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Only Africans and especially Nigerians see marriage as destiny. You see a graduate of chemical engineering who has never engineered a chemical gets pressured by parents to "settle down" even before young guy is 30. Is why we have low GDP because few have any ambitions beyond just getting married. The pastors elevated marriage to the status of destiny and the mostly half-educated followers bought it. Not everybody will be married, not everybody will have children, not everybody will be poor, not everybody will live long, I don't know what else to say to our people

khia:
Some people hold degrees but are very ignorant about life. Some people are book smart but couldn't find their way out of a paper bag. Some people lack self esteem and feel their race is inferior to all other races. These people are considered educated idiots.

There's no way I can converse with you I don't argue with entitled illiterates. When i was working paid employment I appraised the work of different races so I don't have race issues you are the one with the crap. Keep quiet and you might just begin to learn for the first time in your life. Should be ashame of yourself being dumb in america, you'd be an invalid if in a country like Nigeria

humilitypays:
The op is writing jargons!! Complete nonsense!!



He should change the topic to:

My Bad Experience Dating Nigerian Women Living in America!!!


Most Nigerian guys living abroad are their own problem, they are the reason Nigerian ladies show them pepper once they land abroad.


These guys will never tell these ladies the truth of what they do and how much they earn.


They will be saving money for months or years and maybe after some years they gather the cash which is hard currency, change it when they land Nigeria and it becomes huge money in Naira and they start to spend it anyhow forming rich guys when they are just nobody in the US but because of exchange rate difference and good environment they stay to snap pictures and post online to deceive these Naija based ladies, these ladies assume them to be rich guys working with US President lol.


On arriving the US after they use money they don't even have much to entice and lure these ladies into marriage, these ladies discover that these guys are like the downtrodden people, the lowest of lowest in the US and you know women, they feel betrayed and start to harbor anger against these guys that brought them to the US and these guys will never tell people the truth of what happened, they will start telling people that the Nigerian girl they married and brought from Nigeria no longer respect them, how can she respect you when u lied to her from the beginning and used fake life and lies to lure her into marriage

A lot of truth here, thanks for bringing this often ignored perspective to light, guys also have their blame

Juliusmalema:
That's good.

Education and Technology remains the key in China and they are using it well...

Ghana on her own has advanced so much through technology that the country is now the envy of many. Even Nigerians now toil day and night to get Ghanaian visa. Education in Ghana study is what an average Nigerian child always cries to go to Ghana and get it soundly.

Tanzania is another country moving in the right direction. The president has once again shown that Tanzania are forces that can't be toiled with.

Is it Namibia, Botswana or Rwanda..These are countries moving in the right direction. They knows what they want and are going for it.


What about the Rainbow nation, the pride of Africa herself. The melting point of africa. South Africa has in all in all shown the capacity to lead Africa.

Senegal is rising same as Madagascar...

When chips are down, God bless East Africa and those contributing to her greatness.



China needs to be applauded for doing great job in managing the pandemic.

China should be applauded for deceiving the world and WHO into believing that person-to-person transmission was impossible right? China should be applauded for refusing to share the sample of the first isolated virus with others right? So China should be applauded? I'm speechless

4four:
we had been shouting birth control for some years now in south but my brothers down north will be telling us that it against their culture. How can we help this kind of situation, and all of us as Nigerians are suffering or paying for this ignorant or stupidity of some peoples

Because of uncontrolled birth rate Nigeria has forever lost the chance to snap out of poverty, poverty will never leave this country

opalu:
This is a sad story:

A man in Kano went to a foodseller.
He had not eaten in 3 days.
He begged the seller for food on credit.

The foodseller said no because he already gave food to too many people on credit.

The man sat down beside the foodseller’s shop as he had nowhere else to go.

The foodseller told him he’s very sorry and he would like to help but too many people in the neighbourhood have collected food on credit and his business is sinking.

The man sat there and said nothing.

As time went on, other people came into the shop to buy foodstuff and went out- they noticed the man at the door sitting there sleeping. But nobody bothered.

Until one man came later in the day and asked the foodseller: “who is the man sitting at your door?” “Why is he there?”

Then the foodseller said “oh it’s a man who says he has not eaten for 3 days and he wants to collect food on credit but I could not give him because my business is struggling from all the credit I have already given out”.

Then the other man said: “How much is the food he wants?”

The food seller said “It’s a few cups of garri, rice and beans. Everything may be 2,000 naira”.

The other man said “Alright pack everything he wants and more. I would pay for it. Let him go home to his family and eat”.

The foodseller packed all the food and went outside to tell the man with joy that someone has paid for his food.

He saw the man still sleeping.
He tapped him to wake him up, he didn’t respond. Tapped him again, nothing.

The man had died.
He died sitting and waiting for help.

This happened just few days ago in Badawa, Kano. Some people who live in that area know this story.

The man was dead all along while people were coming in and out of the shop thinking he was sleeping.

He died hopeless. He died helpless. He died a man who his country failed.

Kano has 17 million people.
Less than 200,000 people got any form of palliative from the government.

Many people got hungry.
Many people died in their houses.
Many people starved to death from a govt that locked them in and gave no food.

An evil clueless thoughtless leadership.

If you know anyone in this period who is hungry around you and you can afford a little food or money to give him/her, please do.

Many people are walking the streets with an empty stomach, a sorry face and are dead within. It’s only a matter of time before they physically die.

Don’t be the one who walks into a store and doesn’t bother to ask about the beggar at the door.

We all have our problems yes,
But our little curiosity may save a life.

Be the one who asks “who is that person sitting there?” Be the one who helps.
And be the one who saves a life.

DrOlufunmilayo

The msg that we should be our brother's keeper is a good one but there are situations that call for deeper understanding and this is something difficult for most Nigerians. Do you really think the govt of a poor country like Nigeria can pay palliative to even a quarter of its citizens? Is Kano supposed to have 17M people? what is their GDP? Is Nigeria supposed to be 200M, what do we have that we are having 200M people? If the 2020 budget is shared equally to each person are you aware you will not get more than N36,000? Even Angola with only about 30M people has a bigger budget than Nigeria, who will explain to Nigerians how really really poor this hopeless country is even without corruption? I'm happy to help the needy but how many can we help if our population continues to spiral out of control? If we had leaders population control would have been the first issue to tackle but we got none

Ebere044:
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Afangas with pride. Anyways, you're welcome. I'm glad I could help. And for the record, English is not our mother tongue, it's a borrowed language, so that means, no matter how you and I may study it. We will still do mistakes one way or the other. I am not claiming or didn't claimed professor, it was you who initiated " I too sabi attitude " whereas your English is zero.

I teach both German and English language. I no be your mate. I can tell with no doubt, that I am more educated than you are. No try me.

Hahahahaha, I see you typed this one though with clenched teeth, hahahahaha. So he thinks he's a real prof now despite the quote marks, eyaa. I know who will type the next one so I won't answer again until the helper has left Alaba area

Ebere044:
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"I'm sure the person "who" quickly and wrongly coached him. Please stop stressing me na.

"Who" is a relative conjunctive pronoun of a person. " what" for a thing, " where" for a place. All are Relative pronounce that connects two different sentences together. Relative pronoun most be same with the subject.

Please try small na, I'm sure one university mistakenly gave you certificate. Your English grammar, structure irritates

You dumb shaa....

Hahahaha, the bloke begging not to be assessed on his grammar just moments ago has turned 'professor' of English language overnight, hahahaha. I will only reply you at night when that JAMBITE helping you with google searches from clownish sentence checker sites has left your shop. Hopeless youth

Ebere044:
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Hide for what? From someone who can't differentiate between two different things? It's " don't or do not " not "dont" as you typed. "What kind of young people do we produce "nowadays " in this country" not the rubbish you typed. "Nowadays " is an adverb not a noun as you positioned it in your context!

Sis I'm busy abeg, because if I should continue with your c1 IELTS crap you typed ehh. You go swear for your English teacher.

Who gave this Alaba market shopkeeper a phone? Eyaa, I'm sure the person that quickly and wrongly coached him forgot to tell him what level C1 IELTS is, eyaa once more, eran oko

Ebere044:
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E pain am eyaa

Bro we neither comparing intelligent here, nor in a IELTS . To set the record straight, neither your grammar nor your structure will ever be better than mine. I choose to be former or informal and its left for you to discern which one is. I was informal early, doesn't judge my English capacity, but rather judge your lack of discernment.

Hope we clear on this ,Mrs .....
? Nevermind lol

"Bro we neither comparing intelligent here, nor in a IELTS, two errors in just one short sentence, that's poor really poor. The right use of the word is 'intelligence,' also dont say "a IELTS,' it's "an IELTS," kapish? Also dont say "former." it's "formal." So you are not aware it takes discernment to learn a language? So you have discernment? What an interesting clown! What kind of young people are we producing in this country nowadays? Imagine still talking instead of hiding and learning?

tiptoe1:
I don't think this is correct. He'll still need a minimum of 5million Naira to study in Germany. The money for block Account which is over €8000, application fee when applying to school and even visa fee and even travel allowance.

The 8k euro is only to show in your account 1-2 months prior to application, it doesnt have to be his money. 500 Euros can sustain any student in most places per month outside the major cities. We dont even know all about him but I think if he researches more he might get to know he;'s got more opportunities than he thinks

Ebere044:
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Ikr my bad. But you must be a woman to would've jump into conclusions without reading carefully.

Anything happy women's day

1. There's nothing wrong with being a woman your mother is one. There are women that have achieved what you will never achieve in life so drop that dumb perspective
2. Your wrong grammar has no meaning so giving it a meaning isn't hasty, it's helping you to understand the meaningless things you typed. If you take IELTS today I'm sure you won't pass even to a Malaysian inner city college.

Relax and read your post again, it's grammatically meaningless and anybody reading this already understands. Good luck

FiringSquad:
Hmmm, okay bro, why I'm asking is because ehn, considering the age gap (she's 40, I'm 23) she has nothing to lose, in Germany their men are only running after younger women in their 20s.

You already lost been born in our shithole country, she's a good choice for you just as you are for her. Give her love and leave her to do the thinking, don't be in a hurry, don't be in a hurry!

Ebere044:
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I swear you dumb shaa. Read my comment and yours again, like very carefully and tell me the difference?

Your certificate issa waste.

Oh I just reread it and saw what sense you were trying to make, your English is quite poor and you claim you have a certificate? No you should do better, very confusing use of wrong grammar

FiringSquad:
Okay bro, but I intend asking for her help financially, and would also use her influence to further my studies over there. Although I know how to go about this tricks without it seeming like I'm using her.
She's about 40 years old, but looks alot younger, I'm 23 years old

If you can afford going to SA to meet her then you definitely can afford uni education in Germany. Tuition is free at masters level in Germany and if you end up with her in Germany she most likely will support you in upkeep. Research your options in Germany you are better qualified than you think. Don't ask her for money focus on the love and she will give you more than money. Our scams have badly battered our image my brother you will understand later

Ebere044:
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For once I agree with you on this, not to make you feel any better but state the fact. White folks treats blacks like shit with discrimination and racism against we blacks.

They also thinks the world revolves around them. Yes the me be ratchet as you said but still have the most shit together than we blacks. They believe the world is theirs and try to keep it that way, the maintain their claims while we blacks reduce ourselves to the level of fight them ,just to prove we also superior, instead of earning it. You don't fight to be respected, but rather work and earn it.

That's why they will always regard us as second class citizens, because we fight to prove a point just like what you're exhibiting here. While they work to prove the that they're superior.

Stop arguing or fighting every comment. Make a different

You must be dumb to argue about who is superior, so you are equal to someone that has passed every exam you have continued to fail? Instead of you to acknowledge our past failures as a race then come together to chart new ways of thinking that will truly emancipate our race you are here deluding with an uncouth akata lady. Does Asians like South Korea, Singapore, China have any need to struggle for equality today? No! Because their achievement has done that, so what have us blacks achieved as a race? What? Tell me, another dimwit, watch how he will start preaching those lame self-love theologies now, tueh

excanny:
Yeah. I also think she's different from ur typical akata. And she's done everything in this thread to show that.

But thats not enough, she needs to teach her akata sisters to be good also.

Then we might change our minds about the typical akata.

The Khia lady isn't as educated as assumed by the OP, no college/uni educated person gets confused about credible statistics and not to even talk of attempting to replace such with her personal experience. Don't be deceived about her passable grammar any high school dropout can do that. She's proof of what the OP has been saying. She's the average fairly-educated AA, they think ALL native Africans don't know anything and that nairaland is an online community forum of farmers and goat herders, the sufficiently educated AAs know better. Khia is crap

jagorinho:
God will bless you for this, Africa has a lot of questions to answer from God, we wasted our talents, we have the best resources but we virtually did nothing with it, Congo Dr is one of the wealthiest country in terms if resources in the world, with its population, no citizen of that country should know poverty but reverse is the case, same story with most sub Saharan countries, most European countries have no tangible natural resources but they developed themselves and we die in droves just to get a sight of Europe via Mediterranean sea. we are basically the root cause of our problems, I hate it when people blame slavery for black underdevelopment, it is insane!!! why were we enslaved in the first place? why didn't we enslave them? we need to ask ourselves questions, king ghezzo of dahomey sold thousands of blacks to the Portuguese, dutch and French just for a third grade tobacco that was useless in Brazil and Portugal. we need to take responsibility for our inadequacies.

This is the kind of responsible reasoning that confuse most AA blokes like Khia or Kiaaa motors whatever. Only dumb people will fail to understand this

FiringSquad:
Please I need your suggestions on dating a German lady, so far we're good, she wants to meet me badly, I'm making plans sha, but I'm not bringing her to Nigeria, we agreed to meet in South Africa first.
She doesn't seem to be like the problematic type, she's obsessed over me, we talk alot, she laughs alot to my jokes and sarcasm, and confides in me.
Anyone with contributions for me to sieve and rinse would be greatly appreciated

Stay true to her and forget about all the dumb love scams we are known for it's bad luck and regret by the end. Stay true and you will be fine

khia:
I see you are extremely pained by the truth but I'm not interested in reading your long boring rant. Sorry!

From the moment you dispelled authentic stats as lies I already knew how vain and deluded you must be. Have met many of AA blokes and y'all mostly full of crap. Listen more to the likes of Jason L. Riley, he's your fellow AA only he's got a working brain unlike you uppity dimwits

I do not need to state my familiarity with the US but I can tell every young person here that you will ignore what the OP said at your own peril. I do not say AA women are the worst beings there are but the claims of the OP are true because it is based on a VERY HIGH PERCENTAGE WITH THE SAME RESULT OR OUTCOMES. Just like it is also true that NIGERIANS ARE POPULAR FOR IMMIGRANT FRAUD in the US EVEN THOUGH WE HAVE A VERY HIGH NUMBER OF LAW-ABIDING NIGERIAN IMMIGRANTS IN THE US. In fact the number of criminal nigerian elements are a fraction but the fact is that AMONG THE ENTIRE IMMIGRANT POPULATIONS WE PRODUCE A HIGH NUMBER OF CRIMINALS. So dont get angry if you are a honest nigerian and yet a foreigner refers to nigerians as fraudulent people - it's statistics speaking! If we were to wait until all nigerian immigrants turned criminal before we can talk then you will never talk at all because evey statement, every truth has an exception - all of it.
African Americans in general have a lot lot to learn, they fought for freedoms then decided to sit down and become entitled. All their thought leaders who are fearless have continued to rail against this but to no avail, and one trait common with them is that they never ever listen. If you live among them and your child returns from school to do homework his mates will jest that "yo playing white." so it's black not to read your book or do your homework. AA children of graduate parents do far worse in school than white kids of non-graduate parents from same school. AA embrace thug life, sports and entertainment, but show me a country that has moved from underdeveloped to first world through entertainment? The STEM fields are totally ignored by the majority of them. How do you spite whites by ignoring studies who does that?

khia:
Those Interlopers/identity theives/Culture Vultures in that fake Israel ancestors didn't go through slavery. It was the true Hebrews who went through slavery and suffering.

Those Jews (a religion not a race) ancestors were Jewish converts from the 9th century. Their ancestors came from Germany, Russia and Poland.

Another false claim. And the 6 million Jews that died in the holocaust of the 1940s were who? I observe you assume you are on a forum of less informed people than you are and hence you can dribble the facts and none will be the wiser. You are mistaken. I observe you dispel authoritative statistics while countering with nothing but your limited and personal experience. You told someone you were not surveyed and as such couldnt have been part of the data, how could you talk like that? I gather and process development data all the time and I have never had need to interact with every single subject! So who told you your data isnt visible to someone that has not physically interacted with you? What do you call the people on this forum?

And see where your logic is crap - ALL STATEMENTS ARE NECESSARILY GENERALIZATIONS AND GENERALIZATIONS ARE BASED ON STATISTICS. If a reasonably high number of something has a consistent outcome then it is ALMOST taken as fact and that is only logical. If someone said "if you are shot in the head you are dead," you will be silly to call his claim false because you know 1 bloke out of 100 who survived a head shot. Why you are silly is that you are trying to use exceptions to disprove a general rule or assumption! Yes you will find people that survive a head shot once in a while but what happened to the majority? So I put it to you that everything the OP said about AA women is true BASED ON DIFFERENT AND INDEPENDENT SOURCES OF INFORMATION that corroborate his claim. And to further prove his position you have acted out every single claim he put on AA women. You cant be the authoritative source of information on AA issues here on this forum, this is not one community forum in Nigeria this is nairaland. I think you should listen and stop condescending as you AA are used to

emkz:
One of you is or both of you are psychologically unprepared for a relationship. You cannot be attached to a human being who is not so into you, they'd mess you up. You need to break up and meet other people to understand the various dynamics of your partners and understand what you want or don't in a relationship. In other words, you need experience in heartbreak.

What exactly is your reason for being in a relationship with her? I once had a girl many years ago who could not say sorry. We called it quits because pride can destroy a relationship.

Clearly she is not so into him and has seen that he is a weakling who cant do without her. Also very proud and the OP feels lucky to have her and she is too sure of that. One day she will definitely slap his mother and still demand apologies. These are the sort of dumb boys making naija ladies feel entitled all the way. A simp

BlackShit:
You sound like you want to cry or something. You must be the voice and champion of women worldwide. Congratulations.

At least the guys are not pretentious about their needs, even if they have to 'buy' it. That's why men are go-getters, whatever the cost. We don't wait to eat only free food like your type.

The lady is telling you they don't need sex or experience sexual urges as much as men, and you're here crying out that they do. If they keep denying their sexuality then men will keep treating them like sex objects and sex commodities. Did they send you to come defend them?

Whatever pleasures women feel during sex are the ones men give to them. Meaning, a woman's sexual experience depends entirely on a man. They're almost sexually dead on their own. How many women can boast of an orgasm? Because their bodies are not as sexually responsive as that of men.

Oga, men are highly sexual beings. Sexual gods. You can go and cry on that.

Clap for yourself go-getter, getting pussy has become life ambition, eya, no wonder the lady OP is convinced all men are out of control. This teenager believes ALL MEN HAVE HIGHER LIBIDO THAN ALL WOMEN! Hahahahaha. Clap for yourself again for making pussy your next career pursuit, SMH. So women cant have orgasm on their own? Chidinma and cucumber stories didnt reach this one I'm sure. I know you are not more than 20 years and you have not had up to 2 GFs

BlackShit:
Because men are sex gods while you women are sex objects. You have very little or no sexual needs and only exist to satisfy men's sexual needs and carry their babies to continue their lineage.

Your only needs are money and food, and to satisfy a man whenever he needs you.

Imagine comparing yourselves to men and expecting men to become like you, when we already reside in an exulted, elevated plane.

You are the ones that need to upgrade your sexual response and attitude. If men were like you mankind would have gone extinct by now.

Nonsense

What a dumb brain this one has, so women have no sexual urge? That's what you think because of what you hear other dumb men say on SM? Eya women will continue to scam this one for his money for life. So many dumb young boys nowadays, I really like the smartness of these our fish-brained ladies - they sold the lie they dont like sex and can only take money as persuasion and the dumbos called boys keep parting with their money while giving the women what they enjoy even more than the men. MEN ARE SUFFERING THE CULTURE THEY THEMSELVES SET UP WHICH SAYS THE MAN SHOULD DO THE TOASTING SO THE WOMEN TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOU SINCE YOU ARE THE ONE THAT ASKED FIRST. In my university days had some sensible young men as course mates then - only few guys sent the ladies and by the time we had spent 4 years the ladies piped low and became very humble, just the way this lockdown is showing many of them pepper and they are now crying out to be sexed. Fooolish boys everywhere in this country, tufiakwa!

dukeprince50:
No matter how much a man loves u, he will be frustrated without sex and time will come when he will cheat, if the other girl gives him what u give him plus sex, there is a high chance he will dump u, or cheat without letting u know, men are sexual beings, u need to satisfy that part even if it's once a week or once in 2weeks, u just gotta open dat legs

So it's only men that need sex? Even the idiotic lady asking the question doesnt need sex? How naija guys became a special class of dumb shocks me, SO IT IS ONLY MEN THAT CRAVE FOR SEX? So because the culture says you should be the one to ask does that mean you are the ONLY ONE that want it? And the ladies are busy cashing in on the magas who cant deduce the lie. Smart boys already know how to approach women but the dumb ones continue to lose their money till kingdom come

My brother i dey oh, You know nairaland is now full of children and the topics keep getting more and more childish.
I no get time for herdsmen wahala oh. The issue isnt PMB's making but his response is too dull as usual so the looters have taken advantage of that to ridicule him. If a better and younger candidate fit come up i go vote am otherwise na still PMB till 2023. at least we are sure he doesnt loot the treasury.
hope u are well?

laudate:
Guy, where you dey since? Hope the herdsmen crisis in the MB did not get to your side?

Who is the joker that posted this? NSIA can NEVER NEVER NEVER employ any deluded child of an ordinary nigerian. It's even a shame their vacancy is being advertized - it dosent used to be this is abnormal. Anyway the candidates have already been chosen and working already I assure you. If your father is not among the who-is-who you are not even supposed to read this advert. I know a few guys that work in this place, interview is normally formality. Is like CBN under Sanusi, DPR and NDIC.
If your father is a nobody in nigeria just look for a country to go where u can be given a chance because of what u can do. 1000 years from now nigeria will still be a useless country

Katsina state university

lafuria1:
Which of the universities in particular, do you know anyone personally that was denied admission and it was because they were Christians?

Just luck, it happens. Pastor Godwin Ikyernum who established the popular new anointing church then in makurdi died in an accident between Gboko and Makurdi, nothing saved him. Africans easily attribute things to God or some invisible entity, low IQ everywhere

These are the kind of people that can move our dark continent forward, these are the people youths should be emulating and not Tonto 'Decay' or what Don jazzy ate last night. Useless youths in this country

Most virgins have poor attitude - its one of the qualities that kept them virgin. And dont worry I know your type, you will learn with time that a woman's value is not in virginity. I have been there before, it means nothing, absolutely nothing, as far a a woman still got body intact she's good any day. Anyway I have a 37yr old virgin cousin she works in kogi as teacher but her boobs have fallen to gravitational pull anyway, so if you still worship virgins I could link you with her

loshybab:
I presume u avoided the virgins not because you dnt dream of having a classic pleasure of tearing a hymen but partly because they don't tick other vital boxes of moral values.

As for me nitemi,i would pay a fortune for a well-cultured,cool-headed,religious and moderately endowed virgin lady








.....if i have the 'fortune' though!