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Omittesb:
I have fallen short of God's glory many times.. I can't even remember the last time I went to church or sincerely prayed.

Sometimes, I seem not to believe in the existence of God, cause I feel if he existed he won't allow this world to fall into ruin all it is.

I know my weakness but can't seem to overcome them. I want to be closer to God before entering 2020, I want to serve him truly and be closer to him.

Some would tell me to go to church but churches these days only preach about worldly possessions and not Grace or serving God.
Kindly drop your advice that could be of help to me. Thanks

Well I can refer you to jesusjnr, he can proffer answers for you

Ralpdee123:
@Ladylite,

Thinks for your sensible contribution..... As you can see my long epistle is not copy and paste. Infact I can't explain everything as it would be too long to read....

I have legalized the marriage at ikoyi registry so we are married legally... That was what they told her to do..I feel really trickked to have gone this far but my happiness is what matters to me at this point cos the deed has been done already.


She now use my kids as bait to get at me.... Not wanting to admit her weaknesses. I told her family people, her aunt came to my house to enquire what happened, she said she didn't do anything that they should ask me what she did....I honestly couldn't say a thing because I didn't know where to start from.....

I still buy food evrydyay on my way out and way home....she is secretive and self centred. She prefers to watch Zee world and the list goes on and on....

I make over 200k a month no bragging.... 2 kids my slcousin sister, and my wife.... I spend all my earnings on food and bills.......


I feel very sick recently, that was when it dawned on me because during this time there was nothing coming in and she still wants me to bring more money..... I am scared for my kids cos this woman can not pay even 20k sch fees if anything had happened to me....

I am considering the option of taking care of my kids from a far.... My only concern....


Pastor is just telling me one for better and for worse Scam talk....


I am dying inside and someone is telling me that..

The Bible never said for better or worse o. Anyway.... Kindly consider separating without divorce first to see if she will change. But don't let the children suffer.

Pls contact boss Gazzuzz

Ralpdee123:
Good morning Nairalanders,
I am tired of my marriage and I am considering divorcing my wife of 8 years. I need mature advice either........

Please pardon my grammatical blunders....

I met this Lady at the banking all 7 years ago, it was love at first sight. I approached her and poom! we exchanged numbers, we talked briefly and said she resided in Abuja and would be returning in a week so we decided to meet at an eatery before she leaved.

We met and discussed about life aspirations and all that, I told her how I wished we get along and God willing we get married. Then she responded saying that do I know I have to be hardworking and responsible of I'm truly serious about marriage etc. I said I ma trying that things we fall in place.........

The Lies:
1)
She travelled and we kept in touch through text messages and calls etc... She told me she was a virgin and had broke up with her bf bla bla....then i had promised to come and see her in few months time to reassure how I'm serious about her....blabla...... 2 weeks before my travel day to meet her, she called on evening and started crying over the phone, what happened, I enquired, she said she was RAPED by her ex BF... Oh gosh! How come? he trickked me over to his place and it happened..... I got mad and fasttrackked my going to meet her..........

2)
I eventually visited and she explained how it all happened,I said no wahala... Being the first time we were seeing after a long time, I didn't make any attempt to sex her as that wasn't my priority. She left my place and I accompanied her to the busstop to leave, while there she brought up an issue like she wants me to touch her or something like that..... We returned to my room and boom it happend.... I came in all over her...etc.. 3 weeks later, she told me she missed her period and was pregnant... I was in 300l at this time.... I was like oh....OK... Save this preg! We would. Find away around telling our parents bla bla.......
Girl said no that she would have do abort it.... I said no pls don't.... And one even she called that her friend took her to a place and she has terminated the pregy... I felt bad......

3)
Hide and Lied about the status of her parents and families.... As she was telling me, I was informing my siblings... Now that everything is done it was hard to do the damage control cos mum and everyone thinks I have been lying all along.....

Relocate to Lagos......
She finally moved to Lag and this time I was in my final year.... While writing my finals she called that she is pregnant... This time real pregnancy.... I said live it.... Not that that was the next thing but for the love that had beclouded my sense of reasoning at that time..... I manage to get 1 room sef apartment in Lagos so I have a sense of independence, not that I was planning anything marriage......my wife began to bring in her things one by one and before I knew what was happining, it was hard to let go....... Technically, she don get belle.... And I don marry wife automatically.........

From School to Marriage:

It was he'll for me becos I was around 25/26 around this time, mum c was complaining bitterly that I am not ready for for this, and dad to left me with my stubbornness..... So I struggled with this lady.... I told her that we can work around all these things and still come out good.....

Meeting her Parents & Her Education:
One of her big aunt has been the brain behind manipulating me to marry her and bla bla... She took me to see her parents, my one parent ain't aware of shit.... There they brain washed me that I was the Afesona... Like Fiance and etc.... Father told me that I will take responsibility from that moment on....... At that time she had a failed admission that I later knew about.......... Then I said PT program would be a nice option.... Yaba or Laspotech... The Dad told me that it's easier said than done because if tomorrow comes now and they are asking for school fees we I should count him out..... I'm like OK Daddy, the first school fees is a bit much, pay half lemme pay half and the subsequent onces I will pay..... Daddy refused to pay o..... I ended up using my house rent that I saved for about 6 months to pay for the school fees....... And the real issue began......
Weekly tfare, feeding, handouts, test, assignment bills I come lean like Dryfish..... No joy at all... A young grad like me.......my life was upside down....

Setting Up Business for her:

I later called her and told her the load is too much for me that she should start to do something to support us.... She was studying business admin at this time, I said she should learn a trade that she will later blend in with her Business admin....she said catering would be cool and we both agreed.... I searched for another money to send her to catering school again....now she is doing OND and catering school together plus pregnancy...... My both eyes went hollow and I am permanently stressed at that time......life became unbearable and I encouraged myself that it's only. Matter of time...... My wife delivered at the last month of the catering school.... Then the stress of a baby.....set in... Wife isn't working.....

I started Noticing her Laziness:

After 6 months, I told her to return to round up her catering school, get her certificate and start something...she said yes and it ends there....she didn't go.... Months after she said that academy is bad they didn't teach them well bla bla....that she wants to go to another Catering institute..... Then I told her to search..... For 6moths madam didn't see any, I had to do it myself.... Than I saw one of the top catering institute in Maryland, I paid oh.... Practicals, this and that..... I went broke again.....

After the course, I took her to the market bought almost all catering equipment and did a comcard and etcs... Madam pretended for a month and she abandoned everything........

Laziness Continues:
She insisted my cousin sister should come live with us, most of the times, it is my cousin that do all the cleaning, washing, bathing the kids etc... She will just sit down in one angle and that will be all.... When I talk, she would just laugh and that is all.....


Can't Cook & Wants me to eat any crap she cooks like that..
I have resorted to buying cooked food on my way home cos I most times take to spoons of her served meal and I would lost appetite completely.... Then I will go hungry and lean as a result.... I can't come and kill myself..... Untop someone that don't give a dam about me.......

Pregnant again:

Immediately my boy clocks two I told her that before any pregnancy, I have to set her up first so that the burden would be free a bit....... She said OK.... And few months after she went on admission only to tell me that she's pregnant again.....

Long story short: I am tired of the marriage right now..
What should I do...


Pardon my very long epistle..........

This is sad.
You were deceived by a very cunning woman
You also lacked self control because you were thinking with your deek

But

As a lady I can boldly say if your story is true then she never loved you. She knew she had no future but just wanted to use you as a shortcut.

There is not court signed paper so legally you are not married sir. You can walk away BUT considering your children.... You can send support monthly from wherever you are.

Pls next time learn about relationship and commitment for both parties before dating any lady, discuss all these things before entering to such deep level.

Also take some years to build yourself up financially. If she changes then you can marry her but if not, you can move on but please do not let the children suffer for your mistakes.

I pray you find wisdom to handle this mess

But when it was growing she was feeling sleek. She should go and reduce it o

Am more shocked that after MMM saga, naija peeps who claim to be so WOKE can still fall for "end of the year" schemes like this.

Damilolacoker:
Hello everyone I'm 24 years old and I have been married for three years. last year we had our first baby . Prior to our wedding, I and my husband decided I'll be allowed to work once our baby is old enough to attend day Care. Now our daughter is almost 2 years and he has refused to let me work. We've had countless arguments about this and it always ends with him saying women who work are not always submissive. I cannot be a full house wife , I am educated and cannot sit at home all say.

He recently told my parents I was being rude to him and they're all saying I should do whatever my husband wants. I love him but on this issue, I refuse to agree with him.


The other part here is he doesn't like me correcting our daughter. She's almost 2 and it irritates him whenever I try to potty train her or scold her . He insists I go to check up on Her at school during break hours . I understand that she's quite young but as her mother, I want the best for her. Now he's changed towards me, he doesn't care or pamper me like he used to , sometimes he refuses to eat at home and when I try to speak with him, he's always very cold. Please help me, I don't know what to do anymore

You married too early
You married misinformed
You married a good man but you are a better wife

Also your parents disappointed you. Anyway you are still in charge. God bless you for being strong.

Here is what to do
Meet an elder or pastor or cleric that can listen to you and let them interfere.

Also pls try to correct your child in his absence

Also for your husband simply note that you have changed and you have become less attractive to him. So simply change how you dress, change how you treat him first.... Dress differently, talk about whatever you know he is interested in.


If he is still in your daughter's business... Then u need to be careful... He may cheat on you with her when she is older.... So take a firm stand o, you are still young.

Not all high spec phones can use plotagon.

Wow a live Love Machine

"Huge"

LOL.... Greed is what may be driving you.

Calm down. Go and find what people need and supply then you will make money.

But you are looking for short-term huge profits.... That's just greed.

Why are you here. You don't know where police station is in your area?

Your posting this here with no phone number or picture or any tangible thing and you want us to take you serious?. What did you expect us to do?

Pls go to the police.

Computer science in public university is crap and a sheet waste of time.

Quit that school focus on your real ICT skills. Once you are good and know your onions you will make serious money.

Don't worry about how tough life has been now. It will get better in 2020

See sense.

Very smart question

This great man will dribble the devil, be a defender of the gospel and a keeper of God's word.

She just woke.

This is religion section.... So I expect the wicked one to be the devil or at least a demon.... Not for phone hacks.


Cellotaping your phone camera is barbaric. There are safety measures and apps that can cut your entire phone off from hackers and phishers.

freedomest:
I am not a deeper life member. I go to redeemed for now. But I can tell you that my parents are pastors in deeperlife. my Dad is a pastor and my mum is in their marriage committee. When my elder sister got married in RCCG, they were never suspended.

Sorry is there a post or thread you are replying to?

Because there is no trace as to why you should creating this topic here.... Kindly check your post again

There is another Sunday adelaja o... He should hear this.

Lol be talking about your own forum in the third person u hia... U will still not get people

Wow I wonder why men bet at all, those who win will never tell you their spiritualist they went to for such powers to predict accurately.

These things are not normal. Many waste their lives on it. Luck doesn't really exist, it is just a secret that no one will ever tell you.

Betting is the real yahoo. Hoping to use 300 naira to win millions is the real scam. It wastes lazy youths. If you can't go to a spiritualist then forget about real mega winnings in betting.

This sounds like a lie

If she used him, then what exactly did she gain... A job, contract, big D, money, fame, revenge, etc.

We don't use men without a purpose. Aunty confess o

Sabadon:
Hey guys, knowing the nature of the country i think this will be fun and an eye opener to some, what type of job did u do to get your first actual pay.

for me it was after NYSC i applied in several places but never got called up until i found myself teaching in a private school where i was paid just 20k, i didnt let that discourage me tho as its said a bird at hand is worth more in the bush. I did it to pass time, cut the long story short i ended up pursuing my second degree(in medicine), finished in good time and working

share yours as this could motivate someone.
Good luck to all the legit hustlers, never give up.

Nothing is here to motivate anyone. Stories no longer motivate people because shortcuts are available. You can have all the motivational stories and yet your success doesn't impress me.... Is your story not wasted?

Stop opening thread without proper assessment.... Nigeria today has lost its values. You can not motivate a person online if they didn't have motivation before coming here.

Everyone should go and hustle... Even motivational speakers are going extinct because they are theorist and not practicalists

I wonder why they can't sue the man who uploaded it. And they couldn't delete their videos too?


Many people do not understand technology

Eazyclick14:
Daisy, who is said to be asthmatic,
suffocated during the act due to the carbon
monoxide produced by the generator.

A Highfield form three girl is reported to have
died on Saturday evening at PamaStones
Shopping Complex in a generator room whilst
having s*x with a man only identified as
John.

The Highfield High 1 School pupil, only
identified as Daisy, is reported to have
entered a generator room of a local bottle
store at the complex with John for a
‘pleasurable moment’ which ended up taking
her life.

John is said to be a tuck-shop attendant at
one of the tuck-shops at the same complex.
Daisy, who is said to be asthmatic,
suffocated during the act due to the carbon
monoxide produced by the generator.

John who is reportedly in hospital survived by
a whisker after he was found gasping for air
when people broke into the generator room
after he had fallen on the power cable which
cut off power in the bottle store.

“The guy was found gasping for air; people
had to break into the generator room.

“He fell onto the power cable which disrupted
power in the bottle store, so people rushed to
the generator room only to find it locked and
broke in and found the girl with no pulse but
the guy still had pulse and was gasping for
air.

“He had to be rushed to the hospital but I’m
not sure which one,” said a source.

Another source revealed that the girl’s family
were not taking the issue lightly and did not
want to bury their daughter until the bride
price has been paid.

“It is being said the girl’s family don’t want
anything to do with the burial until John’s
family pays bride price because John was
already taking her as a wife by sleeping with
her,” said the source.

So they felt smart by doing it in a very noisy room cos the girl may scream and the guy too may be loud.... Then they didn't think of chemistry now the girl had no time to repent, she dies.... The guy who caused her death, who was older is now going to repent and probably get to live right and longer....


Karma is not fair at all

Some whose nickname is LUCIFER is talking about prayer and God...... See they should sell this country and give all of us our money to go and look for where to stay.


This guy is a certified and confirmed fetish dude. Every one of them will be claiming God.... Oga mompha keep kwayet

DenreleDave:
We don dey chat for almost two weeks with calls too we discuss well and anytime I try tell her dt I like her, she keeps telling me to go meet other customers(girls on my chat list). We just met on Facebook and we have had a lot of conversations.
Today, I asked her and she was trying to skip my question and I told her not to try skip it. She always want me to feel so much concerned about her and I am but I am careful. I kept asking her if we will possibly date reason being dt I don't wanna go deep and hear story that touch

Her reply was that;

What do I want her to do since she has a BF?


Guys, do you think I shud just 4get about her and focus on another thing?

Cc: AstroG Lalasticala BlueAir blinking001 Toks2008 JONNYSPUTE tosyne2much Martinez39 mrcork illegend

So after knacking her and another boy like you meets her and wants to also take her... Would you like them to do what you about to do to her bf to you?


Your brain is in your deeq

Naanlong01:
Oh! What a shallow minded being!!!

ain't everyone?