₦airaland Forum

MetaPhysical:
Gully erosion is mapping out. It will shock you when it happens. You wake one day and see land parted and in middle is Biafran sea. It will bewilder you when it comes to fruition!

Stop wasting your time by having false dreams. You will be very disappointed when those dreams fail to come true...

Midas01:
Do you know that Onne seaport in PH has the highest throughput in Nigeria?
Even higher than apapa port? I guess you didn't Know that.

Don't mind those clowns. They keep shouting about the ports in Lagos, and ignore the major port in the SS like Onne port, which is closer to the SE. The Onne port has been functional and thriving for many years now, but they don't like talking about it.

Philistine:
Are you ok. The sea in Lagos is not owned by the FG, but by Lagos State. So what do u mean by federal govt seaport?

Seaports are on the exclusive legislative list, which means that the Apapa sea port and Tin Can Island sea port are exclusively owned by the federal government, and not the state govt.

veesion:
The seaports they are afraid to develop in the east
I tell people this country cannot excel with such level of injustice
It's not possible
With all that one would expect them to be light years ahead but not nothing to show for it.
The state instead is 80% slum,and I find it hard to understand why,but it's more or less karma.

Where is the sea, in the Southeast?? How can a seaport be sited where there is no direct outlet to the sea??

Corrosiveman:
The way Nigeria is structured it's obvious

Lagos does not belong to the Yoruba. Oba of Lagos.

You are right. It belongs to the Congolese, and the Japanese. Onye iberibe. .

lomprico:
Give SE just 'one' sea port and carry out this survey after 2yrs.

Where is the sea in the SE, that will host the seaport??

What happened to the massive underground parking lot beneath the MMIA airport? It used to be functional in the past, and passengers could take the lift, directly from the terminal to the basement car park. This helped to curtail traffic at the international airport.

What happened later? They closed it up and allowed it to rot. It is still there, empty and rotting away in darkness.

Next, they put in place passenger buses, to carry travellers from the airport to the open space car park, located several metres away from the building terminal.

Cars were parked in the open space car park, and intending travellers had to join the buses to the airport terminal to board their flights. This helped to curtail traffic.

After a while, those luxurious buses started breaking down, and only few ones were made available to passengers. Long queues then started to emerge.

Traffic management became a nightmare at the international airport, as all kinds of cars were allowed to drive straight up the ramp leading to the arrival and departure halls.

Until we get the fundamental basics right in this country, we will just waste time creating stupid rules to treat the symptoms, instead of curing the disease of traffic congestion, from the roots.

Focusmind:
They are under the influence of Diamond Bank. Women calls shot during Uzoma Dozie's rein. Since the merger with Diamond Bank, all the women's products in Diamond Bank migrated to Access Bank.

But honestly, this their merger was top-notch. The best I have ever seen. The branding and convergence is superb. Access practically adopted the Diamond Colors and it looks really cool. Even Diamond Bank staff were begged to stay but since Diamond had one of the best highly-skilled personnel in the banking sector, a lot of them were able to take position in other banks and companies.

There was no story of staff being laid off - Seamless and hassle free merger - kudos to the two teams.

Were you part of the transition committee after the merger & acquisition process was concluded? So where did you hear this story about how there was no staff laid off?? Oga, talk to the real people on ground in the banks o, before you start displaying hype on behalf of these banks, online.

wahles:
Maybe a constructive criticism would have been better. If you cannot see anything good about a policy or someone implementing it, how do you work with such a person if given the chance?

Then he shouldn't have been nominated in the first place. If the administration felt that he saw nothing good in their policies, then why select his CV and forward it to the House of Assembly for screening?

tiwiex:
Also, she was a kid and her family members including her mother told her to stand down. What does she know? Will she go to the police at that age or obey all the people she looks up too. She was 17 and a virgin. Everyone seems to miss that part. Which 17 year old virgin would invite a grown man to have sex in her parent's house?

Tell dem, o! And the man knew that her family members had travelled. So he obviously felt the coast was clear.

ChiefSweetus:
Sorry about your experience. I wish your aunt had been more courageous. Even registering such a case would stain the man's name in the annals of history, whether you get justice with the law or not. Imagine employers googling a name and it is associated with such abominable controversy and accusation. Lets start from there... Raypists deserve more than a drink poured on them. YOU SHOULD HAVE TOLD EVEN YOUR CLASSMATES WHEN THEY ASKED YOU. (sorry, not pretending to know how much courage you would need to out an abuser. God bless you. You are NOT to blame at all and the shame is with the arzzhole)

Rape victims are often stigmatized, trolled and castigated in this part of the world. There are very few support groups, and even fewer therapists that can be called upon for help. At the end of the day, when the victims think of the stigma and shame involved if everything gets publicised, they clam up. That is why you don't get to hear much about their experiences.

Ddeeda:
Reno Omokri do not speak about what you know nothing about, you are only making a fool of yourself.

I was raped in 2010.I wasn't a child infact I was studying for my masters degree in Unilag and I was raped by a classmate.
I met with him on the basis that he needed materials for his thesis and I had some, we had finished coursework then. We met at an eatery he then told me his house is just behind the eatery, that we should go there. I won't bother to justify my actions here, everyone is free to interprete it as they will.
He wass my classmate of over a year and he was married with a child, I felt safe.
So we went up to his house and he raped me. I fought and screamed. It wasn't at night but generators were running still I am not sure if anyone heard me.
He punched me on my shoulders and inner thighs, he was much bigger than me and this weakened me, I fought but he still managed to wear a condom and he raped me.
He threatened me and begged me in the same breath, he told me his wife is a lecturer in a school in the East and she is hardly ever around, that he is lonely and he is sorry.
I was in shock and in a trance, when he was done, he ordered me into his car, retrieved my underwear and cut it into many pieces, as he drove me home he dropped pieces of the underwear on the road.
I stayed with my Aunt in Surulere, he dropped me right in front of my house. I was completely broken, I had cried so much my eyes were swollen and every bone in my body ached.
I told my aunt, she believed me.. I told her because I knew I could trust her. We decided it won't yield anything reporting it to the police. After that day today is the first day I will tell anyone else this story.

I didnt see Afam again (Yes his name is Afam and who knows he may read this) until the day we convocated. I went to meet up other classmates in a restaurant inside the Uni, then I saw him. I felt so much rage and anger.. I was also scared. I sat as far away from him as possible but at a point I couldn't take it anymore, I stood up emptied my drink on his head and walked out. They asked me why, I told them he knows what he did. I have not seen or heard from him since then and today I write my story.

Does my story make sense that I went to my rapist house myself and he still drove me home and I never told anyone except my aunt? I was 23 years old when it happened and I wasn't a timid person but that experience cowered me.
Like other things in my life I will rather not remember I have compartmentalized and buried it deep. I have moved on. I am now happily married
Reno, it's not your place to analyze what you don't understand.
Thank you Bukola, today I share my story because of you and no there is no cap to when you are ready to talk about.

PLS NOTE: I do not give anyone permission to share my story, I do not need any attention.

What a painful experience it must have been for you. I am so sorry to hear this. I pray that you find healing, for your soul. And the scars within you, do not become permanent. As for the guy who hurt you, karma will not miss his address. He will pay for what he did, in this life and in the one to come.

FUCKyouALL:
Stop thinking like a Nigerian and think like a human being.

He is actually thinking like a human being. Unfortunately, you are the one who isn't thinking like one.

obinnawhyte:
Business in Lagos that's in Nigeria is not but in Ilorin is local, I don't understand please help me considering the geographical location.

Oga, go back to the very first post made by the OP on this thread, and read the attachments to that post. It contains a very explicit statement by Nigerian Bottling Company.

Please read the story below:

hiroz:
see link below, NBC only stopped supplying krest in Lagos state alone in 2001 and Continued supply to other states..

https://allafrica.com/stories/200110170451.html

"Nigerian Bottling Company [NBC] Plc has begun the withdrawal of the Krest range of drinks [lemon, soda, tonic] from the Lagos market to other parts of the country. This is to give the company room for sale of the Schweppes range of drinks for which it has acquired franchise from Nigerian Breweries [NB] Plc.

The withdrawal exercise is to prevent a situation in which the company markets two competing brands in the same area."...

krest never stopped production in 2001!! they only stopped supplying the lagos area

Krest was withdrawn only from the Lagos market. It was not withdrawn from other markets in other parts of the country. Inugo? Why is this so difficult for you to understand?

Now if it still does NOT make sense to you, it means you need to collect a refund from your school teachers. They failed to teach you basic comprehension.

sweetrace:
Wow! I love the way you guys are so dogmatic in your support of Busola’s claims. She can’t remember the year she was raped, but she can remember the details!!!!! If this was not about a trajic issue, I would have laughed out loud. It is usually the other way round. Trauma can make one block out hurtful details like a rape not the year. To forget the year one was raped would mean selective amnesia that forgets the year and details of the year.

Dogmatic, in what sense? I have tried to explain how the minds of rape victims process such things in the past, but you refused to listen.

I even attached a report by an eminent psychologist to one of my posts on this thread, but you refused to imbibe knowledge.

Now, how is it my fault that you have been unable to free your mind and embrace the truth?

oyatz:
If you want to fvck a lady and she didn't resist, how will you know she is not consenting to it?
How will she prove it in court that she didn't give consent?

Ask the judge when you get to court. Chikena!

obinnawhyte:
Hope you can hear yourself " krest was withdrawn from Lagos market only in 2001 and where's your own article showing it was not withdrew from other markets. And how's Lagos market different from the other market that you term others local or it's the Krest exported from Lagos?

Na wa, o! The newspaper article carried that information and it was very explicit. Can't you see the explanation there, or should I borrow you my contact lenses, so that you can read it clearly?

raumdeuter:
People who knew her stated she was born around 1982, I don't know for a fact since I haven't seen her birth cert or interviewed her family members, I was just describing how you can know the year the incident happened if you know her age and her DOB

How do you know someone didn't give her consent when she didn't resist or say NO

When Busola described in her video she said "I didn't struggle, I just let him, he brought out his dick, pulled down my panties"

Oga, her silence does not mean she gave consent. I had explained to you earlier that some people get paralysed with fear or shock when faced with a rape situation.

Maybe the explanation by this psychologist would clarify things better.

Why many rape victims don’t fight or yell

By James W. Hopper June 23, 2015

James W. Hopper, PhD, is an independent consultant and part-time instructor in psychology in the Department of Psychiatry of Harvard Medical School. He has conducted research on the neurobiology of trauma, and trains investigators, prosecutors, judges, and higher-education professionals on its implications. Here, he offers his explanation of why people don’t always respond to an attack the way others might expect:

In the midst of sexual assault, the brain’s fear circuitry dominates. The prefrontal cortex can be severely impaired, and all that’s left may be reflexes and habits.

In the Washington Post’s recent series on college sexual assault, many victims describe how they reacted – and did not react – while being assaulted.

Another article also published this month, in the Harvard Review of Psychiatry, shows that some responses have been programmed into human brains by evolution.

Bringing together the accounts of those who have been assaulted with the neurobiology of trauma can play an essential role in supporting healing and the pursuits of accountability and justice.

For example, freezing is a brain-based response to detecting danger, especially a predator’s attack. Think deer in the headlights.

As one woman told the Post, “I didn’t say no, but I didn’t really know what to do. I just kind of froze.”

Freezing occurs when the amygdala – a crucial structure in the brain’s fear circuitry – detects an attack and signals the brainstem to inhibit movement. It happens in a flash, automatically and beyond conscious control.

Simultaneously with the freeze response, the fear circuitry unleashes a surge of “stress chemicals” into the prefrontal cortex, the brain region that allows us to think rationally – to recall the bedroom door is open, or that people are in the dorm room next door, for example, and to make use of that information.

But the surge of chemicals rapidly impairs the prefrontal cortex. That’s because, despite our dominant role on the planet now, we evolved as prey, and when a lion or tiger is upon us, stopping to think is fatal.

Indeed, no one understands better than the military that intense fear impairs our prefrontal cortex and capacity for reason.

When bullets are flying and blood is flowing, you had better have some really effective habit learning to rely upon.

That’s why combat training is rigorous and repetitive – to burn in habits of effectively firing weapons, executing combat formations, etc.

Most victims will freeze, if only briefly. Some will fight back, effectively. Some will resist in habitual, passive ways. Some will suddenly give in and cry. Others will become paralyzed, become faint, pass out or dissociate.

Few who have experienced these responses realize that they are brain reactions to attack and terror.

They blame themselves for “failing” to resist. They feel ashamed. (Men especially may see themselves as cowards and feel like they’re not real men.) They may tell no one, even during an investigation. Sadly, many investigators and prosecutors still don’t know some or all of these brain-based responses.

None of these responses – in women or men – entails consent or cowardice.

None is evidence of resistance too insufficient to warrant our respect and compassion.

They are responses we should expect from brains dominated by the circuitry of fear (just as we should expect fragmented and incomplete memories).

May the day come when everyone who knows someone who has been sexually assaulted – which is all of us, whether we know that yet or not – understands these basic ways that our brains can react to such attacks and uses this knowledge to foster healing and justice.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/grade-point/wp/2015/06/23/why-many-rape-victims-dont-fight-or-yell/?utm_term=.88d44a8a3377

akajos4real:
The cars have been there for over a year and they are detoriorating yet you have stuck to the typical middleman attitude, If I cannot get what I want for myself, everything can go bad. I only pray people can find direct contact to the owners of the cars which will allow people to negotiate and buy them early enough before they all become very bad.

Honestly, you are so correct. These vehicles should be sold at a low rate, because any buyer would still spend hundreds of thousands to put each of them back, in good working order.

Apart from that, these vehicles are likely to have been fully depreciated in value, in the company's books. So why attaching a high price to it?

Let Cars45 value it, and see what they would offer for each one.

raumdeuter:
If she remembers her age, that will tell the year it happened. If Busola was born in 1982, she was sure it happened when she was 17, that means that the rape happened in 1999, the other sexual incident she said happened when she was babysitting the daughter who was born in 2002

She said it was rape but the description of the event didn't portray her resisting, unlike most rape victim. And given that the incident sexual encounter still occurred after

If this is statutory rape, then there must be a well-defined age of consent in the location where this occurred. So what was the age of consent in Ilorin Kwara State

The case to me looks like there was a sexual relationship between Biodun and Busola for several years even when she was an adult

You are saying "if Busola was born in 1982..." Are you stating a fact or just guessing?

And the fact that a person did not resist, does not mean she gave consent. She may have been paralysed with fear, or shock could have rendered her immobile. That was why I asked you to read up on the psychological effects of rape, on the human mind. Kindly do so. Maybe this will explain it better.

laudate:
People react differently when confronted with danger or sexual assault.

Some people will fight back, while others will freeze and become paralysed with fear. So that excuse of "no resistance" that you are reciting, does not hold water. Ask any psychologist or psychiatrist that has handled or counselled rape victims before. ......

As for the age of legal consent in Ilorin, kindly direct that question to lawyers who practice in that jurisdiction. They might have a better answer for you....

Iseniyi:
Believe me, if they stop coca cola production and distribution today, before 2 month, we won't find any of their products in market again. Same thing applicable to krest. We are really talking about what mouth eat ni o. I think the woman is making sense

She is NOT making sense. The sale of Krest was stopped in Lagos only, not in other parts of the country. Go back and read the news article again.

raumdeuter:
Did you listen to the audio of Busola on the rape incident? She didnt describe any struggle or resistance to the sexual encounter and claimed they had sex multiple times after the original incident

So if this is statutory rape aka underage sex, When did the rape occur -The year, how old was Busola and Biodun and what was the age of consent in the place where the rape took place

If Busola cannot remember the year, then how can it be proven she was underage

Hello sir, she stated that she was going to be 17 years. Kindly watch the video again. She remembered her age. Anyone who knows her current age, can work out which year the rape took place.

Also kindly read up on the psychological impact of rape on its victims as well as rape trauma syndrome, including the effects of dissociation. You would find your answers there.
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obinnawhyte:
Not drink by Coca Cola and mind you you're dragging NAFDAC, SON into this without proof. Indirectly you mean Coca Cola sell, circulate or have sometimes have expired products in circulation

Oga, go back and read the news article that Kemi was citing. Krest was withdrawn from the Lagos market only in 2001, and NOT from local markets in other parts of Nigeria. Busola's encounter with Fatoyinbo took place in Ilorin.

PrecisionFx:
It's part of the usual fake stories I guys have been peddling online...Like

- If he raped her, why did she allow him to officiate their wedding.

- The pastor bought her a car on her wedding

Etc

Oga, it is true that there are too many fake stories online. Fatoyinbo did NOT officiate at Busola's wedding. Busola got married to Dakolo in a totally different church! Fatoyinbo was not there. Even the pastor who wedded them, has come out to verify this. Google is still available!

sweetrace:
Actually, Busola should have given us the exact date when she was raped. I don’t think it is possible to forget the date of something so monumental in one’s life. If she has psychological problems as a result of the rape, then she’d have forgotten the details she gave us. It is not possible to block out the day the raped occurred but still remember the actual rape.

I have tried to educate people like you in the past, about the trauma suffered by rape victims. Such victims may not remember exact dates of their encounter, but will recall the pain and trauma they felt, in clear detail.

The date may not be as important to them, as the encounter. Unless of course, there was something significant that was previously associated with that date, in particular (e.g. a birthday or something else). The human mind works in quite complex ways. And in some cases, certain bits of information are blocked out, as part of a coping mechanism in the victim's mind.

sweetrace:
Aunty Kemi, thank you for sharing some of the glaring inconsistencies in Busola’s story. The rubbish so called reporters that brought her story to the public without verifying the facts should hide their faces in shame. They are not journalists. People are killing them selves arguing Busola’s case, Timi Dakolo is playing the avenging husband, all without verifying her story. Meanwhile, the Timi guy did not know Busola then. Not a single member of her family who knew Of Busola’s association with the pastor has come out to verify her story. Busola, if you’re on Nairaland, don’t let anyone push beyond this stage. Just backpedal. There are better ways to handle issues. Let me go before followers of trends try and come for my head.

Here comes another rape apologist, and rape enabler.

hiroz:
kemi is just a crazy liar..
my grandma had a shop and she sold krest even up till 2010+ until NBC made Schweppes widely available in Nigeria...it was at same time 7UP was also expanding then with mountain dew line.
kemi just went to pull a story from Google she didn't understand.
see link below, NBC only stopped supplying krest in Lagos state alone in 2001 and Continued supply to other states..

https://allafrica.com/stories/200110170451.html

"Nigerian Bottling Company [NBC] Plc has begun the withdrawal of the Krest range of drinks [lemon, soda, tonic] from the Lagos market to other parts of the country. This is to give the company room for sale of the Schweppes range of drinks for which it has acquired franchise from Nigerian Breweries [NB] Plc.
The withdrawal exercise is to prevent a situation in which the company markets two competing brands in the same area."

kemi please go and take ur drugs, no be only coca cola told u..before lifting stories make sure u have good comprehension skills..

krest never stopped production in 2001!! they only stopped supplying the lagos area

Thank you for educating the clueless ones my brother. The Busola vs Biodun incident took place in Ilorin, not in Lagos.

And the manufacturer's press release says it clearly that "Nigerian Bottling Company [NBC] Plc has begun the withdrawal of the Krest range of drinks [lemon, soda, tonic] from the Lagos market to other parts of the country..."

This means Krest was withdrawn from Lagos, and taken to other parts of the country like Ilorin, perhaps.

bitmoney:
I drank Krest in 2005.
Whether it's fake or not,I don't know but I bought it in a shop

It could have been imported.

kiyosaki1:
Any proof ,don't just think that everyone on the forum are inept as you . Do you know thar soft drink as shelf life ? So you are telling me that the krest you drank had four years shelf life?

Oga, the bottle of Krest he drank could have been imported into Naija, from another country. Go to all these supermarkets and see both local and foreign beverages on their shelves. Haba! Don't you guys go to shops?

Apart from that, the drink was only withdrawn from Lagos and not from Ilorin.

Godyke:
Madam KEMI, you are not making any sense in this one. Is it not possible to stop production of a product in December of 2001 and the last batch still being in circulation in January of 2002? Stop fooling yourself and stop complicating issues.

Their local distributors in different parts of the country, can still be selling it till March 2002, sef.
And not only that, Nigerian traders are very adventurous.

The minute they spot a gap in the market, they take advantage of it. Some people could even have imported the same Krest from abroad into Naija in 2002, once they saw it was no longer available locally.

Wasn't that what happened with Heineken in 1998 - 2000, before they started bottling it locally in Nigeria?

Till today, there are people that import foreign Coke into Nigeria, even though the locally bottled type, is widely available.

If Nigeria Bottling Co or Coca-Cola Nigeria should stop production for any reason today, the importers of the foreign variant of the same product, would flood our local markets, with their stuff.

Psoul:
Nonsense. When those so called celebrities start to know hw to cut down living their lives on the pages of internet, their fans/public will learn hw to mind their business.

When they want to climb the ladders of celebrity, they will be humble and start calling everyone to comment on their pages. Once they climb that ladder, you see them insulting everyone on their pages. Nonsense.

Na true word you talk!!

FloraEC:
What if it was an emergency as per FTM and her doc told her to come? The person that took the picture did so without the camera flash on cos she knew what she was doing was wrong but amebo won't let her be.

When TBoss decided to become a celebrity and was flaunting her pictures all over social media in order to trend, she didn't realise that she would need privacy one day? Abeg, make una just forget about laying any stupid claim to privacy, after living your life in the public glare over any period of time.

Celebrities like TBoss acquired fame by riding on the wings of notoriety, to become one. They cannot now turn round to flout the rules of the game they played earlier, by trying to seek privacy or anonymity. No way...it doesn't work like that, in the real world.