I am not here to rant about the unfairness of life but instead coming to realize and accept it.
My babe and I of over a year are in a tight situation, we both don't know what to do. Please advise;
I have a job but not a good paying job meanwhile my girlfriend is handsomely paid, matter of fact she just got a new job offer with a watery salary to it. Now, the issue is I love her, wanna settle down asap but my job is discouraging me, although I take home about 92k every month. She doesn't mind and want me to settle regardless but I am shit scared that when kids starts rolling in, I might need to step really up cause my basics can't keep a house running in this current economy plus the nature of the job isn't reliable at all. I understand you all will say since she is working and makes more, she can always support or augument. Yes I agree with you all but onething about me is that I will never ask my girl for #5 naira except she is the last option I have got after exhausting all options(call it ego, I don't care but I believe that is what bring respect to a man- the ability to fend for his family conveniently with ease), only if she sees my struggle and decides to assist.
I hustle a lot, I do all sort... I always send CVs on a daily basis but nothing is forthcoming for now but I know something great will soon happen, just don't know how soon but time is running and she is beginning to think I don't wanna take her serious. Letting her go is not an option but it definitely sounds selfish, then who do I do?
Now she is pregnant for me (yes I couldn't keep my dick to my pants, mistakes are bound to happen) what do i do? Deep down I want this baby, I wanna start a family with her but circumstances surrounding me is making me scared, making my hands tight and confused and my lady is beginning to think I don't want the pregnancy cause I was just laughing when she announced it but have to explain why a baby right now might not be a good idea.
Deep down I want this baby but I also want my kids to have the best but with this take home, it doesn't look like it.
Please advice me
I expect your banters but same time I need your 2 cents on this. And to all the men fending for their family; running helter skelter in this economic recession, I give you kudos... You are the real MVPs.
Save save save... That is how finances are built
Invest invest invest.... This is how wealth is guaranteed
If you followed those two principles you would have settled down by now.
Forget about the fear of her pregnancy, it's OK. Really it is. But the real question is, WHAT DO You BOTH have on ground to ensure the healthy safety of a baby.
If you both do not discuss investments and can not increase your finances together then starting a family now may be risky.
92k is like minimum wage in the naija of today, because after all your major expenses you may be left with 9200naira.
So pls plan with her and invest well and when the baby arrives you both will be smiling.
Ellarhh: I'm 21, a graduate, will be serving in March. I don't have money ooo I'm kinda broke (struggling with my importation business I started of recent). I'm not looking for a guy that'll spend on me tho' (spending on me is a plus but it's not a priority). Still, I need a man that's okay financially. Someone with a legit source of income. I'm inexperienced with sex but I'm open to it if we vibe well. Also, before you indicate interest, I'm not a slay queen ooo abeg. I'm quite lean, a bit busty and *not* tall.
I can really fun to be with when I like a person and can definitely have intelligent conversations and motivate you to do better. I'm not promiscuous as well.
I'm searching for an honest guy that I can be friends with (I lack male friends). As time goes on we'll decide on if we want a relationship or not. If you're between the ages of 24–27, you're fair , fun to be with and smart then I'm your girl. If you reside in Port Harcourt as well, that'd be nice.
Any interested persons should PM me please. Thanks
Cc: Lalasticlala
It's money you are looking for. Stop asking for man as means to your money.
hakeem4: stop using this type of argument in the 21st century, it is outdated
How do you know about life after death. some things really baffle me. The both of us have never left this earth before, you are not more powerful than i am, neither am i more powerful than you are. Then how do you know about life after death?
I work in a hospital, you can come and you will know that your existence is a joke unless you believe in a higher intelligence
GoodBadandUgly: At home, religious indoctrination is the first form of orientation an African child receives. At a very early and impressionable age, infants are taught to recite meaningless syllables called prayers. Children are brainwashed by parents with various religious and spiritual myths. Their minds are infused with all sorts of religious dogmas. Parents ensure that children are brought up in their faith — the faith of the family and the faith of their parents. Children are taught to believe and follow, and not to question religious teachings even when there is every reason to do so.
African children are brought up to believe them and to swallow them hook, line and sinker. Not to question one’s family religion is seen as virtuous and as a mark of a good child. This religious tradition is upheld and handed down unchallenged from one generation to another in Africa. The religious brainwashing continues in schools. [/b]Most African colleges are religious indoctrination centers. Western missionaries and Arab jihadists brought formal education (the model widely used today) to the continent. [b]They established schools to win converts and recruit new members, not really to educate Africans. So schools in Africa are covert churches and mosques. [b]Education is faith based.[/b]And this religious tradition is still upheld in most schools across the continent.
I am happy to take intelligent and intellectually HONEST questions. Ignorant ABUSE will be ignored.
How are you so intelligent that you do not know or suspect that something more intelligent than you designed the universe.
It is a Shame.
Pitiable at best for you to come this far and still not know that you have no right to talk about such things until you have all the answers to nullify life after death
YOU LIE..first u say u in canada..now u in Atlantis. ....too many chicks lying to impress juss coz i drive £40'000 (cash) BMW & am from London (shaking my head twice)
Dumb dude. Atlanta Georgia, you are not even in London.
Helicobacter: Hi guys, I think I'm an introverted extrovert. Most introverts enjoy all their time alone, and don't love socialising but mine's a little different in that even though I do enjoy some time spent alone I get really lonely and depressed alot of the times. I really like socialising(with ladies especially) but damn I'm too shy/self conscious for my own good. I do manage to start a conversation without much difficulty but can't keep it going. I think I do have low self esteem despite making some progress in my life my self esteem issues seems to be worsening. My fear is with time my record keeps growing and I wouldn't want someone I'm interacting with to know I have spent over four years @ the university without a GF. And stududying medicine ain't helping at all. I've also noticed I'm quite uncomfortable interacting with certaing guys too because I don't want them to discover the extent of my weirdness. Like I'm 23 but haven't had a girl in my life ever, I'm not just talking about a girlfriend, I mean I haven't even had a close female friend ever and it kinda scares me because it ain't looking like I'd ever get one. Like I find I have a bit of shame walking along a road with many people that know me let alone walking along with a lady. It's like part of me feels it's wrong to be with a lady. Even when I've told myself it's just for sake friendship(no sex). Most of my friends don't have issues interacting with ladies as do normal guys but they are quite Christian minded and would want to be single till marriage or sth, but they do hv a lot of friends. I would want to learn how to get lots of lady friends, just friends, then probably move on to having a Gf. Like anyone who's got tips pls help me drop them. Insults are welcome if and only if they are conveying a message.
At 23 you still have not learnt enough from social media that women chase men with money..... Then you come here thinking with your deek and start talking off point.... Are you ready to father a child, are you ready for the emotional stress or you think it's all about romance and sex.... I pity whomever celebrates your birthday. You are still a child.
Get your head clear and chase your destiny than women. Women will never notice you unless you have what they want in abundance. Be shy but be rich and ladies will make the first move on you.
It is misplaced priorities that makes a young man think that at 23 he needs a girlfriend... Smh
Greatness111: Good afternoon, fellow nairalanders.
I am so sad and confused right now. There is this guy I am in a relationship with for almost four years now ad we really love each other.
We had our first big fight two weeks ago ad we said some few hurtful words to each other and we apologised... Buh the issue now is even though i have forgiven him ad he also claim he has forgive forgiven me.... He still insist I we avoid each other. I have begged him buh he still give me attitude. Even though I love him buh I can't just bear his attitude anymore, so pls advice me.... Should I move on?
You both love each other on the surface.
He too is showing signs of immaturity because he is still hurt at what you said and plenty ego that men have o
Words are like eggs... Once broken can not be taken back again
You both didn't have a solid foundation for the relationship.... In marriage many words will be exchanged and many fights but the couples must fight even harder to stay together... The fairy tale love story does not exit..
Aunty even you are throwing in the towel after four years? Then your love for him was just for the cool times and not for the turbulent times.
This period is where cheating can occur easily so get your heads straight.... Else it will be story for the gods soon.
Both of you need a counselor (that is if the relationship was ever heading somewhere)
If by now you don't know what can soften him up then you have failed as a partner. Men can move on more easily than women.... But I guess you don't know that yet.
You both must have each other's mumu button for times like these, so once it's pressed the other person starts behaving better and everything goes back to factory setting.
Have you prayed? It works o
Most single people needs married friends of the same sex who have good homes so they can really have sense to know what relationship is about and stop expecting false results.
Netcry0: My gf started acting strange if she sees my sister putting on my Pam or jacket she would start complaining to me to me that if it was she I won't allow her BT now that is my sister I allow her . I don't just understand this attitude is she being over jealous or she only wants to have me to her self I really don't understand
SirLiquidGold: I will go straight to the point. I'm 29years old and I have no girlfriend to call mine. Although when I was in school and during my NYSC some girls do give me attention but the moment we all did POP it was like the world changed for us all. I realized maybe I was too busy getting worried about the future than I should have had more time for women.
All along, my intention was to graduate, have a good job, then go into a serious relationship and get married but reality can be often disappointing. It's rather unfortunate that no job is forthcoming since I finished service in December, 2017.
I'm very sure you would not believe it if tell you that I'm a virgin because I've never tasted sex all my live. Though i intend getting married at 30 and I've no job yet, I really feel like having a girl in my life now. I feel really lonely waking up alone everyday and hugging my pillow. It's as if nature is craving for what I ought to have had by now.
I need somebody that I can share my thought with, somebody I would be there for and also would be there for me. Guys I know you are wiser than I am, please advise me!!! Just yesterday night I came across a post on front page about "if money was delaying one from getting married and I am really worried
Join gold1p on Instagram and be added to their Whatsapp group. They do match making and also connect people. You can thank me later.
Crazychris: Hello good people of nairaland, how do I overcome this? I've been seeing this since 4 days now. They are all over me in my dream, they try to force me to take blood oath with them but I always rejected it. Once I wake up I do feel severe head ache. I'm feeling they might show up to me in real life
I work as a music producer, I've mingled with different guys but I really don't know who might behind this shîts.
How do I overcome this?
Relocate Change your phone number Stop telling your so called friends your next move Stay away from undefined relationships. Be in a very legit church Don't fake your commitment to God,
MRAKPORS: This woman and I have become friends We talk about everything including sexx Now I have noticed this thing. She will call and talk with me for about twenty minutes and say, "please let me pick a call I will call you right back" but she will never call back
She has done this several times
I start thinking about her anytime she does that
Is that her strategy of making me think about her? Or I am just being petty?
Boss sorry let me give you clarity so your head can Come down from the clouds....
Ladies do not waste time if we really wanna get down, we do it for real. She is using you to arouse herself for the real man who handles her well and doesn't care for chatting with her.
Nice guys like you will never get anything.
She has several callers who do the same thing, so wait in line bro till your call comes and she is done with you.
Bitter truth is that You have been used. You could turn the tables around and get her laid but I won't betray.
Romance › Re: My Love Life Is Boring!! I Need A Man!!! by Ladylite: 3:17am On Dec 22, 2019
, fun to be with and smart 
then I'm your girl. If you reside in Port Harcourt as well, that'd be nice.