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Do not forget there is a Psychological side to such things as marriage

There is also a spiritual side

There is also a cultural side

And the commonly known financial side to marriage.

So how do you think you can find one answer.. My dear, you can't o.

Everyone has their own side.

The struggle is because of our tradition makes marriage a do or die affair.... We do not have notable people who are not married yet very successful.... So everyone seem to think marriage is progress and success.... Without knowing it is hard work and a slowdown on life.


Marriage is good but not for every body. We also think a marriage is not successful unless kids are born.... Meanwhile in developed countries.... Children are optional even in marriage.

When a concept is too magnified it become hard to achieve.

Too clingy or suspicious


Years later I was damn right all along.

Youths are just using jazz these days... What does the future hold.

Charleys:
In recent times we've seen the race in production of apple drinks. Bigi apple, mirinda apple. Etc.

My beloved drink Lacasera now has competition like no other. I've been trying to imagine what lacasera's next move should be.

So you opened thread to imagine? When you could have done it privately and given them a proposal that will give you some major cash.... At least for a start... Then you build yourself to solve problem of struggling companies like lacasera...


You really are wasting your data.

Daniwak:
Plz i want to know if Nigerians can bet with these betting companies. If yes, when one wins a bet, how can he be credited? The bookies are as follows. Thanks

William Hills
Bet 3000
Marathon Bet
1xbet
Dafabet
Betclic
Betsson
Boylesports
Betworld

I do not think any one who is familiar with the internet should be asking such questions.

Oga have you heard of VPN?
Even if they do not have Nigeria on their list of accepted countries.... It can still be done using strong VPN and your location will change and you will register and trade.

Arbitrage is possible with these sites.

So kindly stop asking questions when you have not done your own study.


No one here will teach you how to go about it.

platodeen:
I am of age to get married.

I dated a girl( my landlady's dughter) two years ago d. The mom was fully aware.

We have started marriage plans secretly until I discovered dat she is genotype AC.

It really pained the mom to the extent that she was persuading her younger daughter for me.(u had better believed!)

Fastforward to this year, I equally met another cool girl, only to discover that she is AS. N we have just been counselled.

I studied Accounting and am a chartered accountant.
I still stay in a single room.
I just started working after my professional qualification about 7 months ago.
I am 32.
I am dark in complexion.
My friends do say that I could pass for a comedian (don't know how true).
I am humble and caring.

I don't have a girl at the moment.
I never wanted to put this on nairaland, eventhough it has been helping all this while.

I need a well oriented Muslim girl.
Understanding. Lest I forget, with AS genotype.

Don't mind what such person is as long as she meets the above criteria.

I could give you numbers.

These are future natural disasters in the name of freedom.


Their own kids will be worse than etinosa

Hypocrisy is security sometimes

Basically it's gossip partners and third parties you are looking for.

Also maybe temptation too.

Sadly as people mature they realize that people after the age of 30 rarely ever can change.

Change gets hard with age.

Lol... We know na. All the pics on social media hides a lot of dark secrets and tears.


No one posts their dark moments

charliboy654:
Dumb questions, who told you the sky is painted and dreams are stored?
Can u proof with all certainty that yahoo plus exist.

Yes my bf has been in it for years. We went to the herbalist together many years ago. It works.


Ask tontolet... She too has seen it.



Wake up or stay dead

partnerbizn4:
Please tell, how is life spiritual?

Tell me where harmattan comes from
Have you ever seen SENSE when a human being is being operated on?

Where are your dreams stored?

Who painted the sky?

How come yahoo plus exists and it works....


If you are in Naija and you can still ask how life is spiritual then you may already be a victim

Harlequeen:
I opened this account because my main one is pretty popular.

I've had this issue and don't know what's wrong.
I can't seem to get a into new relationship. I am now 25, about serving, working a normal job

My dating history is not too rich. I dated just one guy for 2 years, i became sexually active with him, we enjoyed each other, but things didn't work out. I tried to be better, have moved on, and he has too. This was mid last year. I have been celibate since then not because i don't like sex, but because i had time to think, i read a lot of books, listened to a lot of relationship counselors on YouTube, reddit, Nairaland and so on. I decided to approach dating differently, with my head and not my heart . i would vet men out who were not in line with some basic standards, to avoid fuckboys and meet high quality men. He should be well spoken, either with a career or into trade, accomplished, way older by at least 10 yrs(no i don't have daddy issues, i just like mature guys because i think like a mature person) he could also have plans to leave the country, because i plan to do that also.


Here's the issue, the men that express interest in me do not fit this criteria. They seem to have no plan for their lives. I get this impression that they are broke, they recycle the same lines all the time, i usually see their bull sh1t tactics a mile away. some are in the army(i can't date men in the armed forces, they lifestyle is not what i want for myself, cannot date doctors either for the same reason)others are artisans, some are plain hustlers who just do whatever to eat. I have a soft spot for ambitious men, and i have not seen a lot in the area that i am in. I have been advised by my friends to try highbrow areas like lekki or VI or go to church, but i don't believe in religion.

But whenever i see these men, i am not attracted to them. I have even tried online dating with some male nairalanders, but i get disinterested easily. I get turned off when someone asks for my normal pics, it is quite frustrating. There's that fear that some of these men could use my pics to masturbate or one other creepy purpose. I block them if they ask for nudes. But the issue is, it is quite exhausting to keep chatting with someone without seeing them in person and some of these guys just want to smash and run which i won't allow. No man will have access to my vagina and womb without investment and commitment. Eventually it becomes hard to keep up communication and we just fizzle out like that.

I am not under pressure to marry from my parents, infact my dad says he won't allow his daughters marry until they clock 28 and i am the first. He wants us to have a career and a life before moving with a man. I just want to know if what i am doing is right?

To be honest, i just want some words of advice and encouragement, you can ask me questions if you want. This approach of mine? Is it the right thing? Am i being too smart for my own good? Am i afraid of commitment?

Aunti
Aunty

Calm down, go and enjoy your life.

You may not believe in religion now but I bet you when you are 35 you will know life is spiritual.


All this you explained here are normal for teenagers and under 25 girls.

Lady to Lady I tell you that you know even if you meet a mature guy with all that standard, he may not be interested in you and you are too proud to chase or beg.


See, you are not ready so move on and have fun with your life and other areas of your life.

IN your 30s try again by then the standards you spent so much time explaining now will not seem important to you.

Ciao

Miracle7998:
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You who came here to look for referrals or people to help, should you not be the one to drop your number than exposing people's innocent numbers to the spammers online

Eglobalma:
I was molested at 14 by a girl who was older than me and that led me to also molest our house help while she was asleep. I think she cursed me as I cannot control my urges anymore, I cant have normal sexx except the girl is unconscious. For everytime I see an asss or a big breast all I want to do is say hi, get her to my house, drug her....molest her sexually and then make her leave. The next day I want to do same again, like forever. Its all I want, I have only done it a few times. Please help, I think I'm cursed

OK this is terrible BUT this is not the place to air your problem. Don't you have a church or mosque or spiritual center you can go to?

Solve it fast before you are arrested and jailed for it.

Gucciboy1:
Good day guys, please I need advice from you. I need to start up a small scale business that will be bringing income of at least 10k a week or more. I have 15k to start the business.
Please give your advice on the kind of business I can start up.

LOL a very vivid example of building castles in the air.


So which legit business's do you think will give you such money PER Week? Abeg go and do yahoo.... You are just lazy

But this is not scriptural o.

Abeg please jesusjnr correct me if am wrong... Is this not evil?

I need help too o

Freshgrace:
I need help, I need to start 2020 on a clean slate.
It's like my life has been stagnant for the past 7 years. So many things have gone wrong...I have gone for MFM deliverance 3 time (I saw results in one area of my life after the first one) but there was no difference after the other two.

I have had people pray for me, saying they can see a very bright future, about three different people now yet I'm living from month to month. No savings, no advancement. I won't lie, I'm not suffering but I also don't have anything to spare. It's like my life has been on one spot. I need help, I need God to turn my life around.

A friend called her Alfa for me on the phone who revealed some things to me and asked me to bring about 7k for him to do somethings for me but I didn't go back. I'm not comfortable with the whole thing (no offence to the Muslims). I don't believe in mixinh religions. I need a church, a Pastor where I can go pray my troubles away. Someone is diverting blessings from my life, I need that person silenced forever. Please help me.

Go to ikeja Lagos there is a church called Gospel Pillars Church. Find it on Google for directions and join them

Frank123Tim:
A nagging wife was first a nagging girl. If u react to everything anyone does to u, u lose respect. A nagging girl can make people � run away from her. A nagging wife can make her husband people run away. Women who nag tends to nag when they get married .why do some women nag?

Wrong... This is a myopic view. Listen, nagging is a vent out of frustration or fear.... Women who nag lack security, affectionate attention and joy.

No woman loves to nag... But men are just insensitive most times. When women are pregnant they usually nag. So please don't generalize

Digriz:
Lenovo K5 or Gionee S11 Lite. Both fall under my budget.

Don't come here to ask us, stop renting out your responsibility.... Use the same MB to check the specs of both on Google.... Then decide which of them meets your needs.


Buying phone is beyond a matter of budget.... Check the specs and customer review.

jesusjnr:
Are you sure they are not praying?

Because it's not just one person standing but up to three, so maybe the people were already bowing down in prayer to God and those persons standing were just coming in.

That's what I can deduce from what I see there.

Thanks and God bless.

Wow sir, thank you for opening my eyes.


People will do anything to defame pastors these days.

Photoshop is really funny

This is wrong na, abi jesusjnr

BLUELemon:
After analysing my life, journey to adulthood, i believe there has to be a way out of hardship. Since I was a kid, things have always been tough for me. Eating to school was hard and gaining admission to the university took more than four years. I had to settle for a course I never chose because I have stayed too long at home.
I Am just 4 months away from clocking 30. At my age I have no girlfriend I could share my thoughts with. My mates that dropped out of secondary school now have wives and children. Heck, some have built houses.

I keep applying to various opening. FRSC, DSSC /SSC PRISONS, NIS and all with no luck. I have applied to private postings too but no invite. I have nothing but my degree, worn out clothes, bad shoes and lack of change to even do photocopy of my credentials. I feel the whole world is against me.

Why should I be Begging people for jobs, Begging people to feed. life is not meant to be this way. I lack the basic things a young Man should have. I Look around and I see no one living this kind of hopeless and rough life, Why Only Me?

Please I want to do money Ritual. Whatever it takes. I cant continue like this. Being broke and hungry is a fraustration no graduate should go through

Money ritual?? I laugh in ijebu


Don't you know it's expensive? Ritual is not free.

Go to a legit church and your life will take shape for free.... Not all these seer or prophet churches o. Join catholic or daystar and you will get help

Apostle Paul won't be online posting like you do sir. Pls go and pray.


Results quench Insults.


Pray vehemently and focus on your ministry.

All these your posting here... If it is not the gospel then forget it.

Jesus is coming soon.

babasadiq79:
Hello i just graduated from the University, i need advice from experienced people.
To the experienced peoplewhat did you do when you graduated?

Haba... In 2019 see the question this one is asking.


Gbe body eh joor


How can just be trying to wake up


So with all that is happening in Nigeria you can't grasp that self employment is the way? Why then did you go to school.... I tire for u o.


Is your destiny every body's destiny, why are you asking everybody.... Are we the ones who sent you to school?

Oga pursue your dreams. Stay woke and hustle.


After school is hustle.

If you ever did biology, then you should know.


Why are you trying to create a useless thread.

Kaybmal100:
Listen guys

For most women in their 30s
who are still single, Who aren’t in a relationship, Those who are still available, Doesn’t have a guy at the moment and they are above 30, These women are comsidered a red flag.

based on my personal experience with women,
speaking t0 friends, random questions on walkway facebook friends, and my own previous relationships, an overwelming number of them have serious RED FLAGS.

when you meet this 30 year old single women, who isnt in a commited relationship, what she'll tell you is that she has had alot of bad relationships, that she was attracted to the wrong guy or that bad boys just keep finding her.

thats not true guys. she choose these guys
and what shes afraid to tell you is that she loves sleeping with bad boys. she loves being a side piece.

She doesnt want to tell you that she rejected a lot of good quality men because if she does tell you this it will show how fullish she is.

women dont like looking into the mirror and reflecting on their lives. this is why they hop from relationship to relationship
guys to guys because they dont want to reflect on the things they had done wrong.

they are afraid to tell you they have done all sort of cock ridingswith differrent guys in their 20s.

what they will say is ....i have been with this guy for 5years, he cheated on me, i stayed with this other guy for 3years he did thesame without talking about her mess. they will try to sell you

she wunt tell you that shes looking for a meal ticket, shes looking for some fool, a guffy guy who will take a bait, she wunt tell you that shes still talking and sleeping with different guys.
she wunt tell tell you that you are her last resolt
that she is expiring she can feel it.

Cos if she tell you that it will deperistalize her
it will humble her.

listen guys a single woman in her 30s shes afraid to tell you all those stuffs cos it will show how horrible her life is and how horrible her decisions are.

She wunt tell you that at that age her greatest fear in life is being alone. they hate it.
it sucks for a woman to go ome to a cold bed
but shes afraid to tell you that when shes with you. shes is hurting inside because no man want to comit to her cos of her attitude.
She wunt tell you how horrible her attitude is
but she act like shes a good person 2 to 3 months upfront time will tell .

ask yourself,
why she she still single?
not even commited to a serious relationship.

women in their 30s still single, not committed in any relationship has just failed in life.

listen girls

no man cares about your degree
or how successful you are, cos according to nature your job is to nuture, you are naturally made to receive love, be opened to receiving care and to be submissive. All these, feminist have destroyed.

but for men they are made to strive, break through barriers in life achieve.
you can argue with your religious books if you want to

that why a man can leave a high intellectual, successful woman for an house girl.
think about that.

So guys!
they are afraid to tell you the truth guys cos the truth will set them free but they dont want to be free

Freedom requires reflexion and she will never reflect in order not to be free so she hops from guy yo guy and hoping some fool like you will look at her.

they are aftraid to tell you that majority of them caused their breakups in their past relationships.
they instigated arguments with the their spouses
or their previouse long term partners.

they wunt tell you how sharp their mouth is.
trust me guys have talked to most of them,
tons of them, one on one conversation

they always have some time of Issues, whether its Dady issues, abandonment issues
boardline personality Disorder,Bipolo disorder.

Remember as women age, their sexual market value goes down but as men age their sexual market value goes up. It’s a fact

Also studies have shown that as women age they are likely to have healthier children

Comment below you experience dating women in their 30s

So what it your point... Ladies should be desperate so they won't be single by 30?

Ogbeni go to alaba and buy brain. You obviously need it. Even your parents weren't desperate.... See age is just a number. Sex is just an exercise, many under 30 ladies have expired due to the plenty relationships, abortions, heart breaks, etc


So you posted this long rubbish... See I feel sorry for Ladies who marry too early because ladies taste changes with age. From 28 and above there is more maturity of selection for Ladies. But young girls with hormonal confusion jump into weddings and later jump out.


Your theory holds no water when peace and longevity and real relationship values matter.