Children at this age are "monkey see, monkey do". They're basically a blank slate and what they see around them is what they'll assume to be the norm. Do you and your wife kiss in front of her? No matter how sly or fast you think you were in the kissing, desist from it if you don't want her to replicate your actions. You can do kisses on the cheek or forehead for her to know show of affection is okay but it's not okay to go around kissing strangers. Also make sure the movies you watch don't have those things and family/friends don't do them in her presence.

Back when my niece was going on 2, there's this pantosaurus video her mom usually puts for her. It goes "what's in your pants belongs only to you, your pants cover up your private parts.... if someone asks to see just tell them NO!" The video is hilarious but very educative and catchy. It's been stuck in my head for more than 3 years now. And it was acted out. Showing them such videos will help. Children are very innocent. You have to train her now so it'll stick. It's never to early to start this kind of education for your kids whether male or female. A lot of pedophiles seeking their next prey in this world o.

For the disobedience part.. you never see something. You'll vow never to beat kids and encounter the greatest temptation of your life. It's hard but try not to beat. It's because you were beaten that your mind is first going to that line of action. Discipline does not mean beatings. You can take away her favourite toy, stop her from watching her shows, sit in a corner, face the wall or tell her she won't follow you to whatever place she likes visiting (like grandpa/ma's house/park/farm/supermarket etc) till she apologies/cleans up her mess. Don't beat o because one day she'll either become immune to such beatings or she'll challenge you when she's grown. Let's not even talk of the trauma and self esteem issues beatings give children. You want your child to be free with you and not fear that Daddy will beat her till she sees stars.

Also, she's still very young. This is what they do at this age. My niece that's currently 6 eh.. I've seen shege in her hands. What I normally do is give myself timeouts when she annoys me too much or shout at her I absolutely hate beating children and seeing them get beaten. The best part is the child will eventually seek you out and apologise when their tantrum passes. Children like affection and being cuddled. Once you shout at her or punish her and she begins to cry, just give her 5 mins, she'll come and hold your leg and be crying. That's your cue to pick her up and then talk to her. Talking to them in the midst of their tantrum is useless. Wait till it passes.

AndroidAI:
The day I get a girl child in my life, i will weep terribly, then look for a way to give her up for adoption. A girl child will only bring sorrow, depression and anxiety to her parents. If you like use a soft or iron hand, it won't solve anything. She will end up being what she wants to be. But ensure she's not been sexually abused by an uncle or aunty. 3 years is too small. Also, mind the kind of movies you watch, thinking the little girl doesn't know anything. Also, desist from kissing your wife in her presence. Even some parents knack in front of their kid thinking she's too small to understand what's going on. It's well.

You'll weep when you get a girl child but you want to marry someone else's girl child

HeavenVGate:

That's too expensive. It hasn't gotten that bad na. That shouldn't pass 1k anywhere in Nigeria.

Are you in Nigeria? That price OP posted is what is obtainable in the market (at least where I stay). It's 1,200 to 1,800 depending on your haggling ability.

So no payment was made today..

JJuanMiguel:

Ok
Maybe i miscalculated.
February 14, they declared 1 month warning strike.
March 14, they added 2 months
May 14, they added 3 months
I was just following that trend.

They were actually declaring them in weeks. But because that first one was 1 exact month, we just started counting in months.

ManDZzz:
Hi dear Nlanders, I received CAS from the university I applied to yesterday after accepting the unconditional offer. Am I suppose to accept the CAS or what? Pls I need to be enlightened on this CAS stuff. Thanks to you guys as I anticipate to hear from you.

You need to apply for a visa with the CAS. Migrate to UK Student Visa thread.

Queensee:


Ohk!


We have this lecturer taking us Eco in my school.

Eco is filled with calculations which are not self explanatory.

Our lecturer will come into the class, and just flip through the pages. He barely spends 30 minutes during a two hours lecture program.

Calculations will remain unsolved.


He won't even bother about maintaining orderliness in the class before he starts lecturing, and he does not give a damn if everyone can hear him speak.

There's always high record of mass failure in his courses. (I feel D, E and C are failure)

We usually have low percentage of students getting A or B

How do you justify that?

This must be Mathematical economics. I'd advise you find Schaum Peter series or alpha chaing books on the subject. Schaum really breaks it down.

ojun50:
The primary 5, 6 and SS 3 wey some of una jump ASUU don make an useless.


THIS LIFE NO BALANCE

This comrade sef please off your mic

Wallflower01:


Ah. I heard some new and old awardees in UNN were paid today

Seems they started paying today. They've not reached old awardees yet

Asadeeq30:
I heard that they have paid UNIJOS, UNN and others. How true it is

I'm in UNN. We never see shishi

MMalone:

Award year

OK thanks

MMalone:

She’s the only one paid that I know of. We both were not paid last year

Okay.. do you mean admission year 2018/2019 or award year 2018/2019

MMalone:
Sorry I can’t get a screenshot. She’s my classmate though

What bank does she use? Was she the only one paid?

thebosstrevor1:



My point is simple, the man is right..maybe we need to look into local production

No nation can be self sufficient

thebosstrevor1:


He is right

Inflation is what matters

Is your salary in dollars.

The only people who are supposed to be worried are importers, people travelling abroad, people paying for school fee abroad etc

Who are the importers selling to? Don't you think the importers will pass on the cost to their customers? Who are their customers if not Nigerians? The people paying school fees abroad are converting their naira to dollar. For those that legit earned their naira, dont you think it would pain them? The school fees are even more expensive for them. If they budgeted $10k 5m when $1=N500 and now $1=710, don't you see there is a shortfall? For those that looted their naira, they will have to loot even more naira to meet the dollars required.

Also, inflation can be caused when cost of production goes up. As Nigeria imports most goods it means that invariably, cost has gone up. These things go hand in hand. You can't expect purchasing power of a weak currency to be high especially when the country imports way more than it exports.

It's majorly because of the political and economic situation in Nigeria. Insecurity has a lot to do with it. Foreign investors are trying to recoup their losses. The country is very unstable. Plus the mad policies CBN keeps bringing out. I honestly don't know where that Governor got his own econ degree from. Demand for dollar keeps increasing and there's no supply of it.

They've successfully emptied Excess Crude account.. something that could've been used to help the naira

Omo! Speechless

Richy4:

Is this a case of hyperbole.. how many subjects were they offering as junior students?

Does it mean Students offers up to 13 subjects ?... I mean how can they remember everything?

In ss1 I offered 15 subjects. I think it was the same number in JSS.. or perhaps 16

sinkhole:
The Man dey Nigeria?
I think the man dey Liberia dey give lecture for dere o

E de give lecture on how to tackle insecurity meanwhile them don de kidnap soldiers for naija

RealLagosBoy:


It's not true. He has finished his 5BEDROOM DUPLEX in the village from the money he is earning over there. He relocated to Uk in 2015.

My wife has been working since 2016 but doesn't have upto 500k as her savings.

£1200 since 2015? Your cousin did not tell you the truth. It is not possible to be earning £1200 per month in the UK and have enough left after meeting all your expenses to build a duplex. £1200 is not even up to minimum wage assuming its broken down to hourly earnings. Besides he is living there and paying bills there. So stop converting the income alone to Naira.

RealLagosBoy:
My cousin who is a nurse in UK earns roughly £1200 per month which is equivalent to N810k compare it to my wife that earns 96k here in Nigeria.

Your cousin is working there and not in Nigeria. Of what use is it to compare? When house rent alone can finish that money �

FatimaMK:
Final list is not yet out and you are talking about documentation? Documentation is for the successful applicants sir.

Ohhhh.. thanks

FatimaMK:
Oga don't argue on this. Many of my students got it in 2019 and I was the one who documented them when PTDF comes to my school. We discussed extensively on the selection process for both undergraduates and postgraduates. May be they used aptitude test before, but as far as last set of beneficiaries is concerned, it was application performance PTDF used.

Please has ptdf done this year's UG documentation? Just to get an idea when the list would be out

Dryoung1:
The final list will be out this week.....

Please is your source verified? Also would it be OSS and LSS plus undergraduates or only OSS?

yomi961:
The only solution is to vote out the demonic party.
They are not ready to listen.they only care about the elections since their children are not in government schools

This No. 11. How ironic �

Victoria ascerta!

Sinkhole is there hope? How far boss?

megastu:
Yes DM for pictures. It is a good AirBnB to stay for a short time while hunting for a more permanent house. It is 600 CAD per week with further discounts if staying for 2-3 months. Fully furnished, room, sitting room, dining, kitchen, bathroom and toilet and all inclusive.

600 cad per week? 2,400 per month for 1 bed Basement apartment?

MMalone:
What’s actually the problem please. Who can reach to them

I feel they've assumed we don't need it since ASUU is on strike. Or perhaps no means of verifying our results since NASU is also on strike.

140 out of 400? Oh wow. Sha, I trust some uni's that'll set high cut-off. I'm sure UNN will cut their normal 310+ for medicine. But where are the new students going to stay? We currently have 2 sets of 100l students pending

So it's because Aviation workers said they'll go on their own strike to show support to ASUU that all of them are waking up??

Jman06:
Your post reeks of ignorance!

A professor's work is not just to teach but also to carry out research and community services. None of these three aspects is easy nor comparable to works of a primary school teacher!

A professor teaches not only undergraduate students but also postgraduate students( Masters and PhD students). He also examines and marks their exam scripts. He supervises undergraduate and postgraduate (MSC and PhD) students during their research projects etc. Go to a typical Nigerian university and see the multitude of students a professor has to teach in a class!

A professor also has to carryout researches and publish the outcomes in reputable journals ( local and international) before he can earn his promotion. It costs a lot of money -- sometimes in hard currencies, to publish research works. Not to talk of the money spent carrying out the research. Materials like reagents, machines etc are quite expensive (where they are available at all in Nigeria). Sometimes, they are bought from overseas and you can imagine the financial implications.

Professors also carryout community services. You may doubt it, but when problems arise in the community, professors in universities are usually called in to proffer solutions. It happened during COVID19, even though they were not properly engaged the way they should due to our corrupt political system. Another instance of where professors get engaged to solve problems in the community is during poisoning outbreak. For example, there was once an outbreak of heavy metals poisoning in a state in the northern part of the country. Professors from ABU were called upon and they helped in confirming that it was actually Lead (a heavy metal) and that the source was actually from mining activities taking place there. The list goes on.

Let's also not forget that it typically takes a BSc, MSc and PhD to be in the cue for consideration for appointment as a professor while one typically needs just an NCE or at best a B.Ed to be employed as a primary school teacher. Go figure the cost of doing MSc and PhD in this country in terms of time, energy and financial commitments. Let's keep BSc out of the equation.

So, let's not be biased in our judgment of issues. Though the importance of primary school teachers should not be be underestimated, they should never be compared with the university professors. They're miles apart!

What research and community services have they rendered? Who has felt the impact? It is useless to produce work that nobody needs/reads/can even find. All these "reputable journals" were started by somebody. What's stopping them from having their own? With time and quality work, won't it become reputable too?

I dont know about you but in my school, it's mostly the postgraduate students that teach the undergraduates on behalf of "their professors"

Why don't these professors apply for grants for their research work? Is that not how its done in the West? They probably won't/don't apply/get grants because the research most of them do is of no relevance especially in the Social sciences/Arts etc. They just keep recycling the same work.

Also in those countries they keep trying to emulate, their universities are not wholly funded by the government. The professors there bring in funds to carry out their research and even pay postgraduate students to either teach/research. The only thing the government does is set a constraint/subsidise the fees undergraduate students are charged for their program. If ASUU insists universities must be autonomous, they should be autonomous in full. You can't do want you want and expect someone else to pay for it! They're being paid with taxpayers money and are keeping taxpayers children at home.

A quick Google search would've shown the source of the lead poisoning. Fact is; for workers in the public sector (not just ASUU), most times, their output doesn't justify the pay. It is hypocritical of ASUU to demand to be paid on similar levels of their counterparts in developed countries when this country is nowhere near developed. Are they the only public workers in the country? Why do they keep insisting on UTAS? Why can't they fix the problems with IPPIS and make it like their dear UTAS? After the 9 month strike of 2020 they're giving us another 6 months strike and you say they render community services? How chaotic would it be if all sectors had their own payment system?

The cost of doing BSc, Msc and PhD shouldn't pass 8/9 years in total but because of these same professors that'll go on strike, "sex for grades", "sorting" and all sorts of rubbish, people can't even estimate how long they'll stay at BSc level. Whose fault exactly is that? Student ID card has expired yet somebody is still a student.

In as much as FG is to blame here, ASUU should stop painting themselves as saints. Always talking about money that was looted as if they don't commit their own sins. Infact their meetings should be aired live on TV so the public will know what's actually going on. It's not to come out after meetings and say "agreement is on President's desk" and Ngige will reply that there's no such thing.

Jman06:
Stop comparing a professor with a primary school teacher! The scope of work and qualifications are wide apart.

A primary school teacher teaches the foundation of all subjects. You'd see one person teaching maths, English, computer, French and even religious subjects to small children that don't know right from left. But a professor concentrates only on an aspect of a subject.

The professor might have just one or two classes in a day then it's back to the office for them (that's if they even come). Primary school teachers stand on their feet all day! They even supervise lunch breaks. Have you ever spent a whole day with a child between the ages of 5 and 10 that's not yours? Do you know how active they are? Now imagine when you're in charge of a class that's 15+ in number, imagine getting them to keep quiet and learn. At the end of the month you're paid less than minimum wage and someone that's earning way more than what you're earning is keeping your own children at home and wasting your money. The structures in public secondary schools are even worse than those in the universities

What do these professors even do? Who reads their work? When Oxford professors and scientists were working on the AstraZeneca vaccine, where were they? Now they want to earn what those people are earning. Always complaining their pay is low when the entry level pay is like 150k per month (500% of minimum wage) as if its not what's obtainable in the public sector.