example. Understand my point logically and not basically. It has nothing to do with being young or old, at least, let me watch before leaping. So because I said he is boring, he is now automatically a good guy? What if he was a killer, you guys would not criticize me right?
Let him have more deserving woman now just as i would have more deserving men!
I came here to ask questions. Who are the deserving women?

vertexroya:
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Lacrissa

My dear, I think I've once analyzed this before, this guy is a typical lover that admires you,
you think there's a complete man that doesn't have the feelings to dance to a good music,
laugh at a funny joke, or even tell you about a funny experience.

If I were a lady, after reading your thread, I'll look for a way to snatch him from you.

He admires me yes, so because he does, i have to be with him? I tried to but the chemistry is zero. What attracts you to your partner? We cannot even stay home together and have fun. We could be home alone, tv on, that's it. The place would be as quiet as a mortuary. Not even conversation about career, future. he would just sit and it's not like we are in a relationship so if i say yes, what next? That's what we would be doing all our lives? serious?

millco88:
If everything in the OP is accurate then you shouldn't date him.








The guy deserves better.

HaveSense1:
He deserves much better.

Why? please don't criticize me. Just asking.

I knew there would be someone that would post something negative in relation to my post. No one is judging him or anything. You too picture yourself, having a woman, whether good or bad but very boring. How long can you be compatible with her?
When I say boring, I mean boring! No conversation, nothing mutual etc. Relationship is much more than just presenting a guy or girl as your partner. Ok after that, what next? Also I never said i don't value him.

It is a simple question, if you would date him or not. I never belittled him, i just said his personality is zero. He dresses well, speaks well, drives a good ride so I'm not belittling him. He is just there. As in nothing. Like I said i've known him for a long time.

There is this guy i've known for a long time that has asked me out since. He is very handsome, smart, dresses well, makes money but OMG! his personality sucks for me at least. We could drive around for hours and a word would/might not be spoken till i initiate it and end it. Not adventurious, just movies, stay home chill and the chilling is boring itself. He could just sit at a corner and that's it. Sometimes i try to move him, speak, act funny or have a convo, but i have realized that's who he is. He is still asking me to be his girlfriend even when i show i'm not interested.

Ladies based on his description, would you still go ahead and date him?

There was this guy I met at a restaurant and we struck a conversation, introduced ourselves and kept flirting, talking or rather, he kept flirting. I then left without him even stopping me or asking for my number. Another day, I met him again and we struck a conversation with him, even touching me as in my back, saying I'm beautiful etc but still left without asking me for my number. I was so tempted to do so but was scared of rejection or thought about why he didn't ask me when I had giving him the green light to go ahead if he wanted to.

So guys i'm asking, what would prevent you from doing so or what do you think prevented him from doing so?

rokiatu:
Duh! Not everyone believe in animal cruelty.

secondly she is unclothed but for a good cause. Not like those babes on playboy.

Duh to you too! So because she is naked, I'll stop buying fur? or that means I believe in animal cruelty? She is unclothed for good cause? What does her being naked do to change people from buying fur mrs campaigner.

rokiatu:
Nice campaign beautiful woman.

How is it nice? What is nice about the campaign? that she is naked? How does this make me stop buying fur?

If you were to pick one to come back, who would you choose and why?

drrionelli:
Lacrissa, is this fellow somebody you actually know, or simply a cyber-friend?

If the former, then may I suggest that you actually talk with him?

If the latter, then enjoy the game of "cat and mouse."

A friend I actually know. I have already talked to him and don't really know. Thought i had a chance, when he told me he liked me and flirts with me, the next minute it is about him not trusting women bla bla, is he the only one to be heartbroken?

After all the posts i've made, i think i am done. One minute he is flirting with me, telling me how pretty and sexy i look, the next minute, he distances himself some what and start talking about how he is finding it hard to trust women. Is he the only one to be heartbroken? i have too and even made a post about it here on nairaland, so what?

How do you turn one into a romance or relationship when you both have become so close as friends, share secrets and know almost everything about each other, how do you now turn each other to lovers without feeling awkward and weird?

sista-jay:
*Yawn*. . . . .abeg boo make I go get my mornin nookie before I start my talk for here. . . . . .

ok i'm wairin

A guy who is a medical doctor(Nigerian) with a lot of qualifications whom you like and is attractive somewhat as in ok and another (Haitian/Carribean) who is an aspiring song writer/graphic designer who does not really have a lot of qualifications but is really handsome and treats you well. Who would you choose especially being Nigerians/Africans, our culture.

ifyalways:
Are they un-dateable?whats wrong with them

I mean like not being a steady job, the income etc

yorke:
U posted a thread of bein sexually attracted 2 your friend. U've had sex with him rite?

No I haven't.

Ifedisky:
seems you relish being the nu spambot. Obsession's a fatal flaw

R u kidding me? I'm asking serious questions here.

Phate07:
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Poster, you are living a very complicated life.
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How and why do u say so?

Mcleo007:
Let time be the healer. Same way,look to building a mutually exclusive friendship btw u both.

Phate07:
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Help her heal by filling the void.
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Atreides:
I'd give him time to heal. Rebound relationships hardly ever work out. Jumping into a r/ship with him when i know he's not yet over whoever his ex was would be asking for trouble.

Yeah that's exactly what I'm doing. Being there for him as a friend.

Mrs, Eve:
I be glad when you get over this dude. SERIOUSLY.

Why? I am over him