swiswiioo:


If only I had that effect in real life .

For me, my woman's happiness is more important than my own. That's part of the reason why I needed to set this issue straight. I can't have a wife that I love dearly be upset about how she looks because of me.

But if I manage to find a wife who genuinely enjoys being fed and adding, maka chi I won't let her or anyone else forget the queen she is.

I'm not to exposed because of my upbringing. Haven't been out to too many places and things like that but I want to start. Most of the girls I've meet I met in class, work, gym etc. I'm not to familiar with picking up girls outside.

They're not scarce but they're hard to find young, single, and unmarried it seems. Maybe I've not been to the right places.

If I try online should I be upfront? Is it something I should say before an in person meeting or should I save it?

Would you still feel uncomfortable if the size was after years of marriage and kids and your husband still adored you?

If you wanna try going out to meet people, I would suggest places like malls, especially the food courts, then ice cream shops like coldstone, could sit in the parking lot for a while and see if your spec comes around, could try regular eateries, even church, parties too.

If you wanna try online, you don't have to go into too many details, could just mention that you're looking to meet a big girl...


If I'm done with kids and I'm a bit big, if my husband loves and adores me that way, I might consider retaining the shape, not to an obese extent tho

swiswiioo:


Yes I do, but I figure they're not as big as what maybe some people imagined in their heads. Like I don't mind a girl starting out average size or even slim, but that's where I'd like to see her one day.

But yeah I understand. I have no issue with reaffirmation. I'm not afraid to be in public with a big woman. She's like a badge of honour for me honestly. So long as she doesn't view me as a bad guy or reject my love, I can hype her to heaven and back.

That time frame makes sense. I hope it doesn't end up backfiring on me. Atleast if it happens early on, there won't be so much damage.

If I tried using dating sites or even something like this place, what would be advisable?



What about this one?

Lol you've got me wishing I'm a big girl now haha

There's a thread on the dating section to meet BBW women. I think you could also try Tinder, you might get lucky. Are you an outgoing person? Like do you go to different places where you can meet people? I didn't know chubby girls are scarce lol

Personally I don't like the idea of letting myself get fat sha. Might be able to add a few kilos but it wouldn't be anywhere near those women in those pics

swiswiioo:


These are excellent! Such a hot and confident way to explain my desires. If only I had you around giving me pointers years ago .

What point in the dating process should I say it outright? I still feel like I shouldn't say it too early or too late before it seems somehow.

So out of curiosity, if I guys you really like gives you this treatment, would you add for him?

The fattening process is not like a goal, I just generally like seeing them get bigger. It's a passive thing. Maybe the end goal they stagnate but not because we've reached a point where we actively stop.

I would love for my wife to end up around somewhere between these sizes after we've finished having children.

Dayuum...you really like them BBW

Since its a gradual thing that will happen over a long period of time, you're going to have to keep letting her know that you find her sexy and one way to do that is by going out together, being seen together outside, holding her hand in public. That would make her know you're proud of her size. When she sees how much you love her body, I doubt she'll feel unhappy

I would say you should talk about it after a few dates...when you both know you wanna keep seeing each other

swiswiioo:


I honestly didn't think there was another way. It felt like being straight forward about it would be a sure way to end a courtship, so I just tried being a caring and suggestive as possible. That's why I decided to come here and ask because I want to get married and don't want to risk running into the same issue with a woman I want to marry.

I always try my best to make a girl feel loved sha. I know people are hard on girls who are fat or adding weight, so I try to counteract it and outlove the prejudice. But I'll feel guilty she's unhappy about all these things meanwhile if not for me feeding her she probably wouldn't have added in the first place.

I think your advice is the best course of action though. Along with maybe starting with girls who are chubby.

So if you're getting to know a guy and he says the things you mentioned, you won't feel someway?

As long as we've established a loving relationship, hearing him say those things wouldn't make me uncomfortable. The Ibo guy I dated talked like that sometimes. He would be like, "when your people see you they won't recognize you again" and he would always smile and compliment me. As long as you make her feel sexy, she might not mind. I hope you aren't thinking of a continuous fattening process tho. Like would you want her to reach a certain size and stop?

When you guys are starting to get comfortable with each other, you could politely ask, "Babe, to be very honest with you, dating me means I'm going to pamper you and you're going to gain some weight...are you comfortable with that?"

swiswiioo:


It's not like I expected them to read my mind. I just figured it's an awkward weird thing to say outright. The way I've always hope it works is I take my girl out, spoil her, fatten her up. Then if she starts commenting on it I'll tell her how beautiful and attractive her fuller shape is. How I can't resist her and haven't been so drawn to her in my life. She'll be happy and then I can come out and say I'd like to see her add more. But it's never worked out like that, usually they just get upset that they've added and I like it.

But I like what you mentioned though. It's a good way to say it without it being awkward. It's even flirtatious and sexy sef . I just want her to be happy and comfortable with her size, even if she's bigger.

It seems people are telling me girls that are already plump are the way to go. What happened in the movie?

Dude when you keep doing things the same way without yielding the desired results, the logical thing to do is to change tactics. The way you're doing it already isn't good. Just follow my advice. Waiting for a girl to gain weight and then telling her you like her that way isn't nice. It feels like you're just saying things to make her feel better in her ears.



In the movie, there was a big woman. She was beautiful but her husband didn't appreciate her and was cheating on her. She started feeling worthless, then she met a handsome fit guy who loved her and made her feel sexy. She became happier, her mood improved and she started loving her body the way it was. Her ex husband later saw her and even wanted her back but she moved on

swiswiioo:


If only the enthusiasm was real.



Okay I understand what you mean.
I just wouldn't think it would be necessary because I think it would be obvious that if you're always being taken out and fed your clothes will get tight on you. It's not like I forced the pizza and ice cream down their throats. I figured that with the fact I find them more attractive bigger would be enough to "connect the dots" so to speak.

But if you think being open about it is better I can try it. But won't a woman run from the hills if a guy she's dating tells her in the beginning "see I want to be feeding you and watching you add"

You know that no one can read minds. Guys take their babes out all the time, but they don't secretly hope that the girls will gain weight. Your desire is quite uncommon so I'm surprised you expect the girls to know what you're thinking. A way to let her know what you want is to smile and tease her from time to time saying, "babe please eat up, I like it when my woman gains weight and adds flesh". You can say it from time to time, that way, when she starts getting bigger, she'll know you like it. You can now say, "yea just how I like it" lol

Also, I think its better to go for girls that are already chubby. They might not mind adding extra kilos. I think a woman will feel comfortable with her weight no matter her size as long as her man makes her feel sexy. If you've watched "why did I get married", you'll get what I mean

[quote author=swiswiioo post=97027315]


The only thing I haven't told them is that I don't just like them bigger but actually enjoy making them bigger.


/quote]

My point exactly. Be completely upfront. Tell her exactly what you want. Don't tell her you love her size AFTER she's already gained weight. Any girl would be upset by that. Let her know before the weight starts coming. Let her know the kind of guy you are

One surefire way to cure an addiction is to get a new one. You need to meet someone else. Hang out and mingle with another person. It will take your mind off this married man. It will hurt but with time, you'll get over him

[quote author=swiswiioo post=97026422]

This is what I replied the person who asked me the same question

Yes I have. I didn't tell them I was trying to make them fat, but I told them I loved the extra flesh and all of that.

It didn't help. In my experience it usually it just makes them feel worse. One of my ex's even got mad at me for saying it.

You're not going about the communication the right way. It even seems shady not telling them and just feeding them. Let her know from the Start that you love big girls. Compliment her frequently. Let her see you admiring her. Smile when you look at her.

I'm curious tho...how fat is too fat for you?

swiswiioo:


That is usually not a problem for me. The issue I have is once they start adding they start becoming unhappy.

I want to know how I can be in a situation where both my future wife and I can be happy.

did you try communication? Assuring them that you love them that way?

swiswiioo:


Please ooo where can I find someone who finds such endearing

I didn't realise it was an Igbo thing. But yes that is how I feel about it partly. I really want to take care of my woman well. I cannot feel satisfied as a man if I don't.

In which relationship does a well taken care of woman not add

Why not just go for fat girls then? They will eventually get fatter after having babies anyway...

swiswiioo:


We're you unhappy being with him becyse he liked feeding you or because he was like your dad?

Also yes I'm Igbo. How did you know?

No I wasn't unhappy. I found it endearing. I think its something common with Ibo men. He always told me that the wealth of men in your tribe is meant to reflect in their loved ones. It gives them a kind of pride

Lol I've dated a guy like that. Felt weird cos sometimes he reminded me of my dad. Op are you Ibo?

AnnonymousCC247:


I know what am saying ma’am/sir. Poor pig

Mumu. NellyFrancis157 and LadyTianna are the same thing abi??pathetic scammer

AnnonymousCC247:

You are the person that disguised as a girl to beg me money isn’t it? Wahala really b like bicycle

Lol you're pathetic mehn. Post evidence of your lies or stfu

I knew it. I said it earlier in his thread when he posted rubbish stories to gather gullible followers

Goodlyhrt:
The author forgot to tell you that the percentage of people that will get to enjoy such happiness a just few.

One needs to make a conscious attempt to experience any form of happiness. Its not magic and its attainable for everyone who desires it

For data and recharge card

Nairalandian:

You really need to toughen up oo

Ahn ahn

How will you cry when they are flogging another person

Lol I was feeling their pain. The director was too harsh

When I was in secondary school, our director once called two boys out during assembly to punish them. He made them kneel with their feet facing the sky and he flogged their feet. I felt so horrified that I cried

Another time, I was trying to get a refund from a government hospital and the women frustrated me to the point that I burst into tears...got my money back in the end, but I was so embarrassed.

Chai there are more o...I need to toughen up

There's a book I read recently called "Delivering Happiness". The author stated that there are 3 kinds of happiness. Pleasure, passion and higher purpose. He said that the mistake most people make is pursuing the shortest form of happiness, which is pleasure. Pleasure in terms of alcohol, drugs, sex, parties etc. This type of happiness wears away very quickly and you find yourself repeating the cycle over and over again.

There's nothing wrong in wanting to experience pleasure now and then. But if you want to be happy for a relatively long time, you need to pursue the longest form of happiness which is your higher purpose. The thing that you think you were created to do.

People need to understand that happiness is not just a feeling. Its a way of life...

The ignorance of most Nigerians is truly appalling. Someone has a psychological problem that's affecting her sexual life, yet see the foolish things that grown people are typing. Smfh

Frustrated007:
better dump her.
What value can she possibly bring into your life asides sex?
And if she can't even fulfil that, my brother she's of no use to you.
A woman is primarily the source of most problems men face in life..
I want this statement etched in your head.

You don't need a woman to be happy!!!

Just look at this fool. A woman who helped him get out of the country is useless to him, someone he claims supports him and is a good person. Ode ni e

Since you're not in Nigeria, why not take her to a sex therapist? Would help address the problem from the root. She might not be comfortable talking to you about it cos she feels you might not understand...but it could be different with a professional.

Blessing1142:
I totally messed up by falling in love I was confused by prove you love me I was stuck between choose me or leave me I am still a kid I didn't know much about my actions but now he impregnated me and traveled my family dump me already am left with my life in my own hands fading away am confused now I tried but am getting tired I can't keep up anymore what should I do please advice me.

Hello dearie. Sorry that you're all alone. To be honest, the pregnancy is already too far gone to be contemplating an abortion. There's a chance that there'll be many complications. If you truly cannot raise the baby, there's always the option of putting it up for adoption. You could talk to the nurses at the clinic or a matron at an orphanage and ask if they know any couple in need of a baby. If you find one on time, they might be willing to sort your medical bills. I wish you luck and strength dearie. People make mistakes, its part of human nature

PUSSYHOE:


Kai why God give Nigerian men dyslexic hoes like this only make up and sex them sabi. So females in my family is the same with gf or wife? Get out of my thread, go and wash your pussy is it weekend it will be use to make money.

Lmao. What a re.tard. You typed family and friends. Are the female friends you mentioned also part of your family?? Ode

Many of Una nor even get money sef, so you're useless all round. Understand that Nigerian women are not the cause of your problems in life and know peace ok

PUSSYHOE:


yes I can, many men has done it , moreover lot of female family and friends surround me who are willing to assist without alimony or nagging or manipulation to do it.

You have contradicted yourself with this post tho. All a woman can offer you is sex, yet same you is claiming to have female family and friends to help you. Help you with what biko? Many of you boys of nairaland don't think properly before posting trash

Men, know this. You're a problem to women too, just that we need you for money lol

Its only after menopause that women stop getting wet during sex and therefore require lubricant. If a woman above 25 didn't get wet for you, you probably weren't doing it right

And before you say something stupid, I'm not up to 25 yet, but unlike you I read about the human anatomy

[quote author=Powerfly post=96931313][/quote]

Alright. I wish you luck in your new found way of life dear.

Powerfly:
i see alot of you are looking for a tall, curvy/handsomely built, intelligent, eloquent speaking, smooth skin, fine face and God fearing young lady/man to commit fornication with that might lead to marriage.
But how does one fear God yet still vehemently refuse to keep to his commandments and obligations? How?
How do you really demmstrate that love and fear for him?
Simply say you're looking for a fervent and regular church-goer who knows how to blast in tongue.. Because at the end.. You can decieve ur fellow man.. But you can't decieve or mock God!.

Its funny the way you switched so suddenly from a free spirited unapologetic lesbian to a radical Christian. So what happens now when you see a cute girl? I'm genuinely curious. You make it seem like people can mentally condition themselves to be gay or straight. I know you'll say everything is possible through Him that lives in you. Will you marry a man when you're older? Do you believe that you'll be happy if you do?

The way people are dying these days is really scary...
If you wanna do something, just do it now and stop postponing....