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Basics007:
@Poster He's neither. But blimey he's as lucky as any coach can get. Any coach given a blank check to buy at his whim is a lucky coach,cue the way it happened for him at Chelsea and Inter. If I digress a bit,Rafa is in trouble today cos he wasn't given common 18m to buy Barry last season after he'd already pissed Alonso off

Mr Basics, did he also have a blank cheque in Porto? if i remember correctly Porto was the poorest team in the quarter finals the year he won it. he has been successful in both rich, wealthy and average spending teams. thats the mark of a genius

dayokanu:
Capello surely won more than 3 games in the cl in one season this is Jose second CL with Inter FFS

Mr Dayokanu if Mourinho isnt a genius then who is? when all your contemporaries in your field acclaim you to be the best in what you do then you are doing extremely well in life. for instance dayo, i dont know what you do for a living but whatever you do if most or all your contemporaries say you're the best or one of the best then you are BECAUSE they have removed their egos when giving praise and being objective about it.

below are some of the quotes Mourinho's contemporaries have said about him, and no they werent paid to say them

"I must ask: is he a phenomenon or can he do whatever he wants with the team he has at his disposal? I reckon he is a phenomenon," Arrigo Sacchi [/b]gave Jose Mourinho's ego a polishing.

"Mourinho enjoyed unparalleled success at Chelsea, without question," said the Manchester United manager [b]Ferguson. Ferguson, speaking ahead of Chelsea's visit to Manchester United on Sunday, was effusive in his praise of Mourinho. "Jose leaving Chelsea is a disappointment for the game," he said. "He was terrific for football and terrific for Chelsea. He brought something fresh and new to our game and I enjoyed the competition with him."

Meanwhile Sunderland's manager Roy Keane credited Mourinho with lifting the standards of the English game. "I have never come across him, but I just look at what he brought to the Premier League, and he raised the bar," said Keane. "He raised the bar for everybody, even for the likes of United, the Arsenals, they had to liven up their act a bit, and they came back stronger again, United and Arsenal, in the last year or two.
"Jose Mourinho definitely did that for the Premier League, and he did the biggest challenge, where he turned a very good Chelsea team into a top team. That's the biggest step and the hardest step. There are lots of good teams out there - I could name you 10 and say, 'they are a good team' - but they are not a top team, and that is the gap he bridged. He will be a loss to the Premier League, there is no getting away from that."

many many other football luminaries, journalists, commentators have mentioned his genius and greatness. does he win every match, no, neither may he win the champions league again. even alex has only won it 2ce in 18 whopping years in manu. i think you need to revisit you thoughts on this.

a parting shot for you to reflect on, as suggested by an earlier commentator;

Mourinho is currently on a run of 125 home league matches unbeaten (38 with Porto, 60 with Chelsea and 25 with Inter). His last and only home league defeat came when Porto were defeated 3–2 by Beira-Mar on 23 February 2002.[22][39]

if that dont impress you, pele.

deols:
Am a Martins fan and i dont wanna believe this.

thanks. the funny thing is while we are all wasting precious time debating this[ at least 1 week he will earn another 40k pounds or thereabout]. leave the guy jare

iice:
[color=#9900ff]Take stereotypes out of the equation.
Juju, revenge, wicked MIL, action. . . Lavish houses and all that aren't sets.

Doesn't have to wow audience. A good simple story, told in simple scenes. Doesn't have to be lavish or grandeur.
Then they can work their way forward. Yes, one must start somewhere, like ardent defenders of nollywood like to say.
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The movie industry IS about stereotypes. until the wars in both iraq and afghanistan most people world wide would have banked on the US and coalition forces winning both wars. this is as a result of movies like Rambo et al rooted in our pysche. the problem isnt that stereotypes have to be removed. the problem is that these stereotypes have to be acted professionally. hollywood = stereotypes.

spoilt:
For any deposit over 10,000 (CASH) the bank has to fill out a report with the customer declaring the source of funds. It doesnt mean you cant deposit it, it only means you MAY be investigated to make sure you are not money laundering. We've gotten stricter since 9/11. If your job is legit (c'mon all celebs are well known!) eyebrows will not be raised and investigation closed. Many people just cant be bothered and try to deposit below ten grand at a time.  As far as I know you can withdraw your money anytime afterall its yours. You just have to give us advance notice to make sure we have it ready. Chikena.

thats right

deor03:
Good Thinking !!.

You said it all

Guys dont believe every allegation and report by the media. lets wait fo the courts to run their course. how he spends his money is his business. he worked incredibly hard for it. if he wants to piss it way he is allowed. at east its not stolen money.

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Interesting post here, for real. Im a firm believer in doing things that add value to one's life and not doing it because its 'in' or the 'norm' or 'western'. a name is a big deal, i guess thats why no one[or rarely] is named Judas or even Jesus [excluding Latin American countries].

in relation to the post most examples of hypenated names you see are those of celebrities/children of wealthy/powerful parents. it adds value for the woman to leave her maiden name there like;

1. obasanjo-bello
2. jolie-pitt
3.pinkett-smith
4. banke meshida-lawal
5. children of wealthy british aristocracy etc

they leave them not because it sounds cool or because they love their father's names so much, but because of image rights[networking/connections] associated with the name and the cost of 'rebranding' themselves. that is why most of them leave it. there is a value attached. now a regular joe or josephine for that matter who doesnt have anything to gain value wise HAS to have a good reason for keeping her maiden name in an African context. i do agree that its a latin american/spanish thing to do this but certainly not african.

even celebrities dont always keep their maiden names. a prime example of an A list celeb is Victoria Beckham, and she's still successful.

so ladies you have your prerogative but ensure it has value when approaching your african husband about hyphenated surname and im sure he may agree [as long as the kids have his own surname]

Tanzos:
Yeah i also believe it can work, but Naija women?
I dont know sha guess we can only hope for the best as far as theyre concerned but me i know sha issues plenty for their side.
The ego in them when they have money more than the guy, lets just be thankful that its only something we are imagining now,

well naija women are women first right? as a man what i would advise is to talk about it with her once u notice it. communication is vital here. if she refuses to buck the trend then repectfully quit the relationship. u as a man has to be secure as well. in marriage its not advisable to quit though because of that. one should work at it

agitator:
All the white women no get serious issues but you confirm say the blacks get problem.

bruv white people, if we will go by pure statistics of the divorce rates in the US and UK, just to mention a few 'westernized white populated countries' is approaching 50% . nuff said. most of the white women divorce get serious issues man, if u dont believe me date one and come back to this forum to gist me. one love

[quote author=Ama-G link=topic=347596.msg4877791#msg4877791 date=1257590781]@Ladej
It is not that is is just a normal attitude they like to exhibit now, most of them prefer doing things with big personalities and artist and not just normal people[/quote]well listening to them i culdnt help but feel pity for some of them in the public eye. tyra banks actually said she preferred dating 'regular guys' and when she was younger she visited haunts like night clubs and other social places a woman can meet a man. she said over 90% of men looked but were not bold enough to approach her, the ones who did asked for autographs or applauded her work in fashion/acting. so she had no choice to to limit her pool of eligible men to celebs like her who wont usually have the inferiority complex to make a move. so my broda its tough, are u getting me? even the now famous david beckham who is a white man used his agent to meet victoria his wife. at the time she was 1000 times more successful and famous than him. he couldnt approach her directly as a result of her being way out of his league. so the problem is very much global. fortunately for him she also liked him and as they say, the rest is history. he's now more successful than him, but dont forget she used all her contacts in the celeb world to elevate her man. amalgamation of efforts as i said. it can work

agabaI23:
ladeji

All your examples na black women. Why na? E be like na only successful black women that have problem staying under a man?

@agaba 123 and ajalenkoko- it isnt only black women, as i said its not limited to black women. i also mentioned the queen of england and margaret thatcher. nicole kidman, cher, madonna are others who have dated and married less successful men. i only used those examples because they talked about it to the media[ which is how i knew]. its a global issue. i believe episodes of desperate housewives even highlighted the issue in the suburbs when one of the husbands was extremely jealous of his wife, the one with the twins.

im happy this post came up and im ready to lend my thoughts to you all, hope its appreciated. im a man, confident in my own skin and have been for a long time. the reasons that MOST men are afraid of successful women are not limited to;

1. makes them feel inadequate of dominating the woman

2. makes them feel less of a man

3. every argument she wins will be potrayed as 'its because you are more successful that you feel you are always right'

4. if the success is wealth related then it could be a big issue if the man isnt self confident. anything she buys will be seen as showy especially if the man cant afford the product/service

5. it can expand an already inferior complex inherent, so men steer clear of worsening the situation

6. it can bring about jealousy the man didnt even know existed.

and many more,

the honest truth is that regardless of society or economic situation of the country this problem is not limited to blacks, whites, indians, basically its a global issue. notable hardworking women like tyra banks, serena williams, oprah, condoleeza rice, just to name a few have had this problem in the past and currently. the thing is if a man is not secure he will fall prey to the problem.

to conclude it takes an amalgamation of efforts from the man and the woman to make the situation work. the man has to be secure, devoid of jealousy, and totally supportive of the wife's success. in addition the woman has to be respectful, try not to throw the money in his face and engage him when making expensive decisions that could cause a problem, basically effective risk management in the relationship. a good model is that of margaret thatcher of the united kingdom who as prime minister still cooked for her husband no matter how tired despite having numerous cooks at her disposal. im sure he respected it and returned the favour. prince phillip, queen of england's husband is another example. it can work but a lot of work has to be done by both parties, especially the man. its not her fault she's successful after all.

I really dont know why some people cant resist the urge to player hate. the adage that Rome wasnt built in a day is a well known one but some people cant help but compare things they shouldnt compare. this is a milestone not only for Stephanie but the industry at large particularly for the cinema goers. Im excited that it was shown on big screen and the quality was of international class. that is to be applauded. the casting is irrelevant for now, what should be looked at is the technical parts, storyline and acting, which were all above average. besides how many nairalanders even have 10 million naira let alone dollars? lets continue to praise our own when they excel and stop this negativeness showing from our individual failures.

Euchena:
Cimonjorr,
I think I found the solution for my cheating spouse, don't get mad get even. Since the harlot that he consorts with has no papers I think
that I'll just call the hotline at immigration so they can have the bangles ready when she goes for her green card interview. I think she needs a free one way ticket back to the bush she came from. By the way she is not innocent, she knows that he is married and persists in harassing
my household with her calls. If he doen't like it, he can go with her and I told him so. She could not be so bold without his cooperation.
Now that I know her home address they may decide to pick her up before her interview. Will she think going back home in disgrace be worth what she has done. I'd like to know what others think about this problem I have. What would do?

your problem is a deep one and no woman would want that sort of problem. sometimes even getting even does not fill the void in our hearts. the void in your heart now is one of lack of love and the fact he has eyes for another woman. reporting her to the authorities may not solve the problem and could lead to a bigger can of ugly worms. she is definitely out of order, so is he. you need to think long term here, whether your thoughts right now are ones you can live with in the long run. its better to be better than to be bitter. a wise thing may be to tell your husband you can do it without actually doing it. that may scare him into realising his wrong, alerting the woman and you will subsequently regain your man. if you are hell bent of doing it proceed but remember that life is a long winding road. God bless you

[quote author=Okija_juju link=topic=271905.msg3869502#msg3869502 date=1242341268]Biina

I'm guessing you are a woman.

Me neither.

I totally disagree with you. If monkey works, then baboon will decide how to spend the monkeys salary abi!! NO!. The income belongs to the earner, to be spent on the family. The man is the head of the family, if he works, its his money. The woman is the assistant to the head, if she works, its her money.

I absolutely concur.

So if the man owned the car, the house and all the stuff before the woman came in, is it still "our" stuff?? Whoevers name is on the lease, particulars or reciepts owns the stuff. That joint thing is so 1999. Remember that stuffs jointly owned are split right down the middle in case of a divorce.


We are cool with giving our stay at home wives money everyday if need be. But immediately it becomes mandatory, then she automatically becomes my employee wife _{(catch my drift)} [/quote]i agree 100 % boss. if the money was 'our' money why do people leave wills when they die? n be our money? abeggggggggggggggi

Siena:
Thanks, Ladej.

Usually, I don't react to a lot of things, but it's been a heavy week.

no wahala boss. TGIF tomorrow. have a good one

Siena:
Nothing wrong with having individual accounts, but a joint one in addition isn't such a lousy idea. A wife that knows how much is in a joint account is most unlikely to make demands on you that are not feasible, she doesn't have to "assume", it's all there in black and white.
I just feel that having seperate accounts only doesn't allow for joint planning for the home.

But, your point's noted, whatever works for you.

Just one thing I'd mention, Ladej - please don't refer to me as "son". For starters, you have no idea how old I am, besides, I find it rather patronizing.
Thank you.

your point is noted with regard to having one joint account in addition to existing separate accounts. indeed it assists in planning of the home. calling you son was used as a term of endearment and never meant to patronise or belittle you in anyway. apologies in order.

Siena:
I can't let the love of money, and the distrust of my wife rule my life.
If you can trust your wife with your life, (she cooks your meals) how come you can't trust her with money?

I feel my contribution is valid, and as you said, each to their own - if you feel you have to reduce your wife to asking / begging for money from you, that's your choice.

I'd rather not place my wife in such a position.

its about being wise son, after all you both had individual accounts before marrying. if u read my posts above you will see that its a pleasure for me to give the mrs money, no one has to beg for anything. pali to pali that joint account move no be the way. peace

Siena:
Why would a married woman have to ask her husband for an allowance?

As a married couple, both husband and wife should have access to finances, i.e a joint account.

joint wetin?? abeg no go off topic bros. each person to his own account.until the woman will clear ur account make ur eye clear well well. stick to individual accounts and assist as necessary

i am a proud yoruba man. I REPEAT IT WILL GIVE ME TREMENDOUS JOY TO GIVE MY WIFE AN ALLOWANCE, AM I NOT HER BETTER HALF? I PRAY GOD CONTINUES TO BLESS ME SO I CAN DO THAT. ANYMAN THAT ARGUES OTHERWISE IS NOT A REAL MAN

this is not even an issue in my opinion. to each his own i say. what might work for you might not work for others. not all women want to work so if they decide to stay home and the husband agrees to it and gives her a monthly allowance i dont see anyhing wrong with it one bit. if she decides to work and not collect a penny, fine as well. every couple do it the way to benefit themselves. if she feels she needs to receive an allowance then i think it is ok, AFTER ALL IN THE WESTERN WORLD EVEN IF YOU NEVER GIVE YOUR WIFE MONTHLY ALLOWANCE YOU WILL DO IT IF YOU GUYS EVER DIVORCE. ALIMONY BABY !

ThoniaSlim:
Lmao. . .

why shall u laff

michelin89:
It looks like a prostitute service. Sad and pathetic.

i disagree wholeheartedly. a man has to provide, all religions support this. which prostitutes get monthly allowance, na ur village that one dey happen?

No2Atheism:
@poster (CimonJorr)

First and foremost, your profile says that you are a 36yrs old male who is located in Aberdeen. Hence please note that you a man hence as a man you would always have time on your side to make the right choice when it comes to choosing a wife. So please there is no reason to beat up yourself about a woman who might not be worth it.


Yes she[b] might [/b] be beautiful - nevertheless you would still find more beautiful women, if you are patient enough.
Yes she might be educated - nevertheless you would still find more educated women, if you are patient enough.
Yes you might love her - nevertheless love is a two way street, hence don't ever make the mistake of marriage until you are 100% sure that the woman     
                                                     loves you enough not to cheat on you irrespective of whether you are far away from her or not.



Secondly, having gone through your posts on the thread, please i need to confirm the following information before giving my opinion about it:


1. How did you find out about the two men, was it from her or a friend of hers or from the people involved.
2. Did you inform her siblings or her family about the situation.
3. Have you slept with her before or after you found out the information (to make sure you have not been infected with any STD or HIV infection).
4. What do you mean by cold hard facts, does it mean you caught her red handed or someone caught her red-handed or you have a physical evidence of her deeds.
5. How long have you two been together.
6. Did she claim to be a virgin before meeting you.
7. Did she claim to be keeping herself for you while you were away, before you now found out that she slept with two men.
8. For how long were you away from her.
9. What do you mean by revenge and retribution.
10. Why do you need to have revenge and retribution, considering that it costs you nothing to just dump her and move on with your life.


I would appreciate if you can please answer the following questions above before i make my own contribution to the thread.

abeg bros answer questions as a matter of urgency !

klassyguy:
@Elrazur, iknow why i'm saying this. it happened to one of my friends when i was back in skool. one of the artistes came, nd u need to see how the ladies were screaming!!! being in the front row, the artiste pulled the girl onto stage. see how this babe dey take all her assets rub the guy's body, not caring that her bf was just 3 metres away. wen show end, na so she jump enter car follow the guy go ihn hotel. my friend was heartbroken. later the girl came back apologizing, but the guy vex rake for her. she too started raking, telling him he was worthless nd from the nite b4, can see that he is not a man compared to the artiste. the guy culdn't even say anything again. that was wat ended the relationship.

the same reason u dont want ur woman to go to an Usher concert. she will scream her lungs out. not a good feeling at all. women wont like it either.

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

you can, once the woman is convinced. men usually cant be bothered about the size of the wedding. they are too bothered with how much it will cost so if a woman says she prefers a small wedding the man will be so happy !

As a dude i agree that an allowance should be given to the Mrs monthly , whether she works or not. not only does it give you pride but the good Lord will also bless you abundantly