Tango123:


So y should q woman who has the same access as a man to jobs expect a man to shoulder her responsibilities

That is the koko of the matter.

The koko is that no adult should expect another adult to fend for her.

Do u agree that men and women are equal, and that Equality means eqyal share of bills when we go out, equal birthday gift, equal share of household bills. If one of us is earning more than the other, then it becomes equitable share of responsibilities.

If you agree with the above paragraph, then i bow in respect. Do you agree. Yes or no

Men and women are not equal

Tango123:


So, why should women in Nigeria not do the same things u said that men do, and raise their own money that way, instead of being parasitic.

Or do they not have brains? And hands?

I'm tired of repeating myself. Which of the things are you referring to exactly? The crimes, paying for Job slots or legit work? Women already do legit jobs but there aren't enough jobs for everyone. You people should face your leaders not women

Tabasco23:
to be honest I forgot what I wanted to say

Lol okay

Tabasco23:
what no, she did drugs and had an OD, but that was after she became successful, and I never said she was Nigerian

So what's the moral of this story?

Tabasco23:
I know a woman who's mom left her and dad committed suicide, now before I go on further what do you think she did with her life.... this is an off topic question

Lemme guess what you're gonna say. She worked hard, persevered and now she's a successful career woman. Kudos to her. There are tons of successful women in the country, I already said that. Not everyone will have the opportunities or financial backing to make it in life tho. Same goes for guys. Its a sorry situation, but it is what it is.

Tango123:


So are Nigerian men not facing the same harsh economic conditions

It really baffles me how u used the economic reality in Nigeria to justify the scheming and parasitic nature of many Nigerian women. As if men in Nigeria have money given to them by God or picking money from streets

Y'all should be thinking critically before quoting people. What do majority of the young male generation do to earn money these days? Fraud, ponzi schemes, robbery, rituals, sale of body parts, male prostitution and gold digging, sale of hard drugs etc. While many of the older generation also engage in corruption and money laundering. Stop acting like all of you are doing legit businesses and are saints. There are also women doing legit work as well as men. Making generalizations the way you people do is irritating

And there are parasitic and scheming women in every country of the world, not just Nigeria. A person's character or behavior is greatly influenced by their standard of living. Take it or leave it

MrFlavvor:
women also expect care and sex from their man
As for food, is she my mom?

In your own words, define this care that men are expected to provide

MrFlavvor:
But in my own opinion though a man was made to take care of and pamper his woman whether she's independent or not.

And in my opinion, the men expect sex, food and care from their women

thunderfirebubu:
it's clearly obvious you are one of the urgent 2k gang that's why you are defending them.

Lmao. When a man has nothing inside his head, he resorts to insults. I understand your predicament, its well

thunderfirebubu:
economies of Nigeria and cote d'ivoire which is better? But I've dated an ivorian when I visited there and I never got the stupid billings naija girls are fond of, I dated a Romanian chic too I never experienced billings, I've dated a camerounian and I never experienced the billings. So what excuse do make for your kinds in naija?

Oh please
You want to tell me you have never encountered a Nigerian woman who did not bill you? How unfortunate. There are tons of women like that in Nigerian, you just haven't been lucky mehn. For your information, just because you didn't encounter "billers" in the aforementioned countries does not mean they are not any there. Understand?

MrFlavvor:
there's a lot of angles to the question question. There's the cultural angle, there's the character angle and looking through the comments it's clear people are discussing the topic from various angles. So, please what bullshit are you saying about useless men? Is it a crime to discuss dating a person with a different set of cultural values?

Are you blind or you didn't see them castigating Nigerian women on the basis of their demands? Anyone with half a brain would know that the habits and characters of people is largely dependent on their standard of living. If a man or woman is living in a poor state with little or no means to earn money, it shouldn't come as a surprise that the person would resort to depending or demanding money from the opposite sex. Comparing such a person to a citizen of a first world country who has limitless opportunities even without a college degree is not only foolish but ridiculous as well

Ghengiskhan:

Excuses excuses excuses.. are the guys in Nigeria working, living and hustling in first world country?

Which Nigerian guys are you referring to?? Is it the yahoo boys, robbers, ritualists, kidnappers, skull mimer, drug dealers or which one exactly? The way there are legit hardworking men in Nigeria is the same way there are legit hardworking women. Yet you cretins overlook all that and paint all women badly. As if there are no male prostitutes and male gold diggers in the country

Only foolish men compare women from first world countries with women from third world countries knowing fully well that the economies in both are very different. Its not like Nigerian men are a prize or anything

If Nigeria is like America or Europe, do you think Nigerian women would act the way they do? Its the same in other third world African countries so use your head and face your leaders who made it so instead of whining on Nigerian girls matter all the time. Useless men everywhere.

Silentgroper:
Hahaha. Joke's on u.

Au contraire, the joke is actually on you

urchcoded:
I didn't know better. I've somehow managed to get her believing again.

How did you manage that?

HopeSpencer:


No health issue except that she delivered through CS 10 months ago. She has been refusing sex since then. When I recently forced her, she covered her face. As if someone was raping her. I felt rejected and hate myself.

Sounds like she feels unattractive and undesirable. You forced her? Really?

illicit:



wow, where in Osun.... I am here presently

I stay in Ile Ife. Which side are you in?

You shouldn't have done that bro. You took away her hope

illicit:



Same here, life is good.

I have been napping all day....


Are u a lagosian?

Nah I live in Osun. I visit Lagos sometimes tho

Anoth:

What sort of fuckery is this? People value knowledge, no matter your gender, when you make up intelligently engaging topics, You'll be respected


Stop making silly excuses for y'all inability to bring up something intelligent

I repeat, Nairaland men lack manners and are misogynistic. Y'all are not worth the effort.
A lady will speak her mind or open up and all the men will come out to slut shame her and insult her. Why should any reasonable woman waste her time on such people?

Intelligent girls aren't motivated to create topics or participate much in this section because most of the guys here lack manners and are misogynistic. Y'all aren't worth the effort

You can't maintain the first, yet you wanna get a second. Kudos

illicit:


Happy weekend and how are u doing?

Wish you same. I'm alright. How are you?

Hello

iRepNaija1:


OP, please don't pursue this. You're not even in a relationship with him and you two are already arguing, regardless of who is right or wrong. That's red flag number one. Red flag number two is that he wants you to come to his house only after a few days of talking. That's concerning because a) you should be meeting someone you don't know well in a public place, b) he should want to meet you in a public place for a meet-up or date, or c) he just wants sex. If you just want sex, then cool. But since you've declined his first offer, I don't think that's what you're going for. The third red flag is that he insulted you. From what you said, you told him, "I don't care." Is that an insult? To me, it's not because you did not criticize his person or his family. (Remember, critique the action, not the person). Could your response have been said in a better way? Maybe but you were straightforward. If he's willing to do this and you two have just started talking, imagine what could happen if you were dating or in a serious relationship.

He's just trying to test your limits to see how much B.S. he can get away with and how much B.S. you can tolerate. At 22, you're an adult but you're also much younger than him and he's seeing if he can take advantage of your possible lack of experience in dating. The fact that you're on NL may indicate to me you're still interested in him despite these red flags because if you weren't, I know you would've not continued talking with him.

I think you should really let this man go. It just sounds like wahala. You're young and there will be so many other men. When a man likes you and wants to spend time with you, you won't have to question it, you won't be on NL asking for advice from strangers. He will treat you like royalty and handle you like glass. You will never have to second-guess his feelings for you or his motives. Good luck.

Ladywealth please and please if you don't want tears, listen to this advice. If you pursue this relationship, trust me, it will not end well. Use your head

Durentt:
time time heals.

mind to share what cause the breakup.

I think I read a wrong meaning into a statement he made. We had a fight about it, then he said hurtful things and I called him an asshole. He's older

Truvel:
Don't Just Assume Like Dat Cuz, U Don't Know D State Of His Mind Too. Reconcile With Him, Tell Him U Were Sorry 4 All Dat Happened. See What His Reaction Would Be. If He Accepts U Fine, If He Doesn't Den Move On With Ur Life.

Thanks

Truvel:
If U Still Want Him Back, Reconcile With Him. Tell Him U Were Sorry. There Is No Big Deal There.

Don't think he wants me back tho

Truvel:
Were U D One Dat Broke Up With Him Or He Was D One?

It was mutual. We had a fight, hurtful words were exchanged and we both decided to part ways.

Sorry to hear dearie. This is the same situation in my house, only difference is that my dad is living in a different state with his other wife.
I've seen that there's little or nothing one can do in these situations.
No one should even mention prayers cos we've been doing that for over a year. Didn't work

Skyfornia:


Get another boyfriend to replace him and move on..it is not a do or die affair

Will check the local supermarket to see if any is on sale

My boyfriend and I broke up 2 days ago. It hurt a lot. Can't stop thinking about him. I deleted his numbers and everything that reminded me of him. How does one get over someone?

Modified.
We talked about our issues. We've made up. Thanks for all the advice